2092: How to Cultivate Amazing Relationships With Adam Lane Smith
In this episode Sal, Adam & Justin speak with Adam Lane Smith, a licensed psychotherapist and highly sought-after relationship expert.
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Why he does what he does today. (4:45)
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What is Attachment Theory and how can it affect you as an adult? (5:59)
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Cooperating in conflict. (11:14)
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Breaking down the 4 Styles of Attachment. (14:09)
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Why are the women the first to ask for a divorce? (19:55)
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Old knowledge that has been lost. (23:36)
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Why men need to feel powerful. (28:06)
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Understanding the order of operations with your partner. (32:12)
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Which attachments attract each other? (35:41)
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Marriage glue. (41:05)
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The four pieces of relationship security. (44:32)
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The murkiness with the division of labor. (49:56)
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The poor messaging to young men. (54:47)
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Why women are in a no-win circumstance right now. (58:57)
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Why kids are so anxious and depressed. (1:01:43)
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The ramifications of too much access to pornography. (1:04:05)
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Why a booty call does not turn into a marriage. (1:06:48)
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The biggest challenges with modern life. (1:10:13)
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Why we are more like chimps than bonobos. (1:11:52)
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His thoughts on dating apps. (1:15:44)
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The four characteristics of a good father. (1:25:03)
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How most parents do not have a relationship with their kids, they manage them. (1:28:40)
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Tactical rituals to be a better father. (1:31:09)
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Why phones are one of the BIGGEST killers of sex. (1:37:05)
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The role of the father during pregnancy. (1:41:00)
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Why women with attachment issues have issues breastfeeding. (1:45:40)
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The importance of leading your partner into healthier attachment. (1:48:10)
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Run your marriage like a business and it will thrive. (1:49:55)
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Why homeschool? (1:53:57)
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The value in having oxytocin bonding routinely with your partner.(1:56:22)
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The pros and cons of psychedelics. (2:00:37)
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Sex at Dawn: How We Mate, Why We Stray, and What It Means for Modern Relationships
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Different: Gender Through the Eyes of a Primatologist – Book by Frans de Waal
Featured Guest/People Mentioned
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Adam | Relationship Psychology (@attachmentadam) Instagram
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Jordan Peterson (@jordan.b.peterson) Instagram
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