How Do I Slide Into A Guy’s DMs Without Seeming Desperate?
J and J kick off the show with a conversation about sliding into someone’s DMs after you miss the chance to connect on a dating app. What’s the right way to start a conversation via DM? At 26:25 the Awkward Sexual Encounter is all about a guy who played dead the moment after he finished during sex. At 38:45 a listener writes in to ask if it’s safe to have a threesome with her long-term boyfriend. Is there any way to bring in a third person without somebody getting jealous? At 55:00 another emailer asks if she comes off as desperate when she initiates the first date with guys she has matched. Is it important to make guys chase you or is it better to just take charge? At 1:02:45 they finish the show with some Red Flag or Deal Breakers and ask how you should deal with an insincere complimenter. The U Up? LIVE tour is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour
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