How to Deal With a Negative Partner
Maintaining our relationship with Divine Love, all of our human relationships will either evolve or dissolve.
From a 2017 @Curlynikki IG post:
When She notices Bae’s bad mood:
She remembers, that at a higher level, she asked for this. She remembers that he is her spiritual practice, and therefore, she sees him as this moody-ass angel that’s forcing her into inner Peace, permanently. He’s a beacon to call her Home to the only place where there is genuine, unconditional Love-- within.
She knows that he can’t provide her with Love — That is what she is, but she used to forget that and when she did, she felt cut off, separate and like a victim. Just as he can’t make her happy, he can’t make her sad. She now takes radical responsibility for her moods.
In reality there are no ‘others’— just more of her Self. She knows that just as she is God appearing as _____ (your name here), he is God appearing as moody Bae. She sees him in his Perfection (in Love) even when he’s acting out, and maybe he’ll begin expressing that Perfection... or maybe he won’t be in her life anymore. Either way, her only goal is to stay woke in the dream of life at all times. She doesn’t match his low mood in hopes that she’ll guilt him into acting nice. She knows better. It’s never worked before and it won’t start working now. Instead, she finds her inner Beauty, the Presence, the real Self, and gives it her attention. In the midst of the turbulent energy of anger or resentment, Love is there, waiting to be remembered. Even if she can only feel a tiny bit of It, she’s won. #BeHerNow
Bonus Quotes:
"Shine the warm light of awareness on your thoughts and feelings." -Thich Nhat Hanh
"In the sunlight of awareness Everything becomes sacred."- Thich Nhat Hanh
Today's Practice:
When your partner is actively dark clouding, become aware of the dark cloud you experience inside, in response to theirs. Notice that even though the cloud seems to be present within you, so is the Sun. Give your attention to the Sun, to Love. Be that Love. Abide as this Love.
Their 'dark cloud' is only a call for you to go further into the practice. Deeper into your Self. It's a blessing in disguise. And the more you abide in Love, refusing to step off your throne for anything and anyone, the more you begin to see It reflected outwardly as healthy and fulfilling relationships.
Everything is changing.
I love you and I'm with you,
Nik
nikki@curlynikki.com
Beginning Aug 7, 2023 - 'GoOD Mornings with CurlyNikki' will host pre and post roll ads within the back catalogue.
Available Results
Generated results are saved to your library for reuse and search.
Choose Template
Pick the result you want. You can review provider and model before generating.
A concise first-pass summary for understanding the episode quickly.
A comprehensive, source-grounded extraction of the reusable knowledge in an episode.
A comprehensive extraction focused on health practices, protocols, claims, and safety caveats.
A dedicated analysis of warnings, limitations, trade-offs, weak evidence, and uncertainty.
Repeatable methods, frameworks, mental models, processes, and systems.
Technologies, AI models, technical methods, capabilities, limitations, and adoption implications.
A concise first-pass summary for understanding the episode quickly.
A detailed readable summary organized by chapter or topic.
A navigable map of subjects, topic flow, and suggested chapters.
A comprehensive, source-grounded extraction of the reusable knowledge in an episode.
Reusable atomic knowledge units extracted from the episode.
A comprehensive extraction focused on health practices, protocols, claims, and safety caveats.
A comprehensive extraction focused on opportunities, strategy, markets, and company building.
Explicit actions, next steps, habits, recommendations, and things to avoid.
A dedicated inventory of concrete resources named in the episode.
A dedicated analysis of warnings, limitations, trade-offs, weak evidence, and uncertainty.
A concise first-pass summary for understanding the episode quickly.
A detailed readable summary organized by chapter or topic.
A navigable map of subjects, topic flow, and suggested chapters.
A comprehensive, source-grounded extraction of the reusable knowledge in an episode.
Reusable atomic knowledge units extracted from the episode.
A comprehensive extraction focused on health practices, protocols, claims, and safety caveats.
A comprehensive extraction focused on opportunities, strategy, markets, and company building.
Scientific findings, mechanisms, studies, hypotheses, and the limits of the evidence discussed.
Technologies, AI models, technical methods, capabilities, limitations, and adoption implications.
Investment theses, assets, catalysts, valuation reasoning, time horizons, and risks.
Chronologies, actors, causes, consequences, turning points, and competing historical interpretations.
Policies, proposals, stakeholders, arguments, implementation constraints, and predicted effects.
Career paths, skills, hiring signals, workplace decisions, transitions, and limitations of the advice.
Behavioral mechanisms, biases, motivation, habits, emotions, interventions, and evidence limitations.
Economic mechanisms, incentives, indicators, market structure, forecasts, and uncertainty.
Leadership principles, team systems, organizational design, culture, feedback, and failure modes.
Audience, positioning, messaging, acquisition, retention, experiments, metrics, and failed approaches.
Teaching methods, learning strategies, practice, feedback, assessment, and effectiveness evidence.
Theses, premises, arguments, objections, values, thought experiments, and unresolved questions.
Communication patterns, conflict, boundaries, expectations, repair methods, and contextual limitations.
Books, papers, authors, courses, and other learning resources mentioned in the episode.
Repeatable methods, frameworks, mental models, processes, and systems.
Explicit actions, next steps, habits, recommendations, and things to avoid.
Memorable statements and important claims with attribution and source context.
A dedicated inventory of concrete resources named in the episode.
A dedicated analysis of warnings, limitations, trade-offs, weak evidence, and uncertainty.