She Studied Hate by Talking to Her Own Haters | Sally Kohn
"Just because hate feels justified doesn't mean it's justifiable." - Sally Kohn
Let's be honest: we've all done things we regret.
They may have been when we were kids or adults. They may have affected just ourselves or many people around us. But it's likely we remember doing them because we regret them.
This is something that's not easy to talk about.
But there's something really valuable in recognizing the parts of ourselves that are capable of doing things we regret.
I recently met a woman who gave a TED talk (and has now written a book) about this exact topic.
Sally Kohn is a CNN commentator who has attracted huge amounts of haters during her career as a political speaker.
As our society has gotten more divided, hate seems to be taking over a lot of actions and discussions.
So Sally decided to do a deep dive study on why we hate and what the opposite of that is.
She talked to her own haters, she traveled to countries that have experienced genocides, and she discussed the psychological pieces of what's going on.
This was a powerful conversation about a topic that isn't always easy to discuss. I really appreciated Sally's willingness and honesty in discussing how we can each shift our habits out of hate and bias and into open-mindedness and respect.
No matter what you've been through or what you believe, I know there's something valuable to learn for all of us in Episode 631.
Some questions I ask:
Do we believe our friend group or the media more? (9:50)
How do we start thinking differently about people [versus relying on bias]? (13:10)
Why did you start working for Fox News with your point of view? (19:30)
How much bullying is happening today in schools? (30:22)
How do we start to repair our habits around how we treat each other? (37:03)
In this episode you will learn:
What getting hate mail taught Sally about her own ability to be mean (3:05)
The difference between our brain's hardware and its software (8:15)
What happens when we wear "masks" to hide our true identity (18:50)
Why it's important to talk to people who believe differently than you do (21:45)
How mass atrocities can happen (and be avoided) (27:20)
Why we don't usually see ourselves as the starters of hate (38:37)
How to forgive and understand haters (40:15)
Plus much more...
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