U Up?

Jordana & Jared get the show started this week with details about the upcoming U Up? Live At Home show and a conversation about social media etiquette when it comes to liking photos. Then they dive into a listener email about what to do when your best friend keeps hitting ‘like’ on photos posted by your ex. Is this a violation of some sort of unwritten rule of friendship? The Awkward Sexual Encounter of the week involves a foot fetish and an unsatisfying finish. Then an emailer writes in to ask why the guy she was DMing with never called or texted when she gave him her number. Was she too eager to take the next step or is she just overthinking things? Another listener asks how to start a conversation about finances during quarantine with her significant other. Is it fair to ask your partner to take on more of the financial burden when you lose your job? Finally, they close the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker and a debate about whether or not it’s weird to have a roommate of the opposite sex.

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The J’s start things off with a conversation about quarantine sex and whether or not the frequency has changed for couples since getting trapped indoors. Next, an emailer writes in to ask whether or not it’s okay to move in together without getting engaged first. Do people underestimate the importance of the move-in as a milestone? This week’s Awkward Sexual Encounter involves an unwanted golden shower and an apologetic Taco Tuesday. Then a listener asks if it’s messed up for a guy to be mad at her for not wanting to meet up in person during quarantine. Another emailer asks if it’s a bad idea to go straight from living in your parents’ house to living with your boyfriend. Finally, they finish the show with some Red Flag or Deal Breaker questions and a conversation about people who get angry at strangers who aren't social-distancing.

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J&J start the week with a conversation about who gets to decide where you quarantine as a couple. A listener writes in to ask whether her boyfriend of five years should feel obligated to come quarantine with her in her parents’ home. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a random flip into the air, a pair of bunnies, and a strange invitation. Plus, Jared shares a hilarious story about a spontaneous flip ruining his night. Then they’re joined by Mark Manson, author of The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck, to talk about his new audiobook Love Is Not Enough. They start with a conversation about the concept of ‘f*ck yes or no’ and why sometimes it’s best for people to just admit it’s time to move on. Together, they answer another emailer’s question about a guy she’s been seeing during the pandemic, and whether or not it will all end the moment quarantine is over. Finally, they close the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker, including a question about someone you dated adding you on LinkedIn.

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The J’s start the show with an update on quarantine dating, and a conversation about whether or not video chatting before in-person dates will become the new norm. Then a listener writes in to ask how to tell if you’re bored of quarantine or just bored in your relationship. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a late night fart and a discussion about the proper etiquette for being gross around your partner. Another emailer writes in to ask if it’s unfair to invite her boyfriend over during quarantine even though she’s not comfortable with her roommate having friends over. Is this a double standard, or is she in the right to see it as two separate things? Then another listener asks for help with texts from a guy who keeps flaking on her but continues to ask for another chance. Finally, they close the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker, including one about dating someone who has never left their hometown.

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J & J get things started this week with a conversation about avoiding fights with your significant other when you’re stuck trying to work and coexist in the same living space. Then they discuss the reasons why some men are resistant to going on a Zoom date, and an emailer asks what to do when you’re fed up with quarantine dating altogether. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves Gucci in the bedroom, a Gucci bathroom, and a suspicious deodorant choice. Plus, Jared makes a shocking confession. Another listener writes in to ask why the guy who refused to commit to her is still sending casual Snapchat and Instagram messages. Then another emailer asks if she should be concerned that her boyfriend hides (and deletes) his text conversations from her. Is there any reasonable explanation for why he could be hiding his messages? Then they finish the show with some Red Flag or Deal Breakers, and a conversation about what your hopes and dreams say about who you are as a person.

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The J’s begin the show by talking sh*t about the first photo Instagram challenge. Next, a listener writes in to ask whether or not it’s weird to follow someone on Instagram the moment you match on a dating app. This week’s Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a half-naked man, grandparents at the front door, and a strange text months after the fact. Next, they offer advice to a listener who confronted the guy she’s seeing after he updated his dating profile. Then they’re joined by comedians Sam Morril and Taylor Tomlinson to talk about how the new couple is handling quarantining together just six months into their relationship. They talk about how to avoid fights, activities couples can do together, and whether or not it’s expected to continue living together once social distancing ends. They give advice to a listener asking how to deal with a resentful boyfriend whose pandemic related stress is testing her relationship. Finally, they close out the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker, including a debate about liking thirst traps and where to draw the line.

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The J’s start the show with a conversation about dating when you’re stuck inside, and discuss the fact that people are finally willing to try FaceTime dates. Plus, they talk about how the quarantine has forced people to reassess their relationships. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves sexy lingerie, a wad of toilet paper, and a disappearing act. Next, a listener writes in to ask if it’s okay to be upset with your partner for giving up on seeing each other during the quarantine. Should your significant other be willing to forgo social distancing rules for the sake of your relationship? Then they’re joined by Nicole Byer, comedian and host of Netflix’s “Nailed It!” to talk about dating in this weird and confusing time. They respond to a single listener who feels like a loser right now and needs advice for dating without seeing people in person. Finally, they close out the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker and Nicole tells us whether or not it’s okay to move into your partner’s childhood home together.

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J & J start the show with a conversation about Jared moving in with his girlfriend and how living together affects your relationship. Then a listener writes in to ask what the correct etiquette is for reaching out to an ex when one of their loved ones passes away. How do you check in without giving the impression that you have ulterior motives? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves oral sex, a piece of gum, and a strange conversation. Next, an emailer asks how to get her weekends-only boyfriend to spend more time with her. Are they using the “love language” conversation as an excuse not to compromise? Then another listener asks if the guy she’s moving in with really wants to live together, or if he’s just doing it to please her. Is it common to have cold feet about moving in together? They close out the show with some Red Flag or Deal Breaker questions, including one featuring a difficult Bachelor/Bachelorette scenario.

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The J’s begin the show with a conversation about opening lines on dating apps and how to ensure you get a first date. Is it possible to come off too eager with a dating app opening line? The Awkward Sexual Encounter features a children’s show theme song and a cringeworthy post-sex routine. Next, a listener writes in to ask if she made a mistake by asking the guy she is seeing if he is open to something more serious. They read a series of texts from her and discuss what to do when you get a direct answer, but it’s not the one you’re looking for. Another email writes in to ask what it means when a guy says he needs time to himself. Should you assume he really just wants to break up? Then they’re joined by Betches’ own Alicia Angeles to share her story of being in an on-again/off-again toxic relationship for over a decade. A listener writes in about a similar experience and asks how to get over the resentment of being treated so poorly for so long. At what point in a relationship do you admit to yourself that he’s not going to change and it’s time to move on? They close things out with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker featuring someone who declines your Instagram follow request.

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J & J begin the show with a conversation about trying to maintain a dating life during the coronavirus crisis. They talk about getting quarantined with someone you can’t stand, trying to date when you’re supposed to be practicing social distancing, and whether or not you’d rather spend this time solo or with someone you just started dating. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a guy with sangria d*ck and a pre-worn condom. Next, an emailer writes in to ask if she’s just using her casual hook up to distract herself from pursuing a real relationship. This leads to a conversation about the biological reasons why emotion is so important for good sex. Then another listener writes in to ask about a series of texts she received from a guy she was dating for months. When a guy says he needs time to himself, should you assume he really just wants to break up? They close out the show with some Red Flag or Deal Breakers and a conversation about Uber etiquette on a date.

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The J’s start off this week’s show with Jared’s dating dilemma involving one first-class plane ticket, and one upset girlfriend. Should men feel obligated to give up the superior seat to their significant other? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves bad aim and an embarrassing climax. Next, they answer an emailer whose worst fear is dating someone in debt. How far into a relationship is it okay to bring up finances? Another listener writes in to ask how long you should wait for someone you’re texting to finally book a first date. Is there a certain amount of time after which you should cut someone off? They close out the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker and decide whether or not getting banned from a dating app should get you blocked IRL.

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On this special “Where Are They Now” episode, J & J receive an update email from a listener who was dating a guy that wouldn’t call her his girlfriend. First, they listen back to their original advice from the March 27th, 2019 episode titled “Is Refusing To Define The Relationship A Dealbreaker?" Then they read her full update, telling us whether or not they're still together, which predictions they got right, and why people find it so hard to take good advice.

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The J’s are back with a special pop-up episode *spoilers ahead* all about the hit dating show Love Is Blind. They start off with a conversation about which parts of the show worked, which fell flat, and why viewers are so invested in these couples. Then they dive into each of the couples that made it past the pods, starting with the most boring couple of all, Kelly and Kenny. Next, they discuss Carlton withholding info about his sexuality from Diamond before proposing, and the fallout that ensued. They talk about the constant toxic energy between Giannina and Damian, then dive into the love triangle Barnett found himself in despite being a classic f*ckboi. Plus, they cover Jessica’s relationship with Mark, including her constant obsession with their age gap. Finally, they talk about what they would change about the show, and what it says about dating in general.

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J & J start the show with a conversation about Jared’s birthday and the difference between how men and women celebrate. Then an emailer writes in to ask why the guy she is seeing insists on using a condom every time they have sex even though they’re exclusive and she has an IUD. Is this a sign that he’s hiding something, or is he just overly cautious? The Awkward Sexual Encounter of the week features a night of shots and an ugly-cry. Why are guys judged more harshly for showing emotion in a relationship? Next, a listener asks why her office-party hookup hasn’t asked her on a date yet, and whether or not they’re ever going to go out. Another emailer asks whether or not it’s fair to judge a guy she matched with on a dating app who was going bald but didn’t disclose it until the first date. They close out the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker featuring the age old question: what do you do when your boyfriend accidentally calls you mom?

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The J’s start off this week’s show with a viral tweet involving a girl who cancelled her date at the last minute and the negative reaction she got from the guy she was supposed to meet. Is there a double standard when it comes to rescheduling a date? The Awkward Sexual Encounter of the week features a set of messy sheets and an embarrassing personal hygiene story. Next, an emailer writes in to ask if she’s reading too much into her newly-exclusive boyfriend getting tagged online by other women. Is it okay to call him out for who he was hanging with, or should she just leave it alone? Another listener writes in to ask how to avoid ending up in a friends-with-benefits situation. Will guys put you in a certain category if you hook up too soon? They close out the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker and a debate about ordering an Uber pool on a first date.

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J & J begin the show with a conversation about Valentine’s Day and what to do when you don’t have a date. They debate whether or not you should expect a Valentine’s date with someone you’ve been hooking up with for a month. Then a listener writes in to ask why the guy she has been seeing for weeks still hasn’t kissed her. Is this a sign that he’s not interested or that he just can’t pull the trigger? The Awkward Sexual Encounter of the week features a guy who accidentally sexted an entire group chat. Then, an emailer sends in a deal reveal involving a guy who keeps trying to suggest a group-date scenario after only one drink together. Another listener asks whether or not she should be okay with her longterm boyfriend going on a solo-vacation to South America. Is it a sign that they’re not in the same place in the relationship and should break up? Finally, they play a round of Valentine’s Day-themed Red Flag or Deal Breaker.

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The J’s start the show with a debate about the importance of having a TV show to watch with your partner. Then a listener writes in to ask whether or not there are rules for which pictures you can and can’t use on your dating profile after a breakup. Is it okay to use a picture you like even if it has your ex in it? Next, the Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a kitchen encounter and a boyfriend naked from the waste down. Then, they discuss setting expectations before ‘dates’ with the opposite sex. How do you clearly signal to someone you met offline that you're interested in seeing them romantically? Another listener asks how to make things work with his new girlfriend even though she lives an hour away. Is it okay to tell someone you want to date but don’t want to travel to see each other as much as they’d prefer? Finally, they close the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker and a conversation about guys who don’t understand the importance of soap.

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J & J start the show with a debate about whether or not it’s okay to be on your phone when you’re watching a movie with your significant other. Do they have a right to get annoyed if you’re not paying attention to the screen? Next, a listener writes in to ask whether or not she should stay together with her boyfriend just for an expensive vacation. Is it unfair to take advantage of the trip if you’re not planning to stick around? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a naked stranger and a carpet fire. Next, an emailer asks why her long term hookup keeps trying to reconnect with her despite having a girlfriend. After, they’re joined by Jordana’s very own sister, clinical psychologist and licensed therapist Dr. Naomi Bernstein. They start with a conversation about couples in therapy, trying therapy before you get married, and figuring out when it’s time to admit things aren’t working. Then they answer a listener email asking whether or not it’s okay to hide evidence of her troubled past on a first date. Do they have the right to know up front about your past struggles, or is it fair to save that for down the road? They finish out the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker and a debate about how long you should wait to text after the first time you sleep together.

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The J’s kick things off this week with a reaction to Brad Pitt and Jennifer Aniston’s viral backstage photos from the SAG Awards. What does it say about you if you’re rooting for Brad and Jen to reunite? Next, they respond to a listener question about what to do when the person you’re dating constantly brings up their ex. Should you be okay with your partner talking about their ex, or is it okay to expect them to move on? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a New Year’s hookup, a gun next to the bed, and a weird clothing request. Next, an emailer writes in to ask why the guy she’s seeing isn’t trying harder to spend time together. Is he trying to send the signal that he no longer wants to see her? Then they’re joined by Countess Luann de Lesseps of The Real Housewives of New York City to talk about her own romantic history, what she’s looking for in a man, and taking her cabaret show on the road. A listener writes in to ask if it’s weird to sleep in separate bedrooms from your partner. To close the show, Luann joins Jordana and Jared for a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker.

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J & J are back and start the show with a conversation about hitting the three-month mark in a relationship and asking yourself where things are going. Is it a sign that you need to break up if you don’t see a long term future after three months? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is all about saying the wrong person’s name during sex. Next, a listener asks for a “Judge J’s” ruling on a case involving a last-minute date cancellation and a text admitting that he just committed to be exclusive with someone else. Then an emailer writes in to ask if she should continue to revive a long distance relationship even though the guy doesn’t seem to think it’s worth the trouble. They close out the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker and a frightening listener text exchange.

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The J’s return from the holidays and start the show with reactions to the messages about Jordana’s personal story from last week’s episode. Next, an emailer asks if it’s weird to have a pre-date phone call with someone before meeting up for the first time. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a kitchen hookup and jalapeño peppers. Another listener writes in to ask how you should react if you find out the person you are dating cheated on their ex. Should you call them out or is it none of your business? Then, an emailer asks if it’s possible to successfully live with a messy person if you’re a clean freak. They close the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker which leads into a conversation about guys who only pee sitting down.

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Happy New Year from double J! They start by breaking down their New Year’s resolutions and the importance of resolutions as they apply to dating. Then a listener writes in wondering if it’s necessary to follow your significant other on Instagram. Next, they dive into their Awkward Sexual Encounter which features a blow job, a locked jaw, and dinosaur chicken nuggets. Later a listener writes in wondering how to get guys that she is no longer interested in to stop texting her. Finally, a listener writes in wondering what to do when her bf won’t recommend her for a job in the same professional field. They wrap up the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker. 

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Ho Ho Ho, happy holidays from J and J. On this joyous Christmas Day Jared and Jordana begin the show by breaking down the most depressing relationship movie of the year, “Marriage Story”. Next, they dive into their Awkward Sexual Encounter which features a goat cheese salad, a rumbly tummy, and some anal penetration. Then a listener writes in wondering if it’s unusual for her bf to be masturbating to pictures of a high school acquaintance. Later a listener writes in wondering if a sexual conversation after a first date means the guy she went out with is worth seeing again. Finally, they close the show out with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker.

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J & J are back and start the show with a DM from a listener who initiated a first date and then asked to split the bill. Is that reason enough to skip a second date altogether? Next, an emailer asks if he needs to start posting pictures of the girls he dates on his Instagram. How important is it to show off the person you’re dating on social media? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a jealous cat and a mess at the foot of the bed. Another listener writes in with a story about her boyfriend reactivating his dating app account while she was out of town. Jared and Jordana reenact their text exchange and give advice for breaking things off. Then they read an email from a woman who bought her own house and is worried it will scare guys off. Is it possible for men to be intimidated if your home is too extravagant? They finish out the show with some Red Flag or Deal Breakers and a conversation about dating someone with a totally different sleep schedule. 

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J and J take the show on the road for a very special episode recorded live at The Lincoln Theatre in Washington, DC. They begin the show by answering a listener submitted question asking when the right time would be to unfollow someone you casually dated. At 17:20 they conduct a dating app profile makeover for a lucky audience member. At 30:30 they invite another guest on stage to do a deal reveal featuring a weird string of texts. At 45:40 they play a revealing round of Red Flag Or Deal Breaker. At 58:00 the Awkward Sexual Encounter involves oral sex and an unquenchable appetite. 

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The J’s are back in the studio and start the show with a conversation about 90 Day Fiancé and what the show says about setting expectations in your relationship. Is it fair to change your expectations of your partner after being together for a long time? Next, a listener writes in asking how to correct someone’s technique in bed without being offensive. They offer up options for saying the right thing. This week’s Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a girl in a hot tub and a booty call. Another listener sends an email after she saw the awful gifts her boyfriend ordered for her birthday. Is he really trying his best or should she ‘accidentally’ cancel the order? They read another email from a girl who’s hooking up with an influencer and asks how to engage with someone who thinks they are famous just because they have a blue check mark. Finally, they close out the episode with some Would You Rather questions and a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker. 

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Jared and Jordana are back to talk about gender roles, how they’re changing, and what they mean for your relationship. They start with an email from a listener who got broken up with because he cried in front of his girlfriend. The Awkward Sexual Encounter is all about a guy who stopped a hookup mid-makeout to admit that he farted. They give their best advice on how and when to fart in front of your partner. Next, they read an email from a listener who blacked out on a sixth date and is worried she may have ruined things. Are drunk antics always a turnoff? Another listener writes in the day after her breakup, wondering when it’s acceptable to get back out there and if dating too soon will scare guys off. Then they close out the show with some Would You Rather questions and a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker.

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J and J head to Boston for a very special episode recorded live at The Wilbur Theater. At 8:00 they kick things off by answering a listener submitted email. Then, at 16:30 they conduct a dating app profile makeover and deal reveal for a lucky audience member. At 30:20 they invite another guest on stage for a dating profile makeover. At 47:30 they play a revealing round of Red Flag Or Deal Breaker. Then at 57:20 they read some awkward sex, then close out the show with some audience Q&A.

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Double J is back in action just in time for the most regretful night of the year, Thanksgiving Eve. They start by breaking down Jared’s philosophy of the Thanksgiving eve drunk person pace car in hopes to save some listeners from being the drunkest person at the bar. Next, a listener writes in wondering what the best way to up her dating game in real life is in an effort to use the dating apps less. Then they dive into their awkward sexual encounter of the week which features some bad sex and a little too much honesty. Later, a listener writes in wondering how to cancel a subscription-based gift after a breakup. Lastly, a listener writes in wondering how to take a step back and take it slow after falling for a guy very quickly. As usual, they close out the show with a round of red flag or dealbreaker.

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J & J are back and start the show with a conversation about how to avoid getting grilled by your family about your relationship status over the holidays. Is Thanksgiving the toughest time to be single around your family? At 13:50 a listener writes in to ask if it’s okay to have dinner with a friend you used to have a crush on even though you’re in a relationship now. Are old love interests completely off limits for one on one drinks, or should your partner trust you enough to let it go? At 27:40 The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a new hookup uncovering an embarrassing search history. At 45:25 another listener writes in to ask for help finding closure after an unexpected breakup with her long-distance boyfriend. Is it possible to get closure on a breakup if you weren’t the one who initiated it? At 1:01:30 an emailer wonders whether his female roommate is getting in the way of finding a girlfriend, or if it’s just a matter of not having his own place. They finish the show with some Red Flag or Deal Breaker questions, including a conversation about never having attended a wedding.

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J and J take the show on the road for a very special episode recorded live at The Miami Improv. They begin the show by answering a listener submitted question about sharing your Instagram before a first date. At 8:40 they conduct a dating app profile makeover for a lucky audience member. At 27:50 they invite another guest on stage to do a deal reveal featuring a weird string of texts. At 42:30 they’re joined by Nicole Lopez-Alvar of Bachelor fame to talk about life after Paradise and dating in Miami. Then, at 46:00 they play a revealing round of Red Flag Or Deal Breaker. At 57:40 the Awkward Sexual Encounter involves an unwanted dog in the bedroom, then they close out the show with some audience questions.

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Coming in hot from the East Coast live tour, J and J kick off the episode discussing how to be more realistic on dating apps. Have these apps made it too easy for average guys to act like they’re god’s gift to women? At 15:40 a listener writes in to ask about sharing expenses when traveling as a new couple. Is a detailed spreadsheet the sign of a good partner or a huge turn off? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a divorced couple, a bottle of lube, and a muscle cream mix-up. At 39:25 another listener writes in to ask if it’s okay to follow her boyfriend to a new city. Do men and women consider their partner’s needs differently when facing a possible relocation? At 55:55 an emailer is concerned that men won’t want to date her because she’s never been in a serious relationship. Then they close out the show with some Red Flag or Deal Breaker questions and a debate about body wash.

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The J’s return to discuss the best way to deal with people who aren’t engaging on the dating apps. At 15:00 a listener writes in wondering how to pull out some conversation with the duds she’s been chatting with on the apps. At 22:45 they dive into their weird sexual encounter of the week from a listener wondering if she should be offended that the guy she’s hooking up with pours her a cup of mouthwash after every bang sesh. At 31:05 a listener writes in wondering whose responsibility it is to keep the communication fluid in a relationship while her boyfriend is away. At 42:25 a listener writes in wondering if it’s possible to maintain mutual friendships after a relationship has ended. At 59:00 they play a round of red flag or deal breaker.

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J and J take the show on the road for a very special bonus episode recorded live at The Plaza Live in Orlando. They begin the show by asking the question “how do I bring up weird Instagram activity without sounding crazy?” At 19:30 they conduct a dating app profile makeover for a lucky audience member. At 47:20 the hosts of The Two Cups of Joe Podcast, Joey Fatone and Joe Mulvihill, share their dating stories and play a revealing round of Red Flag Or Deal Breaker. At 1:22:00 they close out the show with some audience questions.

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The J’s are back in the studio in between their fall tour dates to cozy up and close out the month. They begin by decoding a cryptic text message that may or may not be asking for nudes. At 15:50 they help a listener looking to repair trust with a 4 month fling who was sexting someone else while they were out on a date. At 41:00 a listener writes in asking for an opinion about using the mute feature on Instagram to banish an old flame that was haunting her story views. At 47:20 they dive into their awkward sexual encounter of the week which features an audible out of a blow job and into a solo masturbation. At 1:10:00 a listener writes in wondering if she’s reading too far into a Facebook profile picture of her college boyfriend and another girl. At 1:09:50 they close out the show with a round of Red Flag Or Deal Breaker.

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J and J are back to talk about why it’s so hard for women to initiate a date, and tell us the best way to steer the first-date conversation where you want it to go. At 21:05 they answer a listener question about how many dates she should wait before asks the guy out herself. Is it better to take the initiative early on or wait for your moment? At 28:10 the Awkward Sexual Encounter is all about a sleep talker, a weird sex request, and an expression of love that was probably meant for someone else. At 31:30 they address the universally dreaded topic of family holidays when you’re in a newer relationship. Is it ever a good idea to meet the parents for the first time during a holiday gathering? At 54:20 a listener writes in to ask whether or not she is obligated to forgive her ex for cheating on her. At 1:00:20 they close out the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker, including one involving a naked portrait. The U Up? LIVE TOUR, presented by Moxy Hotels, is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets now at Betches.co/uuptour

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Fresh off the Southeast leg of the U Up? Live Tour, J and J recap everything that happened on the road. At 11:00 a listener writes in suggesting that people should encourage their boyfriends not to watch porn. Is your sex life destined to be more fulfilling if you cut out porn altogether? At 28:00 the Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a bar mishap, a trip to the ER, and a strange first kiss. At 35:55 another listener shares a strange text she received from the guy she’s dating where he admitted to hitting on her friend. Is this guy trying to make her jealous or is he just that dumb? At 51:35 they give advice to a listener who is unhappy in her career and it’s affecting her dating life. Is it better to hide your insecurities or be up front about them? Then they close the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker, including one about finding out who your partner used to sleep with. The U Up? LIVE TOUR, presented by Moxy Hotels, is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour

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The Js return from a very happy Yom Kippur to continue the best month of the year, fucktober. They start by addressing a listener who writes in wondering what the best way to let her dates know she’s admittedly high maintenance. At 31:50 they talk about their awkward sexual encounter of the week which features a trip to Tulum, some roadway felatio and a slamming door. At 44:05 a listener writes in wondering what to do about her inferiority complex with her friend. At 59:20 a listener writes in wondering what to do after finding snapchats to an ex on her bf’s phone. At 1:05:50 they play a round of “Red Flag or Deal Breaker”. The U Up? LIVE TOUR, presented by Moxy Hotels, is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour #Entertainment   

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F*cktober has arrived, aka the season of confusion. J and J are here to offer some clarity, starting with an email about hooking up again the morning after. Does not engaging in morning-after sex ruin your chances of being together? At 37:00 the Awkward Sexual Encounter is all about a weird choice of words. Is it acceptable to tell a girl you’re going to make her “nut” during sex? At 48:00 another listener asks how she should talk to her boyfriend about his terrible texting habits. Then at 1:04:00 they’re joined by Queer Eye star Jonathan Van Ness to talk about his new book Over the Top. They discuss his HIV diagnosis, answer a listener question about trying a same-sex relationship, and share the “forearm test” for figuring out if someone is interested in you. Finally, the close out the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker and a celebration of male ass-play. 

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J and J take the show on the road for a very special bonus episode recorded live at the Queen Elizabeth Theatre in Toronto. At 5:30 they ask the question “what’s the best way to be broken up with?” At 15:00 they conduct a dating app profile makeover for an audience member. At 29:20 they play a round of “Red Flag/Deal Breaker”. At 43:00, they untangle a text conversation in their puzzling “Deal Reveal.” At 55:15 they dive into their awkward sexual encounter. Thanks to our sponsors! Head to PRIVACY.COM/UUP to sign up and get $5 to spend on your first purchase. Go to CAPRI-BLUE.COM and use code UUP get 20% off your entire purchase and have your space smelling like the Betches office today.

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As we say gabagool to F*cktember and head into F*cktober, Jared and Jordana are back to talk about taking serious steps in a relationship and transitioning into cuffing season. At 30:40 a listener asks for advice after her partner freaked out about how fast things were moving. Is he afraid to commit, or just afraid to commit to HER? At 47:55 the Awkward Sexual Encounter is all about running into a guy’s mom in the hallway the morning after a hookup. At 54:40 an emailer writes in to ask if she has the right to be mad that her boyfriend swapped Instas with a girl he met at a bar. Then at 1:08:00 another listener asks if the third date is the right time to bring someone back to your apartment. At what point do you stop going for drinks and just invite them over? At 1:14:05 they close out the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker. The U Up? LIVE TOUR, presented by Moxy Hotels, is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour

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J and J are back and ready to bring in everyone’s favorite month, fucktober. At 21:50 they break down the science behind the ‘walking date.’ What does it mean for a future relationship and should you be scared? At 38:30 a listener shares their awkward sexual encounter which features a sorority house, a forgotten condom, and some head banging on the dashboard of a car. At 47:00 they share their advice for a listener worried about the ex girlfriend posing as her boyfriend's cat on his Netflix account. At 1:08:05 they respond to a west coast tech guy who feels he’s no longer datable. At 1:18:00 they play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker. The U Up? LIVE tour is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour

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J and J take the show on the road for a very special bonus episode recorded live at The Agora Theatre in Cleveland. They begin the show by asking the question “how do I bring up weird Instagram activity without sounding crazy?” At 14:00 they conduct a dating app profile makeover for a lucky audience member. At 51:10 they play a round of “Red Flag/Deal Breaker” with special guest, Brandon Zingale.

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The Js ride again and following Jordana’s 30th birthday, she wants to speak to the manager. At 12:45 a listener writes in wondering how to handle a guy that she’s seeing and his semi soft noodle dick. At 25:00 they dive into their awkward sexual encounter of the week which features a hexagon, sleep talking and a happy ending. At 34:35 a listener writes in wondering if she should delete all of her instagram pictures with her now ex-boyfriend. At 50:00 they play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker. At 1:07:35 they’re joined by Travis Mills and Rachel Lindsay of MTV’s new show “Ghosted” to discuss being on The Bachelorette, getting catfished in Las Vegas, and what actually constitutes being ghosted. The U Up? LIVE tour is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour

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Jared and Jordana are here to wrap up the summer and kick off fall hook up season. At 10:00 they discuss when the exact start date of cuffing season should be. At 17:00 they breakdown what guys think about vibrators. At 32:00 they dive into their awkward sexual encounter featuring hookup persistence despite a knocked out tooth. At 37:50 a listener writes in wondering how to deal with the pressure of getting physical on a first date. At 1:17:00 they play red flag or deal breaker. Is it a deal breaker if someone tells you they hooked up with someone else in their dreams? The U Up? LIVE tour is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour

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J and J start the show with a conversation about the best way to ask your significant other for spontaneous plans. Does your partner have the right to be upset when work is your number 1 priority? At 14:50 this week’s Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a guy who uses a condom for an unorthodox purpose. At 24:00 a listener asks how to respond to an ex who texted him after they saw each other in public without saying hello. What does the phrase “I have love for you” even mean? At 34:50 they’re joined by Tyler Cameron of The Bachelorette to talk about suddenly becoming a major celebrity and dating after the show. He talks about his move to New York City and current living arrangement. They talk about his dating history and what he’s actually looking for in a woman. At 46:15 Tyler helps with an email from a listener who wants to know if it’s a bad look to leave right after a hookup. At 51:30 they finish the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker, including a conversation about how important it is for your partner’s parents to like you. The U Up? LIVE tour is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour

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J and J kick off the show with a conversation about sliding into someone’s DMs after you miss the chance to connect on a dating app. What’s the right way to start a conversation via DM? At 26:25 the Awkward Sexual Encounter is all about a guy who played dead the moment after he finished during sex. At 38:45 a listener writes in to ask if it’s safe to have a threesome with her long-term boyfriend. Is there any way to bring in a third person without somebody getting jealous? At 55:00 another emailer asks if she comes off as desperate when she initiates the first date with guys she has matched. Is it important to make guys chase you or is it better to just take charge? At 1:02:45 they finish the show with some Red Flag or Deal Breakers and ask how you should deal with an insincere complimenter. The U Up? LIVE tour is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour

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J and J take the show on the road for a very special bonus episode recorded live at The Vic Theatre in Chicago. At 9:25 they ask the question “how do I handle the guy who wants to take things slow?” At 16:00 they conduct a dating app profile makeover for 2 audience members. At 51:10 they play a round of “Red Flag/Deal Breaker” with special guest, Diggy Moreland.

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J and J start the show with a preview of tonight’s live show from Chicago. At 9:10 they discuss an argument that was set off by a dangerous hypothetical question. At 25:20 the Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a lost condom and a ruined set of sheets. Should you come clean when the condom gets lost in the most embarrassing place possible? At 35:15 a listener writes in to ask if it’s normal that her boyfriend has paid strangers for nudes on Snapchat. Does it count as cheating if he’s getting pictures from amateur porn stars? At 50:20 another emailer asks if she should be alarmed that her fiancé asked if the deposits for their wedding are refundable. Does this mean he’s having second thoughts about marriage or just asking an honest question? At 1:14:20 they rank the best and worst months of the year to be single, then close out the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker. U Up? LIVE is coming to the New York Comedy Festival on Friday, November 8th! Get your tickets by visiting betches.co/nycf

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Would You Rather Be The Dumper Or The Dumpee? J and J start the show with an announcement about U Up? LIVE coming to the New York Comedy Festival at Town Hall. At 5:45 a listener writes in to ask if women are better off ‘dating down.’ At 22:45 the Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a roll in the grass, a new sex toy, and a surprise they didn’t see coming. At 29:25 another listener writes in to ask why her boyfriend is still following a girl he hooked up with when they were on a break. At 47:25 an emailer asks if it’s okay to be upset that the guy she just started seeing didn’t invite her out to join him on a Friday night. Then at 1:03:10 they play a game of Would You Rather all about whether you’d prefer to be the dumper or the dumpee. They close out the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker. U Up? LIVE is coming to the New York Comedy Festival on Friday, November 8th at 9:45pm! Get your tickets before they go on sale to the public by visiting betches.co/nycf and using the promo code CNYCF

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