332. The triangular theory of love

psychologyofyour20s

We all want to know the secret to true, lasting love so that we can perhaps have a shot at finding it. So in today's episode, we're breaking down perhaps the most famous theory on this very topic, Robert Sternbery's Triangular Theory of Love. In this episode, we talk about:

The 3 core ingredients of love: intimacy, passion, commitment
How different combinations form different kinds of relationships
Why “consummate love” is so rare, and hard to maintain
What the theory leaves out: culture, trust, respect, asexuality, polyamory
A look at the newer “quadruple theory” of love

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The 3 core ingredients of love: intimacy, passion, commitment
How different combinations form different kinds of relationships
Why “consummate love” is so rare, and hard to maintain
What the theory leaves out: culture, trust, respect, asexuality, polyamory
A look at the newer “quadruple theory” of love

Listen now!

ORDER MY BOOK: https://www.psychologyofyour20s.com/general-clean

Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg

Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast

For business: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

2025-09-14 21 min Transcript

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