We Need To Talk with Paul C. Brunson

“I Sleep with a Knife!”

This second episode in a two-part series reveals Tulisa's honest reflections on her time in the spotlight during her stint on 'I’m A Celebrity’.

We also dive into the shocking details of the drug sting that threatened to derail Tulisa’s career and life, and speak of the profound impact it had on her mental health.

Hear directly from Tulisa as she recounts the intense anxiety and prescription drug dependence that followed, before leading to her courageous steps toward recovery.

Please be aware that this episode discusses sensitive topics, including addiction.

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Sections:

00:00 Intro

02:30 'The Sting' Explained: A Detailed Analysis

19:49 Resolving The Case: What Happened?

22:47 Psychological Effects of 'The Sting' on Tulisa: An In-Depth Look

25:51 Tulisa's Life Post-Trial: A Comprehensive Overview

31:41 BBC Documentary Review: Tulisa’s Path to Redemption

32:55 Legal Battle: The Controversy Behind 'Scream & Shout'

36:44 Scandal Breakdown: The "Homewrecker" Story

38:46 Tulisa’s Resilience in Showbiz: Secrets to Overcoming Adversity

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42:36 The Success of N-Dubz: A Deep Dive

46:10 Tulisa's Battle with Medication: A Personal Journey

48:35 Tulisa on 'I'm A Celeb': Behind The Scenes Insights

01:01:04 The Mystery of Tulisa’s Absence at the 'I'm A Celeb' Final

01:05:25 Exploring Tulisa’s Demi-Sexuality: What Does It Mean?

01:07:08 Tulisa and Celibacy: A Period of Self-Discovery

01:11:00 Does Tulisa Still Believe in Love? Insights Revealed

01:13:38 What Is Tulisa Looking for in a Partner? Dating Preferences Unveiled

01:15:53 Exploring Tulisa's 'Fantasy Land': Dreams and Aspirations

01:19:29 Paul’s Takeaways

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This first episode in a two-part series explores Tulisa's inspiring journey, through a turbulent childhood with family mental health challenges, to achieving widespread fame through her career with N-Dubz and X-Factor.

This powerful conversation explores Tulisa's personal encounters with trauma and sexual assault, while highlighting her incredible resilience and self-belief, offering a path of empowerment and hope for those in similar situations.

Please be aware that this episode discusses sensitive topics, including sexual assault and self-harm.

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Sections:

00:00 Introduction to the Series

02:22 Growing Up in Camden: A Personal Journey

05:20 Family Life in Camden: Tulisa’s Childhood Explored

07:14 The Complex Relationship Between Tulisa and Her Mother

10:34 Tulisa's Role as a Caregiver: Personal Stories

13:16 Mental Health Struggles in the Family: Tulisa's Insights

14:50 Advice to My Younger Self: Tulisa Reflects

16:47 Tulisa’s Father and Mungo Jerry: A Musical Legacy

21:35 Understanding Attachment Styles with Tulisa

25:27 First Love: Tulisa’s Early Romantic Experiences

26:58 Tulisa’s Initial Sexual Encounters: A Candid Discussion

29:09 Exploring Spirituality with Tulisa

32:22 Addressing Sexual Assault: Tulisa's Harrowing Experience

36:15 True Love in Relationships: Has Tulisa Experienced It?

39:16 Wishing for a Different First Time: Tulisa's Regrets

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43:26 Paul’s Love for N-Dubz: A Fan’s Perspective

47:39 The Impact of Dappy on Tulisa’s Life

51:03 Coping with Uncle B’s Death: Tulisa’s Experience

55:07 Celebrating Platinum Records: Tulisa’s Achievements

57:47 Tulisa Discusses Her History with Self-Harm

01:01:54 Class and Music: How It Shaped N-Dubz's Reception

01:08:30 Starting on X-Factor: Tulisa's Initial Impressions

01:12:36 Reality TV Exposed: The Fakeness Behind the Scenes

01:14:12 Support Among X-Factor Judges: Tulisa’s Experience

01:16:42 The Controversial 'Tape' Incident: Tulisa's Story

01:27:57 Wrapping Up: Final Thoughts

01:28:26 Teaser for Episode 2: What's Next?

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“I Thought Therapy Couldn’t Help” - Join us in this powerful episode featuring Daniel Middleton, better known as DanTDM, the UK’s most-followed YouTuber with over 29 million subscribers.

Dan shares the untold story behind his rise to fame — from navigating childhood challenges such as social anxiety and the divorce of his parents, to his struggle with severe postnatal depression during early fatherhood.

Learn how Dan overcame his mental health struggles through therapy and his advice on how to protect ones mental health through difficult times.

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Sections:

00:00 Introduction To The Episode

02:16 Being Compared To Michael Jackson

02:46 The Origin Of The Name “Dan TDM" Explained

03:34 Balancing Two Personalities

04:33 A Look Back At Dan's Childhood

05:27 How Divorce Shaped Dan's Childhood

07:46 Surviving Secondary School

12:53 How Dan Started His YouTube Career

16:43 What Is Minecraft? A Beginner’s Guide

18:32 How Minecraft Transformed Dan's Life

21:18 When Dan Realized YouTube Could Be A Career

22:49 Transitioning To Full-Time YouTube

27:07 Why Dan Is One Of YouTube's Most Successful Creators

34:48 Breaking Down The 2017 Forbes Article On Dan

37:56 How Dan Coped With Sudden Fame

42:33 Managing Fame As An Introvert

44:06 Why Dan Is A Positive Role Model For Fans

44:59 Dan’s Impact On His Young Audience

47:39 Behind The Scenes Of Dan's Live Show

51:17 Inside Dan's Relationship With His Wife

54:20 Why Dan Got Married At 21

55:26 How Dan's Wife Influenced His Success

58:43 How Becoming A Father Changed Dan's Life

01:01:26 Huel Sponsorship

01:02:28 Tinder Ad Spot

01:03:24 Dan Advocates For Men’s Mental Health

01:06:16 Struggling With Mental Health During Lockdown

01:09:18 Hitting Rock Bottom

01:10:55 Dan's Honest Experience With Anti-Depressants

01:12:05 Dan Opens Up About Suicidal Thoughts

01:15:21 How Dan Shared His Feelings With His Wife

01:17:45 Exploring Why Dan Felt The Way He Did

01:20:01 What Early Fatherhood Taught Dan

01:24:10 How Therapy Helped Dan Overcome His Struggles

01:27:11 Creating YouTube Content While Battling Depression

01:31:06 How Being A Man Shapes Dan’s Views On Mental Health

01:34:18 Dan’s Advice For Those Struggling With Mental Health

01:36:38 What’s Next For Dan? Future Plans Revealed

01:41:38 Is Being A YouTuber A Sustainable Career?

01:44:07 Dan’s Top Tips For Growing A Successful YouTube Channel

01:46:43 How Many Subscribers Does Dan Have Today?

01:47:02 Dan’s Most Memorable Conversation Ever

01:49:48 Key Takeaways From This Episode

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“If he upsets me - I get gifts!”

In this episode, best-selling author and activist Chidera Eggerue (aka The Slumflower) joins us to discuss her transformative ideas on love, relationships, and self-worth.

Known for creating the viral #SaggyBoobsMatter movement, Chidera challenges traditional heteronormative expectations and encourages women to recognise their inherent value, demand more from their partners, and create more equal, empowering relationships. 

With her provocative insights on love, money, and equality, she provides listeners with practical tools to break free from societal norms, set higher standards in their personal lives, and reclaim their power.

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00:00 Intro

00:02:13 History Of Chidera's Moniker 'Slumflower'

00:04:30 Growing Up In Peckham/'Little Lagos'

00:08:00 Chidera Cutting Her Mum Off And Ensuing Therapy

00:10:57 Chidera's Relationship With Her Father

00:13:11 Chidera's Early Romantic Relationships

00:14:31 Was Chidera Loved By Anyone In Her Childhood/Adolescence?

00:16:04 Chidera Has Never Had A Man At Her Flat

00:17:31 How Chidera's Ideology Developed Over Time

00:24:45 The Traditional Idea Of Love Is Damaging To Women

00:27:31 What Does Love Mean To Chidera?

00:29:25 Love, Feminism And Finance

00:31:04 Chidera's Thoughts On The Male Loneliness Epidemic

00:32:15 Is Chidera An Advocate For Marriage?

00:33:41 Why Does Society Struggle With Finance When It Comes To Romance?

00:41:49 Men And Self-Esteem/Ego

00:45:19 'Marriage Is The Lowest Paid Form Of Sex Work'

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00:57:06 Chidera's Definition Of Hypergamy

00:59:40 4B Movement

01:07:01 Chidera Being 'Grey A-Sexual'

01:11:29 Chidera On BDSM And Being A Dominatrix

01:16:14 How Do These Relationships Start?

01:22:17 Chidera's 'Goddess Gina' Alter Ego

01:27:46 A Letter From 'Slave Tux'

01:37:51 Critiques Of Chidera

01:41:24 Most Memorable Conversation

01:46:57 Paul's Takeaways

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Appearance Was A Big Part Of My Childhood:

Join Megan Barton-Hanson, a former Love Island finalist and one of the top creators on OnlyFans, where she shares her incredible journey from being severely bullied in her younger years, to becoming a global advocate for sex positivity and empowerment. 

Megan opens up about the challenges she’s faced, from overcoming societal misconceptions about sex work to building a multi-million-dollar career rooted in authenticity and resilience. 

With candid reflections on love, self-worth, and breaking free from judgment, Megan’s story is a powerful reminder of the strength it takes to own your narrative and defy outdated norms.

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00:00 Intro

2:11 Megan’s Childhood: Growing Up In Southend-On-Sea

3:20 Megan’s Relationship With Her Parents During Her Youth

4:19 Megan’s Brother: Their Bond And Memories

5:39 Highlights Of School Life And Living In Southend

6:59 Megan’s Struggles With Bullying At School

10:30 Who Supported Megan Through Her Bullying Experiences?

12:23 Megan’s Early Views On Intimacy And Self-Worth

13:55 When Did Megan First Experience Sexual Intimacy?

15:22 Megan’s Journey To Realizing Her Sexual Orientation

16:30 Megan’s First Lesbian Relationship: A Personal Story

21:46 Megan’s Cosmetic Surgery Experience: Why She Did It

24:02 How Megan Started Her Career: A Look Back

25:18 Megan’s Experience Working As A Stripper

27:59 Defining ‘Sex Work’: Megan’s Perspective

29:43 Was Megan Truly Happy While Working As A Stripper?

30:40 Megan’s Journey To Becoming A Love Island Contestant

32:47 Lessons Megan Learned About People From Her Time At The Strip Club

35:42 What Megan Discovered About Herself During Her Early Career

37:26 How Megan Got Cast On Love Island

39:31 How Megan Earned Money Before Joining Love Island

40:36 Why Megan Decided To Go On Love Island

41:43 Did Megan Have A Game Plan For Love Island?

42:52 Life After Love Island: Megan’s Story

44:21 Finding Love On Love Island: Megan’s Experience

46:12 Navigating Fame: Megan’s Life In The Public Eye

54:00 Megan’s Brother’s Mental Health Struggles

56:15 Why Megan Joined Celebs Go Dating

58:11 Facing Skepticism About Her Sexuality: Megan’s Response

1:00:22 When Paul Realized Megan Had Feelings For Demi

1:03:19 How Megan And Demi’s Relationship Ended

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1:07:39 Megan’s Current Dating Life: What’s Happening Now?

1:10:48 What Megan Wants In An Ideal Partner

1:12:48 Inside Megan’s Hinge Profile: Dating In The Digital Age

1:15:19 Megan’s Worst Experiences With Men: Lessons Learned

1:20:19 Megan’s Charity Work And Giving Back

1:29:33 Challenges Megan Has Faced In Relationships With Men

1:36:12 Megan’s Journey As A Successful Businesswoman

1:41:51 Why Megan Is A Top Creator On OnlyFans

1:43:12 The Most Unusual Requests Megan Has Received On OnlyFans

1:44:44 Funny And Unexpected OnlyFans Stories

1:46:32 Is OnlyFans Considered Pornography? Megan’s Take

1:52:27 Is Megan Truly Happy Now? A Reflection

1:55:27 Megan’s Most Memorable Conversations

1:57:21 Key Takeaways From Megan’s Journey

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Do younger partners make you happier?

In this episode, Cindy Gallop, founder of Make Love Not Porn, shares her bold perspective on living authentically and challenging societal norms. From rejecting pressures to marry or have children to embracing the joy of dating younger men, Cindy redefines intimacy and celebrates individuality.

Drawing on her successful advertising career and groundbreaking work in reshaping conversations about sex and relationships, she offers insights on breaking free from conventional expectations to live a uniquely fulfilling life.

Tune in for an inspiring conversation that encourages you to rethink what it means to live on your own terms.

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00:00 Introduction: Who Is Cindy Gallop?

02:02 What Does "Cindy’s Brand" Really Mean?

03:45 How Cindy Views Herself vs. How The World Sees Her

04:25 How Cindy’s Background Shaped Her Authentic Self

06:28 Steps To Embracing Your Authentic Self

09:00 Breaking Down The Most Harmful Societal Norms

12:07 Has Cindy Ever Experienced True Romantic Love?

13:47 Why Cindy Isn’t Focused On Finding Romantic Love

15:44 Why Young Men Are Choosing To Date Older Women

17:51 What’s The Age Gap Between Cindy And The Men She Dates?

20:56 Why Cindy Gallop’s Relationships Are Different From Love

24:53 Will Traditional Ideas About Love And Family Ever Change?

25:47 How To Stop External Pressures From Influencing Your Choices

27:19 The Dangerous Myth Of “The One” In Relationships

28:44 How Cindy Maintains Successful Relationships With Younger Men

35:25 Debunking The Myth Of The “Nuclear Family”

37:58 Advertising’s Misrepresentation Of Age And Its Impact

42:34 Is “Make Love Not Porn” Competing With Mainstream Porn?

46:26 Why Cindy Created “Make Love Not Porn” And Its Mission

53:16 What Is The Social-Sexual Revolution “Make Love Not Porn” Aims To Spark?

58:49 How “Make Love Not Porn” Differs From Mainstream Porn’s Addictive Traits

01:02:18 Cindy Gallop’s Definition Of True Consent

01:05:23 Can Sharing Your Sex Life Help Correct Misconceptions About Sex?

01:08:11 A Look At Paul’s Research On “Make Love Not Porn”

01:11:21 Cindy’s Innovative Approach To Educating Young People About Sex

01:13:42 How And When Parents Should Talk To Kids About Sex And Porn

01:16:15 Inside The “Make Love Not Porn” Academy

01:22:03 Cindy Gallop’s Most Memorable Conversations

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Paul sits down with Dr. Karen Gurney, a renowned psychologist and sex expert, to explore the topic of intimate relationships and sexual satisfaction.

From demystifying the concept of being "good in bed" to unpacking the historical biases shaping our perceptions of sex, Dr Karen provides a refreshing perspective that prioritises emotional connection and individual fulfilment.

Join us as we tackle key topics such as the orgasm gap, the complexities of sexual compatibility, and the impact of cultural myths on our intimate lives.Dr. Gurney offers practical advice for fostering meaningful conversations about sex, building trust, and embracing the full spectrum of pleasure. Whether you're navigating a long-term relationship or exploring casual connections, this episode is a thought-provoking guide to cultivating a healthier, more fulfilling sex life.

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00:00 Introduction  

1:16 How External Influences Impact Your Sex Life  

1:52 What Is Sex And Why Does It Matter?  

3:07 The Essential Rules Of Sex Everyone Should Know  

5:49 Understanding The Sexual Scale: Where Do You Fit?  

7:42 The Truth About Sexual Compatibility: Does It Exist?  

10:14 Good Sex Vs Bad Sex: How To Tell The Difference  

15:37 Rating Sexual Pleasure In Different Scenarios  

18:08 The Truth About Orgasms And Society's Expectations  

21:06 What Is The Orgasm Gap And Why It Matters  

27:32 1st PTC (Post Topic Commentary)  

28:17 Does Penis Size Actually Matter?  

31:47 Why Society Is Obsessed With Penis Size  

34:02 The G-Spot: Myth Or Reality?  

36:22 Are Fetishes Becoming More Common?  

37:33 Is Pornography Helpful Or Harmful In Today's World?  

40:49 2nd PTC (Post Topic Commentary)  

41:27 Sex Today Vs Past Generations: What’s Changed?  

45:11 The Future Of Sex: Robots, AI, And Beyond  

47:23 Huel Sponsorship Ad  

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49:35 What Is The Kinsey Scale And Why Does It Matter?  

52:22 Sexual Currency Explained: Why It's Crucial In Relationships  

1:00:40 How To Build Sexual Currency In Your Relationship  

1:01:58 3rd PTC (Post Topic Commentary)  

1:02:41 How To Make An Invitation For Sex More Inviting  

1:04:16 How Sleep Impacts Your Sex Life  

1:05:10 How Often Should You Be Having Sex?  

1:09:16 How Long Should Sex Last For Maximum Pleasure?  

1:15:08 How Conscientiousness Influences Your Sex Life  

1:19:20 What Is Self-Expansion And How It Improves Relationships  

1:22:44 When Is Lack Of Sex A Valid Reason To Leave A Relationship?  

1:27:37 How A Strong Sexual Connection Benefits Your Relationship  

1:29:40 Why Understanding Sexual Anatomy Is So Important  

1:34:28 Can Having Sex Make Someone More Physically Attractive To You?  

1:37:53 The Most Memorable Conversation About Sex  

1:41:58 Key Takeaways From This Discussion On Sex  

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Toni Tone and Taiwo Ogebule share the transformative journey that has redefined their approach to love and relationships.Through overcoming personal challenges, cultural pressures, and managing a long-distance romance, they reveal how a foundation of trust, mutual respect, and deep emotional connection has kept their bond strong.

Together, they challenge conventional narratives around attachment, masculinity, and "struggle love," showing how self-discovery and resilience create a partnership that goes beyond expectations.

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00:00 Introduction to the Episode

03:04 Dating Culture Differences: USA vs. UK

05:15 Toni and Taiwo’s Relationship Histories

06:18 How Relationships Can Impact Attachment Styles

11:06 How Toni and Taiwo Met: Their Love Story

16:22 Toni’s Viral Tweet After Their First Call

16:53 Understanding Demisexuality: What Does It Mean?

18:23 Tips for Maintaining a Long-Distance Relationship

20:46 Managing Conflict Across Borders: Toni and Taiwo’s Approach

25:49 The Biggest Misconceptions About Our Relationship

29:51 What Makes a “Good Man” in Modern Dating?

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33:25 What Is Gut Instinct and Why It’s Important in Love

35:37 Breaking Down “Struggle Love” and Its Impact

38:51 Can a Strong Woman Really Intimidate Men?

49:00 Our Most Memorable Conversations Together

54:24 Key Takeaways from Paul

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In this episode, we sit down with Dr. Judith Joseph, a leading psychiatrist and mental health expert, to explore high-functioning depression and anhedonia—two often-overlooked mental health conditions that can profoundly affect both personal well-being and relationships.

Dr. Judith shares her insights on how people may appear to have everything under control while silently struggling, and she provides practical advice for identifying these hidden signs and managing them effectively. With her clinical background and deep understanding of trauma and attachment issues, Dr. Judith offers listeners tools to foster self-awareness, resilience, and healthier connections.

Whether you’re dealing with these challenges yourself or supporting someone who is, this conversation will equip you with valuable strategies for navigating the complexities of these struggles.

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0:00 Intro 

0:46 Judith’s Early Life and Background 

2:33 Pros and Cons of Being an Immigrant 

5:04 Judith’s Strong Work Ethic 

6:06 Why Judith Switched to a Career in Psychology 

8:45 How Judith Found the Confidence to Change Careers 

10:18 Why Judith Chose to Pursue Psychiatry 

12:08 What Exactly Is Psychiatry? 

13:34 The Role of a Lab in Psychiatry and Why It Matters 

15:40 How Race Affects Access to Therapy 

18:28 Can You Overdo Therapy? 

20:45 Understanding and Defining Trauma 

23:38 How the Pandemic Has Shaped Our View on Trauma 

24:42 What Is Scarcity Trauma? 

25:55 What Happens If You Don’t Address Trauma 

27:27 The Key Differences Between Guilt and Shame 

28:56 How to Support Someone Going Through Trauma 

32:20 What Is Scarcity Envy and How Does It Affect Us? 

35:15 High-Functioning Depression Explained 

36:38 What Is Depression? Signs and Symptoms 

38:06 Ad Break 

40:27 Are People More Depressed Than Ever? 

42:23 What Is "High-Functioning Depression"? 

44:03 How to Check In on Friends and Family 

46:51 What Is Anhedonia and Why It Matters 

51:33 The Impact of Anhedonia on Mental Health 

53:18 Should We Slow Down to Improve Mental Health? 

54:55 The 5,4,3,2,1 Exercise for Anxiety Relief 

58:20 Procrastination Caused by Worry: How to Manage It 

59:10 Should You Stay in a Relationship Where Depression Is Present? 

1:01:59 Are We All Somewhere on the Neurodivergent Spectrum? 

1:03:48 How to Raise Awareness Without Misdiagnosing Yourself 

1:06:07 Taking Control of Your Thoughts 

1:08:05 The Cognitive Behavioral Triangle Explained 

1:08:47 What Judith Would Tell Her Younger Self 

1:09:21 Is Judith Truly Happy? 

1:11:23 Judith’s Most Memorable Conversation 

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In this exclusive episode, Love Island star Maura Higgins opens up about the intimate and personal aspects of her life journey, shedding light on the emotional challenges she’s encountered since entering the spotlight.

From heartbreak, loss, and betrayal to the pressures of living in the public eye, Maura discusses how embracing vulnerability and practicing self-love have helped her stay true to herself.

In her debut podcast episode, Maura’s story of resilience and personal growth is both empowering and relatable, especially for anyone navigating similar hardships.

This conversation includes sensitive topics such as grief and sexual assault.

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00:00 Introduction

01:38 Maura Reveals Why She Rarely Shares Her Story

02:45 Why Maura Chose Now for Her First In-depth Interview

03:30 Exploring Maura's Complex Relationship With Her Mother

04:21 Insights into Maura's Childhood Experiences

05:39 Understanding Maura's Relationship With Her Father

08:59 Analyzing Maura's School Life Experiences

12:40 What Was It Like in Maura's Childhood Home?

13:49 Toxic School Experiences: Maura's Story

14:32 Weekends in Maura's Childhood: A Deep Dive

15:11 How Maura's Early Life Influenced Her Adult Relationships

15:58 Maura's Dating Life Beginnings Uncovered

16:25 Maura's First Romantic Relationship Explored

18:24 Maura's Journey to Becoming a Hairdresser

21:09 Maura's Early Days in the Public Eye

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23:48 The Story of Maura and Her Best Friend

26:04 Can Men and Women Be Just Friends? Maura Discusses

28:24 Maura Confronts the Loss of Her Best Friend

35:26 Maura's Lack of Emotional Support from Her Father

36:08 The Truth About Maura's Cheating Ex-Partner

45:50 Maura Discusses Her Experience with Sexual Assault

52:22 Inside Maura's Love Island Adventure

58:54 Exploring Maura's Relationships on Love Island

01:01:34 Public Perceptions of Maura Post-Love Island

01:05:06 Life Changes for Maura After Love Island

01:10:54 Maura's Mental Health After Love Island: A Breakdown

01:25:45 Exploring the 'Triangular Love' Theory

01:27:11 Has Maura Ever Been in a Fulfilling Relationship?

01:29:44 Maura Discusses: What It Means to Truly Love

01:39:49 Maura on Staying Relevant: Career Pressures Post-Fame

01:41:58 Maura's Advice on Relationships

01:43:49 Maura at the BAFTAs: Celebrity Connections Revealed

01:50:41 Most Memorable Questions Asked to Maura

01:53:33 Key Insights from Paul's Interview with Maura

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In this episode, Dr. Gabor Maté, a world-renowned expert on trauma, stress and addiction, reveals how childhood experiences and emotional suppression deeply shape our relationships and overall wellbeing. He explains how unresolved trauma from our early years can lead to stress and challenges in adult relationships, and offers powerful insights on how embracing vulnerability and authenticity can foster healing and transformation in both one's personal life and relationships.

Whether you're dealing with relationship challenges or seeking personal growth, Dr. Maté’s wisdom provides a path to healing and improvement, by understanding the root causes of emotional suppression and learning to live more authentically.

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00:00 Introduction  

01:52 Career Change Tips for Older Adults  

04:27 How the Mind-Body Connection Impacts Relationships  

11:51 How to Choose the Right Partner for Long-Term Happiness  

13:08 Why Authenticity Matters in and out of Relationships  

16:19 How Childhood Attachments Shape Your Adult Relationships  

18:25 How to Be Your Most Authentic Self the Power of Saying No  

28:41 How Social Status Affects Relationships  

29:54 Different Types of Stress and How to Manage Them  

36:37 Is Your Partner Hurting Your Well-Being  

44:54 How to Develop a Secure Attachment in Relationships  

49:10 The Health Effects of Avoidant and Anxious Attachment Styles  

54:03 The Link Between Addiction and Attachment Styles  

01:02:15 What Is Trauma and How Does It Affect You  

01:05:41 How Many People Are Living with Trauma Today  

01:07:30 How to Heal from Trauma and Move Forward  

01:12:02 Important Topics That Need More Attention  

01:15:24 Most Memorable Conversations on Relationships  

01:17:24 Key Takeaways from This Discussion

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In episode, Paul sits down with Ashley Cain, a former professional footballer and reality TV star, who bravely shares his transformative journey of grief and healing following the devastating loss of his daughter, Azaylia, to leukemia. Ashley opens up about the struggles he's faced, the lessons he’s learned, and the powerful mission he’s now embraced to raise awareness for childhood cancer and men’s mental health.

Through this heartfelt conversation, Ashley discusses the emotional challenges men often encounter and how understanding and addressing these needs can lead to personal growth. We explore the sudden end to his football career, the impact that trauma has had on his life, and how he's used his experiences to help others find strength, even in the darkest of moments.Ashley offers valuable advice on finding happiness, achieving well-being, and transforming relationships—with ourselves and others—through a process of healing.

His work with The Azaylia Foundation continues to inspire people all over the world, offering hope and support to families facing similar tragedies.

Please note: This episode covers sensitive topics like child loss and grief, which may be difficult for some listeners.

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02:19 - How Are You Feeling Right Now?

03:18 - Growing Up Mixed Race: Challenges And Experiences

04:57 - How Race And Upbringing Shaped Ashley's Identity

08:01 - If You Could Change Your Past, Would You?

10:06 - How Football Transformed Ashley's Life

11:42 - Life After Football: Losing Fame And Status

13:49 - Becoming A Dad For The First Time

15:38 - When Ashley Discovered Azaylia's Illness

22:57 - Staying Positive And Advocating For Azaylia's Health

32:35 - How To Cope With Trauma

38:50 - Supporting Men Through Trauma: Advice For Partners

42:08 - The Male Mental Health Crisis: What Needs To Change

50:39 - Shopify And Tinder Ad Break

52:32 - Is Ashley Truly Happy?

54:36 - Ashley's Wellness Journey

56:31 - The 6 Dimensions Of Psychological Wellbeing Explained

01:00:10 - How To Handle Trauma In Relationships

01:02:50 - What Ashley Would Change About His Past Relationships

01:03:27 - Relationship Advice: Loving A Man Like Ashley

01:05:00 - Is Ashley Single Right Now?

01:05:55 - Is Ashley Open To Dating?

01:07:00 - Who Should Make The First Move In Dating?

01:08:00 - Chirpsing Roleplay: How To Approach Someone

01:12:10 - How Opening Up Has Affected Ashley

01:12:46 - The Most Memorable Conversation Ashley's Had

01:15:09 - Paul's Key Takeaways

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In this episode, Dr. John and Dr. Julie Gottman, world-renowned relationship experts and founders of The Gottman Institute, share their research-based insights into what truly makes relationships work. With over 50 years of research on marital stability and parenting, they dive deep into key issues like how contempt can destroy your immune system, and why certain toxic behaviors—like criticism and stonewalling—are major red flags in relationships.

They also debunk common myths such as "Never go to bed angry" and explain how empathy and emotional intelligence are critical to lasting love.

The Gottmans provide practical advice on how to manage conflict, heal from childhood trauma, and create deeper emotional connections. Whether you're navigating daily disagreements or looking to rebuild trust after betrayal, this conversation is filled with valuable takeaways to help you strengthen your relationship and build a healthier, more fulfilling partnership.

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Topics:

00:00 - Intro  

02:02 - Do People Still Believe In Marriage Today?  

09:23 - What Defines A Successful Marriage In Modern Times?  

13:09 - What Percentage Of Couples Are Truly Happy In Their Relationships?  

15:47 - Inside Paul’s Matchmaking Process On MAFS (Married At First Sight)  

17:51 - Are Successful Couples Less Exciting? The Truth About Stability  

21:24 - What Is The Love Lab And How Does It Work?  

22:38 - Shocking Discoveries From The Love Lab: What Science Says About Love  

26:18 - The Power Of The 'Six Second Kiss' In Relationships  

29:38 - Do The Gottmans Use Their Own Research In Their Marriage?  

32:51 - How Important Is Sex For A Healthy Relationship?  

37:46 - Why Date Night Matters More Than You Think  

40:37 - The Ingredients Of A Perfect Date: How To Get It Right  

43:03 - Paul's Ultimate First Date Test: Does It Predict Success?  

45:52 - The Key Principles Of A Successful Marriage Revealed  

49:46 - The Top Reason Couples Fight And How To Avoid It  

50:45 - The Different Conflict Styles In Marriage: Which One Are You?  

55:27 - Is Conflict Good For Your Relationship? Here’s The Answer  

57:22 - How Important Is Compatibility In A Relationship?  

58:40 - The Questions You Should Ask To Truly Understand Your Partner  

01:06:16 - How To Resolve Conflicts And Strengthen Your Relationship  

01:08:57 - Should You Stay With A Partner Who Won't Resolve Conflicts?  

01:11:10 - Tinder Ad: How Modern Dating Apps Are Changing Relationships  

01:12:12 - The Four Horsemen Of Relationships And Why Contempt Is The Worst  

01:14:47 - When Is It Time To End A Relationship? Key Signs To Watch For  

01:16:24 - What Is Flooding In Relationships And How To Manage It  

01:18:46 - How To Self-Soothe When You’re Emotionally Overwhelmed  

01:21:17 - Should You 'Never Go To Bed Angry'? The Real Answer  

01:22:22 - Can You Rebuild Trust After Infidelity? Here’s How  

01:28:33 - How To Know If Your Relationship Is Failing: Warning Signs  

01:31:26 - What’s The Most Memorable Relationship Conversation You’ve Had?  

01:35:00 - Outro  

01:35:28 - Paul’s Final Takeaways On Love And Relationships

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In this episode, dance power couple Oti Mabuse and Marius Iepure sit down for their first joint interview.

Together, they share the highs and lows of their relationship, revealing how hey transitioned from dance partners to life partners, and navigated the challenges following their daughter’s premature birth.

Oti opens up about how her obsession with winning Strictly strained their marriage and how Marius supported her during her lowest moment as a professional dancer.

Join Paul for an inspiring conversation about resilience, unwavering support, and the vital importance of showing up for one another in life’s toughest moments.

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00:00 - Introduction

02:17 - Why Share Your Private Life Now?

04:48 - How Childhood Lessons Shape Your Life Today

13:25 - Building Strong Connections Despite Differences

17:49 - How Dance Brings People Together

21:35 - The Global Impact of Afrobeats and Dance

24:58 - Redefining Masculinity in African Culture

28:12 - Navigating Power Dynamics in Modern Relationships

32:44 - Why Failure and Rejection Are Essential for Growth

36:10 - How Setting Boundaries Transforms Your Life

40:23 - Does Fame Change Who You Are?

44:56 - The Pressures of Being a Role Model

49:12 - How to Stay True to Yourself in a Demanding World

53:39 - Your Path to Self-Acceptance and Confidence

58:27 - Why Mental Health Should Be a Priority

01:02:14 - How Vulnerability Can Empower You

01:07:06 - Living Authentically in a Digital Age

01:11:35 - Mastering How to Handle Criticism

01:16:02 - How to Find Inner Peace in a Busy World

01:20:47 - Discovering Your Life's Purpose

01:25:33 - Overcoming The Fear Of Being Judged

01:29:50 - How to Become Your Best Self

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We Need To Talk: In this thought-provoking episode, relationship expert and coach Sadia Khan openly shares her own perspectives on modern dating, masculinity, and the evolving nature of intimate relationships.

Paul and Sadia dive deep into the impact of the sexual revolution, which Sadia believes has led to a decline in masculinity among men and an enhancement of masculinity in women. 

They also examine how adult media platforms like Only Fans are eroding intimacy, while fuelling infidelity in modern relationships.

Sadia shares her beliefs on the importance of being a 'high-value man’ and offers her perspective on whether non-monogamous relationships can truly work within the structures of marriage.

By the end of this conversation, listeners can expect to gain a deeper understanding of the struggles in modern dating, the challenges young men face, and the reasons why many modern relationships are failing, all while exploring the conflict between traditional values and today’s evolving dating culture.

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00:00 - Introduction

01:59 - The First Time You Felt Love

03:07 - Are You A Feminist Or Misogynist? Discover Your True Self

03:37 - Sadia's Journey Through Love And Relationships

05:18 - Why Infidelity Is A Major Fear In Relationships

08:37 - How The Sexual Revolution Transformed Modern Dating

11:10 - Defining Masculinity: What It Means Today

13:06 - Do Men Really Only Want Sex?

14:50 - Exploring Paul's Love Life And Intimacy

18:47 - How Feedback Can Strengthen A Marriage

21:19 - The Dangers Of Pornography On Relationships

23:36 - Are There Any Benefits To Watching Porn?

26:09 - Are Polyamorous Relationships Destroying Dating Norms?

27:20 - Is Marriage The Right Choice For Everyone?

32:42 - Is OnlyFans Changing The Face Of Modern Dating?

36:52 - Perspectives On OnlyFans: Empowerment Or Exploitation?

43:54 - What Is The Narcissistic Movement? A Deep Dive

45:11 - How Ethnicity Affects Your Dating Preferences

46:17 - Are Women Becoming More Narcissistic?

48:06 - Does Racial Preference In Dating Make You Racist?

49:59 - Colonialism's Impact On Modern Dating Preferences

50:49 - The Two Types Of Men According To Sadia

53:11 - Dating Advice For Single Men Looking For Love

55:12 - The Biggest Red Flags Men Should Avoid

58:12 - What Makes A Woman Truly Attractive?

01:03:01 - How Wellbeing Influences Partner Choices

01:07:26 - Why Men React Negatively To Attractive Women

01:07:53 - How Jealousy Affects Self-Worth In Relationships

01:10:12 - How Sadia Handles Negative Comments Online

01:12:01 - Paul's Biggest Takeaways From The Conversation

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We Need to Talk: In this episode, Paul dives into the critical role status plays in our relationships. He explores why couples engage in "status games" and how our evolutionary drive for status impacts our pursuit for sexual partners.

His guest this week is Will Storr, award-winning journalist and Sunday Times bestselling author of The Status Game, The Heretics, Selfie, and The Science of Storytelling.

Together, they unpack how understanding status can help us build stronger, long-lasting relationships.

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(00:00) Introduction

(1:30) What Is Status and How Do We Define It?

(2:23) Why Is Status So Important in Modern Society?

(2:58) 1st PTC

(3:22) How Status and Connection Impact Happiness

(4:15) The Role of High Status in Tribal Societies

(5:52) How Status Shapes Our Identity

(6:56) The Difference Between Superficial and Meaningful Connections

(10:20) 2nd PTC

(11:44) Are We Doomed to a Culture of Doom and Gloom?

(13:30) How to Handle the Loss of Celebrity Status

(16:17) Navigating Multiple Status Games in Life

(18:32) Sponsor - Tinder

(19:33) The Link Between Status and Suicide: What You Need to Know

(21:31) How to Support Someone Losing Their Status

(22:24) 3rd PTC

(22:54) Is Modern Dating Being Destroyed by Dating Apps?

(24:41) Does Social Media Affect How We Behave in Real Life?

(26:16) How Status Displays Differ in Hookups vs. Serious Relationships

(30:23) 4th PTC

(31:41) What Is 'Detect and Protect' Mode in Relationships?

(34:44) Why We Crave Connection with the Same People

(38:18) Why My Partner and I Decided Not to Have Children

(42:51) How Childhood Unhappiness Can Lead to Adult Success

(44:22) How to Overcome Jealousy and Insecurity in Relationships

(45:48) Why Loving Yourself Is Key to a Healthy Relationship

(48:56) The Most Meaningful Conversation I’ve Ever Had

(51:42) My Biggest Takeaways From This Discussion

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We Need To Talk: In this episode, we uncover the untold truth behind TV superstar Lauren Goodger. Lauren, a TV icon, entrepreneur, and mother, rose to fame on The Only Way is Essex (TOWIE) from 2010 to 2012 and made a much-anticipated return in 2024.

For the first time, Lauren opens up about her personal journey—reflecting on her relationships, the intense scrutiny of high-profile romances, and how she found self-love through life's many evolutions.

In her own words, Lauren reveals her path to healing and growth, offering listeners a candid look at her struggles and triumphs. We hope her story not only brings healing to Lauren but inspires others to talk more openly about mental health and overcoming tragedy.

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(00:00) Intro

(02:07) When Was The First Time You Fell In Love?

(05:36) Your First Serious Relationship Revealed

(09:04) The Most Challenging Moment In Your Relationship With Mark

(11:05) The Beginning Of TOWIE: How It All Started

(12:12) A Turning Point In Your Journey

(13:12) How TOWIE And Fame Affected Your Relationship With Mark

(17:36) Why People Are So Intrigued By You

(18:24) The Real Reason You Broke Up With Mark

(21:42) Lauren And Mark: Why They Stopped Speaking

(22:49) Reflecting On Major Life Events

(23:39) Your Second Relationship With Jake After Mark

(26:35) How To Pick The Right Partner

(27:17) Breaking Up With Jake, What Really Happened

(31:12) Your Relationship With Joey

(34:13) What Attracts You To Bad Boys?

(36:44) How You Earned Thousands From A Photoshoot

(39:01) Why You Started OnlyFans And What It Meant To You

(42:36) Your Relationship With Charles: The Truth

(45:26) The Emotional Impact Of Having An Abortion

(47:07) The Journey Of Becoming A Mother

(47:59) Why It Takes So Long To Get To Know Someone

(53:40) The Tragic Loss Of Your Unborn Child

(59:30) Feeling Lonely, How You Handled It

(01:00:58) Steps To Recover From Trauma

(01:03:17) The Three Essential Groups We Need In Life

(01:07:43) What You Did To Change Your Life For The Better

(01:13:12) What You Would Tell Your 12-Year-Old Self

(01:13:51) The Most Impactful Conversation Of Your Life

(01:16:07) Why You Want People To Know The Real You?

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Paul C Brunson, the world’s most influential matchmaker and TV star, brings his insightful commentary on how to create and sustain successful relationships through vulnerability, connection and understanding. From weekly conversations with industry experts and familiar faces, Paul promises to support your personal growth, provide practical insights, and deliver actionable advice that will add value to your relationships.

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