286: The "Hey Wait" Technique: How to Set Boundaries Like a Leader with Jay Fields

Jay Fields is an author, somatic coach, and experiential educator. Jay joins the Workday Playdate to discuss the importance of setting boundaries, the emotional complexities of relationships, and how to navigate communication overload while maintaining empathy. Jay introduces the “Hey Wait” technique, a simple yet powerful tool for asserting yourself in conversations when you may be used to leaving yourself out. Jay also shares why we develop people pleasing patterns (hint: it has something to do with how we think about connection). Inside This Episode:

• Why empathy does not mean sacrificing your own needs in relationships
• Why acknowledging your own reality is crucial for healthy communication
• Why people pleasing doesn’t equal being a “good” person in relationships

Who This Episode Is For: Anyone who identifies as a “recovering people pleaser,” anyone looking to set stronger personal and professional boundaries, or anyone who’s looking for techniques to advocate for themselves in conversations of all kinds—this one’s for you. Take a break from your emails, slam your laptop shut for 30ish minutes, and come have a Workday Playdate with us. And if you’re interested in taking one small action right now, you can check out our newest freebie, The 5-Minute Team Commitment Reset, here. It’s a plug-and-play exercise that will get your team mentally present, engaged, and committed before any meeting.  No, You Hang Up First (Let’s Keep Connecting)

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