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Dr. Emily Morse shares her expertise on sex, relationships and everything in between! Submit your questions to Emily at sexwithemily.com/ask-emily. For more sexy fun, visit sexwithemily.com and our online store shop.sexwithemily.com. Order her book today: SMART SEX: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure.
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Dr. Emily Morse shares her expertise on sex, relationships and everything in between! Submit your questions to Emily at sexwithemily.com/ask-emily. For more sexy fun, visit sexwithemily.com and our online store shop.sexwithemily.com. Order her book today: SMART SEX: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure.
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Have you ever wondered if you’re the asshole in your sex life and relationships? Today, Producer Erica and I are letting you know if you’re approaching asshole territory - and not the good kind. One listener hooked up with someone else while they were on a break, and now her partner says she can’t be trusted. Who’s the asshole here? Another listener wants to spice it up in the bedroom, but her husband with a kinky past sees her as a “delicate little angel.” Sounds like a case of the classic Madonna-Whore complex. What about when your partner won’t perform oral sex? Are you the asshole for craving it? We get into all this and more.


In today’s episode, you’ll learn:

  • The importance of identifying your sexual fantasies
  • How to work through ultimatums in relationships
  • Why your sex life should evolve over time


Show Notes:


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Have you ever wondered if you’re the asshole in your sex life and relationships? Today, Producer Erica and I are letting you know if you’re approaching asshole territory - and not the good kind. One listener hooked up with someone else while they were on a break, and now her partner says she can’t be trusted. Who’s the asshole here? Another listener wants to spice it up in the bedroom, but her husband with a kinky past sees her as a “delicate little angel.” Sounds like a case of the classic Madonna-Whore complex. What about when your partner won’t perform oral sex? Are you the asshole for craving it? We get into all this and more.


In today’s episode, you’ll learn:

  • The importance of identifying your sexual fantasies
  • How to work through ultimatums in relationships
  • Why your sex life should evolve over time


Show Notes:


See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

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Published 2025-03-21

Hotline Calls: How to Fantasize Together

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The Sex With Emily Hotline is open! On this episode, I’m joined by my Producer, Erica, as we talk about disappearing erections, prostate massages, and so much more. 


First, what do you do when your partner has health issues that cause them to lose their erections? I give one caller ideas for how to work around this issue and thoughts on what might be causing it in the first place. Next, why don’t couples fantasize together more often? A couple calls in to share their sexual fantasies, and we give you inspo on how to do the same with your partner. When your partner wants a prostate massage, how do you pull it off? I tell you what to feel for, how to apply pressure and fun toys you can use. Finally, when your partner has never had an orgasm before, how can you help? And should you?


In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • Why erectile challenges aren’t just about the penis—and how you can spice things up while finding solutions
  • How to co-create fantasies with your partner for hotter, more connected sex
  • The secret to unlocking prostate pleasure (and why so many men are missing out)


Show Notes:


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The Sex With Emily Hotline is open! On this episode, I’m joined by my Producer, Erica, as we talk about disappearing erections, prostate massages, and so much more. 


First, what do you do when your partner has health issues that cause them to lose their erections? I give one caller ideas for how to work around this issue and thoughts on what might be causing it in the first place. Next, why don’t couples fantasize together more often? A couple calls in to share their sexual fantasies, and we give you inspo on how to do the same with your partner. When your partner wants a prostate massage, how do you pull it off? I tell you what to feel for, how to apply pressure and fun toys you can use. Finally, when your partner has never had an orgasm before, how can you help? And should you?


In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • Why erectile challenges aren’t just about the penis—and how you can spice things up while finding solutions
  • How to co-create fantasies with your partner for hotter, more connected sex
  • The secret to unlocking prostate pleasure (and why so many men are missing out)


Show Notes:


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Two of your most powerful sex accessories? Your hands. Hands set the tone of your sexual energy. For example, caressing their cheek while you make out versus pinning their hands down while you have sex. And while we talk a lot about what to do with our mouths or genitals on this show, today I’m focusing on a lost art: hand play. Specifically, how to finger, give a hand job, and use your hands with sexual intention. 

Today, my Producer, Erica, and I first share how to penetrate a vulva with your fingers. We give you tricks to stimulate the labia and clitoris, different forms of pressure and touch, and how to find the G-spot when you finger. Next, we give the penis some love with hand job techniques and upgrades like toy play and perineum stimulation. Finally, we discuss secondary erogenous zones and answer your hand play questions.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • Why hand play—fingering and handjobs—is the underrated pleasure tool you need to master.
  • How to turn up the heat with expert hand techniques for both vulvas and penises.
  • The secret to making manual stimulation feel even better than penetrative sex.


Show Notes:


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Two of your most powerful sex accessories? Your hands. Hands set the tone of your sexual energy. For example, caressing their cheek while you make out versus pinning their hands down while you have sex. And while we talk a lot about what to do with our mouths or genitals on this show, today I’m focusing on a lost art: hand play. Specifically, how to finger, give a hand job, and use your hands with sexual intention. 

Today, my Producer, Erica, and I first share how to penetrate a vulva with your fingers. We give you tricks to stimulate the labia and clitoris, different forms of pressure and touch, and how to find the G-spot when you finger. Next, we give the penis some love with hand job techniques and upgrades like toy play and perineum stimulation. Finally, we discuss secondary erogenous zones and answer your hand play questions.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • Why hand play—fingering and handjobs—is the underrated pleasure tool you need to master.
  • How to turn up the heat with expert hand techniques for both vulvas and penises.
  • The secret to making manual stimulation feel even better than penetrative sex.


Show Notes:


See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

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It’s Hotline Calls time! And we’ve got one common theme: trust - the foundation of hot sex. Because when you trust yourself and the person you’re with, you can fully let go in bed and relax into your deepest pleasure.

When oral sex gets too rough, how can you ask your partner to be more gentle and respectful? I’ve got some thoughts. When your partner doesn’t love booty play – but you definitely do – can you still ask for a rim job? Let’s say your partner goes to strip clubs, and it makes you super uncomfortable. How do you set boundaries together? Finally, when you’re the non-primary partner in a polyamorous relationship, what resources can you turn to for advice & guidance?

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • How to communicate boundaries and advocate for your pleasure in oral sex (without the sore throat aftermath)
  • The best ways to introduce your partner to rimming—yes, even if they’re hesitant
  • How to navigate mismatched libidos, strip club discomfort, and polyamory as a secondary partner


Show Notes:


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It’s Hotline Calls time! And we’ve got one common theme: trust - the foundation of hot sex. Because when you trust yourself and the person you’re with, you can fully let go in bed and relax into your deepest pleasure.

When oral sex gets too rough, how can you ask your partner to be more gentle and respectful? I’ve got some thoughts. When your partner doesn’t love booty play – but you definitely do – can you still ask for a rim job? Let’s say your partner goes to strip clubs, and it makes you super uncomfortable. How do you set boundaries together? Finally, when you’re the non-primary partner in a polyamorous relationship, what resources can you turn to for advice & guidance?

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • How to communicate boundaries and advocate for your pleasure in oral sex (without the sore throat aftermath)
  • The best ways to introduce your partner to rimming—yes, even if they’re hesitant
  • How to navigate mismatched libidos, strip club discomfort, and polyamory as a secondary partner


Show Notes:


See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

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Dating as an adult is exhausting. While experience comes with age, actually applying that experience is easier said than done…even for professionals. 

With me today are two therapy professionals who also happen to be partners: John Kim and Vanessa Bennett. Their book “It’s Not Me, It’s You” offers an anecdotal road map of how to “relationship better,” from overcoming commitment issues, to fanning the sex flames, to breaking the blame cycle. John and Vanessa expertly dissect their own relationship to inspire us to create healthy bonds with the people we love. Listen to learn why “the one” is a myth, how to wean ourselves off codependency and how to replace obligatory sex with erotic collaboration.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • Why “The One” is a myth and what actually makes relationships last
  • How to turn obligatory sex into erotic collaboration
  • The secret to avoiding resentment before it ruins your connection


Show Notes:


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Dating as an adult is exhausting. While experience comes with age, actually applying that experience is easier said than done…even for professionals. 

With me today are two therapy professionals who also happen to be partners: John Kim and Vanessa Bennett. Their book “It’s Not Me, It’s You” offers an anecdotal road map of how to “relationship better,” from overcoming commitment issues, to fanning the sex flames, to breaking the blame cycle. John and Vanessa expertly dissect their own relationship to inspire us to create healthy bonds with the people we love. Listen to learn why “the one” is a myth, how to wean ourselves off codependency and how to replace obligatory sex with erotic collaboration.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • Why “The One” is a myth and what actually makes relationships last
  • How to turn obligatory sex into erotic collaboration
  • The secret to avoiding resentment before it ruins your connection


Show Notes:


See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

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Published 2025-03-07

Initiating Sex After a Dry Spell

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Initiating sex, dry spells, and mismatched libidos: the Hotline Calls are open, and your sex questions are answered! Today’s sexual concerns are especially relatable: I’m willing to bet you’ve experienced one of these yourself.

Let’s start with orgasms. When you can only get off in one very specific position, how can you retrain your body and mind? I give you tips on switching up your technique. Next: coming out of a sexual dry spell, how do you learn to initiate again? I help you collaborate with your partner. When you’re always a top (the more dominant one during sex), how can you tell your partner that you’d like to bottom (be more submissive) occasionally? I walk you through that conversation. Finally, when your spouse has next to zero interest in sex, what now? I offer insights on changing your relationship patterns to experience mutual pleasure and compatibility.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • The secret to orgasming in any position (without wrecking your calves).
  • How to bring back the heat after a dry spell—without the pressure.
  • The power move that gets your partner to switch things up in bed.


Show Notes:


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Initiating sex, dry spells, and mismatched libidos: the Hotline Calls are open, and your sex questions are answered! Today’s sexual concerns are especially relatable: I’m willing to bet you’ve experienced one of these yourself.

Let’s start with orgasms. When you can only get off in one very specific position, how can you retrain your body and mind? I give you tips on switching up your technique. Next: coming out of a sexual dry spell, how do you learn to initiate again? I help you collaborate with your partner. When you’re always a top (the more dominant one during sex), how can you tell your partner that you’d like to bottom (be more submissive) occasionally? I walk you through that conversation. Finally, when your spouse has next to zero interest in sex, what now? I offer insights on changing your relationship patterns to experience mutual pleasure and compatibility.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • The secret to orgasming in any position (without wrecking your calves).
  • How to bring back the heat after a dry spell—without the pressure.
  • The power move that gets your partner to switch things up in bed.


Show Notes:


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Published 2025-03-04

Hotline Calls: Hook-Ups & Opening Up

27 min
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When you’re not turned on by your partner, should you open the relationship? What does it mean when they don’t finish during sex? In today’s Hotline Calls episode, I’m taking all your pressing sex questions. 

First, when you want to bring sex toys and lube into the bedroom, but your partner is firmly opposed…what now? I offer communication tips to help bring down defenses. Next, when you’re loving sex with your partner but they never orgasm, is that a cause for concern? I talk about delayed ejaculation and why it happens. We also get into non-monogamy: when you’re not turned on by your partner, should you open up the relationship? Or is a different, deeper conversation needed? Finally, when you’re happily hooking up, how do you keep casual sex from turning into serious relationships?

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • Why performative sex is killing your pleasure—and how to stop.
  • How to ditch “porn mode” and tap into real turn-ons.
  •  The secret to being fully present (and having better orgasms).


Show Notes:


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When you’re not turned on by your partner, should you open the relationship? What does it mean when they don’t finish during sex? In today’s Hotline Calls episode, I’m taking all your pressing sex questions. 

First, when you want to bring sex toys and lube into the bedroom, but your partner is firmly opposed…what now? I offer communication tips to help bring down defenses. Next, when you’re loving sex with your partner but they never orgasm, is that a cause for concern? I talk about delayed ejaculation and why it happens. We also get into non-monogamy: when you’re not turned on by your partner, should you open up the relationship? Or is a different, deeper conversation needed? Finally, when you’re happily hooking up, how do you keep casual sex from turning into serious relationships?

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • Why performative sex is killing your pleasure—and how to stop.
  • How to ditch “porn mode” and tap into real turn-ons.
  •  The secret to being fully present (and having better orgasms).


Show Notes:


See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

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Published 2025-02-28

We’re Giving Up Performative Sex

35 min
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We all experience performance anxiety in bed from time to time. We get in our heads, we worry we’re not hot / good / skilled enough, and sometimes we try to be people we’re not during sex. That’s why today’s episode is about identifying different types of performance anxiety, so that we can show up more confident and relaxed for sex.

First I talk through O-blockers: common reasons your orgasm and overall pleasure hit a limit. Next I bring up popular “personas” people adopt in bed, like the cool girl/guy who’s down for whatever (even when you’re actually not) and the super dominant, in-charge lover (even when you’re actually more submissive). Finally, I give you strategies to increase your sexual confidence and take all of your sexual anxiety questions.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • Why performative sex is killing your pleasure—and how to stop.
  • How to ditch “porn mode” and tap into real turn-ons.
  •  The secret to being fully present (and having better orgasms).


Show Notes:


See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

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We all experience performance anxiety in bed from time to time. We get in our heads, we worry we’re not hot / good / skilled enough, and sometimes we try to be people we’re not during sex. That’s why today’s episode is about identifying different types of performance anxiety, so that we can show up more confident and relaxed for sex.

First I talk through O-blockers: common reasons your orgasm and overall pleasure hit a limit. Next I bring up popular “personas” people adopt in bed, like the cool girl/guy who’s down for whatever (even when you’re actually not) and the super dominant, in-charge lover (even when you’re actually more submissive). Finally, I give you strategies to increase your sexual confidence and take all of your sexual anxiety questions.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • Why performative sex is killing your pleasure—and how to stop.
  • How to ditch “porn mode” and tap into real turn-ons.
  •  The secret to being fully present (and having better orgasms).


Show Notes:


See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

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Published 2025-02-25

The Kinkiest Sex Positions Are…

30 min
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How do you take a classic sex position and make it kinky? On today’s show, I’m telling you exactly how. Inspired by the positions chapter in Smart Sex, I’m talking through two specific positions that bring the kink – and another classic that you can spice up with a little power play.

First, I’m looking at Cowgirl/Cowboy and talking through its pros, cons, and evolutions to introduce kinky dynamics. Next, I’m talking Doggy Style (or as I like to call it: Rear Entry) and breaking down its inherent kink dynamics and ideas to make it even more exciting. Finally, we’re looking at Missionary, which I think we can all agree needs a kinky rebrand. I’ll give you ideas to make it more surprising and sexy.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • How to turn classic sex positions into kinky, pleasure-boosting experiences.
  • Why even small tweaks—like tempo and control—can make you kinkier than you think.
  • The secret to better orgasms in any position (hint: clitoral stimulation is key).


Show Notes:


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How do you take a classic sex position and make it kinky? On today’s show, I’m telling you exactly how. Inspired by the positions chapter in Smart Sex, I’m talking through two specific positions that bring the kink – and another classic that you can spice up with a little power play.

First, I’m looking at Cowgirl/Cowboy and talking through its pros, cons, and evolutions to introduce kinky dynamics. Next, I’m talking Doggy Style (or as I like to call it: Rear Entry) and breaking down its inherent kink dynamics and ideas to make it even more exciting. Finally, we’re looking at Missionary, which I think we can all agree needs a kinky rebrand. I’ll give you ideas to make it more surprising and sexy.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • How to turn classic sex positions into kinky, pleasure-boosting experiences.
  • Why even small tweaks—like tempo and control—can make you kinkier than you think.
  • The secret to better orgasms in any position (hint: clitoral stimulation is key).


Show Notes:


See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

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I’m joined by sexologist, relationships expert, body image specialist, and author of Playing Without a Partner Dr. Megan Stubbs. We dive into how to embrace every aspect of singlehood (hello, masturbation!) and why being single doesn’t have to be a layover, it can be your destination. We give tips for loving your body, ways to elevate your orgasm, and how to alleviate skin hunger when you aren’t in a relationship. Plus, we’re sharing tips for sending nudes, ways to create an optimal pre-date ritual, and ideas for being with a new partner.

We also answer your questions about what to do if you feel insecure about the number of people you have slept with, how to increase emotional intimacy in the bedroom and what to do if you feel you’re in a “dry spell.”

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • Why being single isn’t a “waiting room”—it’s a destination for confidence, self-love, and incredible orgasms.
  • How to turn your solo pleasure game all the way up with masturbation, edging, and next-level orgasm hacks.
  • The secrets to emotional intimacy in the bedroom (even if your partner struggles with it).


Show Notes:


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I’m joined by sexologist, relationships expert, body image specialist, and author of Playing Without a Partner Dr. Megan Stubbs. We dive into how to embrace every aspect of singlehood (hello, masturbation!) and why being single doesn’t have to be a layover, it can be your destination. We give tips for loving your body, ways to elevate your orgasm, and how to alleviate skin hunger when you aren’t in a relationship. Plus, we’re sharing tips for sending nudes, ways to create an optimal pre-date ritual, and ideas for being with a new partner.

We also answer your questions about what to do if you feel insecure about the number of people you have slept with, how to increase emotional intimacy in the bedroom and what to do if you feel you’re in a “dry spell.”

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • Why being single isn’t a “waiting room”—it’s a destination for confidence, self-love, and incredible orgasms.
  • How to turn your solo pleasure game all the way up with masturbation, edging, and next-level orgasm hacks.
  • The secrets to emotional intimacy in the bedroom (even if your partner struggles with it).


Show Notes:


See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

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Published 2025-02-18

Calming The Chaos w/ Tal Rabinowitz

46 min
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There’s no such thing as an “easy life” which is why it’s SO important to develop the right tools to help you handle everyday chaos. Today, I’m talking with Tal Rabinowitz who’s helping people around the world learn to find calm in their daily commotion with her company The DEN Meditation.

She gives tips for beginners who’ve never tried calming their minds and shares how meditation can totally change your outlook on your relationship. We also talk about judgment, specifically how you can stop labeling everything as ‘bad’ or ‘good’ and simply let things be what they are. It’s 2025—and time to meditate, masturbate, and manifest for a better year.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • How meditation can transform your relationship—See your partner clearly and stop the blame game.
  • Why chaos is personal—and powerful—Own it, don’t let it own you.
  • The magic of breath—Calm your mind, spark your pleasure.


Show Notes:


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There’s no such thing as an “easy life” which is why it’s SO important to develop the right tools to help you handle everyday chaos. Today, I’m talking with Tal Rabinowitz who’s helping people around the world learn to find calm in their daily commotion with her company The DEN Meditation.

She gives tips for beginners who’ve never tried calming their minds and shares how meditation can totally change your outlook on your relationship. We also talk about judgment, specifically how you can stop labeling everything as ‘bad’ or ‘good’ and simply let things be what they are. It’s 2025—and time to meditate, masturbate, and manifest for a better year.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • How meditation can transform your relationship—See your partner clearly and stop the blame game.
  • Why chaos is personal—and powerful—Own it, don’t let it own you.
  • The magic of breath—Calm your mind, spark your pleasure.


Show Notes:


See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

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Published 2025-02-14

Sexy Bonding Hacks

47 min
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How do you kickstart sexual arousal? Would you believe me if I told you that sometimes, the best ways to get turned on have nothing to do with sex itself? When you take the focus off the bedroom, and turn your focus toward adventure – the kind that gets your heart-pumping, your adrenaline going, and your anticipation building – a cool thing happens in your brain. You’re excited, and that excitement spills over from the activity into…sex. Pretty nifty, right?

So on today’s show, we’re going to trust, touch, and titillate our way towards arousal, with bonding hacks you can use on your next date whether it is with a long term partner or someone new. Plus, I take your questions! Ways to feel confident and sexual again after a breakup, how to have kinky sex with a partner who says they aren’t interested, how to decide if you should wait to develop a relationship with a super busy person or cut em’ loose, how to take sexy pictures with each other, and how to communicate your needs efficiently outside the bedroom so that you can reignite the spark when you’re back inside.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • Sexy bonding hacks that build trust, boost intimacy, and turn you on
  • How adrenaline-fueled dates like rock climbing or karaoke make you hotter for each other
  • The fix for mismatched kinks, low libido, and getting your sex life back on track


Show Notes:


See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

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How do you kickstart sexual arousal? Would you believe me if I told you that sometimes, the best ways to get turned on have nothing to do with sex itself? When you take the focus off the bedroom, and turn your focus toward adventure – the kind that gets your heart-pumping, your adrenaline going, and your anticipation building – a cool thing happens in your brain. You’re excited, and that excitement spills over from the activity into…sex. Pretty nifty, right?

So on today’s show, we’re going to trust, touch, and titillate our way towards arousal, with bonding hacks you can use on your next date whether it is with a long term partner or someone new. Plus, I take your questions! Ways to feel confident and sexual again after a breakup, how to have kinky sex with a partner who says they aren’t interested, how to decide if you should wait to develop a relationship with a super busy person or cut em’ loose, how to take sexy pictures with each other, and how to communicate your needs efficiently outside the bedroom so that you can reignite the spark when you’re back inside.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • Sexy bonding hacks that build trust, boost intimacy, and turn you on
  • How adrenaline-fueled dates like rock climbing or karaoke make you hotter for each other
  • The fix for mismatched kinks, low libido, and getting your sex life back on track


Show Notes:


See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

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Logan Ury, the author of How to Not Die Alone and director of Relationship Science at Hinge, joins me to share her best tips for all things dating. Logan provides practical tips for avoiding dating blindspots, the drawbacks of unrealistic expectations, and algorithms to live by for finding a satisfying relationship. 

We discuss how ‘dealbreakers’ may be an excuse for avoiding connection, how attachment styles affect our dating outcomes, the paradox of choice in the dating world, and how to get out of the checklist mindset. She also breaks down the most common dating tendencies, shares strategies behind making the best decisions, explains why ‘the spark’ may be B.S., and even offers how-to advice for creating a powerful dating profile. Even if you’re not dating, you will learn techniques that will strengthen all your relationships.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • Why the spark is total BS—and what actually makes a relationship last
  • How your dating type (romanticizer, maximizer, or hesitator) is messing with your love life
  • The secret to making better choices in dating—so you can finally find your person


Show Notes:


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Logan Ury, the author of How to Not Die Alone and director of Relationship Science at Hinge, joins me to share her best tips for all things dating. Logan provides practical tips for avoiding dating blindspots, the drawbacks of unrealistic expectations, and algorithms to live by for finding a satisfying relationship. 

We discuss how ‘dealbreakers’ may be an excuse for avoiding connection, how attachment styles affect our dating outcomes, the paradox of choice in the dating world, and how to get out of the checklist mindset. She also breaks down the most common dating tendencies, shares strategies behind making the best decisions, explains why ‘the spark’ may be B.S., and even offers how-to advice for creating a powerful dating profile. Even if you’re not dating, you will learn techniques that will strengthen all your relationships.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • Why the spark is total BS—and what actually makes a relationship last
  • How your dating type (romanticizer, maximizer, or hesitator) is messing with your love life
  • The secret to making better choices in dating—so you can finally find your person


Show Notes:


See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

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Published 2025-02-07

Want Better Orgasms? Fix Your Gut First

44 min
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Better sex starts in your gut—who knew? Microbiologist Kiran Krishnan joins me to break down the gut-sex connection, from how digestion impacts libido and orgasms to why stress and diet could be killing your pleasure.

We’ll get into what “leaky gut” actually is, how it messes with your hormones, and the simple, science-backed habits that will boost your energy, balance your body, and supercharge your sex life.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • How your gut health affects your sex life—from libido to orgasms and even erections.
  • Why stress wrecks your gut and lowers your desire (plus how to fix it).
  • Five simple gut-friendly habits to boost energy, balance hormones, and have better sex.


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Better sex starts in your gut—who knew? Microbiologist Kiran Krishnan joins me to break down the gut-sex connection, from how digestion impacts libido and orgasms to why stress and diet could be killing your pleasure.

We’ll get into what “leaky gut” actually is, how it messes with your hormones, and the simple, science-backed habits that will boost your energy, balance your body, and supercharge your sex life.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • How your gut health affects your sex life—from libido to orgasms and even erections.
  • Why stress wrecks your gut and lowers your desire (plus how to fix it).
  • Five simple gut-friendly habits to boost energy, balance hormones, and have better sex.


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Ever wonder what happens behind the scenes of your favorite porn? Today I’m joined by adult film director Jacky St. James and performer Ana Foxxx. We discuss their hottest scenes, what it’s like being on set, what constitutes ‘ethical porn’ and whether porn actors fake their orgasms.

Plus, Jacky walks me through her approach to creating an adult film and how porn industry has evolved over time. Ana shares what it’s like dating as a porn star, details from her dirty 30 birthday party and how porn has shaped her sex life on and off-screen. We also answer your questions like: is porn scripted or spontaneous and is it normal to get jealous when your partner watches porn?

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • What really happens on a porn set, from fake orgasms to real chemistry.
  • How porn shapes real-life sex and what actually feels good.
  • Why ethical porn hits different with real pleasure, real connection, and no male gaze.


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Ever wonder what happens behind the scenes of your favorite porn? Today I’m joined by adult film director Jacky St. James and performer Ana Foxxx. We discuss their hottest scenes, what it’s like being on set, what constitutes ‘ethical porn’ and whether porn actors fake their orgasms.

Plus, Jacky walks me through her approach to creating an adult film and how porn industry has evolved over time. Ana shares what it’s like dating as a porn star, details from her dirty 30 birthday party and how porn has shaped her sex life on and off-screen. We also answer your questions like: is porn scripted or spontaneous and is it normal to get jealous when your partner watches porn?

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • What really happens on a porn set, from fake orgasms to real chemistry.
  • How porn shapes real-life sex and what actually feels good.
  • Why ethical porn hits different with real pleasure, real connection, and no male gaze.


Show Notes:


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Valentine’s Day is here, and we’re making it hot. Whether you’re single, partnered, or just here for the pleasure tips, I’m joined by Dr. Scott Lyons to talk all things intimacy, gift ideas that actually turn up the heat, and how to keep things exciting beyond February 14th. We’re covering the best sexy gifts (hello, remote-control vibes), why curiosity is the key to lasting passion, and how to avoid becoming that couple scrolling at dinner.

Plus, our wildest V-Day stories—think surprise proposals, foursomes, and one very awkward TSA moment. Let’s make this Valentine’s Day one to remember. 💋

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • How to make Valentine’s Day sexy—whether you’re single or partnered.
  • Why curiosity keeps intimacy alive (and how to avoid stale relationships).
  • The hottest pleasure products to upgrade your solo or partnered play.


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Valentine’s Day is here, and we’re making it hot. Whether you’re single, partnered, or just here for the pleasure tips, I’m joined by Dr. Scott Lyons to talk all things intimacy, gift ideas that actually turn up the heat, and how to keep things exciting beyond February 14th. We’re covering the best sexy gifts (hello, remote-control vibes), why curiosity is the key to lasting passion, and how to avoid becoming that couple scrolling at dinner.

Plus, our wildest V-Day stories—think surprise proposals, foursomes, and one very awkward TSA moment. Let’s make this Valentine’s Day one to remember. 💋

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • How to make Valentine’s Day sexy—whether you’re single or partnered.
  • Why curiosity keeps intimacy alive (and how to avoid stale relationships).
  • The hottest pleasure products to upgrade your solo or partnered play.


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Published 2025-01-28

The Truth About STIs w/ Dr. Ina Park

50 min
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Fact: Your STI doesn’t make you ANY less sexy! In today's episode, I’m joined by the author of Strange Bedfellows and medical consultant, Dr. Ina Park who has made it her life's work to reduce the shame and stigma associated with sexually transmitted infections, AKA, STIs. Ina shares everything you need to know if you or someone you’re sleeping with is infected, how to reduce your risk of transmission, and when to disclose your status to a partner.

We also discuss Ina’s #1 tip for STI prevention, what to know about how your personal grooming can impact transmission and a surprising discovery about The Bachelor’s casting process. Finally, we answer your questions about transmission through oral sex, when it’s possible to get intimate without a condom and why having an STI isn’t a death sentence for your relationships. Let’s ditch the shame and bring on the sex.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • How to disclose an STI and still have an amazing sex life.
  • Why shaving might increase your STI risk (and how to avoid it).
  • Why HPV is common—and totally manageable.


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Fact: Your STI doesn’t make you ANY less sexy! In today's episode, I’m joined by the author of Strange Bedfellows and medical consultant, Dr. Ina Park who has made it her life's work to reduce the shame and stigma associated with sexually transmitted infections, AKA, STIs. Ina shares everything you need to know if you or someone you’re sleeping with is infected, how to reduce your risk of transmission, and when to disclose your status to a partner.

We also discuss Ina’s #1 tip for STI prevention, what to know about how your personal grooming can impact transmission and a surprising discovery about The Bachelor’s casting process. Finally, we answer your questions about transmission through oral sex, when it’s possible to get intimate without a condom and why having an STI isn’t a death sentence for your relationships. Let’s ditch the shame and bring on the sex.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • How to disclose an STI and still have an amazing sex life.
  • Why shaving might increase your STI risk (and how to avoid it).
  • Why HPV is common—and totally manageable.


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Tired of repeating the same relationship mistakes? Relationship coach Jillian Turecki joins me to break down the nine hard truths about love that will change your life. From healing heartbreak to understanding why you keep attracting the wrong people, Jillian shares how true love starts with you.

We’re talking about breakups, dating struggles, and why lust isn’t love (even though it feels amazing). Whether you’re single or in a relationship, this episode will help you build healthier connections and finally get the love you deserve.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • How to break free from toxic dating patterns.
  • The red flags you’re probably ignoring.
  • Why self-acceptance is the key to love.


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Tired of repeating the same relationship mistakes? Relationship coach Jillian Turecki joins me to break down the nine hard truths about love that will change your life. From healing heartbreak to understanding why you keep attracting the wrong people, Jillian shares how true love starts with you.

We’re talking about breakups, dating struggles, and why lust isn’t love (even though it feels amazing). Whether you’re single or in a relationship, this episode will help you build healthier connections and finally get the love you deserve.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • How to break free from toxic dating patterns.
  • The red flags you’re probably ignoring.
  • Why self-acceptance is the key to love.


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Published 2025-01-21

Dirty Talk Your Way To Your Next Orgasm

38 min
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I’ve heard from a lot of my listeners that they struggle with talking dirty in the bedroom. Today I’m joined by porn star, author, exotic dancer, and dirty talk expert Joanna Angel to break down what to say, how to start if you’ve never tried it and how to crank your dirty talk up from dusty to undeniably filthy.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • Dirty talk made easy with simple tips to start and spice it up without feeling awkward
  • Sexting secrets to tease, turn on, and build anticipation like a pro
  • Confidence in the bedroom by owning your desires and feeling empowered in and out of bed


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I’ve heard from a lot of my listeners that they struggle with talking dirty in the bedroom. Today I’m joined by porn star, author, exotic dancer, and dirty talk expert Joanna Angel to break down what to say, how to start if you’ve never tried it and how to crank your dirty talk up from dusty to undeniably filthy.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • Dirty talk made easy with simple tips to start and spice it up without feeling awkward
  • Sexting secrets to tease, turn on, and build anticipation like a pro
  • Confidence in the bedroom by owning your desires and feeling empowered in and out of bed


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On today’s show, I’m answering more of your questions from the Sex with Emily hotline.

Topics include: how to tell your partner you want more oral sex, what to do if you can’t get over the sex you had with your toxic ex, how to explore your bisexuality without unnecessary drama, the best ways to avoid negative thought patterns while dating and how to explore mutual masturbation and edging with a partner. 

Have a question of your own? You can call me anytime and leave a voicemail: 559-TALK-SEX (559-825-5739).

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • How to ask your partner for more oral sex and introduce fun tools like flavored lubes.
  • Ways to break free from a toxic ex and open yourself to healthier relationships.
  • Tips to explore mutual masturbation and edging for better intimacy.


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On today’s show, I’m answering more of your questions from the Sex with Emily hotline.

Topics include: how to tell your partner you want more oral sex, what to do if you can’t get over the sex you had with your toxic ex, how to explore your bisexuality without unnecessary drama, the best ways to avoid negative thought patterns while dating and how to explore mutual masturbation and edging with a partner. 

Have a question of your own? You can call me anytime and leave a voicemail: 559-TALK-SEX (559-825-5739).

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • How to ask your partner for more oral sex and introduce fun tools like flavored lubes.
  • Ways to break free from a toxic ex and open yourself to healthier relationships.
  • Tips to explore mutual masturbation and edging for better intimacy.


Show Notes:


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Published 2025-01-14

Mindfulness for Better Sex

53 min
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Today I’m joined by meditation teacher, speaker, and author Light Watkins to share how we can better practice mindfulness in and outside of the bedroom. We discuss how meditation can transform relationships, reduce stress, and allow you to be more present during all areas of your life—including sex. 

Plus, we’re sharing easy hacks to curate a meditation routine, how you can cultivate happiness and fulfillment, and why training your brain is important to your overall well-being. Light also shares the ways that sex is similar to meditation, the importance of following your intuition, how to foster true positive change, and the best ways to maintain a gratitude practice.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • How meditation enhances your sex life and keeps you present.
  • Why managing stress is the secret to better relationships.
  • Simple gratitude hacks to transform your mindset.


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Today I’m joined by meditation teacher, speaker, and author Light Watkins to share how we can better practice mindfulness in and outside of the bedroom. We discuss how meditation can transform relationships, reduce stress, and allow you to be more present during all areas of your life—including sex. 

Plus, we’re sharing easy hacks to curate a meditation routine, how you can cultivate happiness and fulfillment, and why training your brain is important to your overall well-being. Light also shares the ways that sex is similar to meditation, the importance of following your intuition, how to foster true positive change, and the best ways to maintain a gratitude practice.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • How meditation enhances your sex life and keeps you present.
  • Why managing stress is the secret to better relationships.
  • Simple gratitude hacks to transform your mindset.


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Jenny Mollen is the author of City of Likes, a fictional comedy about mommy influencer culture and the intensity of female friendships – especially when one of them is a narcissist. Are they obsessed with each other? Do they want to have sex with each other? And what do you do when someone’s perfectly-curated facade finally cracks? 

Jenny and I met years ago, and I know you’ll love her just as much as I do. Besides being a bestselling author, she’s also an actor, a mom, and wife to actor Jason Biggs. In this episode, she talks about the personal experiences with social media that inspired her book, why she wants to see a sex therapist, and helps me answer your sex and relationship questions. For example, if you’re in a relationship, is it ok to comment on someone else’s Instagram telling them how attractive they are? Jenny and I give it to you straight.


In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • How to navigate the tricky relationship dynamics of long-term partnerships and social media.
  • Why laughter and authenticity are key to maintaining intimacy over the years.
  • The surprising connections between personal vulnerability, desire, and self-discovery.


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Jenny Mollen is the author of City of Likes, a fictional comedy about mommy influencer culture and the intensity of female friendships – especially when one of them is a narcissist. Are they obsessed with each other? Do they want to have sex with each other? And what do you do when someone’s perfectly-curated facade finally cracks? 

Jenny and I met years ago, and I know you’ll love her just as much as I do. Besides being a bestselling author, she’s also an actor, a mom, and wife to actor Jason Biggs. In this episode, she talks about the personal experiences with social media that inspired her book, why she wants to see a sex therapist, and helps me answer your sex and relationship questions. For example, if you’re in a relationship, is it ok to comment on someone else’s Instagram telling them how attractive they are? Jenny and I give it to you straight.


In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • How to navigate the tricky relationship dynamics of long-term partnerships and social media.
  • Why laughter and authenticity are key to maintaining intimacy over the years.
  • The surprising connections between personal vulnerability, desire, and self-discovery.


Show Notes:


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I’m joined by the hosts of the Unwaxed podcast, Sophia and Sistine Stallone. Find out what really happens on the dating apps, how to spot red flags and why a bad first kiss doesn’t have to be a deal breaker. I encourage them to make time for masturbation and we discuss if watching porn is considered cheating.

I also take your calls and answer a bunch of your questions. I cover prostate play, adult virginity, partner toys and what to do when your partner takes too long to orgasm.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • The secret to turning a bad kisser into your perfect match.
  • How to unlock your sexual confidence through self-exploration.
  • Game-changing tips to get what you want in the bedroom—without the awkwardness.


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I’m joined by the hosts of the Unwaxed podcast, Sophia and Sistine Stallone. Find out what really happens on the dating apps, how to spot red flags and why a bad first kiss doesn’t have to be a deal breaker. I encourage them to make time for masturbation and we discuss if watching porn is considered cheating.

I also take your calls and answer a bunch of your questions. I cover prostate play, adult virginity, partner toys and what to do when your partner takes too long to orgasm.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • The secret to turning a bad kisser into your perfect match.
  • How to unlock your sexual confidence through self-exploration.
  • Game-changing tips to get what you want in the bedroom—without the awkwardness.


Show Notes:


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Published 2025-01-03

Keeping Your Sexy Resolutions

38 min
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The best sex of your life doesn’t happen by chance. If it did, we’d all be having it. In this episode, I share my own sex and dating intentions for the year and help you plan your own. I guide you through our Pleasure Planner, and we explore how prioritizing your sex life will benefit your overall life. I also answer questions about confidence in the bedroom, STIs and condoms, and if it’s possible to repair a relationship after someone cheats. If you need some inspiration to create your own sex and love goals, download our free Pleasure Planner sexwithemily.com/guides. Or just click the link HERE!

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • How to use the Sex With Emily Pleasure Planner
  • Practical ways to communicate your desires and co-create a sex life that excites you
  • How to set and stick to sex and pleasure goals that truly prioritize your needs


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The best sex of your life doesn’t happen by chance. If it did, we’d all be having it. In this episode, I share my own sex and dating intentions for the year and help you plan your own. I guide you through our Pleasure Planner, and we explore how prioritizing your sex life will benefit your overall life. I also answer questions about confidence in the bedroom, STIs and condoms, and if it’s possible to repair a relationship after someone cheats. If you need some inspiration to create your own sex and love goals, download our free Pleasure Planner sexwithemily.com/guides. Or just click the link HERE!

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • How to use the Sex With Emily Pleasure Planner
  • Practical ways to communicate your desires and co-create a sex life that excites you
  • How to set and stick to sex and pleasure goals that truly prioritize your needs


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Published 2024-12-31

Closure w/ Your Ex & Other Success Stories

53 min
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Here’s the secret formula to better sex: prioritize it! In this episode, we’re talking all about sex success stories and how taking just one step can take your sex life from static to ecstatic. From finding closure with an ex to trying out swinging and finding it works, and looking for sex after a life after not having any, each of these people have taken a big step towards changing their lives. Get inspired to create your own sex-cess story. 

I also answer questions about what to do if your boyfriend won’t communicate openly with you about your sex life, how to be more confident rocking the cowgirl position and what to do if mismatched libidos are making you feel insecure in your relationship.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • How real listener stories of self-discovery and sexual growth can inspire your own journey.
  • The keys to building confidence, communicating needs, and reigniting passion in your relationship.
  • Actionable tips for embracing pleasure, navigating mismatched desires, and taking control of your sex life.


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Here’s the secret formula to better sex: prioritize it! In this episode, we’re talking all about sex success stories and how taking just one step can take your sex life from static to ecstatic. From finding closure with an ex to trying out swinging and finding it works, and looking for sex after a life after not having any, each of these people have taken a big step towards changing their lives. Get inspired to create your own sex-cess story. 

I also answer questions about what to do if your boyfriend won’t communicate openly with you about your sex life, how to be more confident rocking the cowgirl position and what to do if mismatched libidos are making you feel insecure in your relationship.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • How real listener stories of self-discovery and sexual growth can inspire your own journey.
  • The keys to building confidence, communicating needs, and reigniting passion in your relationship.
  • Actionable tips for embracing pleasure, navigating mismatched desires, and taking control of your sex life.


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Confidence is everything. It affects the way we perceive ourselves, how we interact with others, and definitely shapes our sex life. On today’s show, I am joined by Serena Kerrigan, the ‘Queen of Confidence.’

Serena talks about what she has learned from going on over 50 online dates with men, how to make the “whoring twenties” fun, and her passion for masturbation. Plus, we answer your questions like how to feel confident after hooking up for the first time and how to feel sexy no matter what.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • How to build unshakable confidence through self-love, manifestation, and daily affirmations.
  • Why approaching dating with curiosity (and a sense of humor) can completely change your experience.
  • The connection between knowing your body through masturbation and feeling empowered in the bedroom.


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Confidence is everything. It affects the way we perceive ourselves, how we interact with others, and definitely shapes our sex life. On today’s show, I am joined by Serena Kerrigan, the ‘Queen of Confidence.’

Serena talks about what she has learned from going on over 50 online dates with men, how to make the “whoring twenties” fun, and her passion for masturbation. Plus, we answer your questions like how to feel confident after hooking up for the first time and how to feel sexy no matter what.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • How to build unshakable confidence through self-love, manifestation, and daily affirmations.
  • Why approaching dating with curiosity (and a sense of humor) can completely change your experience.
  • The connection between knowing your body through masturbation and feeling empowered in the bedroom.


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Published 2024-12-24

Hotline Calls: Unlock Your Best Orgasm Yet

53 min
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In this episode I take calls from our Sex With Emily Hotline and we get into it! 

Your questions include: What to do if you masturbate but can’t orgasm during sex, the best ways to meet people and date when newly sober, and what happens when your partner’s sexual fantasy creates issues in your relationship. Plus, I review how to start having sex again after a dry spell and when it might be time to break up if you’re sexually incompatible.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • How to embrace fantasies like cuckolding while avoiding shame and regret.
  • What to do when your partner’s sexual style doesn’t match your needs.
  • Sexy hacks to keep intimacy alive—even when living with parents.


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In this episode I take calls from our Sex With Emily Hotline and we get into it! 

Your questions include: What to do if you masturbate but can’t orgasm during sex, the best ways to meet people and date when newly sober, and what happens when your partner’s sexual fantasy creates issues in your relationship. Plus, I review how to start having sex again after a dry spell and when it might be time to break up if you’re sexually incompatible.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • How to embrace fantasies like cuckolding while avoiding shame and regret.
  • What to do when your partner’s sexual style doesn’t match your needs.
  • Sexy hacks to keep intimacy alive—even when living with parents.


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Published 2024-12-20

Unleash Your Kink w/ Justine Cross

42 min
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Do you want a little more kink in your life, but aren’t sure how to get started? If so...you’ll definitely want to tune into my interview with professional dominatrix & kink expert, Mistress Justine Cross. We discuss the myths and basics of BDSM starting with what the hell it even means (bondage, discipline, domination, submission and masochism). We show you how to begin exploring your kinks even if you are brand new to the game and we discuss some of the most common fantasies.

We also answer your questions about: techniques for restraining your partner (fun!), the importance of communicating your fantasies, and how to explore dom/sub dynamics.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • How to explore BDSM, from restraint play to introducing kinks.
  • The biggest myths about BDSM and why it’s not all whips and chains.
  • Simple ways to master consent, boundaries, and better communication.


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Do you want a little more kink in your life, but aren’t sure how to get started? If so...you’ll definitely want to tune into my interview with professional dominatrix & kink expert, Mistress Justine Cross. We discuss the myths and basics of BDSM starting with what the hell it even means (bondage, discipline, domination, submission and masochism). We show you how to begin exploring your kinks even if you are brand new to the game and we discuss some of the most common fantasies.

We also answer your questions about: techniques for restraining your partner (fun!), the importance of communicating your fantasies, and how to explore dom/sub dynamics.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • How to explore BDSM, from restraint play to introducing kinks.
  • The biggest myths about BDSM and why it’s not all whips and chains.
  • Simple ways to master consent, boundaries, and better communication.


Show Notes:


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Published 2024-12-17

My Top Tips for 69ing & Oral Sex

33 min
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Let’s 69! It’s one of those sex acts where you tend to be a full-on lover or hater. But no matter what camp you fall in, chances are that if you’re having sex, you’re going to come across the famous, the controversial, 69 sex position. Why not learn some pointers to make the whole thing more hot, and more comfortable?  

First, I share research with you that might motivate you to put 69 on regular rotation in your sex life. Next, I give you techniques for being an excellent oral giver, and strategies like mindful masturbation, to help you become a more relaxed and erotic receiver. Finally, I talk position tips like the Sideways 69 and the Power 69 for you to play with, and take all your pressing questions on 69ing and oral sex.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • Game-changing 69 positions to maximize pleasure.
  • Oral sex tips to elevate giving and receiving.
  • How to relax and fully enjoy receiving pleasure.


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Let’s 69! It’s one of those sex acts where you tend to be a full-on lover or hater. But no matter what camp you fall in, chances are that if you’re having sex, you’re going to come across the famous, the controversial, 69 sex position. Why not learn some pointers to make the whole thing more hot, and more comfortable?  

First, I share research with you that might motivate you to put 69 on regular rotation in your sex life. Next, I give you techniques for being an excellent oral giver, and strategies like mindful masturbation, to help you become a more relaxed and erotic receiver. Finally, I talk position tips like the Sideways 69 and the Power 69 for you to play with, and take all your pressing questions on 69ing and oral sex.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • Game-changing 69 positions to maximize pleasure.
  • Oral sex tips to elevate giving and receiving.
  • How to relax and fully enjoy receiving pleasure.


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Published 2024-12-13

WTF is “Normal” Sex w/ Dr. Maria Uloko

36 min
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Ever wonder if your penis/vulva/genitalia are normal? In this episode, I’m joined by urologist Dr. Maria Uloko who’s revolutionizing sexual healthcare. We get into why vulva-owners need testosterone, what happens when penis-owners masturbate too aggressively, how shame can interfere with getting the care you need, and how common it is to experience sexual dysfunction.

I also answer your questions including when it’s time to date again after a toxic relationship, what to do when your partner’s porn preferences look nothing like you, how to be dominant in the bedroom and toy recs to amplify oral sex on a vulva.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • How to address common causes of pain during sex
  • Treatments for sexual health challenges
  • Why there’s no “normal” when it comes to sexual health


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Ever wonder if your penis/vulva/genitalia are normal? In this episode, I’m joined by urologist Dr. Maria Uloko who’s revolutionizing sexual healthcare. We get into why vulva-owners need testosterone, what happens when penis-owners masturbate too aggressively, how shame can interfere with getting the care you need, and how common it is to experience sexual dysfunction.

I also answer your questions including when it’s time to date again after a toxic relationship, what to do when your partner’s porn preferences look nothing like you, how to be dominant in the bedroom and toy recs to amplify oral sex on a vulva.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • How to address common causes of pain during sex
  • Treatments for sexual health challenges
  • Why there’s no “normal” when it comes to sexual health


Show Notes:


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Published 2024-12-10

Hotline Calls: Wetter is Better

39 min
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On today’s show, it’s all about finding answers to your trickiest questions and unleashing your full pleasure potential. How do you orgasm when you don’t know how? Or have sex for the first time, when you’re a virgin? How do you ease into an open relationship or threesome? How do you find balance in your masturbation routine?

Whether you’re too dry (and it’s puzzling your partner), or too wet (and it’s puzzling both of you) I help you figure out solutions to overcome your biggest sexual challenges.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • How to break through orgasm barriers with self-pleasure tips.
  • The essentials for navigating open relationships and threesomes.
  • Why embracing the messiness of sex leads to better intimacy.


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On today’s show, it’s all about finding answers to your trickiest questions and unleashing your full pleasure potential. How do you orgasm when you don’t know how? Or have sex for the first time, when you’re a virgin? How do you ease into an open relationship or threesome? How do you find balance in your masturbation routine?

Whether you’re too dry (and it’s puzzling your partner), or too wet (and it’s puzzling both of you) I help you figure out solutions to overcome your biggest sexual challenges.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • How to break through orgasm barriers with self-pleasure tips.
  • The essentials for navigating open relationships and threesomes.
  • Why embracing the messiness of sex leads to better intimacy.


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Published 2024-12-06

Finding Your Bedroom Voice w/ Lake Bell

41 min
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When it comes to your sexual style, have you ever thought about your voice? Do you moan? Slow things down? Pitch up or down an octave? 

Actor, writer and director Lake Bell is obsessed with the human voice. On today’s show, we’ll discuss her audiobook Inside Voice, which explores this obsession, including the “sexy baby voice” phenomenon - which happens to be her least favorite choice for bedroom talk. We also discuss your takes on dating in your 40s, and why things often get better with age when it comes to the pursuit of romance. All this and more with my amazing guest, Lake Bell.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • How your voice can enhance intimacy and authenticity in and out of the bedroom.
  • Why playful and respectful communication is the key to better sex.
  • The joys of dating in your 40s, from confidence to self-awareness.


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When it comes to your sexual style, have you ever thought about your voice? Do you moan? Slow things down? Pitch up or down an octave? 

Actor, writer and director Lake Bell is obsessed with the human voice. On today’s show, we’ll discuss her audiobook Inside Voice, which explores this obsession, including the “sexy baby voice” phenomenon - which happens to be her least favorite choice for bedroom talk. We also discuss your takes on dating in your 40s, and why things often get better with age when it comes to the pursuit of romance. All this and more with my amazing guest, Lake Bell.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • How your voice can enhance intimacy and authenticity in and out of the bedroom.
  • Why playful and respectful communication is the key to better sex.
  • The joys of dating in your 40s, from confidence to self-awareness.


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It’s the question everyone has asked themselves at least once. Should I break up with my partner? Relationship success depends on so many factors - communication, emotional intimacy, and of course - sexual connection. Figuring out which problems are worth solving and which ones are directing you to the exit sign can be confusing, exhausting and painful.

So on today’s show, I take your questions - live - to figure out if you should make up or break up. Is bad sex worth leaving someone over? What about an age gap that puts both of you in much different life stages? Or how do you know if an affair has the potential to turn into something real? We learn so much from other people’s relationships. No matter where you are in your own, this will teach us all how to make better choices going forward.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  •  How to navigate the crossroads of making up or breaking up—and what signs to look for in your relationship.
  • Why communication, boundaries, and therapy are game-changers when deciding whether to stay or go.
  • The truth about age gaps, open relationships, and the role of emotional honesty in finding real compatibility.


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It’s the question everyone has asked themselves at least once. Should I break up with my partner? Relationship success depends on so many factors - communication, emotional intimacy, and of course - sexual connection. Figuring out which problems are worth solving and which ones are directing you to the exit sign can be confusing, exhausting and painful.

So on today’s show, I take your questions - live - to figure out if you should make up or break up. Is bad sex worth leaving someone over? What about an age gap that puts both of you in much different life stages? Or how do you know if an affair has the potential to turn into something real? We learn so much from other people’s relationships. No matter where you are in your own, this will teach us all how to make better choices going forward.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  •  How to navigate the crossroads of making up or breaking up—and what signs to look for in your relationship.
  • Why communication, boundaries, and therapy are game-changers when deciding whether to stay or go.
  • The truth about age gaps, open relationships, and the role of emotional honesty in finding real compatibility.


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Published 2024-11-29

Pick Me Girls w/ Violet Benson

46 min
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I am joined by Violet Benson, host of the podcast Almost Adulting and creator of the wildly popular Instagram account @DaddyIssues_. Over the last couple of years, Violet has become well known for her irreverent relationship and dating advice. 

In this interview, Violet reveals why she has stopped dating (for now), what exactly a “pick me girl” is and how attraction is not always dependent on good looks. And because this is a sex show after all, Violet shared some tips for avoiding potentially embarrassing moments in the bedroom. This is a good one!

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • Why taking a break from dating can reset your emotional boundaries
  • How to embrace authenticity in relationships
  • Practical tips to avoid awkward bedroom moments


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I am joined by Violet Benson, host of the podcast Almost Adulting and creator of the wildly popular Instagram account @DaddyIssues_. Over the last couple of years, Violet has become well known for her irreverent relationship and dating advice. 

In this interview, Violet reveals why she has stopped dating (for now), what exactly a “pick me girl” is and how attraction is not always dependent on good looks. And because this is a sex show after all, Violet shared some tips for avoiding potentially embarrassing moments in the bedroom. This is a good one!

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • Why taking a break from dating can reset your emotional boundaries
  • How to embrace authenticity in relationships
  • Practical tips to avoid awkward bedroom moments


Show Notes:


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Published 2024-11-26

The Ultimate Pleasure Guide

22 min
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‘Tis the season to give and receive! In this episode, I’m unwrapping the 2024 Sex With Emily Holiday Gift Guide to help you bring more pleasure to your loved ones—and yourself—this year. From wellness essentials to stocking stuffers and, of course, must-have sex toys, there’s something for everyone on your list (yes, even your grandparents!). I’ll share my top picks, tips for introducing a partner to toys, and why the gift of pleasure is truly the gift that keeps on giving.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • When and how to gift a sex toy.
  • Tips for introducing toys into your relationship.
  • Emily’s favorite pleasure-filled gifts for the holidays.


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‘Tis the season to give and receive! In this episode, I’m unwrapping the 2024 Sex With Emily Holiday Gift Guide to help you bring more pleasure to your loved ones—and yourself—this year. From wellness essentials to stocking stuffers and, of course, must-have sex toys, there’s something for everyone on your list (yes, even your grandparents!). I’ll share my top picks, tips for introducing a partner to toys, and why the gift of pleasure is truly the gift that keeps on giving.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • When and how to gift a sex toy.
  • Tips for introducing toys into your relationship.
  • Emily’s favorite pleasure-filled gifts for the holidays.


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Published 2024-11-22

The Key To Happiness w/ Dr. Amen

41 min
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What if being happy was a moral obligation, like voting and recycling? Would you take steps to be happier? Today, I’m joined by brain health expert, and New York Times best-selling author Dr. Daniel Amen to talk about how our thinking patterns shape our lives in and outside of the bedroom. We discuss the ways stress affects your sexual performance, give tips to combat your automatic negative thoughts (ANTS), and discuss his book Your Brain is Always Listening

We answer a question from a habitual cheater on how to break the cycle and discuss how Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD) can get in the way of your orgasm. Come along on a fascinating deep dive into how shifting your mindset can transform your brain, your relationships, and your pleasure.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • How to silence negative thoughts with easy daily habits to rewire your brain
  • Why a healthy brain means better sex, from focus to pleasure
  • How to break toxic cycles and build stronger, happier relationships


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What if being happy was a moral obligation, like voting and recycling? Would you take steps to be happier? Today, I’m joined by brain health expert, and New York Times best-selling author Dr. Daniel Amen to talk about how our thinking patterns shape our lives in and outside of the bedroom. We discuss the ways stress affects your sexual performance, give tips to combat your automatic negative thoughts (ANTS), and discuss his book Your Brain is Always Listening

We answer a question from a habitual cheater on how to break the cycle and discuss how Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD) can get in the way of your orgasm. Come along on a fascinating deep dive into how shifting your mindset can transform your brain, your relationships, and your pleasure.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • How to silence negative thoughts with easy daily habits to rewire your brain
  • Why a healthy brain means better sex, from focus to pleasure
  • How to break toxic cycles and build stronger, happier relationships


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Published 2024-11-19

Talk Your Way to Better Sex

49 min
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Here’s a secret. The #1 obstacle standing between you and the sex of your dreams probably comes down to exactly one thing: communication. It’s not a cliche - it’s a skill, and on today’s Ask Emily show, we’re talking our way to better sex. So let’s bravely face the awkwardness, with communication hacks for even the most nerve-wracking of convos.

Clamming up during sex talks? I’ve got a confidence-building solution for that. How about giving tough feedback, like asking for better handjobs, or addressing a funky smell? We get into it! Finally, we tackle tough topics like telling a friend you have feelings for them, whether or not to open a relationship, and if you should stay in a partnership if the sex is just OK. Communication is lubrication, but you know what? It’s also liberating, and by the end of this episode, you’ll be feeling a lot more free.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • How to confidently speak up about your needs in the bedroom
  • Why communication is the ultimate lubricant for better sex
  • The secret to navigating relationship dilemmas—whether it’s mismatched libidos, feelings for a friend, or trying non-monogamy for the first time.


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Here’s a secret. The #1 obstacle standing between you and the sex of your dreams probably comes down to exactly one thing: communication. It’s not a cliche - it’s a skill, and on today’s Ask Emily show, we’re talking our way to better sex. So let’s bravely face the awkwardness, with communication hacks for even the most nerve-wracking of convos.

Clamming up during sex talks? I’ve got a confidence-building solution for that. How about giving tough feedback, like asking for better handjobs, or addressing a funky smell? We get into it! Finally, we tackle tough topics like telling a friend you have feelings for them, whether or not to open a relationship, and if you should stay in a partnership if the sex is just OK. Communication is lubrication, but you know what? It’s also liberating, and by the end of this episode, you’ll be feeling a lot more free.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • How to confidently speak up about your needs in the bedroom
  • Why communication is the ultimate lubricant for better sex
  • The secret to navigating relationship dilemmas—whether it’s mismatched libidos, feelings for a friend, or trying non-monogamy for the first time.


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On this episode, I sit down with the hilarious Nikki Glaser, comedian, and host of The Nikki Glaser Podcast. We discuss how to take oral sex to the next level, why a great orgasm can lead to an intense connection, and the power of tapping into a person’s “energy” on a date.

Nikki also shares her go-to sex toys, favorite types of porn, experience with squirting, and personal journey with mental health and body acceptance. We also dive into the hidden pleasure of canceled plans, why feeling horny can be like being drunk, and why your flaws DON’T make you a bad person.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  •  How taking charge of your orgasms can boost your connection with partners and why having a vibrator isn’t “cheating"
  • Explore the journey of accepting yourself fully—flaws, quirks, and all—and learn why self-confidence is the ultimate turn-on.
  • Get real about setting boundaries in relationships, from balancing power dynamics to knowing when to wait before taking things to the next level.


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On this episode, I sit down with the hilarious Nikki Glaser, comedian, and host of The Nikki Glaser Podcast. We discuss how to take oral sex to the next level, why a great orgasm can lead to an intense connection, and the power of tapping into a person’s “energy” on a date.

Nikki also shares her go-to sex toys, favorite types of porn, experience with squirting, and personal journey with mental health and body acceptance. We also dive into the hidden pleasure of canceled plans, why feeling horny can be like being drunk, and why your flaws DON’T make you a bad person.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  •  How taking charge of your orgasms can boost your connection with partners and why having a vibrator isn’t “cheating"
  • Explore the journey of accepting yourself fully—flaws, quirks, and all—and learn why self-confidence is the ultimate turn-on.
  • Get real about setting boundaries in relationships, from balancing power dynamics to knowing when to wait before taking things to the next level.


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Published 2024-11-12

Hotline Calls: Better Oral & Honeymoon Sex

49 min
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On today’s show, I am answering all of your pressing calls from the Sex with Emily hotline! We get into some great topics like how to start enjoying receiving oral sex, ways to spice up your honeymoon sex without actual penetration, and what to do if you aren’t getting as wet as you used to during sex. Plus, new methods for giving oral sex to prevent discomfort and how to decide if it’s worth staying in your relationship after seven years (and three children).

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • Oral sex tips to prevent discomfort
  • How to make your wedding night intimate without penetration
  • How to build confidence with communication


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On today’s show, I am answering all of your pressing calls from the Sex with Emily hotline! We get into some great topics like how to start enjoying receiving oral sex, ways to spice up your honeymoon sex without actual penetration, and what to do if you aren’t getting as wet as you used to during sex. Plus, new methods for giving oral sex to prevent discomfort and how to decide if it’s worth staying in your relationship after seven years (and three children).

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • Oral sex tips to prevent discomfort
  • How to make your wedding night intimate without penetration
  • How to build confidence with communication


Show Notes:


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In this episode of Sex With Emily, my friend and somatic sexologist Dolly Josette, The Pleasure Muse, returns to help us reconnect with our bodies and unlock deeper pleasure. She shares how to pleasure yourself and communicate those desires to your partner. You’ll walk away knowing how to heal trauma in your genitals, access the prostate for an epic orgasm (for all bodies!), and deepen intimacy with yourself and your partner to enhance your life.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • Why embodiment is the key to unlocking deeper pleasure and connection.
  • Why releasing stored trauma (yes, even in your genitals!) can transform your sex life and help you feel more during intimacy.
  • How to access the prostate for mind-blowing orgasms and greater sexual fulfillment.


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In this episode of Sex With Emily, my friend and somatic sexologist Dolly Josette, The Pleasure Muse, returns to help us reconnect with our bodies and unlock deeper pleasure. She shares how to pleasure yourself and communicate those desires to your partner. You’ll walk away knowing how to heal trauma in your genitals, access the prostate for an epic orgasm (for all bodies!), and deepen intimacy with yourself and your partner to enhance your life.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • Why embodiment is the key to unlocking deeper pleasure and connection.
  • Why releasing stored trauma (yes, even in your genitals!) can transform your sex life and help you feel more during intimacy.
  • How to access the prostate for mind-blowing orgasms and greater sexual fulfillment.


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Published 2024-11-05

How Social Media is Blocking Your Intimacy

34 min
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Social media is becoming the “third'' partner in so many of our relationships, but it’s not the threesome most of us are craving. Sure, it’s a great way to connect, but it can take a major toll on our sex lives.

Today’s episode gets into the good, bad, and questionable impacts of social media. I answer your top questions like, what does it mean if my partner follows a bunch of Instagram models? If my partner is paying for Only Fans, does it count as cheating? And is it okay to check my partner's phone? (We surveyed our listeners and you might be surprised how many of you have snooped.)

Also, how does all the endless scrolling affect your confidence? I offer advice on how to manage the relationship with your phone, so you can stop the “compare and despair” mindset and build stronger relationships with yourself and others.


In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • How Social Media Becomes a “Third Wheel” in Relationships
  • The Sneaky Ways Social Media Can Undermine Your Confidence
  • Micro-Cheating, Doomscrolling, and the Need for Digital Detox


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Social media is becoming the “third'' partner in so many of our relationships, but it’s not the threesome most of us are craving. Sure, it’s a great way to connect, but it can take a major toll on our sex lives.

Today’s episode gets into the good, bad, and questionable impacts of social media. I answer your top questions like, what does it mean if my partner follows a bunch of Instagram models? If my partner is paying for Only Fans, does it count as cheating? And is it okay to check my partner's phone? (We surveyed our listeners and you might be surprised how many of you have snooped.)

Also, how does all the endless scrolling affect your confidence? I offer advice on how to manage the relationship with your phone, so you can stop the “compare and despair” mindset and build stronger relationships with yourself and others.


In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • How Social Media Becomes a “Third Wheel” in Relationships
  • The Sneaky Ways Social Media Can Undermine Your Confidence
  • Micro-Cheating, Doomscrolling, and the Need for Digital Detox


Show Notes:


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Published 2024-11-01

Prenups & Breakups w/ Laura Wasser

56 min
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You may think of her as divorce attorney to the stars, and Laura Wasser is certainly that. But Laura is also a sharp thinker on marriage and communication, and is here to tell us what every couple needs to know before saying "I do." She says that couples who have the prenup conversation are actually more likely to stay together than those who don't, and that money is an even bigger conversational taboo than sex. She also tells us what it's like repping actor clients vs. musician clients, why we're seeing a celebrity-led trend of "gentle separations," and how social media has changed the game for divorce cases.

Plus, I take your divorce questions! When is it time to say "I don't," and get the hell out? Or how about if you're single, and have a tendency to hook up with older, separated men -- are they just your type? Or...are there some deeper conversations you need to be having, with them, and with yourself? Let's talk dating as a divorcee: when is it OK to tell the kids you've met someone new? And finally, after being married for so long, how do you tell the difference between love and lust, when you're back on the scene? All this and more, on today's divorce show.


In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • Why open conversations about finances are just as crucial as discussing intimacy in relationships
  • The power of the “prenup conversation” for a stronger relationship
  • Why understanding each other’s relationship expectations can prevent major conflicts down the line


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You may think of her as divorce attorney to the stars, and Laura Wasser is certainly that. But Laura is also a sharp thinker on marriage and communication, and is here to tell us what every couple needs to know before saying "I do." She says that couples who have the prenup conversation are actually more likely to stay together than those who don't, and that money is an even bigger conversational taboo than sex. She also tells us what it's like repping actor clients vs. musician clients, why we're seeing a celebrity-led trend of "gentle separations," and how social media has changed the game for divorce cases.

Plus, I take your divorce questions! When is it time to say "I don't," and get the hell out? Or how about if you're single, and have a tendency to hook up with older, separated men -- are they just your type? Or...are there some deeper conversations you need to be having, with them, and with yourself? Let's talk dating as a divorcee: when is it OK to tell the kids you've met someone new? And finally, after being married for so long, how do you tell the difference between love and lust, when you're back on the scene? All this and more, on today's divorce show.


In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • Why open conversations about finances are just as crucial as discussing intimacy in relationships
  • The power of the “prenup conversation” for a stronger relationship
  • Why understanding each other’s relationship expectations can prevent major conflicts down the line


Show Notes:


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Published 2024-10-29

Hotline Calls: Troubleshoot Your Orgasms

42 min
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How’s your orgasm lately? Do you wish it was more intense? More frequent? More predictable with a partner?

Orgasms don’t have to be a thing of mystery. And that’s why today's call in show is devoted to all things O. First up: she fears a loss of control while climaxing, which derails her arousal altogether. Can she relax and stay present? Next, he’s fit and athletic, with a girlfriend who loves sex. The problem? It takes him a long time to finish – maybe too long. Finally - when you’re with a partner who loves giving you oral, but it’s not exactly getting you off…what gives? I answer these questions and more on todays episode. 

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • How to get out of your own head and finally let go for a better orgasm
  • Why pleasure is a right, not a reward
  • Practical tips for tackling delayed orgasms and performance pressure


Show Notes:


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How’s your orgasm lately? Do you wish it was more intense? More frequent? More predictable with a partner?

Orgasms don’t have to be a thing of mystery. And that’s why today's call in show is devoted to all things O. First up: she fears a loss of control while climaxing, which derails her arousal altogether. Can she relax and stay present? Next, he’s fit and athletic, with a girlfriend who loves sex. The problem? It takes him a long time to finish – maybe too long. Finally - when you’re with a partner who loves giving you oral, but it’s not exactly getting you off…what gives? I answer these questions and more on todays episode. 

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • How to get out of your own head and finally let go for a better orgasm
  • Why pleasure is a right, not a reward
  • Practical tips for tackling delayed orgasms and performance pressure


Show Notes:


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Published 2024-10-25

Getting Bi-Curious w/ Jen Winston

51 min
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How do you know if you’re bisexual? Author Jen Winston helps me answer just that. In her book Greedy: Notes From A Bisexual Who Wants Too Much, Jen reveals how she came to terms with her bisexuality, in a world that loves to slap stereotypes on it: greedy, slutty, and constantly confused.

Whether you’re a vulva owner in a heterosexual partnership who wants to explore same sex fantasies, or a penis owner who has recently come out as gay but still has thoughts about the opposite sex, Jen helps us all understand why sexuality is about so much more than who you’re sleeping with. Because after all, your sexuality is less about the destination and more about the journey to get there. 


In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • Labels like bi or pan are for you to explore your identity, not to please others
  • Communication is everything. Talk openly with your partner about desires and fantasies to strengthen intimacy
  • Bisexuality isn’t one-size-fits-all: It’s a personal journey, and questioning your sexuality is part of it


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How do you know if you’re bisexual? Author Jen Winston helps me answer just that. In her book Greedy: Notes From A Bisexual Who Wants Too Much, Jen reveals how she came to terms with her bisexuality, in a world that loves to slap stereotypes on it: greedy, slutty, and constantly confused.

Whether you’re a vulva owner in a heterosexual partnership who wants to explore same sex fantasies, or a penis owner who has recently come out as gay but still has thoughts about the opposite sex, Jen helps us all understand why sexuality is about so much more than who you’re sleeping with. Because after all, your sexuality is less about the destination and more about the journey to get there. 


In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • Labels like bi or pan are for you to explore your identity, not to please others
  • Communication is everything. Talk openly with your partner about desires and fantasies to strengthen intimacy
  • Bisexuality isn’t one-size-fits-all: It’s a personal journey, and questioning your sexuality is part of it


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Published 2024-10-22

How to Have a Playful Date

37 min
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Variety is the spice of life – as well as vital to your sex life. But how many times have you turned to your partner on Friday night and said: “how about dinner? Usual spot?”

Planning a creative date requires thinking outside of the box. That’s why I’ve done the legwork for you of helping you create playful dates that are as unique as they are arousing. From role playing sexy strangers to planning out a sensual dinner at the farmer’s market, these date ideas will give you a break from the norm - while also building sexual tension and enhancing intimacy.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • Tips on how to align your dates with your unique arousal style, whether it’s through touch, adventure, or conversation, to keep things fresh and fun
  • Fun, creative date ideas—like role-playing as sexy strangers or planning a sensual dinner at the farmer’s market—that spark connection and curiosity
  • How to break free from routine and create exciting, playful dates that build sexual tension and enhance intimacy


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Variety is the spice of life – as well as vital to your sex life. But how many times have you turned to your partner on Friday night and said: “how about dinner? Usual spot?”

Planning a creative date requires thinking outside of the box. That’s why I’ve done the legwork for you of helping you create playful dates that are as unique as they are arousing. From role playing sexy strangers to planning out a sensual dinner at the farmer’s market, these date ideas will give you a break from the norm - while also building sexual tension and enhancing intimacy.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • Tips on how to align your dates with your unique arousal style, whether it’s through touch, adventure, or conversation, to keep things fresh and fun
  • Fun, creative date ideas—like role-playing as sexy strangers or planning a sensual dinner at the farmer’s market—that spark connection and curiosity
  • How to break free from routine and create exciting, playful dates that build sexual tension and enhance intimacy


Show Notes:


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It’s time to debunk the toxic myths around sex and age. Does sexual satisfaction drop off as you get older? Absolutely not! In fact, the data tells us the exact opposite is true. Today, anthropologist, bestselling author and my dear friend Dr. Wednesday Martin and I lay out the facts, which is fitting: we’re both in our fifties! 

If you’re not in your fifties yet, here’s what you can look forward to. It’s the decade many of us hit the reset button on our sexual desires. It’s the decade you start purely having sex for pleasure. And it’s the decade your confidence and communication get even better because you’ve honed your relationship (and career!) skills. Wednesday and I talk about why your fifties are so sexy, the signs of perimenopause and menopause and how to treat both, and our best advice for younger women.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • Why your 50s are a time for empowerment, confidence, and embracing your desires.
  • Tips for navigating bodily changes and maintaining intimacy in midlife.
  • Understanding the impact of menopause on your body and libido, and how to adapt for a fulfilling sex life.​


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It’s time to debunk the toxic myths around sex and age. Does sexual satisfaction drop off as you get older? Absolutely not! In fact, the data tells us the exact opposite is true. Today, anthropologist, bestselling author and my dear friend Dr. Wednesday Martin and I lay out the facts, which is fitting: we’re both in our fifties! 

If you’re not in your fifties yet, here’s what you can look forward to. It’s the decade many of us hit the reset button on our sexual desires. It’s the decade you start purely having sex for pleasure. And it’s the decade your confidence and communication get even better because you’ve honed your relationship (and career!) skills. Wednesday and I talk about why your fifties are so sexy, the signs of perimenopause and menopause and how to treat both, and our best advice for younger women.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • Why your 50s are a time for empowerment, confidence, and embracing your desires.
  • Tips for navigating bodily changes and maintaining intimacy in midlife.
  • Understanding the impact of menopause on your body and libido, and how to adapt for a fulfilling sex life.​


Show Notes:


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Housewife turned billion-dollar co-founder Lisa Bilyeu is the picture of confidence: she’s got a thriving business, a partner she adores, and basically, is a literal boss. But she also overcame illness, insecurity, and massive relationship challenges to get where she is today.

In her book Radical Confidence, Lisa shares the lessons that changed her life, and helped her become the hero of her own story. On today’s show, I ask her about keeping the sexual spark alive in a long term relationship, the “purgatory of the mundane,” and how to have a growth mindset with your partner.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • Radical confidence is built by taking action, even when you’re scared.
  • How to escape the “purgatory of the mundane” by making small changes and stop waiting for the perfect moment.
  • All about validating yourself—don’t rely on others for approval, celebrate your own wins.


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Housewife turned billion-dollar co-founder Lisa Bilyeu is the picture of confidence: she’s got a thriving business, a partner she adores, and basically, is a literal boss. But she also overcame illness, insecurity, and massive relationship challenges to get where she is today.

In her book Radical Confidence, Lisa shares the lessons that changed her life, and helped her become the hero of her own story. On today’s show, I ask her about keeping the sexual spark alive in a long term relationship, the “purgatory of the mundane,” and how to have a growth mindset with your partner.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • Radical confidence is built by taking action, even when you’re scared.
  • How to escape the “purgatory of the mundane” by making small changes and stop waiting for the perfect moment.
  • All about validating yourself—don’t rely on others for approval, celebrate your own wins.


Show Notes:


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Published 2024-10-11

Lasting Longer & Low Libido

45 min
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When it comes to your most pressing sex issues, have you ever wondered: “ugh, is it just me?” I promise: it’s not just you! To prove it, I’m tackling your top sex questions in this episode. From raising your libido to acing your oral, we cover a lot of ground in this one. 

How do you talk to your partner about sex? I teach you how to broach this conversation with compassion, and how to normalize sex talks in general. How about amping up your sex drive? There are hacks for that! Maybe you want to last longer in bed, get better at oral, or spice up your sex life. There’s a whole world of solutions for those, and I walk you through them. Whether it’s toys, technique, or just a good talk, this episode is all about finding answers, so you can have the pleasure you deserve.


In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • How to talk to your partner about sex or trying something new
  • How to get better at oral
  • How to spice up your sex life
  • How to increase your sex drive
  • How to last longer during sex


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When it comes to your most pressing sex issues, have you ever wondered: “ugh, is it just me?” I promise: it’s not just you! To prove it, I’m tackling your top sex questions in this episode. From raising your libido to acing your oral, we cover a lot of ground in this one. 

How do you talk to your partner about sex? I teach you how to broach this conversation with compassion, and how to normalize sex talks in general. How about amping up your sex drive? There are hacks for that! Maybe you want to last longer in bed, get better at oral, or spice up your sex life. There’s a whole world of solutions for those, and I walk you through them. Whether it’s toys, technique, or just a good talk, this episode is all about finding answers, so you can have the pleasure you deserve.


In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • How to talk to your partner about sex or trying something new
  • How to get better at oral
  • How to spice up your sex life
  • How to increase your sex drive
  • How to last longer during sex


Show Notes:


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Published 2024-10-08

All Things Anal w/ Dr. Evan Goldstein

52 min
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Anal sex isn’t as taboo as it once was but many people are still too shy to explore it. Today, I’m talking with nationally renowned anal surgeon and expert Dr. Evan Goldstein, about all things anal. From how to clean up before backdoor play (did you know you can be too clean?), to tips to enhance pleasure and the wide variety of things to try while you’re back there, we’ve got you covered.

Dr. Evan gives tips on how to relax, toys that can help, and which lubes are best for every act imaginable. We also break down lube shooters, how to minimize the risk of exposing yourself to STIs and what to consider whether you’re a top or a bottom.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • Why communication and preparation are key to a positive anal experience with your partner.
  • Expert tips on easing into anal play without discomfort or pain.
  • Safe and effective cleaning practices to maintain a healthy and pleasurable anal routine.


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Anal sex isn’t as taboo as it once was but many people are still too shy to explore it. Today, I’m talking with nationally renowned anal surgeon and expert Dr. Evan Goldstein, about all things anal. From how to clean up before backdoor play (did you know you can be too clean?), to tips to enhance pleasure and the wide variety of things to try while you’re back there, we’ve got you covered.

Dr. Evan gives tips on how to relax, toys that can help, and which lubes are best for every act imaginable. We also break down lube shooters, how to minimize the risk of exposing yourself to STIs and what to consider whether you’re a top or a bottom.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • Why communication and preparation are key to a positive anal experience with your partner.
  • Expert tips on easing into anal play without discomfort or pain.
  • Safe and effective cleaning practices to maintain a healthy and pleasurable anal routine.


Show Notes:


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Unlocking Your Fantasies

41 min
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What’s your biggest fantasy? It might be watching your partner with someone else, group sex, or sex in a public place. All answers are welcome because there’s no shame in your fantasy game! In this episode, I discuss the psychology behind your fantasies, how to bring them up with a partner and why having a rich fantasy life is an important part of your overall sexual health. Then I reveal the top fantasies you shared with me on Instagram.

I also answer your questions including, what to do if you fantasize about a best friend, how to be a third in a threesome, and explore latex, panty, and foot fetishes.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • How to embrace your sexual fantasies without shame—they’re healthy and common.
  • Learn how to communicate your fantasies with your partner for deeper intimacy.
  • The difference between Fantasies and Fetishes


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What’s your biggest fantasy? It might be watching your partner with someone else, group sex, or sex in a public place. All answers are welcome because there’s no shame in your fantasy game! In this episode, I discuss the psychology behind your fantasies, how to bring them up with a partner and why having a rich fantasy life is an important part of your overall sexual health. Then I reveal the top fantasies you shared with me on Instagram.

I also answer your questions including, what to do if you fantasize about a best friend, how to be a third in a threesome, and explore latex, panty, and foot fetishes.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • How to embrace your sexual fantasies without shame—they’re healthy and common.
  • Learn how to communicate your fantasies with your partner for deeper intimacy.
  • The difference between Fantasies and Fetishes


Show Notes:


See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

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