421. Hating yourself will get you nowhere

psychologyofyour20s

Being your own harshest critic can feel productive, protective, even familiar, but over time, it becomes less of a motivator and more of a cage. In this episode, we explore the psychology of self-hatred - where it begins, how it becomes a deeply ingrained, and what it actually steals from us over time. 

We explore:

•        How early experiences shape the inner critic
•        Why self-hatred can feel protective
•        The myth of cruelty as a motivator
•        The neural pattern of self-hatred
•        The role of self sabotaging
•        6 practical tips to build a better relationship with yourself

Watch on Netflix: HERE

Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg

Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast

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For business: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com 

Our favourite sources: 
https://bpspsychub.onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/j.2044-8341.2011.02044.x

https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/0146167211410246

https://psycnet.apa.org/doiLanding?doi=10.1037%2Fa0033904

The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Being your own harshest critic can feel productive, protective, even familiar, but over time, it becomes less of a motivator and more of a cage. In this episode, we explore the psychology of self-hatred - where it begins, how it becomes a deeply ingrained, and what it actually steals from us over time. 

We explore:

•        How early experiences shape the inner critic
•        Why self-hatred can feel protective
•        The myth of cruelty as a motivator
•        The neural pattern of self-hatred
•        The role of self sabotaging
•        6 practical tips to build a better relationship with yourself

Watch on Netflix: HERE

Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg

Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast

Subscribe on Substack: @thepsychologyofyour20s

For business: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com 

Our favourite sources: 
https://bpspsychub.onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/j.2044-8341.2011.02044.x

https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/0146167211410246

https://psycnet.apa.org/doiLanding?doi=10.1037%2Fa0033904

The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

2026-05-25 46 min Transcript
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