Michael Slepian on the Secret Life of Secrets: How Do We Trust Others With Our Secrets EP 146
Michael Slepian - The Secret Life of Secrets: How Do We Trust Others With Our Secrets | Brought to you by Babbel - https://babbel.com/passionstruck. Who is Michael Slepian? Michael Slepian Ph.D. is the Sanford C. Bernstein & Co. Associate Professor of Leadership and Ethics at Columbia University. A recipient of the Rising Star Award from the Association for Psychological Science, he is the leading expert on the psychology of secrets. Today we are discussing his book (which releases today), THE SECRET LIFE OF SECRETS: How Our Inner Worlds Shape Well-Being, Relationships, and Who We Are. His research has been covered by The New York Times, The Atlantic, The New Yorker, The Economist, The Wall Street Journal, the BBC, etc. --► Buy Michael Slepian's New Book, The Secret Life of Secrets: https://amzn.to/3GPbIaF (Amazon link) Thank you, Babbel, for sponsoring the podcast: * Babbel is the new way to learn a foreign language. Save up to 60 % off your subscription when you go to https://babbel.com/PASSIONSTRUCK. Click here for the full show notes: -- ► https://passionstruck.com/michael-slepian-the-secret-life-of-secrets/ --► Subscribe to My Channel Here: https://www.youtube.com/c/JohnRMiles --► Subscribe to the podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/passion-struck-with-john-r-miles/id1553279283 *Our Patreon Page: https://www.patreon.com/passionstruck. Thank you for listening to this podcast. I hope you keep up with the weekly videos I post on the YouTube channel, subscribe to, and share your learnings with those who need to hear them. Your comments are my oxygen, so please take a second and say 'Hey' ;). What I discuss with Michael Slepian
- 0:00 Announcements
- 2:23 Introducing Michael Slepian
- 3:59 Family secrets
- 7:53 What is the definition of a secret?
- 9:03 How is secrecy different from privacy?
- 10:54 The 38 categories of secrets that people keep
- 13:43 The secrets of Tony Soprano and Edward Snowden
- 16:10 How does the concealing of secrets impact well-being?
- 20:26 How a chimpanzee helps illustrate the birth of secrets
- 28:27 Advice for how to handle secrecy with your kids
- 31:12 Groundbreaking hill slant research on secrets
- 35:23 Importance of doing secrecy research outside of a lab
- 43:51 Why does keeping a secret have the potential to do more harm than good?
- 46:10 Why do some secrets hurt while others do not?
- 48:15 Why do people fall into this unhelpful, negative thinking?
- 51:12 How does secrecy impact us accepting ourselves?
- 52:53 How to deflect direct questions in a conversation about a secret
- 1:00:27 Wrap Up and Synthesis
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