Why Women Lose Desire Faster Than Men | Esther Perel

The School of Greatness

Esther Perel reveals why modern relationships demand more from us than any generation in history, and why that's actually a gift. Growing up as the child of Holocaust survivors taught her that nothing is permanent, and that dread shaped her life's work around helping people create meaningful connections. She explains why women get bored with monogamy faster than men, why desire dies when you stop taking risks, and why the very things that attract you to someone become the source of your biggest conflicts later. You'll walk away understanding that great relationships aren't about finding the perfect person, they're about choosing someone and deciding to show up differently every day.

Esther’s books:

In this episode you will:

  • Discover why caretaking is one of the most powerful anti-aphrodisiacs in long-term relationships and what to do instead
  • Understand why committed sex must be premeditated and how waiting for spontaneity guarantees you'll stay stuck in the same patterns
  • Learn why you don't find your partner, you choose them, and how this shift in perspective changes everything about dating
  • Break through the myth that divorce equals failure and why some 20-year marriages are massive successes even when they end
  • Master the difference between people you can love and people you can make a life with, and why confusing the two destroys relationships

For more information go to https://lewishowes.com/1851

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Esther Perel reveals why modern relationships demand more from us than any generation in history, and why that's actually a gift. Growing up as the child of Holocaust survivors taught her that nothing is permanent, and that dread shaped her life's work around helping people create meaningful connections. She explains why women get bored with monogamy faster than men, why desire dies when you stop taking risks, and why the very things that attract you to someone become the source of your biggest conflicts later. You'll walk away understanding that great relationships aren't about finding the perfect person, they're about choosing someone and deciding to show up differently every day.

Esther’s books:

In this episode you will:

  • Discover why caretaking is one of the most powerful anti-aphrodisiacs in long-term relationships and what to do instead
  • Understand why committed sex must be premeditated and how waiting for spontaneity guarantees you'll stay stuck in the same patterns
  • Learn why you don't find your partner, you choose them, and how this shift in perspective changes everything about dating
  • Break through the myth that divorce equals failure and why some 20-year marriages are massive successes even when they end
  • Master the difference between people you can love and people you can make a life with, and why confusing the two destroys relationships

For more information go to https://lewishowes.com/1851

For more Greatness text PODCAST to +1 (614) 350-3960

More SOG episodes we think you’ll love:

Baya Voce pt. 1 – greatness.lnk.to/1836SC

Matthew Hussey  – greatness.lnk.to/1782SC

Lewis Howes [SOLO] – greatness.lnk.to/1834SC

Get More From Lewis!


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2025-11-17 79 min
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