#511: Are You Living In The Gap? Or The Gain?
Instead of measuring what you’ve missed, measure how far you’ve come
If you’ve been with me for a while, you’ve probably heard me talk about the book The Gap & The Gain by Dan Sullivan and Dr. Benjamin Hardy.
I won’t lie, this book has had a profound impact on my business, because it’s rewired the way I think about success and achievement.
In fact, for most of my career, I’ve held myself to a really rigid set of goals -- and if I didn’t meet them, I’d beat myself up over it.
Instead of focusing on all that I did accomplish, I’d zero in on how far off I was from reaching my goal.
This, sweet friend, is called living in The Gap, and it’s fairly common with high achievers and entrepreneurs. It's a really terrible place to hang out, because no matter how much you accomplish, there will always be a moving target that’s out of reach.
The Gain is a much better place to live. So, what is The Gain? Well, it’s all about feeling grateful for the progress you do make, which in turn drives motivation, confidence, and future success. *Gasp!* That’s right, I said future success!
I’m so much happier now that I’m living in The Gain. Yes, I can acknowledge that I didn’t meet my goals, and yes, I can brainstorm ways to improve -- but I’ll tell ‘ya – having appreciation for how far I’ve come makes a big difference in my quality of life overall.
In this episode, you’ll hear more about the concept of The Gap and The Gain, why living in The Gain can absolutely change your life for the better, and steps you can take to get there.
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