E274: Is it Normal to Not Orgasm During Sex? We Got Attacked for Talking About This

Pillow Talks

We recently shared a reel answering a question from a woman who didn’t orgasm during sex. The comments section turned into something we've never experienced in over ten years of doing this, including one accusation we still can't believe we had to respond to.


In this episode, you'll hear:

  • The one line in that reel that set the whole thing off

  • The accusation that hurt more than anything we've ever been called online

  • The ball of clay explanation that changes how you understand your own anatomy

  • The percentage of women who actually orgasm from penetration alone (it's not what you've been told)

  • The rule we have in our own sex life



As promised in the episode, our Survivor's Guide is a free resource for survivors of sexual assault who want to reclaim their sex life. Grab it here: https://vmtherapy.com/survivors-guide-opt-in



Finishing School is our orgasm course for women, and it starts exactly where this episode does, with understanding that you're not broken.

  • Learn how your anatomy actually works

  • Do the mindset work first, because that's what makes every technique after it land

  • Get step by step practices for orgasming on your own and with a partner

  • Learn how to create more sensation during intercourse instead of less

Check out Finishing School here: https://vmtherapy.com/orgasm



Stay Connected

Follow us on Instagram: https://instagram.com/vanessaandxander

Get our weekly email, real talk, expert tips, and zero shame: https://vmtherapy.com/subscribe

Subscribe to Pillow Talks wherever you get your podcasts!


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We recently shared a reel answering a question from a woman who didn’t orgasm during sex. The comments section turned into something we've never experienced in over ten years of doing this, including one accusation we still can't believe we had to respond to.


In this episode, you'll hear:

  • The one line in that reel that set the whole thing off

  • The accusation that hurt more than anything we've ever been called online

  • The ball of clay explanation that changes how you understand your own anatomy

  • The percentage of women who actually orgasm from penetration alone (it's not what you've been told)

  • The rule we have in our own sex life



As promised in the episode, our Survivor's Guide is a free resource for survivors of sexual assault who want to reclaim their sex life. Grab it here: https://vmtherapy.com/survivors-guide-opt-in



Finishing School is our orgasm course for women, and it starts exactly where this episode does, with understanding that you're not broken.

  • Learn how your anatomy actually works

  • Do the mindset work first, because that's what makes every technique after it land

  • Get step by step practices for orgasming on your own and with a partner

  • Learn how to create more sensation during intercourse instead of less

Check out Finishing School here: https://vmtherapy.com/orgasm



Stay Connected

Follow us on Instagram: https://instagram.com/vanessaandxander

Get our weekly email, real talk, expert tips, and zero shame: https://vmtherapy.com/subscribe

Subscribe to Pillow Talks wherever you get your podcasts!


Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

2026-08-20 66 min
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