The Divorce Course Podcast

Can you meditate with a narcissist or someone with narcissistic traits in your divorce? Although you might see it as a waste of time, there is actually some good that can come out of it even if you don't settle. Our experienced accredited mediator and also experienced family law specialist will guide you through how you can make your mediation for family law matters (like property or parenting) work for you. Learn some strategies and steps you can take if you are dealing with someone who has narcissistic traits. Don't waste your precious chance to settle or find out more about your ex's plans. Listen to this episode today and get your agenda and strategies sorted.

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone's situation is different.

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Can you really mediate with a narcissist? Mediation and Negotiation Tips when divorcing an ex with narcissistic behaviours

You Don't Want to Miss Out On

• What might surprise you at a mediation with a narcissist

• Why you think you know what your ex is thinking is a mistake for mediation

• Why it's a bad idea to assume your ex thinks like you leading up to mediation.

• When you understand what they care about you can have success in mediation

• What is the shuttle process?

• Why the shuttle process helps in mediation with a narcissist

• How you can ask the mediator to help you with the narcissistic attacks during the mediation.

• How to let your mediator know about their behaviour

• The three things a narcissist will care most about in their agreement with you.

• Does it matter if the mediator knows they are narcissists?

• How you can use the mediation to help tailor your affidavit for trial

• The cat and mouse game sometimes used in mediation by a narcissist

• How to avoid the game playing in mediation with a narcissist

• Which issue do you deal with first in mediation with a narcissist?

• Can you make suggestions to the mediator?

• How to agree on the agenda for the day

• How to make sure your narcissistic ex doesn't run the agenda for the day.

• Why you should avoid using the word narcissist when going through family court unless they are officially diagnosed.

• What should you do to show to the mediator or the judge that your ex has narcissistic behaviours?

• How to "rebrand" your offer in negotiation so that your narcissistic ex will agree to it.

• Do's and Don'ts of mediation with a narcissist

• Why you need to be mentally fit to get the most out of the mediation.

• What is the current mediation success rate?

• Is the family court full of narcissists?

• Why taking proof and documentation to a mediation is a good idea.

• What the mediator will do to help you in a mediation with a narcissist

• Is a shuttle process a good idea with a narcissist?

• How to be aware of old patterns and how to stay out of them during negotiations with your ex.

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you've found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone's situation is different.

Are you getting frustrated because your ex is delaying everything? Or has nothing happened for ages to sort out your property and children's issues after you separated from your ex? Are you worried because it might be a delay tactic for some reason? You might be right. Delays can be strategic for parenting matters, domestic violence matters and property matters. In this episode take a look at the pitfalls of falling for delay tactics and letting things drag. Discover ways you can overcome these delays in the three different stages of divorce or de facto separation process. Learn from an accredited family law specialist about delay tactics that happen from right at the beginning whilst still living under the same roof, to the strategies used whilst in mediation and negotiation all the way up to delay tactics during court. No matter what personality type you have in divorce you may be faced with delay tactics. This can be frustrating when you are trying to move things forward. Listen to this episode so you can get on with your life even when your ex doesn't seem to want to.

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone's situation is different.

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Delay Tactics in Divorce: How to counter them & How it can affect your Property, Children's & Domestic Violence matters.

You Don't Want to Miss Out On

• What are delay tactics

• When do delay tactics cause problems

• Tactically how do delays help your ex during divorce?

• Section 117c of the family law act and why you need to know about it?

• The family law act and updates coming

• How to cope with living under one roof and they are delaying

• Can a judge send someone to jail in the federal circuit and family court of australia?

• Some of the worst delay tactics a family law expert has seen

• What happens if your ex starts dragging the chain

• How to deal with centrelink during delays

• How to protect your state of mind during the delay tactics

• What happens if your ex won't disclose?

• What happens if your ex wants to delay so they can spend the cash before you start proceedings?

• What is the waiting period to get divorced?

• What is the property settlement deadline for de facto separation

• What is the property settlement deadline for divorced couples?

• What is a no fault divorce in Australia

• What incentives does your ex have to stall everything after separation?

• Do delay tactics help in parenting matters?

• What kind of delay tactics do you watch out for in parenting and children's matters

• Do delay tactics cause problems in domestic violence matters?

• What happens if your ex pretends they don't get your letters?

• What happens if your ex says let's deal with this all after christmas?

• What can you do if you are trying to get the matter moving along and your ex doesn't want to?

• What about if they delay mediation?

• What happens if they delay disclosure in mediation?

• What is the central practice direction and the obligation to respond to your letters?

• Why putting in a time and date that you expect a response helps with delays.

• Tips on writing letters to people who are delaying doing something to move your divorce forward.

• What is a default judgement and how you can get it if your ex just won't lift a finger.

• Can you be financially compensated if your ex is delaying everything

• What are the cost implications of delay tactics?

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you've found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone's situation is different.

Can you do your divorce, property settlement and parenting matters on a budget? How do you keep your costs down on this journey? How much should you try to do yourself? What should you save your dollars on and what should you spend your dollars on? In this episode we walk you through the whole process from separation to final trial including before you even think about court and explore what you can do on the cheap and what you can do yourself? Can you do a lot of the property and parenting agreements yourself. We walk you through each step of the divorce or de facto separation journey and look at what you can save your dollars on and what you shouldn't skimp on. We also discuss the pro's and con's of self representation in court. Also learn why mediation could be the best way to save your dollars and how to do it.

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone's situation is different.

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DIVORCE ON A BUDGET: How to negotiate, mediate and go to court on a shoestring

You Don't Want to Miss Out On

• How to keep your costs down when going through divorce

• Can you do your divorce on a budget?

• Do you need a lawyer for divorce, childrens matters or property settlement?

• The risks of doing your divorce settlements without a lawyer

• How can you do a low cost mediation

• How are you charged for mediation

• How to keep your costs down by doing your own disclosure

• How is disclosure done?

• How much do lawyers charge for doing negotiations before court?

• How much do you have to spend on mediation?

• Can you do mediation without a lawyer?

• What is the most expensive part of a divorce

• How can you ensure that you keep your legal fees down whilst getting the best outcome for your divorce property settlement.

• How seeing a psychologist can help you save money in your own divorce proceedings.

• How to get a mental health care plan during your divorce?

• Does a more expensive mediator give you a better outcome?

• Do fees equal expertise when it comes to mediators?

• How to choose a good mediation that will be worth the money that you pay.

• Is mediation a waste of time with a narcissist?

• Is mediation a waste of time with a manipulative or controlling ex?

• Best tips for keeping your mediation costs low.

• What mediation success rate is in general in Australia?

• When mediation happens too soon and why it might not work?

• The questions to ask yourself before deciding how much money to spend on mediators

• What to tell the judge if you can't afford a lawyer

• What to tell the judge if you can't afford mediation

• Can you do your own negotiations?

• Can you do the first court even on your own

• Can you be a self represented litigant for family court?

• What happens in the first court even and how much would it cost if you got a lawyer?

• How to get through a court event with your emotions intact.

• Type of people who might need a lawyer during court events.

• Things to say if you are self representing in the family court and you are overwhelmed?

• If you are trying to save money in the family court the pitfalls to watch out for if self representing?

• How to save yourself thousands during family court proceedings?

• What are submissions and when you might need to do them if you can't afford to pay a mediator etc

• Can you do your court documents yourself?

• Can you negotiate a divorce settlement without a lawyer?

• What is the best way to keep your costs down in the family court?

• How to avoid the old "death by documents" legal bill

• Can you do a trial on your own

• The importance of Section 102na of the Family Law Act and family violence

• Are there strategies your ex's lawyers may use on you and to be aware of if you are a self represented litigant ?

• Can you get legal aid to help you in the family court

• What does a duty lawyer do in Family Court?

• What is the best way to save money in your divorce?

• What is the easiest way to rack up your legal bill in a divorce.

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you've found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone's situation is different.

Learn simple ways that you can protect your children from becoming chess pieces in the family court or divorce proceedings. Sometimes ex's change their idea of how much time they want to spend with the kids. These reasons could be genuine but sometimes it can be motivated by money. With these simple steps you can help protect your current arrangements for the children. Just in case in the future your divorce or de facto separation proceedings get nasty. Sometimes this includes wanting extra time with the kids so they get a bigger share of the property pool or finding out about child support and wanting to have more nights with the kids to reduce the child support amount. Explore this topic and learn about what happens if this gets to the family court and the best ways to protect you and your children before it comes to this.

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone's situation is different.

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A simple way to protect your children from being used as chess pieces in your divorce or de facto separation

You Don't Want to Miss Out On

• Is a parenting plan legally binding?

• What's the difference between consent orders and a parenting plan?

• How to protect your kids from becoming pawns in divorce proceedings.

• The court's view of parenting plans

• What people change their minds about time spent with the kids.

• When people decide to change time spent with the kids because of child support

• When your ex wants to punish you by changing parenting arrangements with the kids.

• When your ex can get a new partner and then want new time.

• The presumption of equal shared care

• The family court and new rules coming.

• Assumptions of Fathers in the Family Court

• Assumptions of Mothers in the Family Court

• How to write a simple parenting plan

• How to word a simple parenting plan

• How to decide where the children spend time and when

• What happens if your ex all of a sudden wants to become parent of the year.

• How does a judge look at parenting plans

• What does a parent plan do for you in the legal system

• What to watch out for if your ex is using the kids as a pawn in the family court

• How to protect yourself from accusations of alienation

• Is parental alienation real?

• How to protect yourself from child support changes

• What other things you can do to protect yourself from potential fight in the family court

• What you should do if you don't have a documented plan

• What if your ex says you are a bad parent

• What to look out for in actual divorce documents if you have a manipulative and controlling ex.

• How to protect the kids from post separation abuse

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you've found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone's situation is different.

No matter where you are up to in the divorce or de facto separation journey, disclosure will be part of the process. Explore what it is, when you will need it, what it is used for and what happens if you or your ex don't do it. This episode discusses disclosure for property settlement and childrens matters in court, mediation and in negotiations. Explore what to do if you are feeling under pressure to provide too much disclosure and what to do if your ex isn't providing enough. Learn about the process involved in looking at disclosure and what you can do yourself to keep your legal fees down. Learn about how to protect yourself if you are worried about your safety and disclosure. This episode comes with a handy downloadable guide click here to get it now —> GET YOUR FREE DISCLOSURE CHECKLIST GUIDE

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone's situation is different.

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Disclosure: the what, why, when & how of disclosure for divorce or de facto separation.

You Don't Want to Miss Out On

• What is disclosure?

• When do you need disclosure?

• How to avoid racking up legal bills with disclosure?

• Types of disclosure documents

• How to present disclosure?

• How do lawyers go through disclosure?

• How to keep disclosure relevant

• What happens if your ex doesn't disclose?

• What happens if you don't disclose?

• What will happen if disclosure isn't done before mediation?

• What happens if they are asking for too much disclosure?

• How do you provide disclosure?

• Does your ex get to look at your disclosure?

• How do you ensure privacy with your disclosure?

• Can you redact some parts of your disclosure?

• What is the process of sharing disclosure?

• Do you keep having to provide disclosure?

• How do you keep your legal bill down with disclosure?

• How can be disclosure be used in the Family Court?

• What if you see lots of cash withdrawals in their bank disclosure?

• What to do if you find out something in their disclosure that matters?

• What you might say to their lawyer if you find something in disclosure?

• Can you do property settlement without disclosure?

• Will the family court allow you to do a settlement without disclosure?

• What happens if you know they don't have anything to disclose?

• Should you sign anything without seeing their disclosure?

• Do mediators or judges look at disclosure?

• How to present disclosure findings to the judge or mediator?

• What if you are overwhelmed and don't want to do disclosure?

• Things to look for in your ex's disclosure?

• Can you refuse to do disclosure?

• What if your lawyer is asking you to provide too much disclosure?

• High conflict and disclosure

• Manipulative and controlling and disclosure

• Narcissists and disclosure

• Avoidant and disclosure

• Tax returns and Tax returns assessments and disclosure

• Superannuation and disclosure

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you've found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone's situation is different.

How do you know what is important in your case? Sometimes events in your divorce journey may really upset you and you think they are important but in the end it doesn't matter according to the family law act. You need to know what things are not important so you can focus on the stuff that is. This helps you make sure your affidavits and documents for mediation are focusing on the important factors. In this episode a family law accredited specialist is going to cover things you might not realise don't actually matter in the court's eyes. Plus a famliy lawyers insight into a few things that REALLY DO matter to Judges and Mediators.

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone's situation is different.

If this information is distressing for you or if you need support in regard to sexual assault, domestic or family violence you can call 1800 RESPECT 1800 737 732 for 24/7 phone and online services. If you, a child, or another person is in immediate danger, call 000.

Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT

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Surprising Issues that are irrelevant in divorce & separation proceedings. So you can focus all your efforts on the things your mediator, divorce lawyer or judge will actually care about.

You Don't Want to Miss Out On:

• Does cheating matter in the family court?

• Does it matter if they've got a new boyfriend or new girlfriend during the divorce process?

• Does it matter if the other person constantly gets the kids looked after by a babysitter?

• What is no fault divorce?

• What is the clause called "first right of refusal."

• Different routines at each house does it matter in family court?

• The court expectations about parenting styles and what doesn't matter?

• Does the court care if you both can't agree on ipad time, tv, bed times.

• What does the court think about the other parent being 10 mins late for pick up and drop off etc.

• The lazy as an argument for property settlement and what the court thinks about it.

• What happens if your ex hasn't done anything to support the household or family?

• Does it matter if you did all the renovations on your joint owned house.

• Does it matter if your ex earns more than you in property settlement and divorce?

• If your ex brought more money into the marriage do they get more money after separation and divorce?

• Does it matter if the family business loses money and it wasn't your fault?

• What happens if you had no idea what was going on in the family business?

• Does it matter if the family business goes downhill after separation and isn't worth anything?

• What is a negative contribution and how does it work in divorce and property settlement?

• What about coercive control and power imbalances in property settlement.

• What happens if you don't follow the judges directions?

• What happens if you don't file documents in time for court or mediation?

• The Family Law Act Section 79 for marriages Section 60 for Child and Section 90 for Defacto

• If your ex doesn't give you disclosure what happens?

• What is the judge's view on non-disclosure?

• What does the judge think of people lying in family court?

• What happens with a lying person in the witness box?

• The domestic violence pendulum during divorce negotiations

• What happens when you get hyper triggered during negotiations?

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you've found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone's situation is different.

Do you really have to respond to every false accusation or demanding message from a co parent during your divorce proceedings? This episode with a Family Law Specialist we cover the legal implications if you choose to respond and the ways in which you go about it. We share some easy guidelines to help you to decide for yourself. In this episode you also will learn the best co parenting communication hack of all time. Do you have to engage in every slinging match? If you have a narcissistic type ex, coparenting stops the grey rock method from working so how do you keep the drama in the box without being afraid of it coming back at you later in a legal context such as the family court? How do you cope with post separation abuse when it comes to coparenting communciation? We answer these questions and more.

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone's situation is different.

If this information is distressing for you or if you need support in regard to sexual assault, domestic or family violence you can call 1800 RESPECT 1800 737 732 for 24/7 phone and online services. If you, a child, or another person is in immediate danger, call 000.

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Post Separation Abuse Episode

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Do I need to respond to that? When co parenting communication becomes tricky during divorce proceedings.

You Don't Want to Miss Out On

• When to respond to false accusations

• Why you should respond or not

• How to respond

• Should you ignore their messages of false accusations?

• How to bulk respond to co-parenting accusations ?

• Do you need to address it if you drop your kids later to school?

• Do you need to address it if you keep your kids home from school

• How to avoid the little traps set up by the manipulative coparent

• How to avoid the fights with the high conflict co parent

• How to bundle your responses to the coparent.

• Co Parenting hack of the year if you are dealing with a manipulative or high conflict parent.

• How to create an or else situation with an avoidant coparent

• The things you need to consider when deciding how to respond to a co parent who is trying to have a fight or manipulate you.

• What is a guillotine order in family court?

• What happens if you don't respond to a false accusation?

• What's the best way to shut down an argument?

• What if your ex keeps asking the same questions or wants to continue the argument?

• What to do if you think your ex is evidence gathering?

• What to do if you think your ex is just writing accusations to get your attention?

• Your mental health and coparenting with a manipulative and controlling ex.

• Narcissist and coparenting,

• Does having final orders change the approach you have to have with communication with a co parent or accusations by a co parent.

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you've found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone's situation is different.

Untangling your finances. Your property settlement explained.

If you are looking to get separated or divorced but you have to untangle your finances and you are thinking "yikes. that is a big knot to untangle", then this is the episode for you. We will talk you through the overview of what happens and how to get your finances, mortgage, house, car, cash, furniture and super untangled. A perfect episode for you to know where you're headed, how it works and how to make it happen. Also discover how to approach this phase based on the different divorce personality types you might be experiencing. This is based on Australian Law and is a general guide only.

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone's situation is different.

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Divorce Limbo Episode

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Selling the house in divorce Episode

You Don't Want to Miss Out On

• Why do you need to sort your property according to the family law act?

• What happens if you stay in divorce limbo?

• What are the consequences of never sorting out your property?

• What happens in property settlement to the house?

• How to work out who gets to keep the house

• How to work out if you can afford to keep the house

• What if you can't afford the mortgage?

• What does the court do if one wants to sell the house and the other wants to keep it?

• What happens to the money from the sale of the house?

• How do they work out what part of the assets you get to keep?

• How to figure out a payout amount for the house.

• How to figure out who gets the cash?

• What happens to the cars? How do you decide who gets which?

• How do you get the car in your name?

• Do you have to sell the car?

• How to get a car valued.

• How to transfer the car into your name after a property settlement agreement has been filed.

• How to avoid stamp duty for transferring the car name during property settlement.

• Who gets the furniture in property settlement?

• How does the court sort out furniture fights?

• How is superannuation sorted out in divorce?

• What superannuation cannot be split up?

• Would a court agree to giving one person all the cash and one person all the super?

• Self Managed Super Funds, what happens with these?

• What happens with Trusts in divorce and property settlement?

• Business valuations during divorce

• What happens if you are registered as part of a business that is involved in your property settlement.

• Tax implications for divorce property settlement.

• The process a lawyer takes when deciding what property goes to who after deciding on the percentage.

• Manipulative and controlling ex partners and untangling your finances

• Amicable break up and property settlement tips.

• Avoidant divorce and property settlement.

• What to do if someone is dragging out the property settlement.

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you've found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone's situation is different.

Learn the types of things you should document and how. Explore ways that you can easily document things and the legal pitfalls to avoid. Learn how good documenting can protect you from a manipulative controlling or high conflict ex if they ever take you to family court in the future.

Explore why it is so important to document property and parenting issues and events moving forward. Why you should do it whether you are amicable or not with your ex. Why documenting things will help for parenting negotiations or a potential future custody battle in the family court.

This episode also has a quick general guide of what you should document when you leave. Along with this handy checklist below.

Click here for our free before you leave checklist

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone's situation is different.

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Documents mentioned

Financial Statement (form) | Federal Circuit and Family Court of Australia

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Financial Contributions Episode

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The importance of record keeping during divorce: the what, why, when and how to help you in mediation, family court or even just in negotiations

You Don't Want to Miss Out On

• Why record keeping is important

• When should you start record keeping

• Why you should record keep during separation

• Why is documenting important in parenting negotiations?

• Why you should keep records during the divorce process.

• Why record keeping in property settlement process is important.

• What's the difference between a diary entry and a memory in court proceedings

• How to prove your word against your ex in court

• Why documenting is important to help with proving domestic violence and coercive control.

• How to keep track of who has the kids and when.

• What type of proof works in family court and why

• Why documenting the separation date is so important in de facto marriage.

• What is disclosure and why it is important.

• School records: the coming and going of early pick up and late drop offs.

• How to protect yourself from losing personal items after separation through documentation.

• When it comes to property what types of things you should document.

• What are post separation contributions?

• Why quantifying and proving post separation contributions might help you get it back in property settlement.

• What is a financial statement for the family court?

• Why setting yourself up a budget

• The difference between an online diary or online calendar vs a handwritten book or a handwritten note.

• Times when documentation saves someone's case during divorce, custody or property proceedings in the family court.

• Documents and how it can help your case

• How documentation can help you if you have a manipulative and controlling ex.

• High conflict and documentation

• Documentation if you have an amicable breakup

• Documentation and avoidant ex's

• Parenting plans and documentation

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you've found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone's situation is different.

Trigger Warning: This podcast discusses coercive control and domestic violence.

You may have heard that DV is not just physical abuse. Just because they don't hit you doesn't mean you are not experiencing domestic or family violence.

In this episode we will talk about four things that you might not realise are DV that are flying under your radar.

We discuss coercive control and where you should go for support if you are experiencing this. We also explore the questions you need to ask yourself to find out if you might be experiencing some types of non physical forms of domestic violence or coercive control.

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone's situation is different.

If this information is distressing for you or if you need support in regard to sexual assault, domestic or family violence you can call 1800 RESPECT 1800 737 732 for 24/7 phone and online services. If you, a child, or another person is in immediate danger, call 000.

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Books mentioned

Reinventing Your Life: The Breakthrough Program to End Negative Behavior...and Feel Great Again Aaron T. Beck , Jeffrey E. Young , Janet S. Klosko

Podcast Episodes that are related to this topic

Family Domestic Violence and How it impacts your case

Family Violence

Coercive Control in divorce and after separation

Coercive Control: how to help yourself or a friend

Stalking and Coercive Control

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• What are examples of non-physical forms of domestic violence?

• What types of silent treatment are considered a part of coercive control?

• What is the cycle of abuse?

• Why some unspoken rules with your partner could be domestic violence.

• What's wrong with hiding things from your family and friends that you were embarrassed about in your relationship.

• Control of money and what might be domestic violence.

• Tracking your expenses and giving you rules on how to spend it.

• Are there different rules for your partner with the joint money?

• Money rules, what isn't ok.

• Who owns the money in a marriage?

• Questions to ask yourself to see if you are being financially controlled.

• Are you budgeting or is it financial control?

• Financial control what it might look like in your relationship?

• The difference between privacy and financial control.

• If they earn the money do you get a say in how it is spent?

• Love bombing and what happens after

• Narcissists and love bombing.

• Are they checking in on you all the time for love or for control?

• What happens when you go from a toxic coercive control relationship to a healthy relationship?

• Why seeing a psychologist can help you not fall back into the same pattern.

• When the ex re partners

• When you repartner too early.

• Moving yourself away from the same patterns

• Why patterns of these behaviours make you lose your identity.

• How coercive control is a pattern

• How the courts are becoming more aware of it

• What you can do if this is happening to you

• Do you need to tell your lawyer if you suspect you have been under a coercive control relationship

• How confiding in a friend can help.

• What type of friend you should consider telling about coercive control or domestic violence in your relationship?

• Defamation and how to be sure you don't get in trouble with this.

• Why you should start safely writing the abuse down so you can remind yourself later.

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you've found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone's situation is different.

Is your main divorce or de facto separation fear having a very expensive legal bill? Are you currently going through separation negotiations, mediation, property settlement or a child custody battle? In this episode we discuss the five most common and easy ways to rack up your legal bill and how to avoid it. If you don't want an expensive divorce or separation, listen to these five things your lawyer or you might be doing and learn how to stop it.

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone's situation is different.

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Cases mentioned

Strahan and Strahan Case

Podcast Episodes that are related to this topic

Choosing a Lawyer and Red Flags not to ignore

Costs and Calderbank Offers Episode

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• The case of strahan and strahan and why its a cautionary tale

• Lawyer "Ping Pong" letters and how to avoid them

• Why getting the facts matter

• Why proof will save you $$$ in your legal bills

• How to negotiate and keep your legal costs down

• Why negotiating your property settlement isn't the same as negotiating for a house or used car with a sales agent.

• What you need to take if you are self representing yourself at mediation

• How does hunting for documents cost you high legal fees

• Bank statements and disclosure in negotiations

• What type of disclosure do you need for mediation

• The new family law rules for disclosure

• Why you should have a reason for each document your lawyer starts hunting

• What happens with disclosure in your court case

• Questions to ask yourself for each disclosure you ask for

• How disclosure correlates to legal costs

• Why the court is still using paper instead of online documents

• Why you need to have a copy of your documents in hard copy sometimes

• Post separation abuse, disclosure & your privacy

• Domestic violence and disclosure and privacy

• The central practice direction on disclosure

• Subpoenas and the process

• Who is allowed to issue subpoenas and how many

• Documents and disclosure and legal costs

• What is the step in step out approach

• What happens if you don't like your lawyer?

• What happens if you need a second opinion from another lawyer?

• Can you change lawyers?

• Issues with changing lawyers

• The difference between an accredited family law specialist and a general lawyer

• Choosing a lawyer and how it can affect your legal fee costs

• Can you use a general lawyer for your family law case?

• Statistics of court self represented litigants

• Statistics of cost of family court matters

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you've found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone's situation is different.

Which roadblock are you facing for getting the best outcome in your separation, divorce property settlement or custody case? This episode is perfect for anyone at any point of the divorce or separation process. Our Family Law Specialist has identified some behaviours she has seen in previous clients that get in the way of sorting things out for good. We identify and discuss what these roadblocks are, how you know if this is what you are facing, how it might affect your case legally and what you can do about it.

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone's situation is different.

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What to do before you leave

Moving out

How to divorce a statue

You Don't Want to Miss Out On

• What happens if you just want peace at any price during settling your divorce?

• How can you identify if you have a rushing issue?

• What happens if you just want it done and agree to anything?

• How to double check to see if you are going to live with what you have negotiated at mediation

• Why it is important to get advice to see if the agreement is good for you.

• Why it is important to take time to think about your agreement before signing.

• Signing consent orders

• Questions to ask yourself (then see a lawyer) before signing consent orders

• Are you an impulse buyer and how it could affect your divorce

• How to make a considered decision in your divorce

• What decisions you might make in divorce negotiations if you are exhausted

• Why it is important to follow your timeline not theirs (unless it is court related)

• Why putting yourself in someone else shoes might help you make a decision

• Strategies to help make sure you don't just give in

• What happens in negotiations if you are super attached to your family home during property settlement

• Things to remind yourself before you give in

• What happens if you are the high conflict person during divorce proceedings

• What happens in negotiations if you have been subject to domestic violence

• What happens with the domestic violence affect pendulum kicks in during divorce negotiations

• How does having a high conflict attitude affect your family court case?

• What goes through a lawyer's mind as they write a letter to you and what you need to keep in mind when reading it.

• Why it's so important to take the emotion out of it.

• What happens if you have escaped coercive control and your reactions get scrutinised by the family court

• Why it is important to educate yourself on the legal process if you are getting divorced

• Why it's important to work on yourself to ensure you make the best decisions for property settlement

• How to stop yourself being avoidant in the divorce process

• How to stop yourself procrastinating during your property or children's matters

• Why it is important to find a good lawyer

• Questions you should ask yourself if you keep procrastinating doing the work for court or negotiations or mediation

• What to do if you are feeling sad about leaving your family home.

• Does being avoidant affect your family law case?

• What happens if you don't open or read legal letters?

• Can being avoidant mean your ex might get orders by default

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you've found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone's situation is different.

Are you about to go to mediation or have you just completed a mediation and are wondering what happens after, if you agree. In this Family Law episode we discuss 10 things that happen emotionally and legally after you settle at mediation. Our Family Law specialist expert explores what to expect if you have walked out of a mediation with a verbal agreement, a written agreement or signed consent orders. We then look at what you do with your agreement or orders. This is a great episode for those about to start the separation process or who are going to mediation so you know what might happen next and what you should aim for and do after.

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone's situation is different.

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Mediation Episode

FDR Mediation Episode

Pre-Action Procedures Episode

Resources that might help you

• Attorney General Website list of FDRP

• Fact sheet on disclosure FCFCOA

You Don't Want to Miss Out On

• What is settlers remorse and how to stop it

• What happens after mediation if you've finally agreed to everything.

• What is litigation neurosis and how can if affect you after your case is settled

• Questions to ask yourself if you wake up and want to change your mind

• Can you undo an agreement after mediation

• What happens if you walk away with a verbal agreement after mediation

• What is a heads of agreement?

• What happens if you both sign a heads of agreement?

• What isn't confidential in a heads agreement

• What happens with a signed consent order

• What is a consent order

• What stamp duty can you avoid using your court order or filed consent orders

• What you should do once you end up with consent orders filed or sealed court orders

• What happens to you after mediation

• Does mediation work is it worth it

• What's the difference between mediation and divorce

• Section 9 of the Family Law Act and what it means for transferring your car or house over to your ex or to you.

• What happens if you don't follow your orders?

• What happens if your ex doesn't follow the orders?

• Is it finally over once you have consent orders signed and filed?

• Is it finally over if you walk away with an agreement after mediation?

• What options do you have if you need to change the orders?

• Financial agreement or property consent order?

• Do online financial agreements stand up in court?

• Why it's important to get individual legal advice on your situation

• How does the court approve a consent order?

• Why it is important to get your orders checked before signing.

• Things that might not get approved through the family court with consent orders

• Do judges personalities play into court outcomes?

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you've found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone's situation is different.

Do you think your divorce proceedings are on its way to court or mediation? The FCFCOA is taking control of the family court timelines with pre-action procedures that must occur before you go to court (unless it is urgent). We discuss the pre-action procedures including mediation that you need to do before you even think about filing in court and the certain letters that need to be shared. We discuss what these procedures are and what happens if you don't do them. We touch on sharing your proposed orders, inviting your ex to mediation and doing your disclosure and if you need a lawyer to do it?

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone's situation is different.

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DIY DISCLOSURE EPISODE

Divorcing a Statue Episode

Resources that might help you

FCFCOA Pre-action procedures fact sheet

• Attorney General Website list of FDRP

• Fact sheet on disclosure FCFCOA

You Don't Want to Miss Out On

• What are pre-action procedures for the FCFCOA

• What do you need to do to make these procedures happen

• How to invite your ex to mediation

• How to share your proposed orders with your ex

• Notice of intent to file

• How to share what you want to happen with the children

• How to share what you want to happen with the property

• What the timelines are for responding to your letters

• What situations don't require pre action procedures

• What types of people you need for mediation

• What is the process that happens when you book in mediation

• What is disclosure

• What types of things should you disclose?

• What disclosure is described in the Family Law Act

• How to avoid wasting money in this phase

• Doing your own disclosure

• What you should do if they don't give you disclosure

• What should you do if they don't have disclosure at mediation?

• Guessing a valuation

• What is a redacted disclosure document

• Should you hide names in your disclosure

• Privacy and disclosure

• What is a notice of intent to file

• What to write in a letter when doing a notice of intent to file

• Pre-Action Procedures

• Central Practice Direction

• What happens after sending the notice of intent to file letter

• What are the next steps after the pre action procedures?

• How long to wait between each step?

• What is a genuine steps certificate?

• Post Separation Abuse and how the pre action procedures will help stop it

• What happens if you don't follow the pre action procedures

• What happens if you have not complied

• Do you need a lawyer to help you with the pre action procedures required by the FCFCOA?

• Do you need a lawyer for your meditation?

• What does it cost to go to mediation in the pre action procedure stage?

• What do you do if the other side is threatening to take you to court and they haven't done the pre action procedures.

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
• LEGAL AID
• Lifeline 13 11 14
• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
• Relationships Australia
• Police on 000
• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you've found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone's situation is different.

How does family violence affect your family court outcome? Lyn, a family law specialist explains five tips on how to present the family violence to the family court in a way that the court will take note. We also explore what kind of orders the family court might make in an attempt to keep your children safe if there has been family violence in the past. We also discuss the myths that are still floating around about domestic violence, coercive control and the family court.

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone's situation is different.

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Podcast Episodes that are related to this topic

COERCIVE CONTROL PODCAST EPISODE

Domestic-violence-and-family-violence-part-2

Resources that might help you

• Examples of Coercive Control

• Consent Tea Video

• FCFCOA Notice of child abuse, family violence or risks containing examples of how the family violence may affect your children.

You Don't Want to Miss Out On

• The FCFCOA's current general approach towards domestic violence

• How does the Family Court manage the risk of a violent parent

• The balancing act the court has to do between a child's right to see both parents and a child's safety.

• How does the family court protect your children from psychological and physical harm when family violence has occurred.

• Unacceptable Risk, Risk or No Risk and how the court may determine this.

• 5 general tips on how to present the effect the family violence has had on you and your children in family court.

• How the family court looks for signs of rehabilitation

• Can a family court order someone to get counselling

• Have people in the past lied and used family violence or dv as a tool to get custody of the children

• Five tips on how to present your case to the family court

• How to lay out the facts in an affidavit

• Why it's important to focus on the kids and the impact on them during the family court process.

• What are examples of how the domestic violence that happened to you impacted on the children?

• Why is it important to show the family court any family violence that has occurred after separation.

• Why it is important to focus on the facts while dealing with the Family Court and explaining what occurred.

• Things to be mindful of when referring to your diary or journal during family court proceedings.

• The pendulum of effects of domestic violence and how to be aware of it when you are going through your divorce process.

• What kind of orders does a court make to ensure children are safe if family violence has occured.

• Contact centres and how they work and why they are used.

• What happens if family violence occurs again.

• When would your case be reopened in the family court after you've had final orders.

• If there is family violence does the court make the children no contact with that parent?

• Myths floating around about DV and Family Court.

• Coercive control and examples of how it affects your children.

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
• LEGAL AID
• Lifeline 13 11 14
• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
• Relationships Australia
• Police on 000
• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you've found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone's situation is different.

Going through the divorce process? Learning the ropes of co-parenting? Dealing with a custody battle? This episode explores what role the school can and cannot play in your journey. We discuss what will be looked at in the family court moving forward if you end up in court. We discuss how you can best support your child and their school experience whilst you go through your divorce. We discuss practical legal tips to help support you through this confusing time. Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone's situation is different.

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CHILD SUPPORT episode on school uniforms and school books and fees etc.

You Don't Want to Miss Out On

• What to do if you or your ex wants to change your child's school

• What happens with decision making at school before you get final orders or a parenting plan.

• What powers do the schools have when it comes to your child and custody issues?

• Can a school stop a parent from collecting them from school?

• What happens if you and your ex are arguing over school enrollments?

• What is a Child Impact Statement and how is it used in the Family Court

• Moving schools during divorce and what you should consider

• School Fees and Divorce

• State School to Private School and Child Support issues

• What happens with Child Support if your ex changes your child to a private school and you didn't want them to?

• Does the Family Court choose a school if you and your ex cannot?

• Should you consider putting a school name in your orders or parenting plan?

• What can you do if your ex is threatening to change your child's school?

• What if you and your co parent don't agree if our child should repeat a year

• Co Parenting and schooling decisions.

• Extra Curricular Activities

• Extra curricular activities and co parenting decisions

• Our five top tips to dealing with school issues whilst going through your divorce proceedings.

• Can student counsellors get their notes subpoenaed for court?

• Tips for dealing with school events if domestic violence is involved.

• School report cards and school notes and coparenting and your court orders.

• Our Children Platform and how you can use it during your divorce process

• Why it's important to keep the school up to date with the general information.

• Sharing school information with a co parent during divorce proceedings.

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
• LEGAL AID
• Lifeline 13 11 14
• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
• Relationships Australia
• Police on 000
• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you've found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone's situation is different.

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You Don't Want to Miss Out On

• How to choose a family lawyer if you have a child with a disability

• How to present your case in court

• How disability is viewed in the family court of australia.

• How Autism is considered in the family court of australia

• Property Settlement and how it is affected by parent who has to care for a child with disability

• How the Family Court currently deals with NDIS in property and children's matters

• Child support and supporting children with disabilities

• What happens when parents disagree with a diagnosis of a disability?

• You best steps to take before mediation

• How to prove a disability in the family court

• How to show the court the impact and needs of a disability

• Feuding parents of a child with a disability

• Co Parenting a child with disability

• Adult children with a disability and maintenance in the family court

• Custody arrangements for a child with a disability

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
• LEGAL AID
• Lifeline 13 11 14
• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
• Relationships Australia
• Police on 000
• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

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Have you had a question about child support that you are too embarrassed to ask? Our Family Law Specialist will be going through listener questions and going into a deep dive on child support collection and payments. Some questions will be touching on what you are allowed to use the money for through to some surprising little known facts about child support you might be glad to learn. We even discuss how child support may affect the outcome of your property or custody case in the Family Court of Australia.

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Child Support in Australia podcast episode

How to survive financially after separation podcast episode

DIY disclosure for property and child support

Child Support Website for Australia

Call Child Support Australia : 131 272

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• What can you spend your child support money on?

• What are the rules for child support and how you can spend the money?

• Do you need to show receipts on where you spent the child support money?

• Can your ex who is paying child support refuse to pay for anything else?

• Do you have to pay for the things at the other parents house if they are paying child support?

• Child Support is based on a formula: what is it and how does it work?

• Does child support change based on the child's age?

• Is sport included in child support?

• Extra stuff: how is it sorted out in child support?

• What to do if your ex is financially motivated to get more time with the kids to avoid paying child support only?

• What happens in the court if your ex is trying to get more time with the children just so they can get a bigger part of the property pool in the family court?

• Does Child Support provide back payments?

• How does child support relate to the Family Court and the Family Court decisions when it comes to property and child custody issues?

• Does the Family Court of Australia care if your ex isn't paying child support?

• How far back can you get back pay in child support?

• Can you get child support and spousal maintenance?

• Why using child support to collect the money is the best way to avoid more fighting if you are in a high conflict relationship.

• Domestic violence and child support

• What can you do if you are worried that asking for child support may cause more domestic violence for you?

• Are you allowed to tell people how much child support your ex is paying?

• What to do if you think the child support you are being paid isn't enough or you don't think it is fair?

• If you are separated under one roof can the other person apply for child support?

• Why we should have a national child support appreciation day

• Child Support and negotiations

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
• LEGAL AID
• Lifeline 13 11 14
• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
• Relationships Australia
• Police on 000
• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

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Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone's situation is different.

Are you dealing with an ex with narcissistic behaviours and having to navigate the world of coparenting? Are you about to go into the family court system or are already in it with a narcissist? This divorce course podcast episode is for you. Mia from Grey Rock Consulting is going to discuss and help you navigate co parenting whilst dealing with the narcissistic behaviours. Lyn helps us explore the legal implications of fights, reactive behaviour and not thinking about the best interest of the children. She will guide you on to how best to show the family court what you are dealing with.

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Other podcast episodes mentioned in this episode

Grey Rock Method Episode

CoParenting with a difficult ex - Lorrie Brooks

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https://www.greyrockconsulting.com.au/

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• Why an ironclad court order is the best defence against a narcissistic co parent

• Why wishy washy court orders wont work in this situation.

• The court's opinion on parents that can't co parent

• How to avoid conflict with a narcissistic co parent

• What happens if your court orders don't specify what to do in a certain parenting situation?

• How to consider the best interests of the children when making the decision.

• Tips on how to deal with having a ex who counter parents

• Accepting what you can and can't control.

• Why can't you speak ill of your co-parent to the other child.

• What to do when you want to talk badly about your co parent.

• Adult matters and why you shouldn't burden the kids with it.

• Why leading by example for your children is so important.

• Why explaining and defending yourself isn't a good idea.

• Is it important to defend yourself against accusations from a narcissistic ex in coparenting communications?

• What the Judge might think of your communication if it is full of fighting, accusations and drama

• How sometimes massaging a narcissist ego may be helpful

• What to do if they write something that isn't true about you in the communications.

• Do you need to defend yourself from all their accusations?

• Why it isn't a good idea to use the label of a narcissist during family court case

• How to describe the conduct to a judge in the family court trial.

• How to objectively document issues that occur with the coparent.

• Getting a psychologist for your children to help deal with the uncertainty of divorce.

• What does the Australian Institute of Studies show about kids in the middle of conflicting parents.

• Tips for making sure you do the right thing legally when getting your child a psychologist.

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
• LEGAL AID
• Lifeline 13 11 14
• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
• Relationships Australia
• Police on 000
• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

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Do you need to sell your house as part of your property settlement? Today we are discussing the legal and practical mindfield that you may have to navigate with your ex. In this episode we discuss how to navigate finding a real estate agent, deciding on the house value and sale price and moving out with someone who you happen to be going through an emotional rollercoaster of divorce with. Any trouble or drama your ex can think of when it comes to selling the house we have a way to deal with it. Listen to the journey and steps you may need to take and the biggest problems people face whilst selling the house for property settlement and what to do about them.

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Other podcast episodes mentioned in this episode

Moving out once you decide to divorce episode

Divorcing a statue: avoidant episode

Who gets what property settlement episode

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• Do you actually have to sell the house?

• If you want to keep the house after divorce what do you do?

• The family courts view on keeping the house after divorce

• Who has to do the work to get it ready for sale during divorce?

• What happens if you know who gets what before you sell the house?

• Do you use your family lawyer or a different lawyer to sell your house?

• How to choose an agent to sell the house whilst getting divorced

• Choosing an real estate agent during divorce

• How do you get the house valued during divorce?

• How do you agree on a value for the property of the house for property settlement?

• How do you deal with an avoidant ex and selling a house

• What to do if your ex refuses to sign the contract to sell the house.

• Can someone else sign a contract to sell the house instead of your ex if they are refusing to?

• What to do if your ex is refusing to sell the house?

• What to do if you can't afford the mortgage and need to sell the house during divorce.

• How to keep your legal fees down during selling the house in divorce.

• Who pays the fees for the conveyancing lawyer when selling the house during divorce?

• Who fixes up the house for sale during a divorce or property settlement?

• What is the court's view about who fixes the house up for sale?

• How to deal with selling a house with a manipulative and controlling ex?

• How to deal with the bank and selling the house during property settlement and divorce

• Who should sign the document first?

• What happens to the money from the house sale during divorce and property settlement?

• What is the process if you both can't agree on who gets what after selling the house during the divorce?

• Why it might be a good idea to put your money from the sale of the house in a trust account until you agree on a percentage in property settlement.

• Is it better to sell the house first before discussing what gets what percentage in the divorce?

• Amicable divorce and property settlement and selling the house

• What happens if your ex has spent the money from the sale of the house before property settlements?

• What happens if you can't sell your house during property settlement.

• What happens if no one wants to buy your house during divorce settlement?

• What does the court do if you can't sell your house because no one wants to buy it?

• How do you divide up the furniture for divorce?

• How do you move out during divorce?

• Who takes what?

• What to do before you leave if you are the one moving out.

• What to do with their things if they refuse to take it when you are moving out of the house.

• Who does the packing?

• The pro's and con's of moving out first

• The pro's and con's of moving out last

• How to keep an amicable relationship steady during selling your house in divorce.

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
• LEGAL AID
• Lifeline 13 11 14
• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
• Relationships Australia
• Police on 000
• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

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Whether you are just recently separated or already have a parenting plan or orders, we've gone through all the issues that you may face over the school holidays and christmas period. Lyn, a family lawyer of 35 years experience talks through all the situations she has faced for her clients and how you can deal with them yourselves to ensure that the kids have a wonderful school holiday and you and your co parent don't end up fighting and in court. Touching on the four different personality types including High Conflict, Manipulative and Controlling (narcissistic behaviours) , Amicable and Avoidant and how best to navigate the holiday season during the tricky time of separation and divorce.

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Other podcast episodes mentioned in this episode

Christmas and Custody Arrangements 2021 Episode

Creating your own parenting agreement

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• What does the spirit of the orders mean?

• What can you do if you don't have court orders about christmas?

• How can you create a parenting plan for Christmas holidays?

• What types of arrangements can be made for holiday time in parenting agreement

• Avoidant ex and christmas holidays

• Can the court make your ex take the kids for school holidays when they are refusing?

• How to try to keep the other co parent involved in your kids life if they don't want to be involved for christmas.

• What happens if your co parent refuses to take time off work to help look after the kids in the school holidays?

• What do you do if you can't get your ex to agree on school holiday arrangements?

• What does school gazetted holidays mean?

• What defines school holidays for family court orders?

• What types of arrangements does the family court make?

• How do you ensure you can have a christmas phone call with your kids if you don't have them on christmas day?

• What things manipulative and controlling narcissistic ex's do over the christmas period with your kids.

• How can you stop your coparents family from trash talking to you or your family at christmas time?

• What orders can you seek to stop trash talking to the children?

• What is a Pop parenting course and how can it help you or your manipulative coparent.

• What if the co parent won't let your child take the christmas presents from one house to the other.

• How to avoid conflict at christmas with your co parent

• Can you get someone else to do the handover for Christmas?

• What do you do about the elf on the shelf during christmas between your co parent and you?

• Christmas photos with Santa should you go twice if you are separated?

• Christmas traditions and how to keep them going after separation and divorce.

• Why is it important to be clear with the holiday arrangements?

• The case of Rice and Asplinand why it's important to get your christmas holiday orders right.

• Can you ask the court to help make christmas traditions continue?

• Can you ask the court to order that the children be allowed to visit family over christmas?

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
• LEGAL AID
• Lifeline 13 11 14
• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
• Relationships Australia
• Police on 000
• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

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Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone's situation is different.

Learn about the Grey Rock Method and how it can serve you whilst going through the divorce process with a narcissistic ex or an ex with narcissistic behaviours. We interview Mia Madafferi founder of Grey Rock Consulting who guides you through what the grey rock method is, how best to use it and ways to tweak it if you are going through the family court system. If you have a narcissistic ex and are struggling with communication, this method may be your saving grace. To find out more about Mia and Grey Rock Consulting click the link below. Our Family Law specialist and co host Lyn Galvin will also discuss the implications of grey rock method in the family court and during negotiations for property settlement and parenting agreements.

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Find our guest Mia and Grey Rock Consulting here

Other podcast episodes mentioned in this episode

Bombarded with legal letters? Try these 5 tips

Coercive Control in Divorce and after Separation

Divorcing a narcissist and family court

The Narcissists Playbook in Divorce

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• What is the grey rock method

• When is it a good idea to use the grey rock method

• What types of narcissistic traits might you face in your divorce

• How to use the grey rock method in your divorce

• What signs are there that you might need to use the grey rock method.

• Why is the grey rock method the most suggested method with narcissistic personalities

• Why reacting can encourage your narcissistic ex to continue the behaviour

• Why the grey rock method needs to be tweaked for when going to family court.

• Why using the grey rock method can sometimes be used by your ex as false evidence of alienation.

• Why working on yourself is a must when dealing with a narcissist in divorce

• Why going through a divorce alone without support is not a good idea

• Why should you see a psychologist and get that emotional support?

• Why it is important to use a guiding compass so you know how to respond and react to a narcissistic ex

• How to respond to a barrage of accusations from a narcissistic ex during divorce proceedings.

• How to know when to correct the record or not correct the record when it comes to accusations whilst going through the family court.

• Common narcissistic legal tricks

• Why it's important to remember the source when being accused by a narcissist

• Why it's important to get a family lawyer who understands your ex's personality type.

• Why it is important to set up boundaries when communicating with a narcissist

• Why it's important to get advice from friends and family and understand the type of person you are dealing with.

• How your family can be used by your narcissistic ex and what to look out for.

• How to take the emotion out so you don't get caught up in a narcissistic fight.

• Why your reaction to a narcissistic ex matters

• How to claim your power back in divorcing a narcissist

• Narcissists and lawyers

• How to deal with a covert narcissist in divorce proceedings

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
• LEGAL AID
• Lifeline 13 11 14
• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
• Relationships Australia
• Police on 000
• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you've found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone's situation is different.

The one time you don't want to do an undoable thing is in your property, childrens matters or domestic violence proceedings. Today we will be talking about things that you might do that you don't realise may have significant ramifications on the outcome of your case if you ever end up in court. We discuss what these things are and how it may affect your custody outcome, property settlement amount or coparenting relationship.

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• How should the kids be looked after in the short term straight after separation.

• How to set up boundaries in the early stages of divorce.

• How should you deal with handover if you are the one who stays in the family home?

• Social Media and Divorce and how it can hinder you.

• Why it might be a good idea to take a break from social media

• Why putting the kids' arrangements in writing is a good idea when co parenting during divorce proceedings.

• Why you need to be careful about what you write to your co parent during divorce proceedings.

• Why you shouldn't negotiate property settlement until you've had legal advice

• Why you should never promise to not touch their super or not touch their bank account in property settlement before distancing yourself from the situation for a while.

• Mistakes made with mortgages and what you can do about it?

• Can your ex withdraw money from a joint mortgage?

• Will you have to pay back money you take out of the mortgage in property settlement?

• Does the money you save up after separation not get included in the property pool.

• What happens with money in a marriage before, during and after separation.

• What happens if your ex buys a property with another person before property settlement has happened.

• What happens if you find a new partner and you haven't had a property settlement yet?

• Who gets your superannuation if you die during divorce proceedings?

• Why is it a good idea to get your will and power of attorney changed when getting divorced?

• Domestic violence cases and the mistakes you can make

• Can domestic violence issues affect custody cases in the family court?

• What to set up as soon as possible after separation

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
• LEGAL AID
• Lifeline 13 11 14
• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
• Relationships Australia
• Police on 000
• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

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If you've got a question about travel or moving and custody this is the episode for you. What are the rules when it comes to overseas and interstate travel and co-parenting and custody? What should you be looking to include in your parenting agreement or consent orders when it comes to the children's passports, international travel and holidays? In this episode we discuss the general rules and what you should consider before finalising your agreement or consent orders. Also we explore what the Family Court usually rules when it comes to overseas and interstate issues. Find out what happens if one co parent decides to move interstate or overseas away from the children but still wants to see them regularly. If you are about to make an agreement with your co parent make sure you listen to this episode too. General information only, always seek your own legal advice as each situation is different.

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Links mentioned in this episode

High Court Case MRR V GR

Hague Convention

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• What happens if your co parent takes the passports?

• What happens if your co parent tries to take your children overseas without your permission or a court order.

• What is a PACE alert and how does it stop your children being taken overseas?

• Why do people include the Hague convention in their parenting agreement or consent orders?

• What is the Hague Convention?

• How do you arrange passports for the kids with your co parent?

• How much notice should a co parent have before taking kids overseas?

• What is a reasonable amount of time to take the kids overseas?

• How you can use the smart traveller government website in your consent orders

• How often do co parents end up in court over overseas holiday travel arrangements

• Can you co parent take your child interstate without telling the other parent?

• What happens if a parent wants to move overseas with the child?

• How the court decides what is in the best interest of the child for overseas and interstate living with arrangements.

• What happens to custody arrangements if your co parent gets an interstate job and they have to move?

• How can you create parenting orders that accommodate one parent travelling overseas or interstate all the time?

• How can you create a parenting agreement that accommodates a parent moving to another state?

• How do you stop the other parent from withholding the children from you in another state or country?

• Can the court make an order to bring back a child from overseas or from another state?

• Can you be forced to live within a certain radius in parenting court orders?

• What happens if the other parent moves a long drive away and handover becomes problematic?

• Things to consider when moving interstate that may affect your child custody arrangements?

• What is the High Court Case Mrr Gr - Roses Case and how does it affect interstate moving and child custody arrangement decisions?

• Do you need to notify the co parent if you are going interstate for a holiday in Australia?

• What if your co parent wants to take the children to a non Hague convention country?

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
• LEGAL AID
• Lifeline 13 11 14
• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
• Relationships Australia
• Police on 000
• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you've found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone's situation is different.

This episode covers the entire legal process for property settlement & parenting matters from start to finish including all the new updates and changes in the Australian family court. Know what you will be facing so you can make educated decisions about costs and time. Understand the process so you know how important the negotiations and mediations really are. The Family Court process in Australia has changed. So we will talk you through from beginning to end of the whole process you might have to face going through your divorce or de facto separation. We discuss the best ways to avoid court and settle without spending thousands in legal fees.

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PODCAST EPISODE LINKS mentioned in this episode

FDR and Meditations Podcast Episode

Affidavits

Court Documents - Response to initiating application/

Five proven steps to negotiate your divorce

Convincing the unconvincable Episode

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• How to avoid going to a family court trial?
• How consent orders will help you avoid court
• What are the things you can do to stay out of court?
• What is Mediation and how it will help you sort your divorce.
• What is an FDRP
• What is a Family Dispute Resolution
• What is arbitration?
• Is Arbitration cheaper than a family court trial?
• Changes in the Federal Circuit Court and Family Court of Australia
• What is the Family Court process and procedure?
• What happens at the first Family Court of Australia event?
• What is an interim hearing?
• How many mediations do you have to do in family court and divorce?
• What is the difference between a court mediation FDR and an out of court mediation?
• What is a direction hearing?
• Why might the family court of Australia order you to mediation?
• What happens if mediation doesn't work?
• What are the next steps after mediation
• What steps do you need to take to get to court?
• What steps do you need to take to stay out of court?
• How is the Family Court of Australia using Microsoft Teams?
• Why it is so important to never stop trying to settle.
• What happens for a trial
• Can you settle just before a trial
• What happens if your ex doesn't follow orders?

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
• LEGAL AID
• Lifeline 13 11 14
• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
• Relationships Australia
• Police on 000
• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you've found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone's situation is different.

Looking to create parenting agreement or a parenting plan or consent orders with a co parent that has drug or alcohol abuse issues? In this episode we will discuss the family court's views and how it deals with drugs and alcohol when it comes to court orders, parenting agreements and arrangements. We will also be discussing how the family court deals with it, what the family court puts in place to ensure the children's safety and how you can deal with it yourself even if you are not in the family court system.

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EPISODES mentioned in this episode

FDR and Meditations Podcast Episode

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• Does the Family Court of Australia care if the other parent is doing drugs or abusing alcohol?
• What kinds of tests can a court order to find out if your ex is using drugs or alcohol during their time with the children?
• What to consider putting in your parenting agreement if your ex is a drug addict
• What to consider putting in your parenting agreement if your ex is an alcoholic
• What do you do if your co parent is doing drugs?
• What can you do if your co parent is an alcoholic?
• What kind of court orders can you get if you have a drug addict ex?
• What the Family Court of Australia does about Drugs and Alcohol
• How can you use a contact centre to help with a drug and alcohol issue in your family?
• What are the penalties for not following court orders?
• Can the court make orders about the kids and alcohol and drugs?
• What happens if your ex is giving alcohol or drugs to your child or teenager?
• Types of court orders you can ask for if your co parent is an alcoholic
• Does drinking or drug taking affect your property settlement amount?
• How do you prove that your ex is using drugs or alcohol
• How to work around an alcohol or drug problem
• What kind of testing for drugs and alcohol is done by the family court in regards to a custody issue?

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
• LEGAL AID
• Lifeline 13 11 14
• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
• Relationships Australia
• Police on 000
• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you've found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.

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We are always told about the things you should do in divorce, but this episode is about the things you should never do in divorce. We discuss the top five mistakes that Lyn, our Family Lawyer with 35 years experience, has seen people make over the years in their property settlement and parenting and custody negotiations that she wishes they didn't make. We discuss what to do instead and how to make sure you make the best decisions to ensure you get the best outcome without making costly legal and emotional mistakes.

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Podcast Episodes referred to in this episode:

EPISODE : WHAT TO DO BEFORE YOU LEAVE

EPISODE: MOVING OUT, ONCE YOU'VE DECIDED TO DIVORCE

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• Why it is so important to not take your ex's word for it in property settlement
• Why it is so important to get your own legal advice
• The five things you should never do in your divorce, property settlement and custody battle.
• Why is it a red flag if they say don't go see a lawyer.
• Why you need to change your mindset during divorce negotiations from being a couple to being business-like.
• Why you need to take the guilt out of your decision making for your future.
• How to identify if they are manipulating or controlling you during property settlement.
• Questions to ask yourself before you sign or agree to a property settlement
• Does the family court care if you or your partner are the ones that ended the relationship?
• Things you should do before you sign a property agreement or agree to property consent orders.
• Why it's important not to rely on your in laws and your ex's family during divorce process
• Why you need your own legal advice separate from your ex during divorce
• Why you need your own accountant during divorce
• Why do you need your own financial advisor during divorce and you shouldn't be sharing your old one with your ex.
• What you need to know before you leave the house after separation
• What happens if you move out of the house with a high conflict divorce
• Why it's important to know their divorce personality before you start the process
• What is an ouster order and what does it mean?
• Domestic Violence and why it's important to have a safety plan when you leave.
• What you need to gather before you leave to help with property settlement
• The checklist you need to look at before you leave if it is safe to do so

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
• LEGAL AID
• Lifeline 13 11 14
• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
• Relationships Australia
• Police on 000
• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

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Are you currently negotiating property or children's matters? Are you about to go into mediation? Or did your mediation or family dispute resolution fail and you are worried you will end up in the family court? Try following these 5 steps on our proven pathway to finalising your divorce and getting to agreement.

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Podcast Episodes referred to in this episode:

• CHRISTMAS PODCAST EPISODE
• The 12 Agreement to consider for Parenting Agreements
• When an Amicable Divorce goes wrong and what you can do about it in your Property Settlement & Parenting Agreement

You Don't Want to Miss Out On

• The five steps you can take to help get you and your ex to an agreement

• How mediators work and what process they use in FDR's

• Why mediations and negotiations are confidential and what that means legally.

• What does without prejudice mean when it is seen at the top of a legal letter and when should you use it?

• Why it is so important to keep negotiations going in property settlement even if mediation fails.

• Why it is a good idea to keep negotiating for a parenting agreement or children's consent orders even if mediation failed.

• How do you identify the issues needed to be negotiated for your divorce.

• Why you should always start any legal letter or negotiation letter with the stuff that is already agreed.

• How to compare your position vs your ex's position in children's matters

• How to put your property settlement issues down on paper so it is clear to a lawyer if you go see one.

• Why lists are helping during your divorce negotiations

• Why finding the reason for your ex's position is important and key to your negotiation strategy in mediation or via letter.

• Why it is a good idea to check your offer before sending to make sure it doesn't offend or set off any of their triggers.

• Why it's important to make sure you are not the reason that you cannot settle your property settlement or children's matters.

• Why narrowing the issues will always help if you are about to go into the Family Court.

• Why is it important to consider all the options during negotiations?

• Why consent orders can be very different to court orders.

• What is the difference between a parenting plan and consent orders

• What is the difference between consent orders and a court order?

• How do you document your agreements with your ex

• How do you document your parenting agreement with your ex

• The pro's and con's of making your agreement legal

• How to avoid going to family court.

• How to turn your parenting agreement into a legally binding consent order

• How to make sure your financial agreement is legally binding.

• How to negotiate with a manipulative and controlling person during divorce

• How to negotiate with an avoidant person during divorce

• How to negotiate with a high conflict ex in divorce

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
• LEGAL AID
• Lifeline 13 11 14
• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
• Relationships Australia
• Police on 000
• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

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Lyn discusses the four main "dirty money deeds" done in divorce and property settlement and how to avoid them happening to you. We tend to expect the best in people but let's face it when it comes to divorce it is better to be prepared than sorry. This episode covers some of the things "the dirty deeds" that happen along the way when it comes to money and divorce in high conflict, or manipulative and controlling relationships. Hopefully this can help you be mindful of the pitfalls yourself and be proactive during your divorce to avoid big lengthy court cases.

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Click below to listen to the podcast episodes referred to in this episode:

Bombarded with legal letters? Try these 5 tips

Child Support Podcast Episode

You Don't Want to Miss Out On

• The four main ways people cheat their partners out of money during divorce proceedings.

• Where a high conflict ex might hide money during your divorce proceedings.

• Why it is important to keep an eye on the day to day bills etc.

• Child support and the tricks some people play and how to avoid them.

• Why you need to investigate and be on top of the ins and outs of the joint assets.

• How to stop racking up your lawyer bills

• Why it is important to learn to be self sufficient

• Why you need to consider the emotional as well as financial cost when it comes to property settlement.

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
• LEGAL AID
• Lifeline 13 11 14
• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
• Relationships Australia
• Police on 000
• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

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Are you in legal limbo with your property settlement, or divorce? Have you been separated for a while now and nothing has been sorted. In this episode we cover the legal implications from letting the finalisation of your property settlement matters or children's matters to just drift. We will also explore 4 steps to take if you find yourself stuck in this situation to get yourself out of the limbo and face your new life without the strings attached to you from your old one. .

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You Don't Want to Miss Out On

• What is divorce limbo and are you stuck in it?

• What are the legal implications of letting your property settlement and divorce drag on.

• What to do if you don't have money to go to court?

• Why is it important to talk to a lawyer?

• How some people try to use delays for divorce as a chance to alter their income and bank balances for divorce and property settlement.

• Why you need to know where you stand legally before you start negotiations

• What 4 steps you can take to get yourself out of legal limbo

• How to see a lawyer for cheap

• How to motivate yourself to get your divorce finalised

• What is the time limit from getting officially divorced to getting property settlement sorted.

• How does not sorting your property settlement for a long time affect the outcome?

• What are the dangers of letting the legal side of your divorce and property settlement never finally get sorted?

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
• LEGAL AID
• Lifeline 13 11 14
• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
• Relationships Australia
• Police on 000
• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

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If you have experienced domestic violence or family violence and you are about to go into the family court system this episode is for you. We discuss why this form is so important and what happens to this form during the court proceedings and how the judge considers it. We explore examples of child abuse or family violence and examples provided by the court. If you have you been asked to fill in a notice of child abuse, family violence, risk form listen to this episode? This form is a mandatory form to be filed with any Initiating Application, Response to Initiating Application or Application for Consent Orders seeking parenting orders in the Family Court of Australia.

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Click here to listen to our the one thing you can do podcast episode referred to in this episode

Click here to listen to our episode on Coercive Control

FCFCOA Website information on Notice of Child Abuse, Family Violence, Risk

You Don't Want to Miss Out On

• What is a notice of child abuse, family violence or risk form?

• Why does the court need it?

• What is considered as family violence?

• Physical Violence and child abuse

• How is neglect considered child abuse?

• How is exposure to family violence part of child abuse?

• Why do you need to fill in the notice of child abuse family violence risk form?

• Initiating application and notice of child risk?

• Response to application and notice of child risk?

• Why do you need to fill in this form when filing consent orders in the Family Court of Australia?

• How does the court look at the notice of risk and consent orders

• What is the statement of truth on the Notice of Risk and what does it mean in the Family Court?

• What is the difference between a consent order and a family court order?

• How a notice of risk makes sure that the child's welfare is put first in consent orders and family court orders.

• How to keep your family lawyer costs down

Do you need to fill in a notice of child abuse, family violence or risk form to file with your court documents? Feeling overwhelmed by the legal forms and the legal jargon? Mum and I've got the solution for you, jump onto our website www.thedivorcecourse.com.au and click the link to the online courses and download our 1hr step by step instructional video on how to fill out this form and more. Together let's fill it out and take away some of the fear of doing this alone. Go to www.thedivorcecourse.com.au today.

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
• LEGAL AID
• Lifeline 13 11 14
• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
• Relationships Australia
• Police on 000
• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

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What happens if you or your coparent have mental health issues. How do you navigate divorce and family court proceedings whilst dealing with mental health issues? Mental health has been identified as a hidden epidemic. It impacts many people going through divorce. This episode covers how the family court views mental health and how it deals with it in court orders. We also discuss what you can do to assist yourself and your children when mental health issues arrise in your divorce proceedings.

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Click here to listen to our FUTURE NEEDS podcast episode

Click here to listen to our How to Divorce a Statue podcast episode

You Don't Want to Miss Out On

• How the court deals with treated and untreated mental health conditions

• How mental health is considered in property settlement in the family court

• How mental health is considered in parenting orders in the family court

• What happens if mental health issues are impacting on the children

• Parentification and how the court tries to avoid it

• When it is important to show a mental health management plan

• What to do if your ex says you are crazy

• What to do if you have a mental health condition during court proceedings

• Why it's not a good idea to hide your mental health condition in family court (general advice only)

• Why do you need to take care of your mental health even more than normal during divorce proceedings?

• What kind of things can you put in consent orders to support the mental health of the children or the parents?

• What things are put in court orders by judges to safeguard the parents mental health whilst parenting.

• What kind of orders to seek to ensure that your co parent is getting the right treatment for their mental health into the future.

• Why supervised time can be considered if the mental health issue is a major concern.

• How to negotiate with someone with mental health issues during your divorce.

• Why to make sure you don't trigger your ex in negotiation letters.

• Mental health and children during divorce

• How to encompass the children's mental health in your parenting agreement

• Why it's a good idea to notify the school of your separation or divorce.

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
• LEGAL AID
• Lifeline 13 11 14
• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
• Relationships Australia
• Police on 000
• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

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Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone's situation is different.

Are you being bombarded by legal letters from your ex or their lawyer? In this episode we will be discussing what steps you can take and the five important things to look at when, why to respond, how to respond and when to respond or if to respond to the letters at all.

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You Don't Want to Miss Out On

• How are legal letters presented in family court

• How to determine when to respond to a letter

• How many letters is normal

• Do you need to stick to their legal letter deadlines for response

• Setting up healthy boundaries

• Why you should respond to anything that refers to any section of the Family Law Act under section 60cc

• Why you should respond to anything that refers to any section of the family law act 79 for property.

• When to expect a flurry of legal letters

• Can you add a deadline to your legal letter?

• How to deal with unreasonable deadlines in letters

• How to be firm in responding to legal letters or your ex's letter

• Will your letters be read out in family court by the judge.

• Domestic violence and communication with your ex during divorce proceedings.

• How to keep costs down if being bombarded by legal letters.

• How to check in legal letters if they are projecting

• Narcissists and legal letters

• Why you need to be vigilant with legal letters so you don't miss something really important.

• Why setting up a new email address might be the best idea for you in your divorce.

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
• LEGAL AID
• Lifeline 13 11 14
• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
• Relationships Australia
• Police on 000
• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

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Whether you are in family court right now or just sorting out your divorce, custody and property settlement in mediation, this is the single, simplest thing you can do to help your case, keep down your costs and save yourself hours of time later looking for dates and documents. Lyn Galvin a family lawyer with over 35 years experience gives her tips on how to arrange your own chronology. She explains why it is important to keep it updated and what documents and court events you would need it for. Don't leave yourself scrambling later trying to find all the information you wish you had documented. Listen to this latest Divorce Podcast episode and thank us later.

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You Don't Want to Miss Out On

• What court documents need a chronology

• Why does your mediation need a chronology

• Why do final trials in family court need a chronology

• How can you save fees with a family lawyer

• How a chronology creates a narrative for your case

• What a lawyer will do the first time you meet

• How to save on costs in legal fees

• How to do some of the legal work yourself in divorce

• Documenting domestic violence and coercive control

• Documenting important information for property settlement

• Documenting important information for Children's Matters

• How to create a chronology

• What your lawyer wish you had done before you go for your first visit.

• What you will wish you had done to make life easier for you in your divorce.

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
• LEGAL AID
• Lifeline 13 11 14
• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
• Relationships Australia
• Police on 000
• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

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Are you about to enter the Family court system? Have you been threatened with costs? Have you been asked to pay your ex's legal fees? Has your lawyer mentioned a Calderbank offer? Are you just confused about the mention of costs in all your legal letters? Well this episode is for you. In this episode Lyn Galvin, a family law specialist of 35 years guides through what costs are, when they are ordered, why and how the court uses costs in the family law system for children's custody matters and for property settlement. This is general advice only. Always seek independent legal advice as every persons situation is different.

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You Don't Want to Miss Out On

• What are costs?

• Why might you be ordered to pay someones costs?

• Why is a cost order sort by people in the family court?

• What is a calderbank offer?

• How are calderbank offers used in parenting and property matters in the family court?

• When should you worry about costs

• What does the court use costs for?

• What are the costs implications if you are self represented

• When are costs ordered?

• What kind of things you need to watch out for so you don't end up paying your ex's legal costs.

• The Family Court of Australia and Costs

• Why lawyers put a cost order at the bottom of their orders sort

• Why making an offer to your ex during family court proceedings could help you later on after a trial.

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
• LEGAL AID
• Lifeline 13 11 14
• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
• Relationships Australia
• Police on 000
• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

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Has your ex just filed documents in court for the first time about property or children's orders? Have you been given a big bundle of documents called Initiating Application? Do you need to fill out and file a response to initiating application form? Do you think that will be the next step your ex will take? Then this episode is for you. We discuss what is involved in the process of responding to initiating court proceedings in the family court of australia. We talk through the current requirements and documents you will need to fill out and the timeline required to do it in. Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone's situation is different.

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Response to Initiating Application Form

You Don't Want to Miss Out On

• What does an initiating application in the family court mean?

• How long do I have to respond to the initiating application

• What do I have to do to respond to my ex's court application

• What is a Parenting Questionnaire?

• How do I write an affidavit in response to my ex's

• What happens next in court once they've filed

• How do I file my court documents?

• What is the court portal

• How do I find my court file number?

• How do I fill in a response to initiating application form?

• When should I see a lawyer

• Can I fill in the documents myself

• What does Interlocutory orders sought by you the respondent mean

• Who is the respondent?

• Who is the applicant?

• Why do I need to tell the family court about domestic violence orders?

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
• LEGAL AID
• Lifeline 13 11 14
• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
• Relationships Australia
• Police on 000
• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

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Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone's situation is different.

Are you in an amicable divorce where everything is going swimmingly? In this episode we are going to identify when an amicable relationship during property settlement or children's matters can go wrong. We are going to show you how to identify it and what you can do about it to avoid troublesome divorce issues. This episode will help you identify the pitfalls and red flags in an amicable divorce and how you can navigate your property settlement or children's orders and divorce fairly.

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Episodes referred to you can listen to next

Separated under one roof podcast episode

Coercive Control podcast episode

Avoidant Divorce Podcast Episode

DIY Disclosure Podcast Episode

Moving Out once you've decided to divorce Podcast Episode

You Don't Want to Miss Out On

• What is an amicable divorce

• What are the red flags in an amicable divorce

• What is financial control

• What is coercive control

• What happens in the space between separation and divorce

• Financial Agreements

• Property Settlement and what to look out for

• Parenting agreements and what to look out for

• Amicable divorce: the pitfalls to avoid

• What happens to the money after you sell the house in a divorce?

• When you should see a lawyer during an amicable divorce

• What are consent orders?

• Can you go back to the court and get consent orders changed?

• Who moves out once you've decided to separate

• Finding out what you are entitled to

• Are you afraid to rock the boat with your ex?

• How to ensure you set yourself up financially in your property settlement fairly for your future.

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
• LEGAL AID
• Lifeline 13 11 14
• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
• Relationships Australia
• Police on 000
• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you've found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone's situation is different.

Has your family law court case been appointed an ICL or Independent Children's Lawyer? Have you heard your lawyer or the court mention a potential ICL in your case? Are you about to enter the family court world and you are trying to sort parenting plans or parenting orders. Well this episode is for you. Listen to Lyn, a family lawyer specialist of 35 years and a past independent children's lawyer, will explain and share with you the facts that may help support you and your children through this journey.

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Resources referred to in this episode

Video to show to kids if and only if they are seeing an ICL

Information about RE: K

FAMILY LAW ACT 1975 - SECT 60CC

Episodes referred to you can listen to next

Subpoena Podcast Episode

Affidavit Podcast Episode

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• What is an ICL

• What is an independent children's lawyer

• What does an ICL do?

• When does an an independent children's lawyer become involved

• What are the myths about ICL?

• When might a judge appoint an independent children's lawyer

• Why might a judge appoint an independent children's lawyer

• Kay & Kay Case and why it applies to the ICL

• How much weight does an independent children's lawyer have in your case for judgement?

• How much does an ICL cost

• What is the process an ICL might follow in the Family Court of Australia

• What can an independent children lawyer do?

• Consent orders and an ICL

• Mediation and independent children's lawyer

• The downside and upside of having an ICL in your family court case

• How to best prepare your child if they are going to have to meet their independent children's lawyer

• How to write an affidavit to make the ICL pay attention to your point of view

• Affidavits and independent children's lawyers

• How to manage the ICL and a high conflict divorce

• How to manage the ICL with a manipulative or controlling narcissistic ex

• How to manage the ICL with an avoidant ex

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
• LEGAL AID
• Lifeline 13 11 14
• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
• Relationships Australia
• Police on 000
• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

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Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone's situation is different.