1912: The Science of Successful Marriages & Relationships With Drs. John and Julie Gottman
In this episode Sal, Adam & Justin speak with Drs. John & Julie Gottman about scientifically proven ways to improve relationships.
- What is the Gottman Institute, and what is its purpose? (2:29)
- What got them so interested in studying relationships? (4:16)
- What are some of the biggest misconceptions about the way we look at marriages back then compared to now? (6:00)
- What is the Love Lab, and how did it work? (9:10)
- The Four Horseman of the Apocalypse. (13:39)
- The Sound Relationship House theory of what makes relationships work. (18:52)
- The importance of focusing on the process rather than the content. (29:48)
- The value of their research in helping build healthy relationships. (34:44)
- Any differences in same sex-relationships vs different-sex relationships? (39:52)
- Are there things culturally that are working against them? (49:12)
- The importance of a moral aspect in a healthy relationship. (55:24)
- Love is an action. (57:38)
- Building connection through practice on Gottman Connect. (1:03:22)
- Love Rx and closing words to the Mind Pump audience. (1:09:21)
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- The Gottman Institute | A research-based approach to relationships
- Gottman Connect
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- The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert
- Love Lab - The Gottman Institute
- Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse | The Gottman Institute
- What is The Sound Relationship House? - The Gottman Institute
- Build Love Maps - The Gottman Institute
- The Investment Model of Commitment Processes
- A Review of the Research on Domestic Violence
- The health benefits of strong relationships
- The Man's Guide to Women: Scientifically Proven Secrets from the Love Lab About What Women Really Want
- Bringing Baby Home: The Research - The Gottman Institute
- Fatherhood (The Developing Child) - Book by Ross Parke
- Helen Fisher: The brain in love | TED Talk
- Love Quiz: Fondness and Admiration - The Gottman Institute
- American families spend just 37 minutes of quality time together per day, survey finds
- Gottman Card Decks App - Couples | The Gottman Institute
- Mind Pump Podcast – YouTube
- Mind Pump Free Resources
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