E585 Ask Nick with Tinx - Romanticize Standing Up For Yourself
Welcome back to another episode of The Viall Files: Ask Nick Edition! We're back to answer your burning questions about the world of dating and relationships. Before getting to our callers, we talk to Tinx about her new book "The Shift," what inspired her to write it, and who she hopes reads it. We then read a listener's email and give some advice about friendship.
Our first caller is addicted to her four year situationship - they met on Halloween only to end things around New Year's, and have been repeating that same cycle three years running. She isn't sure how to end it (and we're not sure she wants to). Our second caller recently broke up with her boyfriend of four years, but has an upcoming trip to Tulum that's too late to cancel. She hasn't been able to find a friend to go with her, and is debating going with her ex anyways. Our final caller was ghosted by an amazing first date on the same week her dog died - she isn't sure if she should reach out or how to move on from him, or what to do if he ever resurfaces.
"You're not his mommy and you're not his therapist."
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