The Divorce Course Podcast

Are you about to go to trial or worried what your trial would be like in your family court. We will break it down in a really easy to understand way so you know what you will be facing and you won't have any surprises. Break up the fear of the unknown and be prepared for your day in family court for your divorce, children's or property settlement.

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You Don't Want to Miss Out On

• How knowing what goes on in a trial will help you face your fear.
• How keeping a mindfulness approach to your trial day can really keep you focused and achieve better outcomes for you on the day.
• The theatre of a trial and what to expect
• Who will be in the trial room with you.
• What the trial room will look like.
• What to expect from the judge
• How to speak to a judge
• What a judges associate is and what to expect from them on the day of the trial
• How to know where to stand when you go into court
• The layout of the courtroom
• What is a bar table and why is it called one?
• When do witnesses come into the trial
• Where do witnesses wait during the trial proceedings
• Can you take a support person with you?
• How does the judge enter?
• How does the trial start
• What kind of housekeeping does the judge do at the beginning
• What is the point of the witness box
• What do you have to do in the witness box
• What kind of questions do they ask in the witness box
• How can you prepare for a trial
• What does the affidavit have to do with the trial
• Why it's important to refresh your memory
• Why it's important to eat breakfast the day of court
• Top strategy for the witness box
• What is going on in the head of the barrister or the lawyer
• How long can you be in the witness box
• How to ask to go to the bathroom if you're in the witness box
• What should you do when a judge asks you a direct question
• How should you address the judge during your family court trial
• What are closing submissions
• What's the difference between written and spoken submissions
• What do you find out the outcome of your family court trial
• How long does it take to get a judgement
• Can you cross examine your ex in the witness box yourself?
• How to prepare for trial and cross examine if you are doing it yourself
• If you are self representing
• What happens if your trial is via zoom?
• What's the difference between a divorce trial with zoom as opposed to in the court room?
• How many support people should you bring to a trial
• Objections during court, how does it happen, why and who can do it.
• Can you object yourself to questions asked of you in the witness box?
• How to take care of yourself after the trial
• What happens if you cry in the witness box
• Why do lots of people settle on the day of the trial?
• How to avoid being done for costs?
• What happens if the judgement matches the offer you or your ex offered a year ago or months ago?

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
• LEGAL AID
• Lifeline 13 11 14
• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
• Relationships Australia
• Police on 000
• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

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Are you freaking out about your divorce proceedings? At some point during everyone's divorce there may be a moment of panic or a feeling of hopelessness. This is the episode to listen to if you are worried. Let Lyn, a family law specialist of over 35 years experience explain the legal things she explains to her clients to calm them down when they are panicking. And some great tips you can use to eliminate more worry later down the track. Divorce and court isn't as scary as you think it is. We've got your back. Press play and feel better today.

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You Don't Want to Miss Out On

• Five points to remember when freaking out in divorce proceedings
• Your ex isn't special, the family court has seen it all before
• Why keeping notes of your divorce proceedings can help calm you in a moments of panic of your divorce
• What happens if mediation fails?
• How long it takes from initial application to final trial
• What are the new family court directives
• How to stop your ex from freaking you out.
• How to be proactive in your divorce proceedings instead of reactive.
• How to make plans before you ask for a response to something so you don't have to worry about what their response will be, if any.
• How to speed up your divorce process.
• Consequences and how to use them to help progress the matter forward.
• Drafting letters as your next response as a way to calm yourself
• Why setting your own divorce goals are important
• Why creating a action plan of steps needed is important
• Why you need a plan a, plan b and plan c to eliminate the panic
• How not to let the new year make you upset about your divorce.
• Divorce songs and how they can help you get the confidence to face the legal stuff.
• Why do you need to focus forward and live your life during the divorce process?
• How what you focus on can affect how you cope with your divorce process.
• How to reclaim your power after separation.
• You don't need your ex to do a thing to get your divorce finalised
• Why threats don't always end up in reality
• Why getting a psychologist can really help your mental health during your divorce proceedings.

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
• LEGAL AID
• Lifeline 13 11 14
• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
• Relationships Australia
• Police on 000
• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

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We discuss what happens when you separate. Who should get the pets in a divorce? How the family court views pets and what they can do. And also what you can do to make sure the pet is taken care of in your divorce. We look at other pet owners' solutions and how you can apply these yourself. We also discuss pets in domestic violence situations and where you can go to for help.

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• How your pet is viewed in the family court.

• Is there anything in the family law act that refers to pets?

• Whats the difference between livestock and pets and how does the court deal with this?

• Can you work out an arrangement yourself to share the custody of the pets?

• Can a family court judge make an order on the custody of a pet?

• How pet possession can be proven by registration papers?

• Show dogs and divorce.

• What happens if your ex takes your pet?

• What should you do before separation with your pet?

• Why you should never leave pets with a person who has committed DV. T

• Domestic Violence and Pet Care

• Disability Pet or Support Animals and Divorce

• Property Settlement and Pets are they included as assets?
• Consent orders and financial agreements and pets.

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
• LEGAL AID
• Lifeline 13 11 14
• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
• Relationships Australia
• Police on 000
• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

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Today's Listener Divorce Questions:

This podcast is general advice only

• How can you change existing parenting orders?
• Can you change your parenting orders after a few years?
• What is the main aim of the practice direction for the federal circuit and family court of australia?
• What is the case of the Rice & Asplin case of 1978 and how to relate to wanting to change parenting orders.
• Centrelink payments and your property settlement, what you need to know
• The family law act and what it says about money from the government in property settlement and divorce.
• Post separation savings and in the property settlement.
• What happens to your bank account savings you've saved after separation in the divorce proceedings.
• Can you keep the money for yourself in property settlement?

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If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

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Part 1 of our property settlement and divorce series. This episode covers the factors and assets that are considered when thinking about contribution before marriage or cohabitation and who gets what after divorce. We discuss:

1. How the length of Marriage can make a difference to the outcome?
2. How the size of the Property Pool can affect the outcome?
3. How can it matter what you and your partner do with the assets during the marriage?
4. How superannuation before cohabitation is considered in property settlement.

Stay tuned for PART 2 contributions during the marriage and PART 3 contributions after the marriage and how it could affect your property settlement during divorce?

You Don't Want to Miss Out On

• Why the length of your marriage matters in property settlement in divorce.

• How does what you bring into the marriage get sorted out when you get divorce?

• What is a contribution?

• The difference in a property settlement for a 30 year marriage to a 10 year marriage?

• If you bring in a house or shares it doesn't automatically be given back to you at separation.

• What is considered a short marriage?

• How do children factor into property settlement percentage?

• A case of gold bars under the waterbed

• Why furniture and pianos don't count as contributions at the beginning of the marriage

• What things are considered contributions at the beginning of a marriage?

• How to get proof that you bought a house before marriage

• Superannuation.

• If you have not brought anything into the marriage at all can you end up with some property in your divorce settlement?

• How future needs are considered in a property settlement.

• If you helped pay child support for your ex's kids can you get the money back after divorce?

• What do you do if your contributions before marriage are not being acknowledged by the other side?

• When might it be not a great idea to fight for initial contributions to be acknowledged in court?

• Why it is important to put in the effort and do the work to get the evidence before mediation.

• How to negotiate with a narcissist during property settlement.

• If your ex changes everything into their mothers name can it still be included in the property pool?

• Does it matter if your ex changes their assets into someone else's name?

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
• LEGAL AID
• Lifeline 13 11 14
• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
• Relationships Australia
• Police on 000
• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

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Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone's situation is different.

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Today's Divorce Listener Questions:

• What happens to the money from your house sale after it is sold but you are still in divorce proceedings?
• What happens after you and your ex have signed a property agreement or have property settlement?
• Can you file another affidavit after your initial affidavit to the court?
• What can you do if an affidavit filed in your case is full of lies?
• How the family court is streamlining their system
• What is the new Family law practice management aiming to streamline the court processes for separation and divorce proceedings?
• What are the new case practice management directions of the Family court and how does it change things?

General advice only

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If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womenslineon 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Menslineon 1800 600 636

• National DV lineon 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

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You can't negotiate a property settlement if you don't know what the property pool is. You cannot find a fair and reasonable child support payment amount if people are not being honest about their property and income. But how do you know for sure that all the property is on the table? In this episode Lyn talks us through how to do discovery and disclosure for yourself without needing a lawyer. Superannuation, Houses, Businesses, Company shareholder information you name it, we talk you through how to do the detective work yourself.

• Superannuation Information Form
• CITEC Confirm Website
• ABN lookup
• Redbook
• Subpoena form
• Podcast Episode on businesses and valuations
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You Don't Want to Miss Out On

• What is a form 6?

• How to find out the value of your ex partners superannuation

• How to find out if your ex owns any other properties

• How to find out who's name a house is in

• What is the difference between the bank valuation and a real estate agent valuation

• How to find out who is a director or a shareholder of a company

• How to find out if you are a shareholder or hold a role in a company

• How to determine what the cars are worth

• How to determine what your other assets are worth

• How to use citec confirm to find a personal property security search to find out if your ex has any loan debts owing.

• Bank accounts and swearing that they've revealed all their property.

• Subpoenaing banks

• How to find out what your ex's payslip says for property settlement

• Payslips and property settlements

• Disclosure and Discovery how to do it yourself

• How to do your own discovery without a lawyer

• Child Support and how to prove your co parents earnings to get the amount that is fair.

• What do judges usually do to people who lie about property in court.

• What to do if someone changes their name off the property too try trick you

• What is the Section 87 declaration, if your ex has changed this property to someone else's name

• What to do if your ex quickly changes his property and assets into other peoples names to avoid being fair in property settlement.

• What is the deadline to get property sorted in your divorce.

• Can the court let you come back later and get a change in the property settlement.

• What does the court do if there has been fraud or non disclosure.

• How to try avoid going to court and using mediation and letters instead

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

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DIY Disclosure and Discovery, for property settlement and child support - How to find out what you don't know

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Today's Divorce Questions:

How to choose a lawyer.

What can you do if your lawyer isn't doing a good job?

How to change lawyers?

What to do if you have orders and your co-parent is still difficult.

How a POP course could help you and your kids after divorce.

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If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

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Do you feel like you are possibly being stalked or tracked? Is your ex partner harassing you via text, email or phone or face to face? You might be in a coercive control situation / domestic violence situation. In this episode we discuss what the different types of harassment are and where the line in the sand is that makes it illegal. We discuss what you can do about it. How you can go speak to and what the family courts view on this behaviour might be. Whether you've got a narcissistic ex , a manipulative and controlling or high conflict if your instincts are telling you something might be up, this episode is for you.

• Listen to our episode on Coercive Control in Divorce & after separation
• Listen to our Domestic Violence and Family Violence Part 1 Episode
• Listen to our domestic violence & family violence part 2 episode

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• Coercive Control

• Harassment during divorce

• Stalking and tracking and what to do about it

• Divorce and stalking

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

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Bonus Episode #5

Today's Q & A Divorce Questions: When can I legally use my maiden name again after separation, and what surname am I supposed to use until the divorce is finalised?

Can other people do handover for my child to my ex partner/ co-parent.

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If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

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Got some debt from your ex in the separation? Lawyers secretly call it "sexually transmitted debt ". Lyn a family lawyer of 35 years talks through what to do if you realise you have been left with a debt by your ex. She also discusses what the family court's likely view is on debt and divorce.

We discuss tips and warning signs for debt. We also cover how to deal with debt and a manipulative and controlling (narcissistic ex), high conflict ex and and avoidant ones.

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• How is debt seen in divorce?

• If you paid off your ex's credit cards in the marriage does it count in the property settlement?

• How is HECS debt viewed in property settlement?

• What happens to items bought through the home loan?

• What happens if you find out about debt after separation?

• What does the court do with gambiling addiction debts?

• What to do if you find out about a debt after separation and your ex wont help you pay it.

• What to do if you cannot afford to pay the mortgage.

• What the court expects in regards to mortgage.

• How refinancing can help you with sexually transmitted debt.

• Joint mortgages and divorce.

• How is debt viewed in property settlement

• Your credit rating during divorce and how to keep it good.

• How to protect yourself from debt

• Debts acquired after separation and the family courts views.

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

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With property prices the way they are and the rental market going crazy it is so hard to separate and leave the marital home. More and more people are choosing to separate under one roof. If this is you, we have some do's and don'ts for you to consider when going down the divorce path.

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone's situation is different.

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• The do's and don'ts of being separated but still living with your ex

• Shared living arrangements and separation

• Divorce and shared living arrangements

• Living under one roof separated with a high conflict ex

• Living under one roof separated with a avoidant ex

• Living separated under one roof with a narcissist or controlling ex

• What's to consider separating under one roof

• What the court things about separation under one roof

• How being separated under one roof can affect your divorce date

• How using a time table can make life easier

• How to live separated under one roof and co-parent

• Should you have meals together if you are separated under one roof?

• Is hot nesting a good idea if you are separated under one roof

• How to keep calm if you are separated under one roof.

• Why going to joint events is a bad idea if you are separated under one roof.

• Why sharing a bedroom isn't going to work if you are separated under one roof.

• What rules you should consider putting in place when separated under one roof.

• When to consider sending legal letters to your ex if you are living with your ex.

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

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38 Christmas and Custody and Co-Parenting

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Christmas doesn't wait for your divorce to be final. It is coming and maybe you have plans and maybe you don't. In this episode we are talking about Christmas handovers, the legal side and options for practical changeovers and timings. Plus as always the divorce personalities and how it changes up your Christmas. Highlighting how to avoid the drama and prevent your kids from hating Christmas forever.

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone's situation is different.

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• Why is there usually a flurry of emails just before Christmas in family lawyer offices?

• Christmas dramas and how to prepare and avoid them.

• The family court timelines with Christmas issues.

• Does the family court close over christmas.

• What is the family court's view on Christmas Holiday issues?

• Why the best interests of the children are paramount.

• Opening presents on christmas day and christmas lunch and divorce

• Other christmas options to make life easier for the kids during and after divorce

• Does the family court about special holidays?

• Parenting order options for Christmas and special days.

• What to do if your ex won't let you see your kids at Christmas.

• Christmas and custody handover

• Things to look out for during Christmas

• Christmas what ifs

• Overseas and Christmas and custody

• Creating a happy Christmas bubble for the kids.

• Your emotions and Christmas and Divorce.

• Co-parenting and christmas

• Christmas present upsets

• To let them take their presents to the other parents house

• Amicable Co-Parenting Christmas

• Equal shared time and Christmas

• Manipulative and controlling ex partners and Christmas

• High Conflict ex partners and christmas

• How to use our communication compass when sorting out christmas.

• Avoidant ex partners and christmas.

• How to write a legal letter about christmas.

• THe elf on the shelf and coparenting

• The elf on the shelf and divorce

• In a divorced family where does Santa go?

• How to make a Christmas plan with your co-parent

• Do people go to court just over Christmas issues?

• How to prevent your kids from hating Christmas because of divorce.

• The do's and don'ts of talking about Christmas to the kids

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

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Bonus episode number 4 today's divorce questions

Bonus session #4

1. What is the possible court's view on children's diets?
2. What if your co-parent strays from the parenting plan?
3. Homeschooling and the family court.
4. Can your ex force your kids to go from homeschooling to mainstream school?
5. Can your ex force your kids to go to mainstream school if they've been homeschooled?
6. Homeschooling vs mainstream school

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If you need emergency help you can also contact:

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• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

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Have a family business? Worried about how it is included in your divorce? This episode explores the topic of divorce and business. We cover what the court does in relation to sharing up your business between you and your ex partner. A must listen if you are going through divorce and have a small business. Lyn, a family lawyer of 35 years shares all the info you need to be aware of when you approach your divorce with a business in your property pool.

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• How your business gets valued to be included in the property pool for divorce

• If you were not involved in the business are you entitled to something after separation?

• What cases are relevant to family law and family businesses

• The timing of your relationship and how it effects your share of the business

• What the time and money invested in your business is valued at during the divorce settlement.

• How is the business included in the family property pool for property settlement.

• Contributions and how it relates to your family business.

• Is your side hustle included in the divorce?

• The basic law and how it relates to your business and your divorce.

• Family law rules on business valuations

• Business valuation issues and how to address them.

• What to watch out for in divorce and business

• Sneaky tricks people use to avoid business valuations and how to keep an eye out and catch them out.

• Do you scale down or scale up your business before divorce?

• To buy or sell the business during divorce.

• What lessons can you learn from divorce court and your business?

• What is regarded as a short marriage?

• How do they calculate the length of the marriage in the family court?

• Do you sell the business or buy them out during divorce?

• Who gets the business in the divorce?

• Decisions you need to make before you make decisions on your business in your divorce.

• Accountants during your divorce what you need to know.

• Why you need your own accountant during your divorce.

• The case of Weir and Weir (1993) FLC 92 – 338 and how it relates to your divorce and business.

• The cast of Townsend (1994) 18 fam lr 505 and how it also relates.

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

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• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

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Insights into family law and the schooling years. Co-parenting and what the law says in regards to it. Lyn shares her insight with 35 years experience in the family law space. Laura asks all the questions you want to ask your lawyer and want answered in regards to all the school situations.

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Insights into family law and the schooling years. How to co-parent and what the law says in regards to it. She shares her insight with 35 years experience in the family law space. Laura asks all the questions you want to ask your lawyer and want answered,

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If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

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Today's Divorce Questions:

1. What are the pitfalls of asking 50/50 in property settlement?
2. What happens if they spend their super before property settlement?
3. How long do you give someone to sign an agreement before taking it to court?
4. What do you do with the mortgage while your ex is still living in the house and you are not?
5. What can you do if your ex sold all the furniture?

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If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

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Insights into what a narcissist will do during a divorce. What to look out for, what to expect and how to cope with it. Lyn points out 10 common things she sees happen in divorce with controlling and manipulative ex partners. She shares her insight with 35 years experience in the family law space. Laura asks all the questions you want to ask your lawyer and want answered,

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If you need emergency help you can also contact:

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• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

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Today's Q & A Divorce questions:

1. What is the difference between day to day care and long term care in child custody?
2. Can your social media posts be used against you in your divorce in court?
3. When can you remarry after you divorce?
4. Can you use your ex's social media posts in your divorce?
5. Does what you post on social media matter in your divorce proceedings?
6. What is a case assessment conference? Should your lawyer attend?
7. Facebook and Divorce
8. When can you remarry after separating?

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Links and resources:

• Follow us on Instagram

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• Click here to find out more about our divorce course online

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

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You still need to live right? That means you still need money. If you've not been the breadwinner that puts you in a tricky situation if you leave. In this episode we discuss spousal maintenance, what it is, when you can get it and how to apply. Don't let the threat of no money be the only reason you stay in a marriage you'd prefer to be out of.

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone's situation is different.

Links and resources:

Initiating Application Form

Fact sheet on preparing an affidavit

Affidavit Form

Financial-statement-kit

Section 75 of the Family Law Act - Matters to be taken into consideration in relation to spousal maintenance

Section 77 of the Family Law Act - Urgent spousal maintenance cases

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You Don't Want to Miss

• What is spousal maintenance?
• What is spousal maintenance in Australian family law?
• Can you apply for spousal maintenance?
• How do you apply for spousal maintenance?
• The different types of spousal maintenance?
• What's the difference between child support and spousal maintenance?
• How to avoid the good girl bad girl situation with spousal maintenance.
• How spousal maintenance can speed up your property settlement or slow it down.
• How hard is it to supply for spousal maintenance?
• Can you get funds for lawyers from your ex partner?
• Can you engage a lawyer if you have no access to your money?
• What is an initiating application?
• What is a financial statement?
• What is an affidavit for spousal maintenance?
• What is the new court urgent list?
• Can you get spousal maintenance without going to court?
• Can you go to mediation to get spousal maintenance?
• When can you apply for spousal maintenance?
• What is the likelihood of your application being rejected in court for spousal maintenance?
• What does the federal circuit and family court of Australia do with urgent cases?
• Does your centrelink payments effect your claim on spousal maintenance?
• Can you apply for spousal maintenance whilst still living in the same house with your ex?
• DV and spousal maintenance issues
• Where to go for help if you are struggling for money while waiting for a property settlement.
• What do you write in your spousal maintenance application?
• What do you write in your affidavit for spousal maintenance?

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

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Today's Q & A Divorce Questions

1. What constitutes a legal separation?
2. Can I be separated but still living together?
3. What is a case assessment conference? Should your lawyer attend?
4. What can you do if your ex is alienating you from your children?
5. What is the legal age for when children get to choose which parent to live with?
6. Where do you find an affidavit template?

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• Follow us on Instagram

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If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

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In this episode Lyn & Laura explore your last resort efforts to avoid court and finally settle your property, or children's matters. They explore things you can do to negotiate further after all other efforts failed. Including looking at ways to negotiate based on their divorce personality. They also touch on the new family court processes and what to expect.

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone's situation is different.

Links and resources:

Podcast. Episode: The court conveyer belt: for family law,...

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You Don't Want to Miss

• Ways to avoid court
• 5 things to explore before filing in the family court or the FCFCOA
• Writing letters to negotiate with your ex partner to get to settlement.
• How does the personality type affect the way you negotiate
• What are the rules of offers to the other side
• What does without prejudice mean?
• Why should you write without prejudice at the top of all letters of negotiation?
• What is an FDR and what are the rules in the family court for it?
• How to come up with a decent offer for the other side?
• What makes a good mediation in family law?
• The risks of taking your matter in front of the judge.
• What are the risks of cost?
• What does getting costs mean?
• Can your ex sue you for costs if you don't agree?
• Why you should consider the house value and property value changes into consideration as to whether you should settle or go to court.
• Why going to see a psychologist might help you settle out of court.
• New changes to the court
• The new name of the family court
• The Federal Circuit Family Court of Australia

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

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In this episode we discuss how you can save yourself thousands in your divorce journey using our DIY Divorce Blueprint. We also share who we are and why we do what we do.

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone's situation is different.

Links and resources:

Identifying your divorce course personality episode

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You Don't Want to Miss

• How to save money in your divorce
• Can you do your divorce yourself
• How to cut costs when seeing your lawyer
• Is it possible to do your own documents for divorce?
• Can you write your own property or children's agreements?
• Do you need a lawyer to get divorced?
• What the DIY Divorce Blueprint is and how it can help you?
• Why the divorce course podcast created?
• What to do if your Mum isn't a lawyer?

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

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We discuss 6 practical tips on how to keep your divorce from spinning out of control. If your divorce, property or children settlement is spinning out of control by taking up all your time and thoughts or if it is taking up all your money in legal fees there is a way to slow things or calm things down. Family law can be tricky but there are some ways to calm it all down and slow it to a pace you can cope with. Lyn a family lawyer of 35 years shares her experience and wisdom on how to keep everything including your lawyer in check.

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone's situation is different.

Links and resources:

Identifying your divorce course personality episode

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• How to stop a narcissistic person from making your divorce proceedings spin out of control.

• How to identify what type of divorce personality type you have.

• How to predict how your ex will behave during the legal proceeding and how to deal with it.

• How to stop the divorce from taking up your whole life/week/day.

• How to tailor your divorce process to accommodate the divorce personality type.

• Can you stop work on your legal process with a lawyer if it is all getting too much?

• Can you stop working with your lawyer if it is costing you too much money?

• How to tell your lawyer to stop working on your file if you need to lower the costs?

• Can you do the divorce and property/childrens settlement yourself?

• How to avoid racking up bills on legal fees with letters?

• How lawyers will bill you for divorce?

• What parts of the divorce and property settlement can you do yourself?

• How a lawyer thinks vs how you think during your divorce.

• How to cap your fees with a lawyer so you don't waste money in legal fees.

• When to stop fighting over things and when not to in divorce proceedings.

• How to check with yourself that you are not making the divorce spin out of control.

• How fighting in the family court can rack up more fees then you can afford to pay.

• How to create a plan to help you feel like you are more in control.

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

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This episode covers how the court decides what is best for the children in regards to parenting orders and agreements. We also discuss how you and your co-parent can also decide what's best for the children and create parenting arrangements that avoid the need for court. Lyn discusses common threats and myths that your ex may try to scare you with. Lyn discusses section 60 cc of the family law act to help you understand and be up to date on what the law is, to help you and your kids through this difficult time.

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone's situation is different.

Links and resources:

Creating your own parenting plan podcast episode

Family reports in your divorce podcast episode

Identifying your divorce course personality episode

• Section 60cc

• Federal Circuit Court

• Family Law Court

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• How the courts main aim is to ensure that parenting arrangements are in the best interest of the children.

• How the family court determines time parents have with their children.

• How the court factors in harm to the children and their right to have a relationship with both parents

• What roadmap the judges follow to decide about your children.

• What is section 60cc of the family law act.

• What other factors the court considers in 60cc 3.

• Do the children's thoughts make a difference to what the court decides?

• Do children have to go to court for family law?

• What is considered during a family court trial over child custody.

• Can your child be taken off you?

• Why don't children go to court?

• What is a family report?

• Why does a court order a family report?

• What does a family report writer ask and how are the children involved in the report?

• What happens if a parent comes back after many years and insists on seeing their child?

• How the nature of the relationship may affect the judges' decisions?

• How child support may affect the court's decision?

• How location can affect the court's decision on child custody?

• Can your child be taken off you by the court and deny you access to seeing them?

• What is an FDR?

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

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Episode 29 Divorce, Property Settlement , Court and Family Law frequently asked questions.

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Summary:

We cover commonly asked questions by answering "Claire's" legal questions about her upcoming divorce and recent separation and what pitfalls to avoid when dealing with a high conflict narcissistic ex partner. Including "what happens when you see a lawyer for the first time?"

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone's situation is different.

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• Federal Circuit Court

• Family Law Court

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• What happens when you go see a lawyer for the first time?

• What to expect in the first meeting with a family lawyer?

• What type of letters do you need to write to negotiate and settle to avoid having to go to court.

• What is a family law retainer?

• Why do lawyers ask for money upfront?

• What to make sure you lawyer isn't wasting the money you pay?

• Why can letter writing back and forth be costly in family law?

• How to save money in separation and divorce?

• Is negotiation going to work with your situation and why it's important to know?

• Why going to court and negotiating at the same time important?

• How to avoid wasting money with back and forth letter writing.

• How to face your fears about court.

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

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Summary:

We cover seven top tips for things to do if you cannot afford your own lawyer for children's or property settlement and you are self representing. Please go to our show notes on our website to get the links discussed in this episode.

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Episode 28 Show Notes

Court Etiquette for self representation in court podcast episode

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• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
• Relationships Australia
• Police on 000
• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

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Divorcing a narcissist? Lyn discusses the common traits and issues people face when attempting to legally separate and divorce from a narcissist. She describes what to look out for during your legal proceedings and what to prepare to counteract it. She also explains how you can negotiate with a narcissist and adjust your mindset to get to a final outcome in your property settlement, childrens orders, separation and divorce.

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone's situation is different.

Links and resources:

• Section 117c Family Law Act Offers of Settlement

• Follow us on Instagram

• Join us on Facebook

• Sign up to hear more about our divorce course online
• https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au

You don't want to miss

• How to prepare yourself for narcissists in divorce

• What you might encounter in a lawyer letter from a narcissist

• What to do if your lawyers don't believe you because of the narcissist on the other side.

• What happens with narcissists in court?

• How do you counter the lies of a narcissist in family law

• How to negotiate with a narcissist in family law and divorce

• Why it is important not to buy into the crazy during divorce with a narcissist

• Divorce with a narcissist what to expect in the legal sense

• Trial, Mediation and Narcissist

• What to do if your ex is a narcissist and you are going through the family law process.

• How to counteract narcissists lies with you facts and evidence

• What happens in the witness box in court in family law.

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
• LEGAL AID
• Lifeline 13 11 14
• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
• Relationships Australia

Family Court directions, mentions or interim hearings? Lyn discusses the different court appearances dates, what they are called, what they mean and what to expect For those going through divorce and separation.

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone's situation is different.

Links and resources:

• Federal Circuit Court Lists - find your date and time here

• Our Meditation podcast episode

• Section 117c Family Law Act Offers of Settlement

• Follow us on Instagram

• Join us on Facebook

• Sign up to hear more about our divorce course online
• https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au

You don't want to miss

• What is the first court date?

• What is the first return date?

• What is a mention date?

• What is an interim hearing date?

• When do you get your first court date?

• What happens at your first court date?

• What directions mean?

• How to find out when your court date is?

• How to find out if you've got all your documents filed correctly.

• What is a court information gathering event?

• What does hurry up and wait mean for court?

• Mediation and the family court

• Mediation and the federal circuit court

• Interim orders - what are they and why you need a different court date for them.

• What is an interim hearing?

• What to expect in an interim hearing?

• What is a court mention date?

• What to expect at a mention court day?

• What you should be doing while on the family court conveyor belt.

• Why continuing to negotiate is still important while on the divorce journey.

• What is a call over?

• What happens at a call over in family court.

• What is a section 117c family law act offer?

• Why you should consider making an offer before going to trial

• What happens at a property or children custody trial?

• What you should consider before going to trial for your divorce

• What happens at a hearing?

• Do you need to go to court to get your judgement if it is not handed down on the day?

• What is the issue of cost in family law?

• What does cost mean?

• What is an appeal?

• Why do people lodge appeals?

• How long the full family court process is currently from the first court date to judgement to appeal?

• How does the divorce course personality prism plays into the potential court conveyor belt.

• Some questions you should be asking yourself before going to trial.

• Changes coming to the family and federal circuit court that may create some changes.

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
• LEGAL AID
• Lifeline 13 11 14
• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
• Relationships Australia
• Police on 000
• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

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Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone's situation is different.

Summary:

Lyn discusses the divorce course 12 agreements that you should consider when creating your parenting plan or orders. Co-parenting can be tricky but with the right plan or orders covering these main 12 things you can find it can be a bit smoother sailing. Lyn discusses each agreement and why it's important and how you should consider it for your situation based on the divorce course personalities (listen to episode 1 if you need to find more about which divorce personality you have).

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone's situation is different.

Links and resources:

• Follow us on Instagram

• Join us on Facebook

• Sign up to hear more about our divorce course online
• https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au

You don't want to miss

• What parenting plan usually contains.

• What parenting orders usually contain.

• What is long term parental responsibility in family law?

• What is day to day parental responsibility in family law?

• How to plan changeovers for co-parenting plans

• How to incorporate the children's birthdays in your parenting plan

• Why it is important to seek an order that includes a respect clause in your parenting orders.

• Co-parenting and parenting orders in family law.

• The basics for a parenting orders

• Some legal wording used in normal parenting orders.

• Important what if questions to ask yourself before agreeing to parenting orders or parenting plans

• How to create parenting plans to make co parenting run smoothly.

• How to include christmas in parenting orders

• What options can you consider for Christmas in your parenting orders?

• How to make sure you are not allowing your emotions to get in the way of getting to an agreement in family law.

• Why it is important to have a fixed time for handovers in your parenting orders.

• How to create orders for time to speak to the children when they are with the other parent.

• What other additional clauses you should consider to put in your parenting orders and plans.

• What the clause "unless otherwise agreed" means?

• The best ways to exchange information with your co-parent about the children.

• Why it is important to have an exchange of information clause in your parenting plan.

• What you should notify the school to do after separation.

• How to avoid accidental breaches in parenting orders.

• Reasons why even if you have an amicable relationship you still probably need a parenting plan or parenting orders.

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
• LEGAL AID
• Lifeline 13 11 14
• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
• Relationships Australia
• Police on 000
• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

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Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone's situation is different.

Episode 24

Summary:

Lyn discusses the road blocks you may come across in negotiations and how to overcome them. She discusses the 2 main reasons why your ex partner may not be open to finalising an agreement. She gives you a few strategies on how to approach the negotiations keeping these reasons in mind. We discuss the easy way to keep your communication during this time in check using the divorce course communication compass.

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone's situation is different.

Links and resources:

• Follow us on Instagram

• Join us on Facebook

• Sign up to hear more about our divorce course online
• https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au

You don't want to miss

• Why just saying "calm down" won't work.

• The two main reasons you may come to a roadblock in negotiations

• Why reflecting on your past relationship may help you negotiate successfully in property and childrens matters

• What mediators are trying to do to get you to come to an agreement and how you can harness that in your own negotiations with your ex.

• How and why negotiations take time but your hard work can pay off.

• Why it is important not to throw mud in negotiations even if you ex partner does.

• How to negotiate with a high conflict partner

• How to negotiate with a amicable ex partner

• How to negotiate with an avoidant ex.

• How to negotiate with a high controlling partner

• How to negotiate once you've left an abusive relationship

• Why it's important to know each other's triggers and to avoid them.

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
• LEGAL AID
• Lifeline 13 11 14
• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
• Relationships Australia
• Police on 000
• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

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Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone's situation is different.

Summary:

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone's situation is different.

Lyn explains what a subpoena is, what it can be used for, how it can be applied for in the family law courts for property and children's matters and in the domestic violence court. She explains how to apply, how to see the information and how to use it in court to prove your case. She gives tips on filling in the form and how to take notes in the subpoena room when inspecting the documents. This episode will be helpful for anyone currently going through separation, property settlement or child custody agreements. Even if you have a lawyer having a basic understanding of subpoenas is helpful during the process.

Links and resources:

• Application for subpoena in the federal circuit court (family law court)

• Information for people about to issue a subpoena in the federal circuit court

• Information for people who have been subpoenaed in the federal circuit court

• How to apply to inspect the subpoenas

• How to inspect the subpoenas in the federal circuit court family court of australia

• How to apply for a subpoena in QLD Magistrates court

• Follow us on Instagram

• Join us on Facebook

You don't want to miss:

• What is a subpoena?

• How are subpoenas used in the family court?

• How are subpoenas used in the domestic violence courts?

• How are subpoenas used in children custody disputes

• How subpoenas are used in property settlement negotiations and trials.

• How to apply for a subpoena.

• How to use a subpoena if your ex partner is lying.

• Other ways to try and get the information first before sending off a subpoena.

• What happens if they dont answer the subpoena?

• Who can you issue subpoenas to?

• How subpoenas help settlement

• How to apply for subpoena

• Why it is important to find a specific person to address your subpoena too

• Why it's important to telephone the person you are going to subpoena before applying.

• What is conduct money for subpoenas

• How is conduct money calculated and why it's important to know before sending a subpoena.

• Why it's a good idea to keep the wording straight forward when applying.

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
• LEGAL AID
• Lifeline 13 11 14
• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
• Relationships Australia
• Police on 000
• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

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Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone's situation is different.

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone's situation is different.

Lyn talks us through what to do if your ex partner has control of all the money or you are in financial distress after separation.

• Getting enough money to live on after separation.
• Getting enough money to pay your legal fees during family court proceedings.
• Getting enough money to support you and your children after separation.

Solution

• Applying for Alimony/Spousal maintenance in the family court
• Court appointed fees for legal fees
• Child support application

Links and resources:

• Apply for spousal maintenance

• Child support application form

• Victims assist

• Interim property settlement distribution

• Dollar for dollar interim property order

• Sole occupancy application

• Follow us on Instagram

• Join us on Facebook

You don't want to miss:

• What to do if you cannot afford to go to court

• What to do if you are in a coercive control situation and have no access to money.

• What to do if you cannot afford to pay for living expenses

• What to do if you cannot afford to help pay for the children

• How to bring an application to the court to get financial spousal maintenance.

• How to use the free 30min phone consult with your lawyer

• How to get your issue into court so you can get started

• Child support and what you need to know

• How to apply for child support through services australia

• If you have 50/50 child care does child support not count?

• What is good girl bad girl syndrome and why you need to avoid it

• Why it is important to find out what you are entitled to with child support.

• Why it's important to get out of the financial control of your ex partner.

• What if on paper it says I am financially ok but in real life I am not?

• What is victim assist?

• What is financial abuse?

• What do you have to prove to get spousal maintenance in court?

• Interim property distribution: what is it and how can it help you?

• What is a dollar for dollar interim property order

• How can you get assistance with legal fees

• Who stays in and who goes

• The step by step to make an application to the court

• How to write orders sort

• What is a financial statement for the court?

• What do you need to write in your affidavit for your application?

• Why and how to serve your application to your ex partner.

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
• LEGAL AID
• Lifeline 13 11 14
• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
• Relationships Australia
• Police on 000
• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

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Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone's situation is different.

Summary:

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone's situation is different.

Lyn a family lawyer of 35 years & accredited specialist talks through the process of getting your own divorce. The do's and don'ts of filing in the court yourself for divorce.

She talks us through what the process is, how it happens, when and how to do it and what to watch out for when doing a DIY divorce application.

If you are looking to do your own divorce, listen to this episode first.

Links and resources:

• Divorce DIY Service Kit

• Video on how to do your divorce
• Registering on the court portal

• Follow us on Instagram

• Join us on Facebook

• This will open (www.courts.qld.gov.au)

You don't want to miss:

• What is service?
• How do I divorce my partner?
• What happens after I file the divorce papers?
• Can I divorce my partner even if they refuse?
• Can I jointly file for divorce with my ex?
• How much does it cost to get divorced?
• What happens in court when you get divorced?
• How do I fill in the divorce application form?
• Where do I find the divorce application form?
• How long does it take to get divorced?
• When can I remarry again after divorce?
• How does my divorce affect property settlement
• How long do I need to be separated before I get divorced?
• What is the difference between separated and divorced?
• How to serve your divorce papers on your ex partner.

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• Police on 000
• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
• National DV line on 1800 737 732.

• 1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
• About Women's Shelters
• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia

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Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone's situation is different.

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone's situation is different.

Lyn talks you through how to write a good legal letter. A good letter is a powerful tool to avoid court, to resolve custody or property problems or keep clear records.

Learn her four clear principles for an effective letter. She also talks about how to avoid the pitfalls of a bad legal letter. If you find yourself needing to write a family law letter for custody or property use this episode as a guide.

You don't want to miss:

• What is a good family law legal letter?
• Why is it important to write them well?
• How much does it cost for a lawyer to write one for you?
• How to set out a letter if you are self representing?
• What are the advantages for writing letters?
• What are the pitfalls of writing letters?
• Family Law
• How to effectively write your own legal letter.
• The divorce course letter writing compass guide

Links and resources:

• Family Dispute Resolution Register

• Initiating Application Do it Yourself Kit

• Affidavits

• Notice of Risk

• Affidavit of Service

• Affidavit of Non Filing of Section 60i certificate

• Follow us on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/thedivorcecourse

• Join us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/thedivorcecoursepodcast

• This will open (www.courts.qld.gov.au)

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• Police on 000
• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
• National DV line on 1800 737 732.

• 1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE About Women's Shelters
• LEGAL AID: https://www.legalaid.qld.gov.au

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia

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Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone's situation is different.

Episode 19

Summary:

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone's situation is different.

We discuss the options for parents who are being denied access to their children. The steps they can take to get back to spending meaningful time with their children. The way to formally progress it in the family court of Australia and the way to progress it through mediation.

Links and resources:

• Family Dispute Resolution Register

• Initiating Application Do it Yourself Kit

• Affidavits

• Notice of Risk

• Affidavit of Service

• Affidavit of Non Filing of Section 60i certificate

• Follow us on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/thedivorcecourse

• Join us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/thedivorcecoursepodcast

• This will open (www.courts.qld.gov.au)

You don't want to miss:

• What is family mediation?
• How to reach an agreement with the other parent?
• The first few steps to take
• What is the definition of an urgent case of children being withheld?
• What is a 60i certificate and how does it help you with custody matters?
• Is Alienation considered urgent in court?
• How do you need to consider court delays?
• How long does a mediation process take?
• Legal aid and mediation in family law.
• What is a private family mediator?
• What type of mediation should you look for?
• What are mediators rates and types of rates?
• Why getting an interim agreement is a good idea in mediation
• Federal Circuit Court Website
• Initiating Application
• How to fill out an initiating application
• What are interim orders
• What is an annexure?
• What is equal shared parental responsibility?
• Why is it important to be clear in court orders?
• Can you ask to put phone call times in your children's orders?
• Working out what suits you and the family for phone calls?
• How to get a JP to witness your documents?
• What documents you need to file in the family court to help you see your children.
• What is a notice of risk ?
• Why do you need to file a notice of risk in the family law court?
• What to put in your affidavit to file in the court with your initiating application?
• What are the four or five documents you need to file in the family court.
• What is the timeline of gaining access to your children?
• Why do you need to serve the documents on the other side?
• How you can serve these sealed documents on the other side (the other parent)
• How can you prove that you've served the documents on the other parent.
• What is an affidavit of service?
• Why is it important to continue negotiating with the other parent?
• What is parental alienation?
• Family Law

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• Police on 000
• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
• National DV line on 1800 737 732.

• 1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE About Women's Shelters
• LEGAL AID: https://www.legalaid.qld.gov.au

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia

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Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone's situation is different. 3

Episode 18 - Court Etiquette: What to say and do if self representing in Family Law Court

Summary:

We discuss what the court etiquette rules are in the Family Court of Australia. What to do when you enter the courtroom. How to find the room in the first place. Who to speak to. When to stand and when to sit. How to speak to a judge and what to expect on your first visit to court?

You don't want to miss:

• What is the best court etiquette
• Who is the respondent and who is the applicant?
• When to stand and when to sit in a courtroom.
• How to introduce yourself to the judge
• When is it ok to speak to a judge in family court.
• Can you represent yourself in court?
• How do you leave and enter a courtroom?
• How to prepare in advance
• What to wear to court
• Self representing in family court, what to expect.
• A family lawyer's top tips to court etiquette for those who have never been.

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone's situation is different.

Links and resources:

• Follow us on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/thedivorcecourse

• Join us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/thedivorcecoursepodcast

• This will open (www.courts.qld.gov.au)

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• Police on 000
• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
• National DV line on 1800 737 732.

• 1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE About Women's Shelters
• LEGAL AID: https://www.legalaid.qld.gov.au

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia

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Summary:

In this episode we begin to cover the ins and outs of coercive control; what it is and how you can protect yourself from it after you've separated.

You don't want to miss:

• What is coercive control?
• What does Jess Hill say about coercive control?
• How coercive control can continue after you've left.
• If you need a domestic violence order for protection
• What are the rules and laws for coercive control in australia.
• How can the police help you?
• The changes in the law to coercive control in Australia
• How to report coercive control
• How to stay safe if you are in a coercive control relationship
• Can the abuse continue after separation?
• Is stalking illegal?
• How are institutions and government agencies being used to continue coercive control.
• A family lawyers opinion on coercive control in queensland
• Recent domestic violence deaths and how to use your voice to make changes in QLD and Australia.
• What are the trigger moments for coercive control and domestic violence?

Links and resources:

• Follow us on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/thedivorcecourse

• Join us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/thedivorcecoursepodcast

• Jess Hill See what you made me do book

• shut-up-she-s-talking podcast a tale of two pandemics

Queensland Government Links

DV - Guide to completing an application for a protection order

• This will open (www.courts.qld.gov.au)
• These videos explain the court process for applying or responding to domestic violence orders.
• Going to court as an applicant
• This will open (www.courts.qld.gov.au)

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• Police on 000
• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
• National DV line on 1800 737 732.

• 1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE About Women's Shelters
• LEGAL AID: https://www.legalaid.qld.gov.au

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia

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Talking all things child support giving you a summary from a lawyer of 35 years experience. -What is child support - Who can apply for it - When can you apply for child support - How can you apply - What happens if child support isn't paid - How to get your assessment changed.

Child Support Estimator

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• Police on 000
• Queensland Government Links for DV
• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
• National DV line on 1800 737 732.

• 1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE About Women's Shelters
• LEGAL AID: https://www.legalaid.qld.gov.au
• Lifeline 13 11 14
• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
• Relationships Australia

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In this episode we cover

1. What is parental alienation?

2. What does the court do about parental alienation?

3. How can you identify the signs that your child is being alienated from you?

4. Parental alienation and divorce

5. What steps you should take if your child is being alienated from you?

6. What steps you should take if the other parent is withholding your child from you or not allowing you to see your children.

7. How to write a letter seeking changes.

8. How to see Mediation help from Relationships Australia.

9. What to do if they refuse to do mediation.

10. How to file an application if you are being alienated.

11. What the family court of Australia laws say about Parental Alienation.

12. What you can do to help your child at home if you think this is happening.

13. The importance of keeping your children unaware of any custody fights.

14. Where to go for free legally help.

How to make an application in the federal circuit court link below.

http://www.federalcircuitcourt.gov.au/wps/wcm/connect/fccweb/how-do-i/apps-orders/parenting-orders/fcc-apply-parenting-orders

Show Notes:

Please note: This is general advice only.

Links below as discussed in this episode.

NSW Domestic Violence Helpline 1800 65 64 63

ACT Domestic Violence Crisis Service (DVCS) 6280 0900

SA Domestic Violence Crisis Line 1800 800 098

QLD DV Connect -1800 811 811

TAS Safe at Home Family Violence Response and Referral Line 1800 633 937

VIC Safe Steps 1800 015 188

WA Domestic Violence Helpline 1800 007 339

NT Darwin Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander Women's Shelter 8945 2284

Legal services (Australia-wide) Family Violence Law Help

Links and resources:

• Follow us on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/thedivorcecourse

• Join us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/thedivorcecoursepodcast

• Section 79 of the Family Law Act (Property)

• Section 60 of the Family Law Act (Children)

• Federal Circuit Court Affidavit Information

• Australasian Legal Information Institute

• Affidavit presentation rules and regulations and template

• Link to the do it yourself divorce and family law kits

• Registered JP's in your area QLD

• Cost for filing in the Family Court

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• Police on 000
• Queensland Government Links for DV
• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
• National DV line on 1800 737 732.

• 1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE About Women's Shelters
• LEGAL AID: https://www.legalaid.qld.gov.au
• Lifeline 13 11 14
• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

Show Notes:

Please note: This is general advice only.

Links below as discussed in this episode.

NSW Domestic Violence Helpline 1800 65 64 63

ACT Domestic Violence Crisis Service (DVCS) 6280 0900

SA Domestic Violence Crisis Line 1800 800 098

QLD DV Connect -1800 811 811

TAS Safe at Home Family Violence Response and Referral Line 1800 633 937

VIC Safe Steps 1800 015 188

WA Domestic Violence Helpline 1800 007 339

NT Darwin Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander Women's Shelter 8945 2284

Legal services (Australia-wide) Family Violence Law Help

Discussion topics

• Pet Relocation during domestic violence
• Centerlink and how it can help you.
• Shelter, Food, and Safety during relocating from domestic violence
• Mental health assistance after surviving domestic violence
• Mental health care plans 20 session and how to obtain one
• Psychologists for Domestic Violence Survivors
• How to deal with police during a dv incident?
• How to report DV or Family Violence to the police
• Family violence and the police
• Why reporting domestic violence to the police is important
• Who is a Domestic Violence liaison officer and why they are important?
• How to apply for a Domestic Violence Order or Protection Order
• What is the difference between a temporary protection order and a protection order
• Domestic Violence Order process
• PPN Police protection notice
• What is a magistrate and what they do with your application.
• Courts and safe rooms
• What to expect when you arrive at court after you've applied to the court and how you are supported.
• Duty Lawyers and Counsellors at the court

Link to apply for an order https://www.courts.qld.gov.au/going-to-court/domestic-violence/domestic-violence-orders/applying-for-a-domestic-violence-order

Why it is important to be specific when reporting domestic violence or applying for a domestic violence order?

Victims assist link http://www.victimsofcrimeaustralia.com.au/?gclid=CjwKCAiA4o79BRBvEiwAjteoYEAeGHTmKG00cWJRjQkNTro1ouehUOiSOX0sIAhE0Udb9b3jOgEjbxoCC6YQAvD_BwE

Online form link for a Protection Order https://www.qld.gov.au/law/crime-and-police/abuse-family-matters-and-protection-orders/apply-for-a-protection-order#start-application

PDF version for applying for a protection order https://www.courts.qld.gov.au/__data/assets/pdf_file/0006/162168/dva-f-1.pdf

Introducing special guest financial planner Pedro Marin.

Pedro Marin (instagram) @pmrfinancial

• How to approach a bank to get information
• Your home loan and divorce
• What is financial abuse?
• What are the red flags for financial abuse?
• Superannuation
• Sole purpose tests and how they can help you
• Pre-separation dirty tricks case studies to watch out for.
• Thoughts before signing any documents
• How to get a handle on your finances instead of relying on someone else.
• How to choose a financial planner.
• Tinder for financial planners?!?
• Financial planners and divorce

Finding planners

https://fpa.com.au/find-a-planner/

https://www.adviserratings.com.au/

National Debt helpline

1800Respect Services directory

Life Line domestic violence information

Commonwealth bank information on financial abuse

Sole purpose test information links:

https://www.ioof.com.au/financial-advisers/news-and-insights/adviser-news/articles/apr-2020/sole-purpose-test

https://www.apra.gov.au/sites/default/files/apra_asic_letter_oversight_of_fees_charged_to_members_superannuation_accounts.pdf

Summary:

Listen to Lyn's rules and guide to creating parenting plans, or parenting orders. Pick up the tips she's learnt in 35 years of family law. Learn how to use her golden rule of "WHAT IF" when creating them. Laura discusses with Lyn each part that you should consider in parenting plans or orders. Why your aim should be to create smooth and easy to follow plans to avoid all problems in the future. Lyn also describes how they should be set out. Follow the links below to find out how to file it or apply for it. Lyn also discusses what happens if someone doesn't follow court parenting orders. The process of court is also described when co parents cannot agree and they have to go to trial in the family law court. .

You don't want to miss:

• What is the difference between a parenting plan and a parenting order?

• When you should consider creating one.

• Can you create one without a lawyer?

• What should you put in your parenting plan or parenting order?

• Family Relationships Centre

• How can mediation help in creating parenting orders?

• The MAGIC RULE "WHAT IF"

• Why you should keep it simple.

• Why it is a good idea to create parenting plans while you are still amicable.

• What the judge will care and won't care about if you end up disagreeing.

• The benefits of creating your own plan instead of leaving it to court.

• Why is the Hauge convention important for your parenting orders on international travel.

• Why is it important to make decisions of which high school and primary school in advance?

• Parental responsibility: what is it and how do you define it?

• How to make sure the children's routine is not impacted because of the separate living arrangements.

• How the court makes a parenting plan into parenting orders.

• Who you might need to show a copy of the parenting plan or orders to?

• What happens if the other parent doesn't return your children on the court ordered times.

• What should you do if you are concerned for your children's safety.

Links and resources:

• Follow us on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/thedivorcecourse

• Join us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/thedivorcecoursepodcast

• List of Hauge Convention Countries

• Parenting Orders what you need to know. Attorney General.

• Attorney General's Website

• Applying for parenting orders FAMILY LAW COURT OF AUSTRALIA

• Section 60 of the Family Law Act (Children)

• Link to the do it yourself divorce and family law kits

• Registered JP's in your area QLD

• Cost for filing in the Family Court

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• Police on 000
• Queensland Government Links for DV
• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
• National DV line on 1800 737 732.

• 1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE About Women's Shelters
• LEGAL AID: https://www.legalaid.qld.gov.au
• Lifeline 13 11 14
• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
• Relationships Australia

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Summary:

You will need an affidavit for family law court hearings or when you file an application in the court. Find out what an affidavit is and how you can prepare one yourself or with the help of a lawyer. Lyn, a family lawyer of 35 years, explains to Laura what an affidavit is, what is one, what the court uses it for and how you can prepare one with or without a lawyer.

See the links below to find your template and rules to create your own.

You don't want to miss:

• What is an affidavit?

• Why they are important for court

• The problem with leaving things out of an affidavit

• When do you need to do an affidavit for family court?

• What times do you not need an affidavit in court?

• What does a family lawyer do with your affidavit in court?

• What happens in the witness box in family court with your affidavit?

• How your lawyer can use your ex partners affidavit in divorce court.

• What will the judge probably do with your affidavit?

• What happens if the affidavits of each partner are different versions of the same story?

• How do you challenge their affidavit in your own response.

• What is relevant in your divorce affidavit?

• What restrictions and rules are there on affidavit presentation, font, space etc..

• How to use the family law act to make sure your affidavit is relevant.

• What is an annexure and why is it important?

• How to prepare your affidavit with a lawyer or to cut costs with your lawyer.

• Why shouldn't you rubbish your ex in your affidavit?

• How to stay factual and keep your emotions out of the affidavit.

• What is a "gimme" in a divorce and property and children's trial

• What happens if you lie in an affidavit?

• How do you swear or affirm your affidavit?

• How can you change your affidavit if you realise you've made a mistake?

• How to use your smartphone to help you find evidence and remember dates for your affidavit.

Links and resources:

• Follow us on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/thedivorcecourse

• Join us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/thedivorcecoursepodcast

• Section 79 of the Family Law Act (Property)

• Section 60 of the Family Law Act (Children)

• Federal Circuit Court Affidavit Information

• Australasian Legal Information Institute

• Affidavit presentation rules and regulations and template

• Link to the do it yourself divorce and family law kits

• Registered JP's in your area QLD

• Cost for filing in the Family Court

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• Police on 000
• Queensland Government Links for DV
• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
• National DV line on 1800 737 732.

• 1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE About Women's Shelters
• LEGAL AID: https://www.legalaid.qld.gov.au
• Lifeline 13 11 14
• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
• Relationships Australia

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Summary:

Get the insider knowledge on how to keep your family law and divorce bill down. Lyn, a lawyer of 35 years, explains to Laura how legal billing works and 6 ways you can keep the cost down.

You don't want to miss:

• What six minutes to a lawyer means and why it is important to know.

• How a lawyer bills you to read an email.

• Why shouldn't you treat your lawyer like your psychologist?

• Why you should ask for a regular bill

• What is a step in step out divorce approach?

• What is a divorc chronology and how it can save you dollars.

• What you can do if your ex won't stop sending lawyer letters.

• What is a separation statement and how you can make your own.

• What to do in your first family lawyer meeting to save on cost.

Links and resources:

• Follow us on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/thedivorcecourse

• Join us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/thedivorcecoursepodcast

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• Police on 000
• Queensland Government Links for DV
• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
• National DV line on 1800 737 732.

• 1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE About Women's Shelters
• LEGAL AID: https://www.legalaid.qld.gov.au
• Lifeline 13 11 14
• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
• Relationships Australia

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Summary:

So you've been ordered to get a family report done by the family court. Lyn and Laura talk you through what it is, what happens and answer all the frequently ask questions that you might have.

They take you step by step through the journey you may take during your divorce and separation. This episode aims to help you have better understand and feel more comfortable with what a family report is and how it is used in the court system.

You don't want to miss:

• What is a family report

• Why would you ask for one to be done?

• When a family report is done.

• What it usually costs and is there a free option

• What lawyers and judges use family reports for.

• What is a recommendation and why is it so important.

• How can you explain it to your children?

Links and resources:

• Follow us on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/thedivorcecourse

• Join us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/thedivorcecoursepodcast

• Printable Book to explain a family report to your children.

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• Police on 000
• Queensland Government Links for DV
• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
• National DV line on 1800 737 732.

• 1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE About Women's Shelters
• LEGAL AID: https://www.legalaid.qld.gov.au
• Lifeline 13 11 14
• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
• Relationships Australia

Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you've found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.