What Attachment Style Are You? How To Know, Why It Matters, and How To Change It If You Need To | Amir Levine
Your health, relationships, and self-esteem all hinge on your attachment style. Here's how to know if you're anxious or avoidant — and how to get more secure.
Dr. Amir Levine is a Columbia-trained psychiatrist and neuroscientist and coauthor of the multi-million-copy bestseller Attached, which brought attachment theory into mainstream conversation and remains the #1 book on Amazon in Relationships more than a decade later. His new book Secure expands this work into emotional regulation and everyday well-being.
In this episode we talk about:
- What attachment theory is
- The four attachment styles — anxious, avoidant, secure, and fearful avoidant — and how to identify which one you are
- Why your attachment style is not fixed and how it can change
- What happens in your brain when you're ignored or excluded
- How being securely connected can extend your life
- The five pillars of a secure life
- How to right-size a relationship with someone unreliable
- Small, seemingly insignificant daily interactions as vehicles for change
- Two rules of secure engagement that can defuse almost any argument
- Why anxious and avoidant attachment styles each have genuine superpowers
- How to build your "attachment topography"
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Your health, relationships, and self-esteem all hinge on your attachment style. Here's how to know if you're anxious or avoidant — and how to get more secure.
Dr. Amir Levine is a Columbia-trained psychiatrist and neuroscientist and coauthor of the multi-million-copy bestseller Attached, which brought attachment theory into mainstream conversation and remains the #1 book on Amazon in Relationships more than a decade later. His new book Secure expands this work into emotional regulation and everyday well-being.
In this episode we talk about:
- What attachment theory is
- The four attachment styles — anxious, avoidant, secure, and fearful avoidant — and how to identify which one you are
- Why your attachment style is not fixed and how it can change
- What happens in your brain when you're ignored or excluded
- How being securely connected can extend your life
- The five pillars of a secure life
- How to right-size a relationship with someone unreliable
- Small, seemingly insignificant daily interactions as vehicles for change
- Two rules of secure engagement that can defuse almost any argument
- Why anxious and avoidant attachment styles each have genuine superpowers
- How to build your "attachment topography"
Get the 10% with Dan Harris app here
Sign up for Dan's free newsletter here
Follow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTok
Subscribe to our YouTube Channel
Join Dan, Sebene Selassie, and Jeff Warren for Meditation Party, a 3-day immersive retreat at the Omega Institute in Rhinebeck, NY, October 16–18. Grab your in-person spot here, or sign up to livestream here!
To advertise on the show, contact sales@advertisecast.com or visit https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris
This episode is sponsored by: BetterHelp: Online therapy, matched to your needs. Get 10% off your first month at https://www.betterhelp.com/happier
Wix: Build a fully functional website with AI in minutes at https://www.wix.com/harmony
IQBAR: To get twenty percent off all IQBAR products, including the ultimate sampler pack, plus free shipping, text DAN to 64000.
Warby Parker: Prescription glasses with virtual try-on. Buy one prescription pair and get 20% off additional prescription pairs at https://www.warbyparker.com/happier
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