Sex With Emily

Everyone is talking about breathwork these days. But for PleasureMuse Dolly Josette, breath opens an entire world of erotic sensation -- and it’s a world you (yes, you) already possess. So if full-body orgasms sound like fun, you’ll love this conversation, because guess what? Dolly shows us how to visit that pleasure-filled world, all on our own.

Dolly’s been recognized as one of today’s most innovative Sexological Bodyworkers by Cosmopolitan and Hustler Magazines, but more importantly, she helps women and couples navigate their sexual evolution, wake up from numbness, and live more orgasmic lives. In this episode, we cover a ton of ground, including how to hack your nervous system for better sex, how to become a great masturbator, what exactly *is* somatic sex therapy, and why so many people, especially vulva-owners, are trained to numb from the waist down. (Spoiler alert: her clients definitely aren’t numb anymore.) 

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Trust: it’s the glue of relationships, even the more casual ones. Can I trust that this person is safe? That they aren’t going to hurt me? Can I trust myself, that I’ll know how to navigate this situation? These are the questions we all ask ourselves, even if it’s subconscious. Our bodies and brains regularly scan for danger, but when you’re wearing rose-colored glasses, sometimes the red flags just look like flags.

So on today’s Ask Emily show, I take your questions on trust and safety, because as we know, safety is the precursor to hot sex. So what happens when you’re having mind-blowing sex with a partner, but catch them chatting with sex workers online? What happens when you’ve been love-bombed, by someone who isn’t what they seem? Or maybe you’ve had past relationship trauma, and don’t trust new partners to take it slow with you? We get into all of it. Finally: do you trust yourself to facilitate a hookup? Do you trust that you can help a partner heal from sex-negative messaging? These are the questions I’m exploring today, and trust ME: by the end, you’ll walk away with some great tools for sticky situations. 

Show Notes:

Episode: First Date First Orgasm First Threesome

Find out about EMDR therapy at EMDRIA.org

Book: For Yourself By Lonnie Barbach

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You’ve heard this one before: the sexiest quality in the world is confidence. And that’s true...but...it’s not always easy to muster. Confidence is an inside job, but here’s the good news. Once you generate it on your own terms, life - and sex - gets a whole lot easier.

So on today’s Ask Emily show, I’m joined by my dear friend and former co-host Menace from The Woody Show, as we talk confidence, jealousy, Pete Davidson, and self-image. What happens when you adore your partner, but can’t stop thinking about their high body count? Or want to have hot phone sex, but don’t know where to start? We talk through both. How about when you feel too short to find a great partner, or don’t know how to be dominant in bed? We help you think through both. Finally: discovering your partner’s can of delay spray. Our listener wonders whether he’s sleeping with someone else; we think it’s time for open communication.

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Episode: Talk Dirty To Me w/ Joanna Angel

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When you hear the words “pelvic floor,” what comes to mind? A visit to the OB-GYN, maybe? The truth is, the pelvic floor is a hidden superstar of sexual pleasure, for vulva AND penis owners. We all have a pelvic floor, but the problem is, we don’t always know how to take care of it. That changes today because you’re about to hear from the pelvic floor expert herself, Dr. Patricia Wallace.

In this episode I talk to Dr. Wallace about “living your best life in your best body,” and how focusing on the pelvic floor can unlock our feel-good potential. We discuss the intricacies of orgasm because guess what? When you strengthen the pelvic floor, your orgasm contractions get more intense, and tiny muscles you didn’t even know you had amplified your pleasure. We can also heal pain and prolapse through pelvic floor rehab, and vulva owners will find a lot of relief hearing Dr. Wallace's thoughts on aging and hormones. Turns out, you can nurture your hormonal health well into menopause, without scary side effects! Leave it to a doctor to put our minds (and our vulvas, and our penises) at ease.

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Sex is play, but certain sex positions feel more like work, right? Whether it’s reverse cowgirl or 69, you might feel a bit awkward...you don’t exactly know what you’re doing...you’re trying not to throw your back out. But that doesn’t mean you have to keep doing the same, safe positions over and over again!

That’s why today’s show is all about helping you experiment, and making the most challenging positions feel smooth and easy -- no physics degree required. Learn how to make reverse cowgirl less confusing and more sexy, how to execute the Kivin Method on a vulva owner, how to 69 without feeling like you’re multitasking, and how to have steamy, sexy shower sex without breaking anything. Plus: we reveal the most-searched sex positions by U.S. state! Pennsylvanians love their oral, and those Texans are pretty dexterous, y’all.

Show Notes:

Episode: The “Bottom” Line On Anal w/ Dr. Evan Goldstein

Try our free Pleasure Planner

Episode: Sex Goals For The Win

Article: How to Master These Awkward Sex Positions

Article: Mind-Blowing Oral Sex in Under 5 Minutes: The Kivin Method

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Let’s be honest: there are certain myths about sex that are SO common, they seem like truth. Things like: what it means to be wet, what it means to be hard, and what it means if you use a vibrator a lot. But guess what? A ton of the things you and I have both heard about sex aren’t based on science - they’ve just been repeated a lot. So on today’s show, I’m debunking the top sex myths I see and hear, and giving you the actual facts.

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What does it mean about your sexual ability if you’ve had a lot of partners - or conversely, hardly any? We talk about it. How about if you’re not getting wet during sex. Does that mean you’re not turned on? We discuss! Let’s say you use a vibrator a lot - can you get addicted to it? Or my favorite: does having an orgasm mean the sex was good? I tackle both of these. And finally, we face the truth about anal sex, because spoiler alert...it’s not just for gay men.

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Episode: Lube It Or Leave It

Episode: Kink & Casual Sex w/ Justin Lehmiller 

Episode: Seducing the Booty w/ Alicia Sinclair

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Have you ever been in a relationship with someone who can read your mind, anticipate your needs 24/7, and fulfill them perfectly? Yeah...me neither. The truth is, deep relationships require deep communication skills, and the most important skill is this: being able to articulate what you need, sexually and otherwise. The result? Way healthier relationship dynamics.

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So on today’s Ask Emily show, I give you communication tools to put in your back pocket, so you can improve your relationship one talk at a time. How about when you’re tired of hookups and want a relationship with real depth? Or maybe, you want more than one relationship? I talk you through ways to approach both.

What about when your partner is emotionally detached, or you want your child to grow up with more positive sex messaging than you had? We get into it. Finally, we talk through getting the kind of touch you need in bed because let’s face it - sometimes pain is fun, and sometimes it’s just painful. With the right communication, you can find just the right sweet spot.

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You know Gwyneth Paltrow: actor, CEO of goop, bestselling cookbook author, and cultural conversation starter. But now, Gwyneth’s got a new show on Netflix called “Sex, Love & Goop,” where she hopes to spark another conversation: how couples can save their sex lives, through touch, communication, and giving themselves permission to talk about sex in the first place.

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In this show, I talk to Gwyneth about the healing modalities you see in the series, like sexological bodywork and vulva mapping, as well as the women who crave a different dynamic with their husbands. Gwyneth also tells me how she prioritizes her pleasure, why goop created a beautiful, “sculpture-like” vibrator, why she believes menopause needs to be rebranded, and how nutrition healed her hormones after Covid quarantine. Gwyneth’s accomplished a lot in this life - now, she wants to conquer a taboo, by making sex talks more mainstream. And on my show, that’s exactly what I like to hear.

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When it comes to sex, do you have a growth mindset? Whether you’re a new parent and your sex drive has tanked, or you’re trying to break free from a mental pattern that’s blocking your pleasure, we all experience sexual roadblocks. Never fear: you can have a sex reset! On today’s Ask Emily show, I’m helping you ID the obstacles to your sexuality, from trauma, to a repressive upbringing, to a disconnect with your partner. And one by one, I help you figure out solutions that open the door to self-exploration.

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What do you do when you’re “spectator-ing” yourself during sex, and battling against mental chatter? Or you’ve got a religious past, that makes sex a bit triggering for you? In both cases, I provide mindfulness techniques that help you quiet the mind, and feel into your pleasure. What about when it’s a block with your partner, when you’re just not on the same page about your desires? I’ve got ideas to normalize sex talks, and help you communicate your needs. How about when you crave a certain type of power dynamic, but aren’t sure how to explore it? I give you ideas for approaching it safely and consensually, with a play partner. This episode is all about self-exploration, and helping you reclaim your full sex potential.

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To lots of folks, “foreplay” is shorthand for...hand stuff. But foreplay - or outercourse, as I call it - is actually way more about emotional intelligence, than anything having to do with your fingers. On today’s show, I dive into the psychology of foreplay and intimacy, a fascinating study on the difference between a good’ and ‘bad’ sex life, and how to get aroused with specific (and quite sexy) pre-game tips.

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We also talk about what to do if foreplay and overall sex with your partner has gotten a bit stale, how to tease and arouse yourself, what to do if your partner isn’t so keen on exploring new things, and how to handle a partner who won’t reciprocate foreplay...after you give them all sorts of pre-game love. Plus, I answer your questions! I share what to do if you find yourself fantasizing about a past crush (while in a committed relationship), and give tips for how to have an orgasm… for the first time.

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Episode: The Gottmans on Compatibility, Conflict & Conversation

Episode: Talk Dirty To Me w/ Joanna Angel

Article: Ask Emily: How Do I Get Better at Dirty Talk?

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Article: 6 Tips For Being A Better Kisser

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There are wants, and then, there are needs -- sexual needs, to be precise. On today’s Ask Emily show, everyone has that one need that they’re longing to satisfy...they just don’t know how to do it. Good news: the sex expert has arrived, and I’m here to help you take that vital next step.

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If you’ve never had an orgasm before, but desperately want to, I’ve got some ideas for that. Or if you want a hotter sex life, but your partner shuts down around sex convos, I’ve got communication tips. How about when you want to give your partner a crazy orgasm, but don’t know the right techniques? Yep, we talk about great ones. And finally, if your partner desires sexual experiences like swinging, but you aren’t sure, what in the world do you do? Answer: you listen to this episode! Because I promise, for every sex problem, there is a path forward. 

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Article: 6 Tips for Mastering the Game-Changing Technique of Mindful Masturbation

Episode: The Gottmans on Compatibility, Conflict & Conversation

Episode: Talk Dirty To Me w/ Joanna Angel 

Audio Erotica: Dipsea and Quinn

Book: Curvy Girl Sex

The Liberator

Je Joue Mio Vibrating Cock Ring

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When it comes to your most pressing sex issues, have you ever wondered: “ugh, is it just me?” I promise: it’s not just you! To prove it, I’m tackling your top five sex questions in this episode. From raising your libido to acing your oral, we cover a lot of ground in this one.

How do you talk to your partner about sex? I teach you how to broach this conversation with compassion, and how to normalize sex talks in general. How about amping up your sex drive? There are hacks for that! Maybe you want to last longer in bed, get better at oral, or spice up your sex life. There’s a whole world of solutions for those, and I walk you through them. Whether it’s toys, technique, or just a good talk, this episode is all about finding answers, so you can have the pleasure you deserve.

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System Jo Lubricants

Je Joue Mio Vibrating Cock Ring

Guide: Three Ts of Communication

Guide: Edging 

Yes No Maybe List

Article: Mind-Blowing Oral Sex in Under 5 Minutes: The Kivin Method

Book: She Comes First

Episode: Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex w/ Ian Kerner

Episode: Seducing the Booty w/ Alicia Sinclair

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It’s the holy grail of sexual connection -- a quality oral sesh. Or...is it? On this best of mashup episode, I’m sharing some top shelf advice on how to up your oral game: both giving, and receiving.

Sometimes, hot oral comes down to technique, like the Kivin Method: we talk about why this is so delicious for vulva owners, and how you can execute it. But other times, good oral is more about lip service - no, not that kind, the communication kind. How do you ask for more oral from a partner who’s hesitant? How do you ask for LESS from a partner who’s a little too enthusiastic? And man oh man, what about when you desperately want to give - but your partner has some blocks around it? We get into all of it, alongside my guest Sadie Allison: sexologist, relationship expert and author, who has some A+ hacks to make your next oral sesh super sexy.

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Article: Mind-Blowing Oral Sex in Under 5 Minutes: The Kivin Method

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Here’s a secret. The #1 obstacle standing between you and the sex of your dreams probably comes down to exactly one thing: communication. It’s not a cliche - it’s a skill, and on today’s Ask Emily show, we’re talking our way to better sex. So let’s bravely face the awkwardness, with communication hacks for even the most nerve-wracking of convos.

Clamming up during sex talks? I’ve got a confidence-building solution for that. How about giving tough feedback, like asking for better handjobs, or addressing a funky smell? We get into it! Finally, we tackle tough topics like telling a friend you have feelings for them, whether or not to open a relationship, and if you should stay in a partnership if the sex is just OK. Communication is lubrication, but you know what? It’s also liberating, and by the end of this episode, you’ll be feeling a lot freer.

Show Notes:

Yes, No, Maybe List

Episode: Hot Sex with STIs w/ Dr. Ina Park

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No one goes to relationship school, so Dr. John & Julie Gottman created the Gottman Institute to find out what makes relationships work. As today’s guests (and partners for over 30 years), the Gottmans talk about their iconic research, including the myth of compatibility, the four behaviors that tank a relationship, and what is UP with pheromones and attraction. Yep: we’re talking t-shirt smell test.

We’re also taking a research-based approach to conflict, and finding out how curiosity and conversation can help you navigate it. Finally, we discuss the Gottmans’ book Eight Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love and take your Instagram questions about vulnerability, attraction, and how to stay sexually connected -- even when you’re exhausted.

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Show Notes:

Book: For Yourself: The Fulfillment of Female Sexuality by Lonnie Barbach

App: Gottman Card Decks

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Comedians are paid to be funny, but on today’s throwback show, four of my four guests are getting real about sex - while, of course, being hilarious. Dean McDermott talks chemistry, porn versus Fleshlights, and how he and wife Tori Spelling keep things sexy with five (five!) kids. Nicky Paris is trying to bring down his walls around intimacy, and avoid having his head pushed down for oral. I applaud both.

Margaret Cho deems herself a lifelong submissive, and talks about the contours of sexuality and BDSM, all while being bisexual and radically open to different ages. Finally, Adam Ferrara joins me to discuss negative self-talk, effective tools he uses in his marriage, and helps me answer your calls on everything from sexual compatibility to bedroom communication. Come for the laughs, stay for the sex.

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On today’s show, it’s all about finding answers to your trickiest questions and unleashing your full pleasure potential. How do you orgasm when you don’t know how? Or have sex for the first time, when you’re a virgin? How do you ease into an open relationship or threesome? How do you find balance in your masturbation routine?

Whether you’re too dry (and it’s puzzling your partner), or too wet (and it’s puzzling both of you) I help you figure out solutions to overcome your biggest sexual challenges.

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Most of us think of arousal and desire as spontaneous, even a little mysterious. But on today’s show, I’m joined by the incredible Pamela Madsen, founder of Back to the Body, and sex & intimacy coach Court Vox, who myth-bust that assumption entirely. When you’re ready to go from erotically numb to erotically alive, they know exactly how to get the sexual energy going again. In this episode, they talk about low libido (and its likely culprit: high boredom), how to create a new relationship with your body, and how the right touch can unleash both deep desire...and deep healing.

Pamela and Court also talk to us about their retreats (two words: pleasure demos), plus: we answer your questions! We talk to you about how to feel more confident in the bedroom, whether it’s ok to pleasure a partner when you yourself never orgasm, and how to have your best curvy girl sex.

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Attention: the orgasm has left the building. What does it mean when you can orgasm with one partner, but not another? Or when you can squirt, but not climax? How do we create those delicious sensations, without getting too up in our head about it?

On today’s Hotline Calls show, we’re talking all about orgasm and how to unlock it. I answer your questions on how to orgasm for the first time (at any age), what to do when you’re unable to orgasm with a new partner, how overall health affects your ability to climax, and how to create masturbation routines that support the orgasms you deserve. Have a question of your own? You can call me anytime and leave a voicemail: 559-TALK-SEX (559-825-5739).

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Episode: Best Of: Sexually Fit w/ Mind Pump

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Episode: Seducing The Booty w/ Alicia Sinclair

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Are you suddenly feeling a little...kinkier? According to my guest, social psychologist, and Kinsey Institute researcher Justin Lehmiller, a lot of us are ready to sex-periment right now. Justin shares fascinating sex research from the COVID era, the sex communication practices heterosexual individuals can learn from the LGBTQ+ community, and how to make casual sex better for women. (Spoiler alert: emphasize her pleasure.)

We also unpack the Kinsey Scale and why sexuality is so freaking fluid, why threesomes are such a popular fantasy, and what our porn preferences reveal (and don’t reveal) about us. Finally, we talk about sex education as it’s practiced in The Netherlands, and give you some incredibly useful tools for talking to your kids about sex (because it’s really important!).

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So you want sex on the daily, but as for your partner? Not really. Not to worry! Today’s hotline calls episode takes a look at mismatched sex drives, and what might actually be behind them. We’re also diving into penis size, pleasure, and communication. There are so many ways to enjoy a penis - but first, ya gotta talk about what you BOTH want.

We’re also tackling a case of sexsomnia (aka having sex in your sleep), and how to make eye contact during sex (when you’re awake). If you’d like to ask me a question, you can call me anytime and leave a voicemail: 559-TALK-SEX (559-825-5739).

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On today’s throwback show, I’m joined by Sal, Adam, and Justin from the Mind Pump health and wellness show. We discuss how your mindset can get you into the best shape, common misconceptions about fitness training and testosterone, ways to naturally boost your libido, and the difference between self-image and body image. Plus, we explore how your physical health impacts your sex life, and the guys dive into the fascinating relationship between libido and physical activity. Trust me when I say the bedroom and the weight room are more connected than you think! 

I also answer your questions about how to confidently have sex on top, what it means if you feel physically “off” after masturbating and why we should send some love to an often-overlooked erogenous zone. 

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Esther Perel is one of the most fascinating thinkers today on issues of desire, sex, and relationships. As an author and psychotherapist, she helps therapy patients (and the general public) understand the complexities of love and desire with provocative questions. How do you turn yourself on? How do you balance your need for safety and security, and on the other hand, your need for adventure and novelty? Can you want what you already have? As the author of the iconic “Mating In Captivity” and another bestseller, “The State of Affairs,” Esther is reshaping society’s views of sexuality and eroticism -- and arguably, healing them.

In today’s episode, we talk about the difference between sexual and emotional needs, how you can calibrate your expectations of marriage, and why people in happy relationships still cheat. We also discuss her new game “Where Should We Begin,” answer a listener’s question about how to handle anxiety in relationships, and her number one piece of advice for having better sex.

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The Pleasure Planner

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Do you remember the sex you had in college? Or maybe you’re just now embarking on this exciting adventure and have no idea what to expect? While college is an *amazing* time for independence and exploration, it also comes with uncharted territory and first-time sexual dilemmas. Today, I’m breaking down everything you need to know about sex in college. I’m sharing what I wish I knew before my first year and some of YOUR hottest college hookup stories.

Plus I answer your questions about how to make one night stands more pleasurable, how to know if it’s time to break up with your long term partner for new sexual experiences, what to do if your asexual identity or virginity makes it harder for you to connect with potential partners and how to find partners who value more than just casual hookups. I also talk to certified health coach Katrina Wright about how she has transcended during her time at college into a healthier relationship with herself and her romantic partners.

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• Magic Wand
• System Jo Lubricants
• Sex Tips I Wish I knew In My 20s
• Ask Emily: How Do I Get More Comfortable w/ Dirty Talk
• Je Joue Mimi Soft
• Dame - Eva

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Are you curious about anal play, but don’t know where to get started? It’s Anal August, so we’ve invited certified sex educator and B-Vibe CEO Alicia Sinclair on the show to break down all things booty. In today’s episode, we talk about how to experiment with beginner butt play, avoiding common anal mistakes, progressing your anal play (from analingus to penetration), and the best products for anal training and butt orgasms—yup, they’re real.

Plus, we answer your questions about the best ways to prep and unwind after engaging in any sort of butt stuff, how to actually find your prostate, how to let go of shame and replace it with glorious anal pleasure.

Show Notes:

Woo More Play

Article: Anal Massage: Master the Best Anal Foreplay Techniques

OHNUT

Pjur Lube

Aneros

Alicia's last appearance on Sex w/ Emily: Snug Plugs, Butt Hugs, & b-Vibes with Alicia Sinclair

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How has culture shaped your sexuality? According to my guest Dr. Shefali Tsabury, culture has conditioned us to suppress, cheat, and lie to ourselves. But radically authentic love and desire IS possible if we’re willing to confront common myths and make the conscious decision to live free.

In this fascinating conversation, Dr. Shefali talks about how to rethink marriage as a model for growth, whether monogamy is natural (or not), and how to replace societal conditioning with something more wild, interesting, and frankly pretty sexy: worthiness.

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So your partner is great… but you want them to bring the heat, and don’t know how to ask for it. Now what? On today’s episode, I answer calls about how to ask for exactly what you want, or conversely, don’t want. I also give advice about how to achieve orgasm without relying too heavily on porn or toys, what to do if your partner’s penis is too big for anal, what to do if YOU like giving oral but your partner isn’t as down to receive, and how to enjoy casual dating.

If you’d like to ask me a question, you can call me anytime and leave a voicemail: 559-TALK-SEX (559-825-5739).

Show Notes:

O Nut

Yes, No, Maybe List

b-Vibe - Anal Kit

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Do you want a little more kink in your life, but aren’t sure how to get started? If so...you’ll definitely want to tune into my interview with professional dominatrix & kink expert, Mistress Justine Cross. We discuss the myths and basics of BDSM starting with what the hell it even means (bondage, discipline, domination, submission, and masochism). We show you how to begin exploring your kinks even if you are brand new to the game and we discuss some of the most common fantasies.

We also answer your questions about: techniques for restraining your partner (fun!), the importance of communicating your fantasies, and how to explore dom/sub dynamics.

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On today’s show, I am answering all of your pressing calls from the Sex with Emily hotline! We get into some great topics like how to start enjoying receiving oral sex, ways to spice up your honeymoon sex without actual penetration, and what to do if you aren’t getting as wet as you used to during sex. Plus, new methods for giving oral sex to prevent discomfort and how to decide if it’s worth staying in your relationship after seven years (and three children).

You can call me anytime and leave a voicemail: 559-TALK-SEX (559-825-5739).

Show Notes:

Massage Candles at Good Vibrations

b-Vibe Beginner Anal Kit 

Fin by Dame

System Jo Lubricants

Bellesa The Netflix of Porn

Audio Erotica: Quinn

Yes, No, Maybe List

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It’s part two with one of the world’s most sought-after dating and relationship experts, Matthew Hussey. We continue the conversation and dive into how to build chemistry (and how that differs from connection), signs that someone is actually invested in you, ways to foster attraction without losing a sense of yourself, and the drawbacks of what Matthew calls ‘the one day wager.’

We also discuss the importance of consistency in your actions and words, the difference between healthy romance and love bombing, common red flags (and why they so often get ignored), when you should first sleep with someone, and whether or not Matthew Hussey believes in ‘the one.’

Missed part one of my interview with Matthew? Listen to it here.

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On this show, I’m joined by relationship and life coach, author, and YouTube personality Matthew Hussey. We discuss whether or not “casual dating” actually exists, why rejection is actually a GOOD thing, how dating apps have changed the dating world (and how to actually meet people IRL), and the root cause of problematic dating patterns. Plus, Matthew shares his exclusive three layers of confidence and tools to build your self-esteem. After all, who doesn’t find confidence in hot AF?

We also talk about how we can use relationships to learn about ourselves, why it's important to feel embodied while dating, how much you should invest in a potential partner, why falling in love quickly can be a red flag, and the importance of therapy and mentorship. P.S.Make sure you subscribe to hear Friday’s part two of this interview. Things get even juicier...

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On today’s show, I’m joined by psychological astrologer and returning guest Dr. Jennifer Freed. We answer your questions on how to spot a sensual lover, useful tools for addressing low libido, how to pursue a threesome or open relationship, how to easily create intimacy in a relationship, what your Zodiac signs say (or don’t say) about compatibility with your partner, what to do if your hookup buddy wants a relationship (but you don’t), and the mind-blowing effects of EMDR therapy.

We also share our top methods to build erotic tension and why focusing too much on your partner’s desire can hold you back in the bedroom. As an added bonus, we walk through ways to reach your ‘power yes’ in sex, the effects of toxic masculinity, and how to communicate as an invitation—not a confrontation.

Show Notes:

Episode: Sex Up Your Love Language

EMDRIA.org: Resources for EMDR therapy 

Yes, No, Maybe List

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Have you ever had sex with an ex? Or tried to be friends with your ex? On today’s show, I am joined by MY real-life ex-boyfriend and opening up about our past, including our favorite (sexual) memories. We discuss the evolution of our relationship from falling in love, to why we broke up (“the ass is always greener”). For the first time, we talk about what we both learned from the relationship and our regrets. We share practical advice for how to become friends with your ex based on our experience. Hint: you have to want the same thing.

Plus, I answer your questions! I discuss ways to hook up and date someone new after a breakup, tools to initiate a difficult conversation, and how to heal insecurities and heartache after separating from your partner.

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Everyone wants to feel loved. But what if there was a way to give love, that could also lead to hotter, more connected sex? On today’s show, I share how to crack the code on the 5 Love languages to amp up the connection in all of your important relationships. Plus, I answer your questions like: what to do if you have a different love language than your partner (which is more common than you think), how to show love in a long distance relationship and specific ways to express yourself sexually based on you and your partner’s love languages.

Then I answer your questions about what to do if you accidentally give your partner feedback on his penis when he didn’t ask and what to do when you are no longer sexually attracted to your girlfriend.

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Show Notes:

More Information on The Love Languages

Je Joue Mimi Soft 

Bellesa 

Yes No Maybe List

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On today’s show, I’m throwing it back to a question on everyone’s mind: how to have multiple orgasms. Yes, it is possible! I share in-depth tips for how you can prep your body and mind to make this goal a reality.

Plus, I discuss how to make initiating sex an equal playing field while in a dom/sub relationship, ways to transition your sexting relationship into real life, what to do after getting caught having sex in public (by your parents!) and how to get your needs met when your partner is sexually selfish.

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Show Notes:

Magic Wand

Womanizer 

Je Joue 

Uma 

Mimi 

Ami kegel set 

Dame Kip

B-vibe

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On today’s Best of episode, I’m explaining how to spot red flags when you’re dating someone new, healthy ways to address conflict, and actionable tips to amp up a low sex drive.

I also take your calls about getting past jealousy in an open relationship, what to do when you want more sex than your partner, and how squirting can happen even without an orgasm. Have a question of your own? You can call me anytime and leave a voicemail: 559-TALK-SEX (559-825-5739).

Show Notes:

Episode Bedroom Goals & Relationship Roles with Lisa Bilyeu

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On today’s Ask Emily show, I answer your sex and relationship questions. I cover what to do if you’re questioning your sexuality while married with kids, how to initiate your first threesome, when (if ever) you should tell your partner how many people you’ve slept with, and ways to get more comfortable while giving oral sex.

I also talk about what to do if the porn you watch makes you feel guilty, how to approach exploring a fetish without shame, what to do if you disagree with your partner about having another child and what it means when you cry after sex.

Show Notes:

Yes No Maybe List

Fetlife

#Open

Feeld

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On today’s show, I’m answering more of your questions from the Sex with Emily hotline. Topics include: how to tell your partner you want more oral sex, what to do if you can’t get over the sex you had with your toxic ex, how to explore your bisexuality without unnecessary drama, the best ways to avoid negative thought patterns while dating and how to explore mutual masturbation and edging with a partner.

Have a question of your own? You can call me anytime and leave a voicemail: 559-TALK-SEX (559-825-5739).

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On today’s throwback show, I’m discussing the ins and outs of a fantasy that has become a lot more popular: cuckolding or “hot wifery”. I share tips to bring up your fantasy with your partner, why people enjoy it, how you can navigate FFM and MMF threesomes, and what to consider before you dive into your next sexual fantasy.

I also take your calls and answer questions like how to get over the jitters when you want to go to the strip club with your husband for the first time, and what to do when your partner has extreme separation anxiety when you leave town and why writing your own erotica can be incredibly hot (and even help with initiating sex).

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Confidence is everything. It affects the way we perceive ourselves, how we interact with others, and definitely shapes our sex life. On today’s show, I am joined by Serena Kerrigan, the ‘Queen of Confidence.’

Serena talks about what she has learned from going on over 50 online dates with men during quarantine, how to make the post-pandemic “whoring twenties” fun, and her passion for masturbation. Plus, we answer your questions like how to feel confident after hooking up for the first time and how to feel sexy no matter what.

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serenakerrigan.com

Instagram

Facebook

Twitter

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Ever wonder what happens behind the scenes of your favorite porn? Today I’m joined by adult film director Jacky St. James and performer Ana Foxxx. We discuss their hottest scenes, what it’s like being on set, what constitutes ‘ethical porn’ and whether porn actors fake their orgasms.

Plus, Jacky walks me through her approach to creating an adult film and how porn has evolved over time. Ana shares what it’s like dating as a porn star, details from her dirty 30 birthday party, and how porn has shaped her sex life on and off-screen. We also answer your questions like: is porn scripted or spontaneous and is it normal to get jealous when your partner watches porn?

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jackystjames.com

Instagram

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OnlyFans

Instagram

Twitter

Show Notes:

Bellesa 

Erika Lust

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In today’s episode, I’m answering more of your questions from the Sex With Emily hotline. We get into how to handle it when your partner wants to have sex with someone else and stay in your relationship, what it means when you fantasize about your ex, how soon is too soon to start dating someone new after a breakup, and ways to avoid ghosting.

Have a question of your own? You can call me anytime and leave a voicemail: 559-TALK-SEX (559-825-5739). Can’t wait to hear from you!

Show notes:

Yes No Maybe List

Pleasure Planner

Episode: Squirting Secrets w/ Deborah Sundahl

Episode: Am I Normal w/ Dr. Maria Uloko

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In today’s Best Of episode, I’m talking about the #1, most-common fantasy: threesomes. I explore why threesomes can be hot and lay out some ground rules for making a threesome work. We talk about everything you should discuss with your partner before adding a third into the mix and the importance of aftercare (what happens after your threesome). I also share my personal threesome experiences, both the satisfying one and the one that didn’t go as planned. I describe what steps you can take to try and maximize everyone’s pleasure while indulging in this fantasy.

Plus, I answer your questions about the hottest moves to try when penetration is off the table, what to do when you’ve gotten too involved with your neighbor’s 19-year-old son, and how to get the most out of masturbation using CBD, ethical porn, and fantasy.

Show Notes:

FetLife

Feeld

#open

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Who is ready for a hotter, wetter summer? Today, I’m joined by squirting expert, author, and educator Deborah Sundahl, a pioneer in female ejaculation and G-spot (or g-area) anatomy. Deborah and I discuss the difference between squirting and having an orgasm, a step-by-step guide to tapping into your squirting potential, where the G-spot (aka female prostate) is located and how to find it, and the best sex position to achieve a mind-blowing orgasm.

We answer your top questions about how to squirt and what ejaculate consists of, and the best ways to make sure you and your partner can relax and experience all the pleasure and release of a full-body orgasm.

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Summer is heating up and I’m here to make sure your sex life follows suit. In this episode, I’m sharing ideas on how to experiment with hot (and cold) sensation play, the perks of hotel sex, and my personal sex toy picks for travel. Can’t get away this year? No worries, I’ve got sex tips for bringing the vacation into your bedroom.

I also answer your questions, like how to set boundaries for your bachelor/bachelorette parties, where to (safely) have sex in public, how to navigate a friends-with-benefits relationship, and what to do with penis anxiety if your partner plays with a toy bigger than you.

Show Notes:

Yes No Maybe List

Je Joue Mimi Soft Vibrator

Je Joue G-Spot Bullet Vibrator

Emily’s Vesper Vibrating Necklace

Je Joue Mio Penis Ring

b-Vibe

System Jo Lubricants

Foria: Premium CBD Products

Dame Hands-Free Eva

Dame Finger Vibe 

Episode: Tell Me About The Last Time You Had Sex w/ Dr. Ian Kerner

Bellesa Ethical Porn

Feeld Dating

FetLife

#Open

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Ever wonder if your penis/vulva/genitalia are normal? In this episode, I’m joined by urologist Dr. Maria Uloko who’s revolutionizing sexual healthcare. We get into why vulva-owners need testosterone, what happens when penis-owners masturbate too aggressively, how shame can interfere with getting the care you need, and how common it is to experience sexual dysfunction.

I also answer your questions including when it’s time to date again after a toxic relationship, what to do when your partner’s porn preferences look nothing like you, how to be dominant in the bedroom and toy recs to amplify oral sex on a vulva.

Show Notes:

Bellesa - Ethical Porn

Yes No Maybe List

Je Joue Uma G-Spot Vibrator

Je Joue G-Spot Bullet Vibrator

Glass Dildos at Good Vibrations

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In this episode, I’m taking more of your most pressing questions from the Sex With Emily hotline. We’re covering what to do if you can’t stop fantasizing about women (but you’re in a healthy relationship with a man), if your birth control is tanking your sex drive, why bisexual men are often shamed, how to bring back intimacy after a baby, and what to do if your partner won’t share their sexual desires.

Inspired to ask for my opinion? Call and leave a voicemail with your question! You can reach me at 559-TALK-SEX (559-825-5739). Can’t wait to hear from you!

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On today’s show, I am joined by activist, author, and queer commentator Jeffrey Marsh to discuss all things gender. Regardless of how you identify, Jeffrey’s radical self-acceptance will help you to gain a new perspective, have a different understanding of yourself and allow you to stop any negative self-talk. Jeffrey breaks down the difference between confidence self-acceptance, how fearlessly demanding respect from others frees you up to fully be yourself, and their experience as the first openly non-binary person on television.

We share the basics of gender pronouns, the difference between being trans and non-binary, how gender differs from sexual orientation, and how parents can support their children regardless of their identity. We also dive into Jeffrey’s book How to Be You, what happens during meditation and self-care journeys, and why learning to ask for what you need is crucial for healthy relationships.

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On today’s Best of episode, I am joined by renowned biological anthropologist and author of Anatomy of Love, Dr. Helen Fisher. We discuss whether love at first sight is possible, how our personality traits shape our attraction to others and the way our biology influences who we love.

We dive into the parts of your brain responsible for your sex drive, romantic love, and deep attachment. Dr. Fisher also shares findings from studies she has done with Match to answer the question: why do you fall in love with one person rather than another? We also explore the best age to marry, why orgasms create connection, the importance of space in a relationship and why casual sex is not really so casual (hint: catching feelings is real). You can take Dr. Fisher’s personality test to learn about how your personality impacts who you love and how you bond.

Take Dr. Fisher’s Personality Test here: https://theanatomyoflove.com/relationship-quizzes/helen-fishers-personality-test/

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