Sex With Emily

Casual sex gets a bad reputation — but most of that reputation comes from doing it wrong. When it's rushed, unspoken, or emotionally misaligned, it can leave you feeling used, confused, or chasing someone who was never on the same page. But when you approach it with self-awareness and a willingness to actually say what you want, it can be exactly what you need.

In this episode, I'm breaking down what conscious casual sex actually looks like — the different forms it can take, how to know if it's right for you right now, and the two things that separate a genuinely satisfying hookup from one that sends you into a shame spiral.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• The real difference between casual sex and hookup culture — and why "casual" doesn't have to mean disposable, careless, or emotionally disconnected

• How to know if casual sex is actually a good fit for you right now, including the one attachment pattern that almost always makes it backfire

• What to say before, during, and after a casual encounter to make sure your needs actually get met — and how to navigate hooking up within a friend group without blowing everything up

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• Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply).5

• Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! 

• Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.

• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure

• Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website

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Chapters:

0:00 - What Makes Casual Sex Satisfying?

1:43 - Defining Casual Sex (It's Not Just Hookup Culture)

3:59 - Surprising Research: Casual Sex Trends by Generation

5:44 - The Benefits of Casual Sex

8:23 - The Downsides & Risks to Know

10:37 - How to Know If Casual Sex Is Right for You

12:20 - How to Find & Communicate With Casual Partners

17:51 - Best Casual Sex Advice From Dr. Emily's Audience

20:12 - Listener Q&A: Orgasming Through Oral Sex

23:46 - Listener Q&A: Casual Sex After a Long-Term Relationship

27:06 - Listener Q&A: Shame & Regret After a Hookup

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If you've ever felt ashamed of a sexual fantasy, I want you to know that having one isn't a sign that something is wrong with you — it's actually a sign of a healthy sex life. Fantasies can reveal what you truly crave, deepen your connection with a partner, and completely transform your relationship with your own desire. But most of us were never taught how to think about them, let alone talk about them out loud.

In this episode, I'm breaking down what your fantasies actually mean, why you don't need to act on all of them, and exactly how to bring one up with a partner without it feeling terrifying.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• What the most common fantasies reveal about your psychological needs — and why the ones that embarrass you the most are usually the most telling

• My step-by-step framework for communicating a fantasy to a partner (even if you've never done it before and have no idea where to start)

• What to do if you can't seem to fantasize at all — including why a history of trauma or a conservative upbringing can shut down your erotic imagination, and how to gently rebuild it

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• Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! 

• Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.

• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure

• Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website

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Timestamps:

0:00 - Intro

1:47 - The Most Common Fantasies (Group Sex, BDSM, Voyeurism & More)

3:50 - Listener Fantasy List: What YOU Shared on Instagram

6:12 - How to Bring Up a Fantasy to Your Partner (The Who, What, Where, When, Why Method)

8:24 - Fantasy vs. Fetish: What's the Difference?

9:09 - Caller Update: Tracy's Throuple Story

15:44 - "Is It Wrong to Fantasize About Someone Else While in a Relationship?"

17:33 - How to Find a Couple for a Threesome

20:32 - Latex Fetish & Pegging: How to Get Your Partner on Board

24:12 - How to Make the First Move Without Falling into the Friend Zone

28:26 - Foot Fetishes 101: How to Blow His Mind

31:03 - When Trauma Blocks Your Fantasy Life

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If you're on antidepressants and your sex drive has completely disappeared, I want you to know that you're not broken, and you don't have to choose between feeling mentally well and having a fulfilling sex life.

SSRIs like Lexapro, Zoloft, and Prozac are genuinely life-changing for so many people, but nobody warns you that they can tank your desire, make orgasms nearly impossible, and quietly wreck your relationship in the process.

In this episode, I'm breaking down exactly why this happens, and more importantly, what you can actually do about it. From simple timing hacks to alternative treatments that are showing real promise.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• Why SSRIs suppress desire and arousal on a hormonal level — and the one hack that can reduce side effects as soon as tonight

• How to rebuild your sex drive when both you and your partner are medicated (yes, this is more common than you think)

• The alternative treatments — TMS therapy, ketamine, and psilocybin — that are helping people get off antidepressants entirely

More Dr. Emily: 

• Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply).

• Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse.

• Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! 

• Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.

• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure

• Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website

• Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube

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Chapters:

0:00 - Intro

0:31 - Sarah's Story: The SSRI Sex Drive Dilemma

3:50 - Why SSRIs Kill Your Libido (The Science)

6:50 - How Common Is This? Depression & Sex Stats

14:00 - Side Effects Breakdown: Vulva vs. Penis Owners

15:50 - Practical Hacks: Timing, Alcohol & Cannabis

20:53 - Alternative Treatments: TMS, Ketamine & Psychedelics

25:31 - Both Partners on SSRIs? How to Rebuild Intimacy

31:58 - The 36 Questions Study That Reignites Closeness

33:37 - Perimenopause, Hormones & Anti-Depressants at 48

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Solo anal play might be the most misunderstood sex act out there, and I’m done letting shame, myths, and bad porn narratives keep you from one of the most pleasurable things you can do for yourself. Whether you're completely new to anal or just looking for a place to finally start, this episode is your no-judgment, fully practical guide to exploring on your own terms.

From the anatomy behind why it actually feels so good (yes, for all genitals) to the exact tools, lube, and prep you need to get started safely, I break it all down with zero shame and a lot of science. Plus, I answer real listener questions about positioning, bringing it up with a partner, and the mess concerns that are quietly keeping most people from ever trying.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• Why anal stimulation can unlock full-body orgasms for every anatomy — and the nerve science that explains it

• The three biggest anal myths (and why they're completely wrong)

• Exactly how to prep, what to buy, and how to start — so your first experience is actually pleasurable

This Episode is sponsored by LELO SWITCH – https://lelo.to/aGecd (Use code SWE20 for a stackable 20% off!)

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• Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse.

• Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! 

• Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.

• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure

• Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website

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Timestamps:

0:00 - Why Try Solo Anal Play? Benefits for All Bodies

2:20 - Prostate Pleasure 101 (Penis Owners)

3:16 - Anal Orgasms & Nerve Endings (Vulva Owners)

5:48 - Body Acceptance & Releasing Shame Around Anal

6:52 - Busting Myth #1: Does Anal Affect Your Sexuality?

8:21 - Busting Myth #2: Anal Requires Preparation, Not Spontaneity

10:41 - How to Start: Anal Training & Finger Exploration

11:51 - Toy Recommendations by Anatomy

16:06 - Lube Guide: Silicone vs. Water-Based

18:05 - Q&A: Your Anal Questions Answered

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After years of thinking love wasn't in the cards, Golden Globe, Emmy and Academy Award winning actor Halle Berry stopped chasing and that's exactly when everything changed. In this live conversation from Eudemonia, Halle and I get into what it really takes to have a loving connection and  incredible sex in your 50s, why she thought her partner gave her herpes (spoiler: it was perimenopause), and how becoming whole on her own finally attracted the relationship she'd always wanted.

From faking multiple orgasms in her 20s to now having no problem telling her partner exactly what she needs, Halle shares why the "zero fucks to give" era might just be the sexiest time of a woman's life. She also opens up about misdiagnosis, advocating for women's health in Washington, and why she's throwing herself a "siesta" party when she officially hits menopause in March.

Don't forget to watch the full video podcast on YouTube! 

In this episode, you'll learn:

 • Why chasing a relationship kept Halle attracting the wrong partners—and what shifted when she finally prioritized herself

 • How vaginal dryness got misdiagnosed as herpes and Sjögren's disease, and what that taught her about the gaps in women's healthcare

 • The permission slip every woman needs to stop performing in bed and start asking for what actually feels good

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• Instagram 

• Respin by Halle Berry 

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•  Website 

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• Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse.

• Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! 

• Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.

• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure

• Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website

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Chapters:

00:00 - Chapter Title

00:09 - Halle Berry Admits She Used to Fake Orgasms

02:12 - Love, Divorce, and Lessons After Three Marriages

04:26 - Why She Slept With Men on the First Night

07:03 - The Health Scare That Changed Her Intimacy

07:46 - Being Misdiagnosed With Herpes

09:11 - Realizing She Was in Perimenopause

10:36 - How Sex Changed in Her 50s

13:03 - Why So Many Women Fake It

14:08 - The Unrealistic Sex Standards from Porn

17:08 - Learning You Can Say No to Sex

26:32 - The Truth About Multiple Orgasms

29:31 - Why She Launched Respin

30:50 - The Menopause Healthcare Gap

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Blood flow might not sound sexy, but it’s the fuel behind satisfying sex.

In this live episode from the A4M Longevity Conference in Las Vegas, I sit down with certified nurse practitioner and ⁠Medical Director at GAINSWave, Chrislyn Chaloupka, to discuss how GAINSWave’s non-invasive regenerative therapy is reshaping sexual wellness by addressing root causes rather than simply masking symptoms.

We dive into why your body might not be responding the way it used to, from erections that fade under pressure to that frustrating gap between wanting sex and your body just not cooperating.

Chrislyn breaks down how this painless 15-minute treatment works (that I even tried myself), and we get real about everything from porn-induced desensitization to why erectile challenges can actually be your heart trying to tell you something important.

Don't forget to watch the full video podcast on YouTube! 

What you'll learn:

 • Why "just relax and use more lube" isn't solving your arousal problems—and what actually will

 • How shockwave therapy can help with everything from weak orgasms to stress urinary incontinence (yes, the sneeze-and-pee situation)

 • The psychological factors that can make even the best physical treatments fail until you address the deeper story

This Episode is sponsored by Gainswave. Go to gainswave.com and find a provider near you to regain your freedom and pleasure in the bedroom.This episode was recorded live at the A4M Longevity Conference in Las Vegas 2025. 

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• Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply).

• Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse.

• Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! 

• Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.

• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure

• Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website

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• Let’s text: Sign up here

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Timestamps:

0:00 - Intro

1:07 - What Is A4M & Why Emily Was There

3:16 - Meet Guest Chrysen Chalupka: Nurse Practitioner & Regenerative Medicine Expert

12:17 - Regenerative Medicine Explained: Treating Root Causes, Not Symptoms

13:34 - What Is Shockwave Therapy & How Does It Actually Work

15:28 - The GainsWave Treatment: What It Feels Like (Emily's Experience)

17:03 - Who Benefits Most: Women, Pain, Dryness & Orgasm Issues

23:28 - Shockwave for Men: Erections, Blood Flow & Hidden Heart Health Warnings

27:09 - The Psychology of Sexual Dysfunction: When It's Not Just Physical

28:52 - Porn, Masturbation & Desensitization: The Conversation Nobody's Having

32:57 - Beyond Sexual Health: Treating Joints, Injuries & Chronic Pain with Shockwave

35:30 - How to Find a GainsWave Provider Near You

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Sexting sounds simple until you're actually staring at your phone, cursor blinking, wondering if what you're about to send is hot or just... weird. In this episode, I'm giving you the full breakdown on how to text dirty with confidence—because good sexting is really just foreplay with a keyboard.

I'm answering your questions about everything from how to build tension with something as small as three dots, to what to do when your partner wants to sext around the clock but you're just not feeling it. Plus, I'm sharing some of the hottest sexts the Sex With Emily community has ever received (you asked, you delivered, and wow).

In this episode, you'll learn:

 • The "past and future" technique that makes writing a sext way less intimidating—and way more effective

 • What to say when your long-distance partner's sexting pace doesn't match yours (hint: you're allowed to set your own rhythm)

 • How sexting can actually help you communicate desires that feel too awkward to say face-to-face

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• Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse.

• Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Reach out to enrollment@sexwithemily.com to learn more! 

• Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.

• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure

• Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website

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Timestamps:

0:00 - Introduction

2:06 - The "past and future" rule for writing sexts

4:43 - How to use the three dots to build tension

5:34 - Nude photo tips: angles, lighting & confidence

7:35 - Protecting your nudes on Apple & Google

8:41 - The hottest sexts you've sent (community submissions)

10:18 - How to find your dirty talk voice

12:48 - Flirting with a coworker over Zoom & Slack

15:04 - Keeping sexts private when kids use your devices

16:08 - When your partner's masturbation habits change

19:16 - Mismatched sexting energy in long distance

22:35 - Rebuilding trust after infidelity

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Whether you're questioning who you're attracted to or wondering why someone incredible on paper leaves you feeling nothing below the waist, you're not alone. In this episode, I unpack the messy, confusing space between wanting someone and wanting to build a life with them—and why those two things don't always line up.

From a woman who's always identified as straight but can't stop fantasizing about women, to a listener who's been getting nothing but one-arm hugs after six dates, I get into the questions most people are too afraid to ask out loud. I also share what the science actually says about attraction—including why your post-gym crush might not be as real as it feels, and what your birth control could be doing to your "type."

In this episode, you'll learn:

 • Why putting a label on your sexuality might be the last thing you need to do right now—and what to try instead

 • The conversation that can save you months (or years) of wondering where you stand with someone who won't make a move

 • What to do when you and your partner are both waiting for the other person to take control in bed

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• Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse.

• Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Head to sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply today!

• Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.

• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure

• Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website

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Timestamps:

0:00 - Introduction 

1:56 - The science of sexual attraction 

5:01 - You can want someone without wanting to date them 

6:12 - Surprising facts about who you're attracted to (and why) 

9:19 - "Am I bisexual or do I just think women are hot?" 

10:50 - The one-arm hug situation 

15:25 - When your partner's meds killed your sex life 

20:40 - 19 years married and ready to give up 

25:31 - How to rekindle the spark after years together

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A Pressure-Free Reframe on Desire, Connection, and Sex

This isn't your typical Valentine's Day episode. I'm skipping the performance pressure and Pinterest-perfect expectations to focus on what actually matters: real connection. Drawing from thousands of your survey responses—and two decades of hearing the same struggles around desire mismatch, stress, and intimacy—I built this Valentine's guide around your actual pain points, not trending hashtags.

From why sensory play beats a five-star reservation to how sleep might be the sexiest gift you can give yourself, I break down the science and stories behind lasting desire.

In this episode, you'll learn:

 • Why prioritizing rest is actually foreplay—and how just one extra hour of sleep can increase desire by 14%

 • How to use your senses (not grand gestures) to create genuine intimacy and take the guesswork out of date night

 • The difference between romance as performance and connection your body actually feels—and why that distinction changes everything

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• Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Reach out to enrollment@sexwithemily.com to learn more! 

• Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.

• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure

• Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website

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Timestamps:

0:00 - Intro

2:03 - Why Connection Beats Romance Every Time

3:28 - Experience Gifts That Actually Build Intimacy

5:17 - Dating Advice: Be the Person You Want to Find

7:28 - Desire Doesn't Magically Appear—It's Created

9:35 - Foreplay Starts Way Before Touch

12:11 - Your Nervous System Is Your Sex Organ

16:41 - Self-Pleasure Is a Relational Skill

20:50 - When Your Libidos Don't Match

26:11 - Building Your Ideal Date Night Using Your Senses

29:52 - Why Sleep Is the Sexiest Gift You Can Give

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Whether you've been with your partner for ten months or ten years, knowing what you actually want in bed is harder than it sounds—especially if you never got the chance to explore. In this episode, Dr. Emily takes listener calls about the real challenges that keep couples stuck: shame around masturbation, mismatched experience levels, and the fear that fading passion means something's broken.

From a wife who's never had a partner ask what she wants to a husband hiding his solo sessions in the basement, Emily breaks down why sexual self-discovery isn't selfish—it's essential. She also tackles what to do when your partner wants to swing but you're not sure, and why taking penetration off the table might be the fastest way to bring the heat back.

In this episode, you'll learn:

 • Why being a skilled lover has nothing to do with how many people you've slept with—and everything to do with curiosity and communication

• How to take the lead in bed without becoming a completely different person (even if you've always been submissive)

• The "hell yes or hell no" rule for navigating swinging, threesomes, and any sexual experience that makes you feel vulnerable

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• Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Reach out to enrollment@sexwithemily.com to learn more! 

• Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.

• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure

• Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website

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Timestamps:

0:00 - Introduction

1:33 - McKenzie: Husband complains about sex life to others

4:36 - Why partner count doesn't determine sexual skill

6:14 - How to discover what you actually want in bed

9:37 - Experience is not a numbers game

10:43 - Dan: Feeling guilty about masturbating while married

13:06 - Why masturbation shame hurts relationships

15:41 - Sarah: Giving her husband a prostate orgasm for his 50th

19:04 - Switching from submissive to dominant in bed

23:02 - Alex: Girlfriend wants to try soft swapping

25:17 - Hannah: Taking sex off the table to reconnect

30:03 - Building intimacy without rushing to penetration

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Solo sex is one of the most powerful tools you have for better partnered sex — and most people are barely scratching the surface. In this throwback episode, Dr. Emily makes the case for why your relationship with yourself might be the most important sexual relationship you'll ever have.

From finding out what actually turns you on to using masturbation as a way to manage stress and boost confidence, Emily covers everything you need to know about flying solo — including how to bring toys into the mix without awkwardness. She also takes listener calls about navigating different libidos in relationships, dealing with performance anxiety, and figuring out how to ask for what you want in bed.

In this episode, you'll learn:

 • Why masturbation is essential for sexual self-awareness — not just a fallback when you're single

 • How to explore fantasies and toys on your own so you can communicate better with partners

 • The connection between solo pleasure, stress relief, and overall sexual confidence

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• Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Reach out to enrollment@sexwithemily.com to learn more! 

• Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.

• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure

• Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website

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Timestamps:

0:00 - Introduction

1:30 - Why Masturbation Matters (Even If You Have a Partner)

3:05 - The G-Spot Myth: Why It's Really a "G-Area"

4:50 - First-Time Masturbation Guide for Women

8:17 - Choosing Your First Vibrator: What to Know

10:54 - Can You "Retrain" Your Body to Orgasm Without a Vibrator?

14:00 - Edging Explained: How to Intensify Your Orgasms

17:38 - Overcoming Shame and Religious Guilt Around Self-Pleasure

24:01 - The We-Vibe Melt: Why It's a Game-Changer

30:40 - Rapid Fire: Mismatched Libidos, BDSM, and Confidence Tips

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When the wedding’s over and real life kicks in, it’s so common for sex to shift — sometimes fast. In this throwback live show, Dr. Emily tackles the myth that marriage equals the end of your sex life, and breaks down how to bring back that “honeymoon energy” without forcing it or turning intimacy into another chore.

Emily shares a simple framework for staying connected long-term (including her idea of “sex vows”), then takes calls from listeners navigating a sudden post-marriage libido drop and the emotional whiplash of being single while everyone around you is getting engaged.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

 • Why desire often drops after commitment — and how to address it before resentment builds

 • Practical ways to revive novelty and reconnect (including “sex vows” you can actually use)

 • How to handle the pressure and loneliness when it feels like everyone else is getting married

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• Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Reach out to enrollment@sexwithemily.com to learn more! 

• Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.

• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure

• Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website

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Timestamps:

0:00 - Introduction

3:26 - Current Trends in Sex and Relationships

5:25 - Essential Conversations Before Marriage

7:40 - Writing Your Sex Vows

9:49 - Planning Your Pleasure: Yes/No/Maybe List

12:39 - Recreating Honeymoon Sex Energy

16:00 - Q&A: When His Sex Drive Plummets After Marriage

22:30 - Q&A: Exploring Bisexuality in a Committed Relationship

25:24 - Q&A: Building a Sex Life You've Never Had

30:56 - Q&A: When Your Partner Doesn't Want Marriage

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You want to talk to your partner about sex. You really do. But every time you try, your throat closes, your chest tightens, and suddenly it feels easier to just… not. You're not bad at communication — your brain is literally wired to treat these conversations like threats. In this live show, I break down exactly why sex talks trigger fight-or-flight, how shame keeps us mute in the bedroom, and what to do when you've been together for years and never actually talked about what you want.

This episode was recorded LIVE across my social platforms at @sexwithemily — part of a new evolution of the show as we head into my 21st year of the podcast. After over two decades of talking about sex, I've learned that real, unscripted conversations create the deepest breakthroughs.

You'll hear real questions, real interaction, and the energy of being LIVE together as we explore how to build a sex life that actually feels good, without shame or judgment. Tune in most Tuesdays and Thursdays at 5 PM PST on Instagram, TikTok, YouTube, Facebook, and Twitch all @sexwithemily.

In this episode, you'll learn: 

• Why your brain treats sex conversations like danger (and how to override it)

• How to find your sexual voice and stop cringing when you try to speak up

• A husband's honest question about rekindling intimacy after kids

You can now watch the full video podcast on YouTube!

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• Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Reach out to enrollment@sexwithemily.com to learn more! 

• Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.

• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure

• Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website

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Timestamps:

00:00 - Intro

06:45 - The Clitoris Has 12,000 Nerve Endings (Full Anatomy Explained)

13:20 - How to Talk Dirty Without Feeling Cringey

18:15 - Mutual Masturbation: Why It's a Top Sex Tip

22:40 - Squirting: The Truth vs The Pressure

28:10 - Breaking Down Shame & Performance Anxiety

35:50 - Sex After Kids: Rekindling Intimacy (Live Caller Question)

38:25 - Medications Killing Your Libido (What to Do About It)

40:15 - Finding the Right Sex Therapist (Somatic vs Talk Therapy)

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You're in love. You're committed. So why does sex feel like it dropped off the priority list somewhere between laundry and meal prep? You're not broken — you're just busy, stressed, and maybe a little stuck in your head. In this live show, Dr. Emily answers your unfiltered questions about what happens when desire fades, how to talk to a partner who clams up about what they want, and why the "how often should we be having sex?" question is missing the point entirely.

This episode was recorded live across my social platforms at @sexwithemily — part of a new evolution of the show as we head into my 21st year of the podcast. After over two decades of talking about sex, I've learned that real, unscripted conversations create the deepest breakthroughs. You'll hear real questions, real interaction, and the energy of being live together as we explore how to build a sex life that actually feels good — without shame or judgment. Tune in most Tuesdays and Thursdays at 5 PM PST on Instagram, TikTok, YouTube, Facebook, and Twitch all @sexwithemily.

You can now watch the full video podcast on YouTube!

In this episode, you'll learn: 

• Why "how often should we have sex?" is the wrong question — and what to ask instead 

• The three pleasure thieves silently wrecking your libido 

• How to help a shy partner open up about their desires (without making it awkward)

More Dr. Emily: 

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• Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Reach out to enrollment@sexwithemily.com to learn more! 

• Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.

• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure

• Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website

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Timestamps:

0:00 - Introduction

3:04 - How often should couples have sex?

5:57 - Getting your partner to communicate about sex

8:39 - Do most couples talk about sex?

10:57 - Why your sex life shouldn't stay the same for decades

15:34 - Navigating intimacy with chronic illness

18:44 - Myth: Good sex should be spontaneous

21:06 - Myth: Orgasms are the ultimate goal

23:16 - Sex during pregnancy when your partner pulls back

26:57 - Dealing with early ejaculation

30:28 - Helping a stressed partner get in the mood

33:56 - Top sex toy recommendations

34:28 - Myth: Lube is only for older women

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Let's be honest — for all the progress we've made, most of us still don't know how to talk about sex. We can talk about work, money, kids, literally everything else. But ask your partner what actually turns them on? Cue panic.

In this live show, Dr. Emily opens up the gates for your questions and wow, you did not hold back. She tackles why sex stops feeling fun and starts feeling like a chore, what's really going on when desire disappears, and how to flip the script from obligation back to connection.

This episode was recorded live across my social platforms at @sexwithemily — a new evolution of the show as we head into my 21st year of the podcast.

After over two decades of talking about sex, I’ve learned that real, unscripted conversations create the deepest breakthroughs. You’ll hear real questions, real interaction, and the energy of being live together as we explore how to build a sex life that actually feels good — without shame or judgment. Don't forget to tune in on most Tuesdays and Thursdays at 5 PM PST on Instagram, Tiktok, YouTube, Facebook, and Twitch all @sexwithemily. 

In this episode, you'll learn:

• Why sex becomes "just another item on the to-do list" and what that really means 

• The difference between duty and desire — and why confusing them breeds resentment 

• How to rebrand sex as connection instead of obligation

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• Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.

• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure

• Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website

• Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube

• Let’s text: Sign up here

• Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

This episode is sponsored by… 

Bellesa 

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Timestamps:

0:00 - Introduction

2:36 - "Pick Up Laundry, Do Dishes, Have Sex... Check"

6:07 - When You're Not in the Mood to Give

12:25 - How to Ask Someone Out (Live Caller)

14:26 - Can You Make Her Squirt? Techniques That Actually Work

22:22 - How to Get Your Partner to Want Intimacy Again

30:53 - Finding a Third: Dos and Don'ts for Couples

36:08 - The Power of Edging

40:38 - "Desire Needs Space, Not Stress"

47:29 - How to Make Sex Feel Like Connection Again

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Dolly Josette is a somatic sexologist and intimacy coach known as "The Pleasure Muse" who helps people reconnect with their bodies to unlock deeper pleasure. In this episode, Dolly returns to the show to explore why so many of us feel disconnected from our own sensations, where trauma actually lives in the body, and how a few minutes of daily practice can transform your relationship with pleasure. She and Dr. Emily get into embodiment work, why your genitals might be holding onto more than you realize, and what it really means to stop abandoning yourself for others.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• What somatic sexology actually is and how it differs from talk therapy

• Why your body stores emotions and trauma in your fascia and genitals

• The simple exercise that can help you release blocks you didn't know you had

• Why you can't figure out what you want sexually until your body feels safe

• How to do a "vulva hug" and why your genitals might be craving your attention

• The real reason pleasure fades after the honeymoon phase

• Why embodiment isn't another thing on your to-do list — it's how you live

• How long it actually takes to build an embodiment practice that sticks

• The one song a day practice that can pull you back into your body

• What your body is trying to tell you when you feel frozen or shut down

• How to access your partner's prostate for maximum pleasure

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• Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.

• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure

• Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website

• Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube

• Let’s text: Sign up here

• Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

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Bellesa 

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Timestamps:

0:00 - Introduction

2:12 - What is Somatic Sexology and Body Work?

5:02 - Why You Can't Feel Pleasure Until Your Body Feels Safe

9:03 - How Trauma Gets Stored in Your Genitals

14:54 - The Power of Slowing Down During Intimate Touch

20:51 - Hungry Hungry Vagina: HRT and Hormonal Changes

27:02 - Finding Your Pleasure Spot at the Vaginal Entrance

29:36 - How to Stimulate the Prostate for Maximum Pleasure

36:40 - Why You Need More Non-Sexual Touch in Your Life

41:03 - Your Body is Craving Your Attention

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Mark Groves is a human connection specialist who transformed his own painful relationship patterns into wisdom he now shares with millions. In this episode, Mark opens up about the Thanksgiving dinner betrayal that shut him down at 19, the years he spent as an emotionally unavailable guy, and the breakthrough that finally let him receive love. In this episode we dig into codependency, why chemistry fades, and what it actually takes to build a relationship where you can be fully yourself.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• Why a failed one-night stand taught Mark more about himself than years of relationships

• The real definition of codependency and why it's not just about addiction

• How to identify your "Thanksgiving dinner moment" that shaped how you love

• Why the space between partners disappears and chemistry dies in long-term relationships

• The question that reveals if you're being codependent in the bedroom

• What "liberated love" looks like and why truth-telling is the foundation

• How Mark and his wife broke up, had a closing ceremony, and came back stronger

• Why your capacity to love equals your capacity to lose

• The three things you can do now to get on the path toward the love you want

• How parenthood changes intimacy and why the six-week clearance is misleading

• What to do when you can't stop fantasizing about past flings while in a relationship

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• Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.

• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure

• Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website

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Timestamps:

0:00 - Introduction

3:13 - How Mark Started Sharing Vulnerable Relationship Advice 

8:31 - The Thanksgiving Dinner That Changed Everything 

16:00 - Finding Your "Moment" That Shapes How You Love 

20:13 - What Is Codependency Really? 

30:04 - Signs You're in a Codependent Pattern 

33:51 - Why Couples Stop Having Sex (It's Not What You Think) 

39:17 - How Parenthood Changes Your Sex Life 

51:01 - Use Your Relationship to Become Everything 

54:53 - Listener Question: Can't Stop Thinking About Past Flings 

1:02:55 - Quickie Q&A

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EPISODE SUMMARY

Dr. Emily visits the office of urogynecologist Dr. Patricia Wallace to explore the hidden world of pelvic health—and why it matters so much for sexual pleasure. From the muscles that control your orgasms to the hormones that fuel desire, Dr. Wallace breaks down what's actually happening in your body and what you can do about it at every age.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• What your pelvic floor actually is and why 80% of women can't properly contract it

• The connection between pelvic floor strength and orgasm intensity

• How to do a kegel correctly using yogic breathing techniques

• Why recurrent UTIs happen and the supplement hack that prevents them

• The truth about hormone therapy and why that 20-year-old study shouldn't scare you

• What "optimal" hormone levels mean versus just "normal" lab ranges

• How testosterone affects women's sex drive—and when supplementation helps

• The real timeline for postpartum sexual recovery (hint: it's not 6 weeks)

• Why the Emsella chair delivers 12,000 pelvic floor contractions in one session

• How core strength affects everything from incontinence to back pain to sexual confidence

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• Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.

• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure

• Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website

• Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube

• Let’s text: Sign up here

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Timestamps:

0:00 - Intro

1:53 - What Is Your Pelvic Floor & Why Should You Care

4:41 - The UTI Hack Most Women Don't Know About

6:52 - First Steps When You Suspect Perimenopause

9:01 - The 80% Orgasm Problem (And How to Fix It)

10:20 - How to Do a Kegel Correctly (Live Tutorial)

14:04 - What the Emsella Chair Actually Does to Your Body

17:06 - How Hormone Replacement Changes Sexual Function

20:05 - Pregnant Sex & Postpartum Recovery Truth

24:00 - Protecting Your Pelvic Floor Before Problems Start

29:01 - Why Core Strength Makes You Sexy From the Inside Out

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Dr. Emily sits down with relationship expert Matthew Hussey to decode modern dating, from confusing chemistry with compatibility to knowing when someone's actually emotionally available. Matthew breaks down why we keep choosing the wrong people, how to set boundaries without sabotaging connection, and the texting behaviors that reveal true interest levels.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• The difference between chemistry and compatibility—and why excitement often masks anxiety

• How to identify emotional availability in the first few dates

• Why having standards matters more than having a "type"

• The art of expressing needs without coming across as needy

• Red flags in texting culture and what silence really means

• How to break patterns of settling and choose better partners

• Why vulnerability creates attraction (and how to practice it)

• When to walk away from situationships that aren't serving you

• How self-worth directly impacts who you attract and keep

• Strategies for building sexual tension while deepening emotional intimacy

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• Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.

• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure

• Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website

• Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube

• Let’s text: Sign up here

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This episode is sponsored by…

Qualia: 

Magnesium, multiplied. 10 forms for total support. Go to qualialife.com/SEXWITHEMILY to get 50% off and save an extra 15% with the code SEXWITHEMILY. 

Timestamps:

0:00 - Intro: The Dolphin Metaphor - Understanding Our Conditioning

1:36 - Meet Matthew Hussey: Dating Expert & Confidence Coach

6:48 - Matthew's Journey with Chronic Pain & The Concept of "Happy Enough"

13:18 - Matthew's Evolution & The Pain of Helping Others

18:26 - Lighting the Fuse: Detonating Your Own Life Before It Implodes

25:17 - Anxiety in Relationships & The Wall We Keep Crashing Into

32:45 - The Dolphin Tank: How Our Past Shapes Our Reality

37:41 - Core Confidence: You Don't Need to Be Special to Love Yourself

42:15 - Giving Yourself Closure & Modeling Healthy Standards

48:26 - Five Quickie Questions & Outro

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EPISODE SUMMARY

Dr. Emily shares three listener success stories that prove honest communication transforms sex lives. Graham's pegging journey opened up conversations he and his wife never had before. Calvin and his wife of 20+ years had their first spontaneous threesome after a night of dancing. And Jasmine finally experienced her first penetrative orgasm after years of frustration—by standing up for her needs and incorporating breathing techniques.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• Why scheduling difficult sexual conversations (outside the bedroom) leads to breakthrough moments

• How embodiment during sex—staying present with both sensations AND emotions—deepens connection

• The grinding technique that helps many vulva owners orgasm during penetration

• Why breathing and edging practices intensify orgasms

• How to guide your mind back when it wanders during sex

If you have a sexy story to share, send it to feedback@sexwithemily.com with "sexy story" in the subject line.

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• Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.

• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure

• Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website

• Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube

• Let’s text: Sign up here

• Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

This episode is sponsored by… 

Bellesa 

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Timestamps:

0:00 - Intro

1:36 - Graham's Pegging Success: How Communication Transformed Their Marriage

4:18 - Why Pegging Is Vulnerable for Men & Breaking Masculine Taboos

7:38 - Calvin's First Threesome: From Dance Floor to Bedroom

11:48 - The Importance of Being Embodied During Sex

13:44 - Jasmine's Journey: Overcoming Abuse to Achieve Her First Penetrative Orgasm

17:04 - Standing Up for Your Sexual Needs in Relationships

20:00 - The Grinding Technique & Clitoral Stimulation During Penetration

21:44 - Using Breath & Fantasy to Stay Present During Sex

23:37 - Wrap-Up & How to Share Your Story

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In this episode, Emily sits down with volleyball legend Gabby Reece—professional athlete, podcast host of The Gabby Reece Show, entrepreneur—to talk about the unsexy truths that actually keep long-term relationships alive. Gabby pulls no punches as she reveals her controversial "48-hour sex rule," and how treating sex like going to the gym (just get your shoes on and show up) has sustained their passion for decades.

This conversation dismantles the romanticized version of marriage and replaces it with raw honesty about vulnerability, stoicism almost ending her relationship, and why "misogynists are bitches" but real masculinity is powerful, protective, and tender. Gabby shares her four rules for keeping an alpha male happy (hint: food and sex made the list), the farmer versus flower dynamic that prevents resentment, and why her self-care hierarchy puts herself first, her relationship second, and her kids third—unapologetically.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• The 48-hour sex rule works—scheduling sex isn't sexy, but it's sexier than one partner begging and the other constantly rejecting; Gabby and Laird have sex every other day, and she admits she strategically loads her calendar the day after because she "doesn't have to answer to anyone"

• Clear the decks daily to avoid divorce—Laird confronts everything immediately (every look, tone, word) so resentments never build; Gabby credits this practice with saving their marriage after years of her being too stoic nearly ended it

• Understanding the farmer vs. flower dynamic—sometimes one partner is in the spotlight (the flower) while the other supports (the farmer), and the roles switch; when one person is always the farmer, resentment builds and relationships suffer

• Real masculinity isn't misogyny—true masculine strength includes compassion, protection, and tenderness; we've trained men to feel bad about their masculinity, and bringing kindness (not anger) while setting boundaries helps everyone thrive

• You have the goods—ask for what you want—Gabby's advice to young women about sex is radical: stop performing, start demanding your pleasure, and remember that good sex is about mutual understanding, not just one person's orgasm

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• Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.

• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure

• Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website

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Timestamps:

0:00 - Intro

1:21 - The Challenge of Bringing More Play Into Life

7:06 - 28 Years Together: Gabby's 3 Keys to a Strong Marriage

9:03 - Clear the Decks: Daily Communication That Saves Relationships

14:19 - Farmer vs Flower: Understanding Relationship Roles

22:48 - Why Self-Care Isn't Selfish (Especially for Moms)

28:34 - Lifting Weights: The Real Anti-Aging Secret for Women

29:04 - The 4 Rules for Keeping Your Partner Happy

39:18 - The 48-Hour Rule

42:26 - When You're Doing It for Them (And Why That's OK)

50:01 - Biggest Turn-Ons, Turn-Offs & Sex Advice for Young Women

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EPISODE SUMMARY

In this episode, Emily sits down with Todd Baratz—sex therapist and author of How to Love Someone Without Losing Your Mind—to challenge everything you think you know about relationships. Todd dismantles the fairy tale myth of "the one" and reveals why our obsession with diagnosing every difficult person as a narcissist is keeping us stuck. From exploring how oral sex can make or break your relationship to understanding why some people view emotional depth as "too much," this conversation reframes love as messy, complicated, and beautifully imperfect. T

In this episode, you'll learn:

• Your relationship "shoulds" are sabotaging you—every rule you've internalized about what partners should text, do, or provide creates unnecessary conflict and anxiety; letting go of these expectations (especially "the one" who fulfills all your needs) is the first step to realistic, sustainable love

• Not everyone is a narcissist—our tendency to diagnose and label ourselves and others amplifies anxiety rather than solving problems; sometimes people are just incompatible, not disordered, and that's okay

• You're not "too much," you just need the right match—if someone views your emotional depth and authenticity as intensity, it's because they lack the capacity to handle genuine connection; finding someone who can meet you where you need to be met is about compatibility, not fixing yourself

• Sex is really about connection—when you're craving sex, you're often actually craving intimacy, vulnerability, touch, and being truly seen; understanding this deeper need helps address desire discrepancies and creates more fulfilling sexual experiences

• Dating people who can't connect emotionally—approach them with compassion and curiosity, try to create space for vulnerability, but if they can't or won't open up, accept that they might not be your person and walk away without trying to force everyone to do the work you're doing

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Timestamps:

0:00 - Introduction

2:03 - Letting Go of "The One" & Outdated Relationship Rules

5:22 - How We "Should" All Over Our Relationships

7:26 - Understanding Your Intergenerational Trauma Story

10:23 - Growth Happens in Relationships, Not Just Self-Love

13:12 - Why We Keep Dating the Same Type of Person

17:16 - How to Connect With Men Who Struggle to Connect

22:38 - Listener Questions: Situationships & Communication

5:01 - Oral Sex Should Be Reciprocated (Period)

29:04 - The Truth About Mismatched Desire in Long-Term Relationships

32:46 - Five Quickie Questions with Todd Barrets

34:04 - Turnons: Emily & Erica Discuss Childhood Patterns

47:02 - The Connection Between Mental Health and Sex

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In this episode, Emily sits down with Amy Chan—founder of Renew Breakup Bootcamp and author of Breakup Bootcamp: The Science of Rewiring Your Heart—to explore why we keep choosing the wrong partners and how to break the cycle. Amy shares her revolutionary 12-person dating experiment that forces clients to date outside their type, revealing how our "type" isn't about physical traits but the emotional patterns we unconsciously repeat. From spotting unavailable partners to understanding the difference between passionate love and companionate love, this conversation reframes dating as a discovery process rather than a high-stakes audition. Amy breaks down why great daters often struggle in relationships, how to recognize your recurring emotional patterns, and why your best friend you want to make out with might be the person you've been overlooking all along.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• Your "type" is an emotional pattern, not a physical one—by identifying the five main emotions from your last three relationships, you can spot the cycle you keep repeating (like anxiety from chasing unavailable partners) and consciously choose different experiences

• The dating experiment that rewires your brain—dating 12 people outside your type without getting into a relationship removes the pressure of finding "the one" and trains you to be present, recognize how you actually feel with someone, and notice who genuinely treats you well

• Why passionate love fades and what replaces it—the neurochemical high of early romance naturally transitions to companionate love, and understanding this shift helps you stop mistaking familiarity for incompatibility and start building the deeper intimacy that sustains long-term relationships

• The dating funnel approach—treating early dates like lead generation (just asking "Am I having fun? Do I want to see them again?") instead of evaluating someone as your future life partner eliminates job-interview energy and lets authentic connection emerge naturally

• Stop performing, start choosing—moving from "waiting to be chosen" to actively selecting partners based on how they make you feel (not just how they look on paper) puts you in control of your romantic life and attracts people who appreciate your authentic self

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Emily breaks down her 2025 Holiday Gift Guide through the lens of the five pillars of sexual intelligence—embodiment, health, self-knowledge, self-acceptance, and collaboration.

She explores how shifting from performance to presence can transform your relationship with pleasure, offering curated tools and practices that help you slow down, feel your body, and understand yourself as a sexual being.

This episode is for anyone ready to move beyond quick fixes and embrace a more holistic approach to sexuality, turning intimacy into something that nourishes your whole system.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• The five pillars of Sex IQ create a holistic framework for understanding your sexuality and taking responsibility for your pleasure—moving you from performance to presence

• Embodiment practices like breathwork and sonic wave toys help you overcome the mind-body disconnect during sex by bringing you back to physical sensations instead of staying in your head worrying about how you look or what you need to do

• Self-acceptance isn't about waiting for your body to change—it's about recognizing and reframing the pleasure thieves (stress, trauma, and shame) that tell you you're unworthy, and actively replacing negative thought patterns with affirmations that honor your body right now

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Timestamps 0:00 - Introduction

1:25 - The 5 Pillars of Sex IQ Framework

2:36 - Pillar 1: Embodiment

10:23 - Pillar 2: Health

17:52 - Pillar 3: Collaboration

24:44 - Pillar 4: Self-Knowledge

29:39 - Pillar 5: Self-Acceptance

34:21 - Wrap-Up

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In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily sits down with Chelsey Goodan—the teenage girl whisperer whose new book "Underestimated" is revealing what happens when we actually start listening to the demographic we've been underestimating for generations.

The surprisingly simple question that gets teenage girls to open up after years of shutting everyone out—and why the adults in their lives have been approaching these conversations completely backwards (hint: it's the same reason your last "how was school today?" got a one-word answer).

Why teenage girls can spot your hidden agenda from a mile away, and the radical honesty approach that creates trust faster than any parenting book you've read—even when you think you're being subtle with your "protective" white lies.

The age that girls start dieting that will make you rethink every compliment you've ever given a child—and the unconscious behavior women are modeling that's sabotaging the next generation's relationship with their bodies before they even hit puberty.

That thing you keep saying is "fine" when it's absolutely not fine, and how the people-pleasing patterns you picked up as a teenage girl are still running your sex life, your relationships, and every dinner party you've ever thrown.

The connection between your relationship to sex and your actual power that nobody talks about—and why embracing your "weird" might be the permission slip you need to stop performing and start feeling.

Plus: why giving girls agency doesn't mean abandoning your role as a parent, and the one body-related comment you should never make to a teenage girl, even when you think you're being helpful.

Timestamps:

0:00 - Intro

2:24 - The Power of Radical Honesty in Building Trust

7:00 - Why Perfectionism and People-Pleasing Start in Teenage Years

11:44 - Sexuality, Consent, and the Double Standards Girls Face

18:14 - Slut-Shaming: How It Wounds Girls and What We Can Do

21:04 - Teaching Girls Their Anatomy: Why "Vulva" Matters

24:20 - Breaking the Cycle of Shame Around Sex

29:04 - Gen Z Friendships: Girls Supporting Girls Instead of Competing

32:35 - Healing Your Inner Teenage Girl as an Adult

38:43 - The Performance Trap: Why Girls Can't Get Out of Their Heads During Sex

43:09 - Overcoming Sexual Anxiety: Practical Advice for Women

46:24 - Body Image Wounds: How Moms' Self-Criticism Impacts Daughters

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Episode Description

Jordana Abraham and Jared Freed from the U Up? podcast join Dr. Emily for a lively conversation about navigating modern dating without losing your mind. They kick things off with dating horror stories—including Jared's epic backwards fall off a patio chair that took out a sandwich board and a heat lamp.

The conversation dives into why so many dates feel like obligations instead of opportunities. Jared and Jordana explain the "sure, I'll go" trap—how settling for matches that are just "fine" leads to boring dates and dating burnout. They emphasize trusting your gut and only going on dates when you're genuinely excited, not just because you feel like you should.

They tackle dating app fatigue, discussing why some people thrive on apps while others find them soul-crushing. The key insight: it's about how you use them. Treating apps like a binge-worthy Netflix show instead of something you check in on intentionally (like one hour a week) kills the fun and makes everything feel transactional.

The episode includes a listener question about a toxic long-distance relationship where a 22-year-old woman keeps breaking up and getting back together with an insecure boyfriend who constantly asks "are you still into me?" Jared and Jordana break down why this is a mismatch built on drama rather than trust, why her friends are right to be concerned, and how to choose which friends to actually listen to when it comes to relationship advice.

They wrap with quickfire questions about turn-ons, turn-offs, what makes good sex, and the number one thing everyone should know: just because the sex is good doesn't mean the relationship is good.

Timestamps:

0:00 - Intro

4:32 - Why "Sure, I'll Go" is Ruining Your Dating Life

10:09 - Dating App Profile Tips That Actually Work

12:43 - The Truth About Casual Sex on Dating Apps

18:13 - Are You Too Picky or Protecting Your Peace?

20:15 - The Ick Factor: When Small Things End Relationships

24:24 - Friend Zone Reality Check: When They're Not Into You

30:20 - Age Gap Sex Anxiety: Why He's Holding Back

33:24 - Toxic Long-Distance Relationship Red Flags

37:40 - Five Quickies: Turn-Ons, Turn-Offs & Sex Advice

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In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily sits down with Liz Moody—bestselling author, podcast host, and the woman who turned her life around from severe agoraphobia to help others level up their lives with science-backed strategies.

The morbid exercise that Liz swears by for making better decisions in bed and everywhere else—and why thinking about your 85-year-old self might be the permission slip you need to stop worrying about how your thighs look in those pants.

Why "friends with benefits" might mean something completely different to you than it does to your partner—and the crucial conversation most couples skip before slapping labels on their relationship (spoiler: this applies to marriage too).

The biggest myth about what makes someone "good" in bed, and why Liz believes your sex life can transform no matter where you're starting from.

That one body part you've never considered an erogenous zone—until Liz reveals hers and suddenly you're rethinking everything you thought you knew about turn-ons.

The real reason habits fail (hint: it's not about willpower)—and why letting go of routines that once served you doesn't make you a failure, it makes you self-aware.

Plus: the conversation starter deck that's saving marriages by getting couples on the same page about money, desire, childhood trauma, and the question "how much do you need to feel safe?" that revealed way more than Liz expected.

Timestamps:

0:00 - Introduction

2:00 - The 100 Ways Framework: Spring Cleaning Your Life

5:00 - Think About Your Death: The Power of Zoom-Out Perspective

8:07 - Micro Workouts: Movement for Mental Health, Not Body Size

9:55 - Rewire Your Brain for Happiness: The 5-Second Joy Practice

16:00 - Be the CEO of Your Household: Weekly Relationship Meetings

18:30 - Sex Starts When You Wake Up: Micro Intimacy Throughout the Day

21:47 - Why Communication Makes Sex Better After 15 Years

28:12 - Let Your Partner Surprise You: Breaking Free from Old Resentments

30:00 - Your Personal Bill of Rights (Including Sexual Rights)

32:05 - The Orgasm Gap: Why 20 Minutes is Normal

36:24 - Body Confidence: Your Body is for Living, Not Looking

42:01 - Boundaries as Energy Protection (Not Just Saying "No")

49:51 - Friends with Benefits to Dating: Defining Your Relationship

56:28 - Lightning Round: Biggest Turn-Ons & Sex Advice

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In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily and producer Erica tackle your trickiest relationship and sex questions—and some of these situations are messier than you think.

The wife having sex 5+ times a week who's being pressured to set midnight alarms so her husband can wake her up for more—why this isn't about frequency at all, and the real need he's actually trying to fill.

That guy who insists oral sex should only happen "on special occasions" because it gets "taken for granted": what this scarcity mindset reveals about his past relationships, his skill anxiety, or his actual preference—and whether this is a dealbreaker you're discovering early.

The biological reason men wake up ready for sex in the middle of the night while their partners are deep asleep—and why disrupting your sleep hygiene to feel "desired" is a Band-Aid on a much deeper issue.

When your partner believes doing something too often creates expectations they can't meet: the philosophy problem that shows up in bed and everywhere else, and what "taken for granted" really means about their view on compliments, effort, and intimacy.

Why oral sex as foreplay is the norm, not the exception—and how to navigate a partner who sees it as the main event that loses its magic with repetition.

Plus: the conversation framework for exploring where your partner's sexual beliefs actually come from, and why the first few months of dating are just data collection on whether you're actually compatible.

Timestamps:

0:00 - Introduction

1:01 - Question 1: Rejecting Partner's Advances in the Middle of the Night

6:42 - Understanding Nocturnal Erections and Gender Differences in Arousal

10:10 - Question 2: Feeling Done with a Sexless Marriage After 7 Years

16:20 - Question 3: Getting Upset When Partner Doesn't Want Sex (Mismatched Libidos)

21:28 - Question 4: Dealing with Low Libido and Performance Anxiety at 42

25:10 - Question 5: Wanting Oral Sex Every Time, Not Just Special Occasions

32:52 - Closing Thoughts and How to Connect with Dr. Emily

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In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily breaks down what's really happening in your body during orgasm—and why you might not even know if you've had one.

The physical signs that prove you're orgasming—even when there's no "explosive release" moment, and why your experience might look nothing like what you've been told to expect.

That partner who goes full jackhammer the entire time: the exact conversation framework to redirect them without crushing their ego—and why most people need those fast strokes eventually, just not the whole damn time.

A listener whose new partner believes orgasms damage your mental health and relationships—what this anti-climax philosophy gets right about connection, and what the science actually says about orgasms strengthening your bond.

The guilt trap of needing fantasy to finish during oral: why your imagination became your default pathway to orgasm, and the five-senses technique that retrains your brain to stay present with your partner instead.

How to find your G-area (because it's not a "spot"): the exact finger motion, positions, and toy shapes that actually work—and why this spongy tissue is just your internal clitoris showing up to the party.

Plus: what squirting really is, why dry orgasms happen, and the neural pathway secret that means you can learn to orgasm in completely different ways than you do now.

Timestamps:

0:00 - Introduction

2:25 - The Science of Orgasm: What Actually Happens in Your Body

4:28 - The Four Stages of Orgasm Explained

6:39 - Clitoral Orgasms: Understanding Your 12,000 Nerve Endings

10:33 - G-Area Orgasms: Finding Your Internal Pleasure Zone (Plus Mirror Technique)

14:26 - Squirting & Female Ejaculation: Separating Facts from Fiction

17:46 - Dry Orgasms & Semen Retention for Penis Owners

19:43 - Hands-Free Orgasms: Tantric Breathing & Orgasmic Meditation

22:42 - The Jackhammer Problem: Why Fast Penetration Doesn't Work for Most Vulva Owners

29:35 - Fantasy vs. Presence: How to Stay in the Moment During Sex

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In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily takes live listener calls and answers the questions you're dying to ask but won't.

A caller discovers she can only finish one very specific way—what's really happening in your pelvis when your legs are straight, and why changing this pattern might unlock entirely new pleasure.

The masturbation habit that's secretly limiting your orgasms—and the exploration technique that expands your body's repertoire without any pressure to "fix" yourself.

Why one couple finds anal more pleasurable than vaginal sex, what this reveals about nerve endings you didn't know you had, and the specialist who can actually help if penetration hurts.

Plus, what happens when you stop chasing what you think should feel good and start discovering what actually does.

Timestamps:

0:00 - Intro

1:57 - Orgasming with Straight Legs: Finding Positions That Work for Your Body

7:42 - Why Having One Way to Orgasm Is Completely Normal

8:38 - Dating After Loss: Navigating Chastity Play & Delayed Ejaculation

16:21 - Male Chastity Explained: Pleasure Beyond the Dominant Role

17:43 - Erotic Lactation: A Surprisingly Common Intimacy Practice

24:15 - When Anal Sex Feels Better Than Vaginal: Understanding Different Pleasure Pathways

27:40 - The Clitoris Extends Internally: Why Anal Orgasms Are Possible

29:37 - Dealing with Vaginal Pain: You Don't Have to Live with Discomfort

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https://www.jejoue.com/products/hera-flex-rabbit-vibrator?utm_source=SWE-HeraFLEXPODCAST&utm_medium=SWE-HeraFLEXPODCAST In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily sits down with developmental psychologist Dr. Aliza Pressman—and discovers why her parenting book kept her up at night, even though she's not a parent. Why an entire generation is having less sex: the isolation epidemic where teens sit next to each other scrolling instead of connecting—and why even being in the same room doesn't mean being together anymore.

The porn conversation most parents get wrong: instead of saying "this isn't good for you" (which teens reject), try "watching this is a vote for exploitation"—because teenagers care more about justice than their own wellbeing. The five principles that work for every parenting crisis—from catching your kid watching porn to finding your vibrator: relationship, reflection, regulation, rules, and repair. Why your reaction when your nine-year-old feels aroused by porn determines whether they carry shame for years—and the exact words to say instead. The pronoun and gender panic parents are feeling: why we don't have the data yet, the pendulum always swings back, and why being curious beats being certain.

The magic wand incident: what to text your mortified teenager after she's caught with your vibrator—and why "I'm here with any questions" is enough. The truth about love that Dr. Pressman wishes she'd known younger: love is not anxiety. Timestamps:

0:00 - Intro

2:10 - The Five R's Framework for Difficult Conversations

4:58 - How Phones Are Destroying Teen Connection & Intimacy

7:08 - Talking to Kids About Porn: The Social Justice Approach

10:12 - What to Do When Your Kid Watches Porn (Real Parent Story)

14:34 - The Power of Repair in All Relationships

20:30 - Navigating Gender, Pronouns & Sexual Identity with Kids

28:26 - Why We Need to Stop Gendering Empathy

34:00 - Raising Sexually Healthy Humans Without Being Weird

38:30 - My Teenager Found My Vibrator: What Now?

39:46 - Five Quickfire Questions on Sex & Relationships

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In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily brings on sex educator Dr. Emily Nagoski for a live conversation—and they get brutally honest about their own sex lives falling apart.

Why even bestselling sex experts lose their desire—and how Dr. Emily's nervous system was so shot she didn't even want orgasms.

The myth that kept her terrified to stop sex once it started: believing "blue balls" required hospitalization—and the truth that you can stop and start anytime.

A parent worried their college-age kids aren't having sex or relationships—the questions to ask instead of pushing sex on them, and why nobody dies from not having sex but people do die from loneliness.

The most important thing parents can do around sexuality: unlearn your own shame first—because your embarrassment when they ask questions teaches them more than any words ever could.

The reframe for anyone struggling with desire: what you actually want when you want sex (it's not orgasm—you can do that alone), and what you don't want when you don't want sex.

Timestamps:

0:00 – Introduction

1:26 – Sex Experts Lose Desire Too

7:24 – The Pleasure Thieves

17:53 – Why It's Okay to Stop During Sex

20:20 – Cold Feet and Orgasms

25:50 – The Role of Shame

30:17 – Navigating Social Media Censorship

35:41 – Teaching Kids About Sex

38:47 – The Patriarchy Problem

39:49 – Closing

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In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily sits down with celebrity dating coach Damona Hoffman to dismantle the fairy tales keeping you stuck in your dating life.

Why your mile-long partner checklist (six feet tall, specific job, perfect abs) is sabotaging your search for real compatibility—and the question you should ask instead: "How do I want to feel?"

The difference between dating for superficial traits versus shared life goals—why wanting a yoga partner matters way less than wanting the freedom to pursue your own interests in a relationship.

A caller who's getting ghosted on dating apps wonders if women have too many options—the real reason your profile isn't working, and it has nothing to do with competition.

The "three C's" that'll transform your dating profile overnight: strategic color to stand out, context that tells your story, and character that shows who you really are (no sunglasses photos—we need to see your eyes).

Why "chemistry at first sight" is actually lust, and you can't know if you love someone the minute you look into their eyes—the three-date rule that gives real connection time to build.

The reframe that takes the pressure off: stop trying to be liked and start being upfront about what you want—it'll filter out the wrong people and attract your actual match.

Timestamps:

0:00 – Introduction 1:21 – F The Fairytale 13:00 – The Dating Tracker Strategy That Changes Everything 22:48 – Values Over Political Labels in Dating 25:48 – The Chemistry Myth 34:15 – How to Know If You're Coming On Too Strong 45:07 – Dating Profile Photos: The Three C's 47:35 – Five Quickie Questions 49:17 – Closing and Where to Find Damona

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Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily brings back holistic psychologist Dr. Scott Lyons for live caller coaching sessions that'll change how you think about sex and dating. A woman married 10 years whose husband won't explore sexually at all—why "I want to try new things" might sound like "what we're doing isn't good enough" to a partner raised in a conservative home. What "deepthroating" really represents when your partner grew up being told sex was wrong—and the outside-the-bedroom conversation they need to have before anything changes in bed. A woman terrified about her first date after a breakup because she thinks the sex will be "unwilling"—the breathwork practice that gets you out of your anxious mind and into your confident body. Why a first date is just a "warm-up" to see if you're having fun, not an audition for marriage—and how to tell if someone's worth seeing naked just by watching how they treat wait staff. The reframe that takes all the pressure off dating: ditch the checklist, get present in your body, and remember you're the gatekeeper with all the power. Timestamps:

0:00 - Intro

2:11 - Growing Up Conservative: How Family Beliefs Kill Your Sex Life

6:39 - The Compliment Sandwich: How to Ask for What You Want

9:46 - Antidepressants Killed Our Sex Life: Now What?

12:44 - Medical Issues vs. Sexual Needs: Finding Balance

16:03 - The Power of Hope: Changing Your Sexual Dynamic Instantly

19:03 - Beyond Penetration: Alternative Ways to Stay Connected

24:57 - Dating After Great Sex: Overcoming Fear of Bad Partners

29:44 - First Date Anxiety: Embodiment Practice Before Going Out

34:47 - Stop Performing on Dates: Be Your Authentic Self Instead

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Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily and producer Erica dive into your questions about sex and relationships. A woman who's been living with her partner for over a year and can't stand his unsexy pecks on the lips anymore—why moving in together kills sexual tension and the surprising move she needs to make instead of waiting for him to change. The listener who ended a relationship because their partner refused to give oral sex—why sexual dealbreakers are valid and the one question Dr. Emily wishes she'd asked before walking away. A man in England with a specific fetish whose girlfriend gets "nasty and defensive" every time he tries to talk about sex—the cultural shame around sex talk that's blocking exploration and whether therapy books can replace actual therapy. Why "I don't want to seem pushy" is code for "we have a communication problem"—and the difference between a fantasy you'd like to explore and a fetish that's a requirement for arousal. The real reason your partner gets defensive when you bring up sex (spoiler: it's not about you). Timestamps:

0:00 - Intro

3:14 - Why Living Together Kills Sexual Tension (And How to Fix It)

8:43 - Dating Someone with Herpes: What You Need to Know

10:32 - The Truth About Herpes Transmission and Risk

15:00 - My Partner Won't Give Oral: Should I Break Up?

17:43 - How to Have the Difficult Oral Sex Conversation

21:56 - When Your Partner Won't Explore Your Fetish

23:15 - Defensiveness in Sex Talks: Red Flag or Fixable?

25:54 - When Sexual Incompatibility Becomes a Deal Breaker

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EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE WhisperVibe™ OR a FREE Rose toy with any Whisper™ order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily tackles why starting intimate conversations early matters more than waiting for the "right time"—and how your sex life begins long before you get to the bedroom. A 51-year-old in Spain has been dating someone gorgeous for six weeks with incredible chemistry but zero penetrative sex—discover why having the "are we ready?" conversation over dinner (not after making out) prevents months of unnecessary confusion. Someone married for years realizes they're bisexual but fears coming out will end everything—learn the gradual approach that starts with general sex conversations, not dropping identity bombshells. A long-term couple has never discussed desires or fantasies despite years together—find out why waiting until there's a problem to talk about sex means you've already waited too long. Timestamps:

EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE WhisperVibe™ OR a FREE Rose toy with any Whisper™ order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily tackles why starting intimate conversations early matters more than waiting for the "right time"—and how your sex life begins long before you get to the bedroom. A 51-year-old in Spain has been dating someone gorgeous for six weeks with incredible chemistry but zero penetrative sex—discover why having the "are we ready?" conversation over dinner (not after making out) prevents months of unnecessary confusion. Someone married for years realizes they're bisexual but fears coming out will end everything—learn the gradual approach that starts with general sex conversations, not dropping identity bombshells. A long-term couple has never discussed desires or fantasies despite years together—find out why waiting until there's a problem to talk about sex means you've already waited too long. Timestamps:

0:00 - Introduction

1:17 - When to Have "The Sex Talk" in a New Relationship

3:26 - Building Sexual Anticipation vs. Rushing Into Sex

5:25 - How to Talk About Sex Before You've Had Sex

8:14 - Faking Orgasms: Why It Hurts Both Partners

11:31 - Reader Question: Navigating Painful Sex & Communication

16:42 - Creating Safety When Past Experiences Were Painful

20:38 - The Importance of Lube and Going Slow

24:16 - Reader Question: Coming Out as Bisexual in Marriage

28:36 - Starting Conversations About Desires & Fantasies

30:38 - Living Your Sexual Truth at Any Age

32:24 - Practical Steps for Difficult Conversations

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In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily breaks down why the sex positions everyone asks about aren't actually the secret to great sex—but learning to move your body intentionally might be.

A 21-year-old people pleaser can't stop until her boyfriend finishes (even when exhausted) but worries constantly when he's pleasuring her—discover why treating sex like a finish line kills orgasms. Someone's uncomfortable being on top because she feels exposed and on display—learn the slow-motion approach that makes cowgirl about grinding pleasure, not bouncing performance.

A woman's boyfriend has a strongly curved penis causing discomfort, plus he can't orgasm during sex despite being fine alone—find out why curved penises are actually G-spot advantages and why sex lasting "too long" damages vulva owners.

Timestamps:

0:00 - Introduction

1:04 - People Pleaser Advice: Breaking Sexual Double Standards

2:46 - The Importance of Being Present During Sex

3:40 - Reframing Sex as a Dance, Not a Finish Line

5:04 - The 69 Position: Practical Tips & Variations

6:25 - Side-by-Side 69: The Game Changer Position

11:42 - Doggy Style Deep Dive: Angles & Modifications

18:09 - Missionary Reimagined: Why It's Underrated

25:07 - Cowgirl Position: Taking Control of Your Pleasure

28:02 - Debunking the Coconut TikTok Trend

29:15 - The Lotus Position: Intimacy & Tantric Connection

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EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE WhisperVibe™ OR a FREE Rose toy with any Whisper™ order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this Sex with Emily episode, wellness educator Lauren Roxburgh explains why Western medicine discarded the body system that might be blocking your orgasms—and how to bring it back online. Lauren reveals fascia: the communication network your body uses to record trauma, send arousal signals, and feel everything. Medical schools in the 1900s threw it away as "packing wrap" without studying it. Now we know it's your sixth sense, and when it's congested, you age faster and feel less. A woman with a tilted uterus faces sudden stabbing pain with her well-endowed partner after a decade of great sex—discover why the diagnosis isn't the whole story. Someone's tried every technique for premature ejaculation with zero results—learn why most solutions create the opposite effect and what pro athletes know about lasting longer. A post-menopausal woman on hormones still bleeds during painful sex—hear which ancient practices work when Western medicine falls short. Lauren teaches the reverse Kegel (why opening beats squeezing), how stress clenches your pelvic floor without you knowing, why Brazilians walk differently than Westerners and what that reveals about sexual energy, and the breathing pattern that pumps toxins from your brain while awakening sensation below. If pain during sex, premature ejaculation, or post-menopausal dryness have stumped your doctors, this reveals what they're missing. Timestamps:

0:00 - Intro

1:16 - What is Fascia? The Body's Communication Network Explained

5:05 - Why Western Medicine Ignored Fascia Until Now

9:36 - How Fascia Impacts Sexual Pleasure and Embodiment

15:03 - Releasing Trauma Stored in Your Body's Tissues

21:27 - The Blood Flow Problem Behind Sexual Dysfunction

27:34 - Pain During Sex: Understanding Your Pelvic Floor

30:24 - The Reverse Kegel Technique for Better Orgasms

33:40 - Painful Sex with Tilted Uterus: Solutions Beyond Positions

38:38 - Fixing Lifelong Premature Ejaculation with Body Work

43:07 - Postmenopausal Pain: When Hormones Aren't Enough

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EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE WhisperVibe™ OR a FREE Rose toy with any Whisper™ order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Dr. Emily answers the questions keeping you up at night: Can bodies be trained to orgasm only one way? When does a kink cross from preference to problem? Is interactive masturbation cheating? Someone orgasms easily alone but never with partners in her open marriage—the neural pathway explanation might surprise you. A husband discovered a humiliation kink after 20 years and his wife doesn't understand why degradation equals arousal—learn what core erotic desires reveal about childhood and why shame keeps most people silent. A woman caught her boyfriend on interactive sex sites after they'd set boundaries—discover when getting curious works better than getting angry, and whether online encounters count as infidelity. Someone raised in sexual repression feels guilty choosing masturbation over partner sex—hear why solo pleasure threatens no one and why that guilt isn't really yours. Then there's the couple having sex twice daily but she rarely orgasms—find out why more isn't better and how to ask for what you need without killing desire. The episode tackles when preference becomes selfishness, why communication about kinks matters more than understanding them, and how bodies get wired to expect certain pleasure patterns. If you've been wondering whether your desires are normal or your boundaries are valid, this gives you permission to stop wondering.

Timestamps:

0:00 - Intro

1:15 - Charlie's Question: How to Orgasm with a Partner

2:34 - Understanding Your Body's Neural Pathways

4:08 - Teaching Multiple Partners Your Pleasure

6:32 - The Value of Mutual Masturbation

7:56 - Ricky's Question: Small Penis Humiliation Kink

10:32 - Understanding Core Erotic Desires

13:33 - Erica's Question: Partner Using Chatterbait

16:24 - Setting Boundaries Around Interactive Sex Sites

20:40 - Rachel's Question: Guilt About Masturbating in Relationships

23:35 - Why Solo Sex Matters Even When Partnered

25:05 - Giovani's Question: Sex Twice Daily But Not Orgasming

27:11 - Quality Over Quantity: Prioritizing Foreplay

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EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE WhisperVibe™ OR a FREE Rose toy with any Whisper™ order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Sex educator Susan Bratton reveals why the #1 complaint in heterosexual relationships—"she can't orgasm during intercourse"—isn't about broken bodies, but broken information. With techniques that have her inbox flooded with exclamation points, Susan dismantles everything you thought you knew about penetrative sex. Discover why rushing is killing your pleasure, what ancient Daoists knew about rhythm that porn never taught you, and the counterintuitive move that makes orgasm easier (hint: it's not what you're doing now). Susan explains the arousal gap nobody talks about, reframes the vagina in a way that will change how you touch it, and teaches the "Heart Tongue" approach that transforms mechanical sex into connection. A 50-year-old man asks why his girlfriend can't climax during sex despite trying everything. A 25-year-old wonders if she's ever actually had an orgasm and why "squirting" feels like nothing. Susan guides both through tissue activation, sacred self-pleasure, and why the entrance to the vagina needs to be courted, not conquered. Susan claims her best sex ever and credits specific practices for looking a decade younger than her peers. She shares the "Lips-Nips-Clit Axis," why opening matters more than tightening, and her most-thanked technique involving a 10-count that toggles the nervous system. If you've been chasing sensation instead of connection, this episode rewrites the playbook. Timestamps:

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EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE WhisperVibe™ OR a FREE Rose toy with any Whisper™ order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this Sex with Emily Q&A episode, Dr. Emily and producer Erica tackle listener questions about fantasies, relationships, and navigating sexual compatibility. They explore cuckolding—one of America's most common fantasies—discussing why partners want to watch their significant other with someone else, the importance of comprehensive pre-negotiation, and why "one and done" promises rarely hold true. A listener living with his ex-boyfriend learns why moving on sexually is so difficult when you're still sharing space, and gets permission to stop pressuring himself during the healing process. The conversation addresses adult baby/diaper fetishes, distinguishing between core erotic desires that are requirements versus nice-to-have fantasies, and explores creative solutions like working with specialized sex workers when partners aren't compatible. Finally, they dissect a toxic relationship pattern where one partner constantly shifts between attraction and rejection, helping a listener recognize when it's time to walk away. Throughout, Dr. Emily emphasizes that early relationship sex fueled by new relationship energy doesn't last forever, the importance of understanding your own pleasure rather than just servicing a partner's wants, and why we need to stop dating people based on their potential to change. Timestamps:

0:00 - Intro

1:25 - My Boyfriend Wants to Watch Me Have Sex with Another Man

6:02 - Why Cuckolding is One of America's Most Common Fantasies

8:55 - How Do I Move On When I'm Still Living with My Ex?

14:59 - My Wife Thinks My Fetish is Demonic - Is This Marriage Over?

20:53 - He Says I'm Not Attractive Enough Anymore - What Do I Do?

23:29 - Red Flags: When Your Partner Wants You to Change Your Body

26:10 - Closing Thoughts: Stop Fighting for Approval, Start Honoring Your Needs

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EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE WhisperVibe™ OR a FREE Rose toy with any Whisper™ order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily's first guest in the new studio is psychologist Dr. Scott Lyons, author of Addicted to Drama: Healing Dependency on Crisis and Chaos in Yourself and Others. Dr. Lyons reveals how drama addiction isn't just obvious chaos—it's overscheduling, inability to tolerate stillness, and sabotaging intimacy when vulnerability feels threatening. He explains the biology: drama provides energy, numbs pain, and creates sensation that makes us feel alive. Listener questions address a 21-year-old spiraling after her boyfriend called an actress sexy, and a 30-year-old wanting kinkier sex but getting triggered. Dr. Lyons and Dr. Emily emphasize distinguishing sensation-seeking from authentic connection, coming back to the body when triggered, and recognizing how childhood patterns shape adult sexuality and relationships.

Timestamps:

0:00 - Intro

3:32 - The Hidden Signs of Drama Addiction You Might Be Missing

9:24 - How Trauma Lives in Your Body and Shapes Your Behavior

13:36 - Why Drama Shows Up in Your Relationships and Sex Life

15:37 - Why Do I Feel Terrible When My Partner Comments on Other People?

27:35 - The Currency of Love: How Childhood Chaos Affects Adult Relationships

33:48 - I Want Freaky Sex But My Body Keeps Freezing Up

42:52 - Understanding Dissociation and Finding Your Way Back Home

50:00 - How Drama Addiction Blocks True Sexual Pleasure and Intimacy

52:32 - Five Quickie Questions with Dr. Scott Lyons

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EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE WhisperVibe™ OR a FREE Rose toy with any Whisper™ order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily and producer Erica answer listener questions covering intimate challenges from anal play to mismatched libidos. The episode addresses a woman whose boyfriend wants to try receiving anal rimming but can't relax into it, examining masculinity myths around pleasure. They cover penis cage safety during chastity play and what to watch for during extended use. Listeners also hear from a woman whose partner never initiates sex despite therapy, someone experiencing numbness during oral sex, and a recently divorced woman struggling to reclaim her sex drive. Throughout, Emily emphasizes communication outside the bedroom, understanding our bodies' responses, and reclaiming sexuality as something we own for ourselves—not something tied exclusively to our partners.

Timestamps:

0:00 - Introduction

1:15 - Helping Your Partner Feel Comfortable with Anal Play

6:38 - Penis Cage Safety & Chastity Play Guidelines

13:49 - When Your Partner Never Initiates Sex

18:45 - Numbness & Tingling During Oral Sex Explained

23:07 - Reclaiming Your Sex Drive After Divorce

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In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily teams up with anthropologist Dr. Wednesday Martin to tackle pornography—one of modern sexuality's most polarizing topics. From addressing listener concerns about partners who need porn to climax, to exploring how porn shapes our sexual behaviors and expectations.

The episode examines real listener scenarios including a woman feeling inadequate because her boyfriend requires porn and dirty talk about other women to orgasm, and another struggling with her partner's search history filled with degrading terms. Emily and Wednesday also dive into the research on porn's actual impact on sexual aggression, the rise of choking and other behaviors in mainstream sexual culture, and the difference between ethical porn and typical productions.

Throughout the discussion, they emphasize that porn itself isn't the problem—it's often a communication issue. The episode explores how couples can use porn as a tool for sexual exploration and self-knowledge rather than a source of shame or conflict, while acknowledging the legitimate concerns about how mainstream porn represents sexuality and consent.

Timestamps:

0:00 - Introduction

4:27 - Historical Context: Porn Has Always Existed

8:23 - First Porn Experiences

17:20 - Research Findings: Porn's Actual Impact on Behavior

27:47 - Case Study: When Porn Becomes a Relationship Issue

37:32 - Ethical Porn vs. Mainstream

41:56 - Using Porn as a Learning Tool for Self-Discovery

50:42 - Communication Strategies: Talking About Porn Preferences

57:17 - Final Thoughts

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Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Episode Description: In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily and producer Eric tackle listener-submitted "Am I The Asshole" scenarios focused on sex, dating, and relationships. From a wife refusing threesomes her husband demands to fix their struggling marriage, to a boyfriend dismissing his girlfriend's painful sex as exaggerated. The episode examines a daughter's shock at discovering her mother's 24/7 BDSM collar and addresses sexual compatibility deal-breakers, including a five-month relationship ending over asexuality versus mismatched libidos. They also tackle friendship boundaries when a well-meaning friend reveals intimate details about someone's sexual past to their new partner. Throughout these scenarios, Emily emphasizes that most relationship conflicts stem from lack of sexual education and communication skills rather than malicious intent. The episode reinforces the importance of honest self-reflection, clear boundaries, and recognizing when patterns aren't serving your relationships. Timestamps:

0:00 - Introduction

1:21 - Threesome Pressure in Struggling Marriage

4:45 - Why Threesomes Don't Fix Relationships

8:03 - Dismissing Partner's Sexual Pain During Sex

11:04 - Understanding Vaginismus and Vaginal Pain

14:09 - Anal Sex Pressure Despite Clear Boundaries

17:15 - The Importance of Consensual Partners for Anal

18:46 - Discovering Mom's BDSM Collar Bombshell

22:00 - How to Have Healthy Sex Conversations with Kids

24:46 - Breaking Up Over Sexual Incompatibility

28:18 - Sexual Compatibility by 5 Months Rule

30:33 - Oversharing Friend's Threesome History

33:14 - Never Share Others' Sexual Stories

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In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily sits down with Violet Benson. Violet opens up about her intentional decision to step back from penetrative sex while working through attachment patterns that clouded her judgment in relationships.

How do you know when sex is creating unhealthy emotional attachment versus genuine connection? Violet shares her realization that sleeping with someone too quickly led her to ignore red flags and chase unavailable partners who mirrored her childhood feelings of being "not enough."

The conversation dives into Violet's egg freezing experience, including the intense hormonal and emotional effects that doctors failed to prepare her for. Violet takes Emily's Sex IQ quiz from the book Smart Sex, reflecting on how much her relationship with her body and pleasure has evolved.

They tackle a listener question about pursuing someone with major red flags just for physical chemistry, with both hosts emphasizing the importance of honest self-reflection over justification.

The episode explores embracing "clinginess" in dating, why vulnerability beats playing games, and how foreplay truly starts outside the bedroom. Throughout, Emily and Violet reinforce that understanding your patterns is the first step to breaking cycles that don't serve you.

Timestamps:

0:00 - Intro

2:13 - Violet's dating hiatus

5:42 - Turning fears into boundaries

8:37 - Understanding attachment styles and childhood trauma in relationships

11:43 - Egg freezing experience

16:17 - Managing mental health during hormonal changes

21:00 - Sex IQ Quiz

26:31 - Listener question: Detaching emotions from physical intimacy

30:30 - Why being vulnerable beats playing games

35:41 - Why people are having less sex and connection

38:15 - Top 3 tips for authentic dating and better relationships

40:42 - Rapid-fire questions: Turn-ons, turn-offs, and relationship advice

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Episode Description

In this Sex with Emily hotline episode, Dr. Emily answers honest questions about sex, relationships, and pleasure. Ben struggles with intrusive thoughts about his girlfriend's sexual past—how do generational differences in sexual norms play a role, and what can he do when his mind won't stop wandering?

A caller whose day-long fantasies about his wife cause premature ejaculation wonders if this is actually a problem. Emily explores when mental foreplay becomes too much of a good thing and how to approach these conversations with your partner.

For finding thirds for threesomes, what's the safest way to meet like-minded people? Emily discusses the essential conversations couples need to have before inviting someone into their bedroom.

Nathan worries his girlfriend only orgasms with toys despite her past relationships not requiring them. Is this about his performance, her anatomy, or something deeper about emotional connection and letting go?

Finally, how do you rebuild your relationship with your own sexuality after a major life change? Emily helps a caller navigate solo pleasure during divorce when motivation is low and old fantasies no longer serve.

Throughout, Emily reinforces that sexual satisfaction looks different for everyone.

Timestamps:

0:00 - Introduction

1:29 - Dealing with Partner's Sexual Past

5:42 - How to Replace Negative Thoughts with Positive Relationship Focus

11:45 - Premature Ejaculation from All-Day Mental Arousal

17:07 - Starting Sexting in Long-Term Relationships

20:04 - Finding a Third for Threesomes

29:52 - The Field Effect

34:13 - When Emotional Connection Changes Physical Response

40:13 - Prioritizing Solo Pleasure During Divorce and Life Transitions

46:44 - Closing Thoughts and Resources

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