Why Won't You Date Me? with Nicole Byer

Comedian Lil Rel Howery (Get Out, Keepin' It Rel with Young Wayne  podcast) chats with Nicole about dating a single mom of 4, getting thrown off a horse on a date, matching with Lizzo on Raya, and shares his tips on how to hit on women at bars. 

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Reigning drag queen Willow Pill (winner of RuPaul's Drag Race S14) is here! She chats with Nicole about selling mushrooms as a pandemic side hustle, her thoughts on the iconic catchphrase RuPaul gave her on the show, and partying with fans while tripping on Molly. Plus they celebrate her iconic win being the first disabled person to win Drag Race, and Willow discusses the toxicity of hustle culture and the expectations on herself to work as the winning queen.

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Comedian Benton Ray is a kissless virgin. He chats with Nicole about the circumstances of this choice, they learn new terms for different sexual orientations, and what it means to go "basket shopping" for a partner.  Plus, Benton matches with straight guys on Tinder? There's a lot to unpack here. 

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Oh my god, he's here. Penn Badgley (You, Gossip Girl, host of Podcrushed) joins Nicole to discuss why people are infatuated by his serial killing character, why love is not depicted accurately in media, bringing down your walls to connect with people, and the existential insecurities he had when dating.

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Comedian Ketra Long joins Nicole to tell the story about how she got caught cheating twice in her relationship. She also shares the time she convinced Ne-Yo to come see her stand-up show, which she proceeded to absolutely bomb. Ketra teaches Nicole how she manages to get flown out of the country for expensive dates, plus talks about her first kiss and first fingering.  This is a wild episode, folks. 

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Co-star Aaron Jennings (Grand Crew) and Nicole discuss grade school romances, talking finances with your partner, the benefits of dating an older man, and that iconic Oscar #slap.  Aaron shares a wild date story involving a stalking ex-boyfriend, a gang member, and a gun. Plus, Nicole's crazy neighbor pays her a visit at 3:00AM. 

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Co-star Grasie Mercedes (Grand Crew, Access Hollywood) reflects on her 14-year relationship and the breakthrough she had in therapy which led to her divorce. They also discuss getting back into the dating scene at a later age, why white men love drinking milk, and what it means to Afro-Latina. Plus, Nicole shares her rave review for a Broadway show which featured many exposed dicks.  

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Stripper and exotic entertainer Vanity Jay chats with Nicole about all things stripping and sex work. She shares the complicated nature of dating both customers and strippers from clubs, the time she accidentally burned herself lighting her pussy on fire, and the challenges of dating a jealous partner. Plus, they help give advice to a listener seeking sex position recommendations for their partner who isn't the most endowed.

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Comedian and writer Sudi Green (SNL, I Love That For You) joins Nicole to discuss their awkward encounters with celebrities, having baby fever,  and farting in bed with your lover. Sudi shares a horrible hookup story where her partner was into "intense sex", but failed to preform. Nicole realizes she's horny for magic.

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Drag queen and reigning Miss Congeniality Kornbread "The Snack" Jeté (RuPaul's Drag Race S14) joins Nicole for a live episode, where they discuss her favorite kind of dick, the bad jobs she had before drag, and the men in prison who are contacting Nicole. Then, they answer audience questions about their favorite sex toys, the weirdest compliment they've gotten on a date, and blowjob tips.

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Drag queen icon Raja Gemini (winner of Drag Race S3) joins Nicole to discuss the stress of competing in the first all-winners season of RuPaul's Drag Race All Stars, why she keep her relationship off social media,  and shares all of her firsts - first kiss, handjob, and relationship. Plus, the story of why they got fired from MAC cosmetics, and how meeting RuPaul lead them to a job working on America's Next Top Model.

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Comedian Taylor Tomlinson chats with Nicole about using Instagram to document her panic attacks, coping with anxiety, and the time she was accused for being a catfish. Meanwhile, Nicole slept with a man who thought Black people were aliens.

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The hilarious Judy Gold joins Nicole to chat about the challenges of dating a therapist, her experience being selected as one of Time Out New York's Most Eligible Singles, the ethics of writing jokes about your partner, and the benefits of being married but living apart.  

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Comedian and friend Drew Lynch (America's Got Talent S10) chats with Nicole about a harrowing bee incident they had together on tour, managing high levels of anxiety, and why female comics have such a hard time attracting men. Plus, Nicole's horny for emo Batman, and explains why she loves giving blowjobs so much.

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Actress Tika Sumpter (Sonic The Hedgehog 1 & 2) recounts the times that boys have left her for her best friend, losing her expensive engagement ring, and meeting her partner on a Tyler Perry set.  Nicole realizes she has abandonment issues, and campaigns to be cast in Sonic the Hedgehog 3. 

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Actress Stephanie Beatriz (Encanto, Brooklyn Nine-Nine) chats with Nicole about leaving a 9 year relationship, dealing with bisexual erasure, and explains the scam behind the cult-like Twin Flames dating platform. Nicole recounts her wild experience hosting the Critics' Choice awards.

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Comedian Donnell Rawlings (Chappelle's Show, Winning Time: The Rise of the Lakers Dynasty) chats with Nicole about the powers of having a WAP, why successful Black women have the hardest time in relationships, being a throat goat, and hottest locations to meet new people. Meanwhile, Nicole gets her tiddy caught in a car window. 

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Comedian, actress and YouTuber star Lilly Singh (A Little Late with Lilly Singh, Dollface) chats with Nicole about April Fools' Day pranks, setting up a vision board in her shower, her experience hosting a late night talk show,  and offers her tip for getting dates on Raya. Meanwhile, Nicole tries to apply to the Soho house. 

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If there’s anyone who loves mindless gossip more than Nicole, it’s her good pal Solomon Georgio. In fact, it’s the subject of his brand new podcast from Team Coco, The Juice!

On The Juice, Solomon sources only the finest gossip stories about regular folks doing crazy s**t — no celeb headlines here! Each week he’s joined by hilarious guests such as Conan, Ira Madison III, Atsuko Okatsuka, and yes, Nicole herself! Just listen as she and Solomon dig into the wild stories that fans send in on the daily.

To hear Nicole dish some of HER stories with Solomon, head on over to The Juice and listen to the entire episode. Hit subscribe, leave a great review, and have a juicy day!

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Actress Raven Goodwin (Single Black Female, SMILF) shares her worst first dates, the adorable story behind her picnic proposal, what she planned for her bachelorette party, and how dating long distance helped strengthen the love in her relationship.

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Oh my god, it’s happening. Twins Darcey and Stacy Silva (TLC's 90 Day Fiancé: Before the 90 Days, Darcey & Stacey) are here! They chat with Nicole about how they were separately cast on the reality tv show, getting divorced on the same day, their plastic surgery journey, and TOM! Darcey also announces her split with Georgi, and Stacey shares details about the model who snuck into her husband's DMs in order to get onto the show.

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Drag king Tenderoni (Winner of The Drag Queen of the Year Pageant 2021) chats with Nicole about why they love older women, the challenges of performing as a drag king on your period, the scandalous story behind how they met their 12-year partner, and shares tips on how to be a flirt. Plus, Nicole reads some cringey dating app pick-up lines she's received. 

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Danielle Pinnock (Young Sheldon, Ghosts) and Nicole get mistaken for each other... a lot.  The comedian and writer chats with Nicole about the different actors they get confused for, the grueling process of booking an acting job, and the very strange story behind how Danielle's wedding ended up taking place in a hospital ICU. 

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Comedian and motivational speaker Jackie Fabulous joins Nicole to chat about negotiating prenups, how to gently give direction during sex, finding the funny in your flaws, and how to appear more desirable by looking less horny.

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Comedian Moses Storm lived in an art exhibit where he would sleep, shit, and had sex in front of an audience.  He navigates trying to find love while exhibiting, and being raided by Operation Fashion Police. Moses and Nicole also talk about shooting sex scenes for TV, preparing bits for dates, and the hookup culture on Birthright.

Check out Moses's new comedy special, Trash White now on HBO Max!

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Actress Shalita Grant (You, NCIS: New Orleans) talks to Nicole about her life dating an MMA fighter, her straight sex phrase, the moment she realized she was a natural at lesbian sex, and how her interest in polygamous relationships lead to her love of pole dancing. Nicole shares her blowjob trick that works every time. 

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Comedian Gina Yashere (The Daily Show, Bob Hearts Abishola) chats with Nicole about the adorable meet-cute story behind meeting her girlfriend at a women's festival. She also discusses the process behind working with Chuck Lorre to co-create the sitcom Bob Hearts Abishola, her non-confrontation approach to hiring a diverse writers' room, and how Different Strokes inspired her dream to come to America. Plus, Gina explains why her birthmark is a sign that she's a reincarnation of her grandmother.

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Actor and comedian Lamorne Morris (New Girl, Woke) is here! Lamorne teaches Nicole about the importance of playing hard to get, and how to act unavailable to attract a man. They read a listener's story about a date who ditched them at the bar to go buy wet wipes and take a shit. Plus, is TikTok now the hottest new app to find a relationship?

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Comedian and actress Abbi Jacobson (Broad City, The Mitchells vs the Machines) and Nicole go over a list of ways to make a man commit - is the advice solid or is it all just mind games? Plus, Abbi shares how she met her co-star Ilana Glazer, and their combined failure trying to ask out men over Facebook. She also shares her Raya success story, and her empowering message she sends when asking someone out. 

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Drag queen icon Bianca Del Rio (winner of Drag Race S6) joins Nicole to chat about the challenges of finding a partner who fits with your lifestyle, the smart system behind her meet-and-greets, getting reported on Grindr, shares secrets behind her impeccable wig lines, and throws lots of shade in between. It's a real good time - get into it!

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Comedian and actress Chelsea Peretti (Brooklyn Nine-Nine, Sing 2) chats with Nicole about the best places you can go to meet singles, strong pick-up lines, and how she met husband Jordan Peele through a DM. 

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Drag queen Nina West (Drag Race S11, Hairspray) is just as tragically single as Nicole. They commiserate over the single life, talk about how Nina’s life drastically changed after Drag Race, the most annoying responses to get on dating apps, and absolute deal breakers in a relationship.

Originally recorded May 25th, 2021.

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Drag queen Heidi N Closet (RuPaul's Drag Race S12) chats with Nicole about how her dating life changed after Drag Race, the kinky things she's introduced in the bedroom, the various names she's given all of her body parts, and lady glory holes. 

Plus, they answer all of your questions about Valentine's day - the best food to eat,  their worst Valentine's day, and their dream hookup.

Originally recorded February 12th, 2021.

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Friend, actress, and comedian D’Arcy Carden (The Good Place, Barry) joins Nicole live for some raw, unadulterated fun! They check in on how they've been handling the pandemie, the adorable details  behind D'Arcy's 15 year relationship, microdosing on shrooms, and oh boy really so much more. We had a big teeheehee. 

Originally recorded January 6th, 2021.

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The holidays are here! As a gift, we're releasing the livestreamed episodes from behind the paywall!  On today's episode, drag queen Naomi Smalls (RuPaul's Drag Race S8, All-Stars S4) joins Nicole to talk about her experience being a sheep farmer, how she navigated backlash from the Drag Race fandom, and the nicest dicks they've ever seen.  Plus, Naomi and Nicole answer your questions about the best food to eat before and after sex, their most awkward hookup stories, and the weirdest place they've boinked.

Originally recorded November 11th 2020.

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Comedian Joyelle Nicole Johnson lived with a dominatrix. She talks about the type of clients that would visit her apartment, and the kinky 'services' she was offered. Plus, she shares how she met her husband at a funeral, making a 'dessert room' for a wedding, and the importance of couples therapy in any relationship.   

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Comedian and actor Jimmy O. Yang (Silicon Valley, Love Hard) joins Nicole to tell the story of how he met his girlfriend, discusses at what point does a relationship become serious, and suggests Nicole change the name of the podcast in order to better manifest a partner. Jimmy gives acting tips and shares what he would teach in his 'practical acting' course, and Nicole's excited to have started watching The Office.

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Comedian Aida Rodriguez was kidnapped twice as a child.  She describes her time on the run with a murderer, and how she uses her stand-up comedy to process her traumas. They also discuss dating red flags to look out for, Nicole's love for a serial killer, plus a story from a listener who dated a sock-sniffing Trump supporter.

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Raven-Symoné (That's So Raven) and wife Miranda Maday join Nicole to share the story of how they met, broke up, and got back together again. They discuss learning to love your real self as well as your persona self, organizing a micro wedding during COVID, and Raven shares her experience co-officiating a wedding with Cardi B. Miranda suggests to Nicole how she can find love at OA meetings. 

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Friend and writer Shannon Joy Rodgers (Jimmy Kimmel Live!, Ellen) joins Nicole to talk about roller-blading, the costs and challenges of planning a COVID-safe wedding right now, and how she found her husband by sliding into the DMs. Plus, in a podcast first, Nicole receives a musical answer to the question "Would you date me?".

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Comedian Rob Corddry (Childrens Hospital, Hot Tub Time Machine) joins Nicole to discuss cannibalism, the art of taking a good profile picture, Rob gives advice on Nicole's dating app bio, and they both geek out over cars.

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Friend and writer Gilli Nissim (The Other Two, A.P Bio) joins Nicole to discuss breaking up in the middle of the pandemic, her experience speed dating over Zoom, and traveling abroad for hookups.  Nicole wishes that she can go on Birthright. 

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Comedian and writer Brittani Nichols (A Black Lady Sketch Show) chats with Nicole about recognizing different adult attachment styles in relationships, how her relationship sparked by a DM slide asking "Who's that zaddy?", and discusses why it's healthy to date multiple people at once. Plus, Nicole plays dead on a date.

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Filmmaker Carter Ray (The Change Up) chats with Nicole about their experience going through a 2nd puberty while on hormones, the challenges they faced coming out while attending a Christian high school, and the difference in dating women as a lesbian vs as a trans man. Carter shares his goal to reshape the representation of trans people seen on-screen.

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Does the couple that poop together, stay together? Grammy-award winning singer-songwriter Meghan Trainor and brother Ryan Trainor (co-hosts of Workin on It') discuss the special relationship that's bonded over pooping. Meghan confesses she had 2 toilets installed in her bathroom so her and her husband can poop together. Ryan shares how the pandemic lead him to sobriety. They also discuss dating red flags, the importance of being regular, and the effects on dating if you avoid social media. Plus, Nicole tries a Sybian.

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Drag queen Crystal Methyd (RuPaul's Drag Race S12) joins Nicole to chat about their most romantic date, getting the 'sex talk' at the age of 22, and debates if you should text your date back immediately. They also discuss their journey into drag, finding their drag aesthetic, and their experience shooting Drag Race in the middle of the pandemic. Meanwhile, Nicole is worried her Netflix show is cockblocking her.

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Comedian Ms. Pat chats with Nicole about her time in jail for drug trafficking, shares the secrets behind her 28 years of marriage, and offers advice on how to play hard to get. Plus, Ms. Pat's not happy that Nicole's sleeping around with random audience members, so she decides to set Nicole up with a man.

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Full-service sex worker Alexa Eason shares about her life as an escort. She teaches Nicole about BDSM, the relationship risks involved with sex work, Instagram's censoring of fat bodies, and the dreaded "Yelp for Escorting" sites where escorts are ranked against each other. Alexa gives advice for anyone looking to get started doing sex work.

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Comedian Justin Martindale joins Nicole to discuss how their 'summer of love' has been disappointingly dry for the both of them. Justin shares the time he got catfished by a cop, how he deals with chucklefuckers while touring, and the craziness behind the #FreeBritney movement. Plus, what's up with these people getting duct taped on airplanes?

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Drag queen and choreographer Laganja Estranja (RuPaul's Drag Race S6) joins Nicole to discuss her truth coming out as trans, finding confidence in self-love, the thrill of sucking dick in the high school locker room, and getting off on Grindr messages. Plus, Laganja discusses the injuries she sustains stunting, and answers if she would participate in a future season of RPDR All Stars.

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