How To Say the Right Thing at the Worst Time

How To! with Mike Pesca

Ann's sister just lost her husband and Ann doesn't know how to console her. Ann lives in a different state and, having experienced loss herself, knows saying the wrong thing can only add to the hurt. What can Ann do from a distance to make her sister feel better? In this episode of How To!, Megan Devine, a psychotherapist and author of It's OK That You're Not OK, says first of all don't try to cheer them up. Simply acknowledge their pain. Megan learned this the hard way after the sudden loss of her partner in a tragic accident. The classic five stages of grief are problematic, Megan says, because grief doesn't progress in an orderly fashion. To help a loved one, don't put the burden on them to figure out how you can help. Instead, anticipate and act on what they need to get by day-to-day.

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Ann's sister just lost her husband and Ann doesn't know how to console her. Ann lives in a different state and, having experienced loss herself, knows saying the wrong thing can only add to the hurt. What can Ann do from a distance to make her sister feel better? In this episode of How To!, Megan Devine, a psychotherapist and author of It's OK That You're Not OK, says first of all don't try to cheer them up. Simply acknowledge their pain. Megan learned this the hard way after the sudden loss of her partner in a tragic accident. The classic five stages of grief are problematic, Megan says, because grief doesn't progress in an orderly fashion. To help a loved one, don't put the burden on them to figure out how you can help. Instead, anticipate and act on what they need to get by day-to-day.

Do you have a problem that needs a creative solution? Send us a note at howto@slate.com or leave us a voicemail at 646-495-4001 and we might have you on the show.


Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

2020-05-19 29 min
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