Michelle Obama: How to Stay with Your Partner When They Are Changing & 4 Check-ins You Should Be Doing in Your Relationship
Do you want to learn how to strengthen your relationship over time?
Do you want to have better communication and expectations with your partner?
On this very special episode of On Purpose, Jay Shetty sits down with the former First Lady of the country, Michelle Obama. During Michelle’s time as First Lady, Michelle launched several initiatives, including "Let's Move!" which aimed to combat childhood obesity, and "Reach Higher," promoting higher education. Her memoir "Becoming," released in 2018, became one of the best-selling books of that year and took the world by storm. Today we sit down to talk about her most recent book, “The Light We Carry.”
In this raw conversation, Michelle opens up about her thoughts on marriage, fame, and public service. She talks about the toxicity of social media and technology that affects our mental health and how to be open to the changes and possibilities people bring with them. She also talks about how negative news and social updates are affecting our society and the community we are in.
We also dive deep into relationships and why we put so much pressure on our marriage, how to choose the right person for you and make the relationship work even when it isn’t perfect, and how to practice constructive arguments with your partner.
In this interview, you’ll learn:
How to think freely and independently
How to take care of your mental health
How to become a supportive partner
How deal with negativity
How to become an effective leader
How to make your marriage last
Together we’ll learn how to find calm amid life's noise, give people the space to be seen and heard, and explore topics that resonate with the very fabric of our personal growth journey.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
01:18 What is the Best Part of Being You?
02:16 What’s Your Longest Friendship?
03:16 The Struggle of Leaving the People You Love Behind
06:36 Be Open to the Possibilities of People
11:36 What’s the Hardest Part of Being You?
14:23 When You Lose a Piece of Yourself
16:48 What Keeps You Up at Night?
19:00 Allow Your Brain to Rest from the Noise
24:26 Mindful Usage of Technology
26:48 We Consume More Negative News Daily
31:03 How Do You Sustain a Successful Relationship?
35:33 The Non-Negotiables in Any Relationship
37:08 You Are Responsible for Your Own Happiness
42:50 What is Your Fight Style?
48:42 Giving People Space to Be Seen and Heard
53:15 What Offends You the Most?
54:39 The Best Personal Growth Moments
59:59 Conclusion with Michelle Obama
Episode Resources:
Michelle Obama | Instagram
Michelle Obama | Facebook.
Michelle Obama | Books
The Light We Carry: Overcoming in Uncertain Times
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