E643 Ask Nick - Should I Leave My Husband For My First Love?
Welcome back to another episode of The Viall Files: Ask Nick Edition! We're back to answer your burning questions about the world of dating and relationships. Before getting to our callers, we discuss everyone's favorite part of a wedding–the vows. We also read a submission from someone who has questions about casual dating etiquette. She has been seeing someone for five months, who's recently started to send her "I miss you" texts. She's unsure whether she should communicate her dating expectations, or whether that'd be too presumptuous. We then get to our callers.
Our first caller's boyfriend is nice to everyone, but her. She's unhappy in her relationship and how he treats her, but they share children together so she wants to know if the relationship is salvageable at all. Our second caller's boyfriend recently broke up with her because he said he wasn't attracted to her, but wants to make things work again. He's offered to go to couples therapy with her, but she's not confident if her ego can get past his words. Our final caller is trying to decide between her husband and her first love. She's unhappy in her marriage, but has kept communication open with her first love, and isn't sure if she wants to work on her marriage, or leave him to rekindle a past romance.
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