Sex With Emily

There’s often someone who initiates the sex, and someone who says “yes” or “no.” These roles can work long-term, but what happens when sexual initiations become a problem? When you’re always hearing no, or when you always say no? On today’s show, I'm talking about sexual initiations and how to make this moment a better experience for all. When you’re the initiator, but want your partner to do it more often, how do you talk to them about it? We’ll also get into spontaneous vs. responsive desire, and as someone with responsive desire, I’ll share my routine for getting turned on for sex. Finally, when you and your partner are so busy that no one’s initiating, what’s the conversation you need to have? I advise a caller in this exact situation.

Show Notes:

• The Future of Sex Tech
• The Sexiest Morning Routine Ever
• PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• SMART SEX PRIZE PACK (submit your pre-order proof of purchase at the bottom of the page, be entered to win the prize pack and everyone that enters receives a copy of my new and improved Yes! No! Maybe? Guide)
• SmartMouth
• VUSH I Come First - Self-Connection Kit (Kit is 50% off, Save an additional 10% with the code EMILYICF)
• I Gave My Friend a Magic Wand Mini. Here’s Why.
• MagBreakthrough.com/SexWithEmily (code SexWithEmily10 for 10% off)

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What’s holding you back from having good sex? Is it self-confidence? A problem with your partner? Are you under so much stress that it’s impossible to feel erotic and turned on? In today’s Best Of episode, I’m talking about the 6 most common roadblocks to sex and how to move past them. I’ll talk you through how to navigate each of them and also take your questions on personal sexual roadblocks. For example, if you’re coupled, is it cheating to get on OnlyFans? What do you do if you’re not always wet for sex? And finally, what's the best way to work with a partner who’s prone to jealousy? All this and more on our roadblocks show.

Show Notes:

• How to Use a Vibe With a Partner
• High Pleasure: A Guide to Cannabis & Sex
• PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• SMART SEX PRIZE PACK (submit your pre-order proof of purchase at the bottom of the page, be entered to win the prize pack and everyone that enters receives a copy of my new and improved Yes! No! Maybe? Guide)
• LELO LILY 3 (code EMILY for 25% off sitewide)

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It’s a new day in the world of cannabis and sex. So many of you have asked me for this show! While wide scale research is still thin, there are many encouraging signs that cannabis can help you unlock more sexual pleasure, whether it's erotic arousal, help with erections, less anxiety, or less pain. But I get it: cannabis isn’t legal everywhere! And it’s also not right for everyone. So on today’s mini show, I’ll be discussing the latest research on cannabis and sex, how to know if it's a good choice for you, delivery methods like edibles and drinkables, and vetted product recommendations for sexy times, both partnered and solo. 

Show Notes:

• High Pleasure: A Guide to Cannabis & Sex
• PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• SMART SEX PRIZE PACK (submit your pre-order proof of purchase at the bottom of the page, be entered to win the prize pack and everyone that enters receives a copy of my new and improved Yes! No! Maybe? Guide)
• Morgasm CBD Arousal Lubricant (code EMILY for 15% OFF sitewide)
• VIIA Hemp Co’s High Love – THC Libido Gummies (code EMILY for 20% OFF sitewide)

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What’s a common stereotype you’ve heard about sex? Maybe it’s that “guys just want one thing” or that “once you have kids, say goodbye to your sex life.” But not only are these stereotypes tiresome on a societal level, they actually hurt your sex life. Why? Because if you buy them, they limit your pleasure potential. So on today’s show, I reveal the top 3 sexual stereotypes penis owners and vulva owners told me they were tired of, and the new truths that are going to empower you in bed. I also give you quick communication hacks to help you get curious with any partner, whether they’re long-term or brand new, so that you can have the sex you actually want. 

Show Notes:

• How to Use a Vibe With a Partner
• High Pleasure: A Guide to Cannabis & Sex
• PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• SMART SEX PRIZE PACK (submit your pre-order proof of purchase at the bottom of the page, be entered to win the prize pack and everyone that enters receives a copy of my new and improved Yes! No! Maybe? Guide)
• Morgasm CBD Arousal Lubricant (code EMILY for 15% OFF sitewide)
• Article: 3 Sexual Stereotypes to Stop Believing About Vulva Owners
• Article: 3 Sexual Stereotypes to Stop Believing About Penis Owners

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There’s a lot to be said for sex toys. For one, they stimulate nerve endings much deeper than hands alone can reach – and that’s true no matter what genitals you’ve got. But how do you incorporate toys into partnered sex? And which ones are right for your body to give you mind-blowing orgasms? On today’s episode, we’re talking all things sex toys so you can play in new and different ways. First, is it alright to always bring a vibe to partnered sex? One penis owner says “absolutely.” Speaking of penis owners, which toys are best for this crowd? I also talk about squirting with toys, how to change up your solo sex routine, and if there’s anything wrong if you can ONLY orgasm with a toy. Spoiler alert: nope! 

Show Notes:

• The Basics of Safe Sex 
• Want Better Sex? Ask Your Partner These Questions
• Sign up for Sexts With Emily SMS & get my brand new Ultimate SEXTING Guide!
• PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• SMART SEX PRIZE PACK (submit your pre-order proof of purchase at the bottom of the page, be entered to win the prize pack and everyone that enters receives a copy of my new and improved Yes! No! Maybe? Guide)
• CERĒ Spellbound Stimulator (code EMILY15 for 15% off sitewide)
• Bellesa
• I Gave My Friend a Magic Wand Mini. Here’s Why.

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Have you ever used a “Yes, No, Maybe” List for sex? It’s a menu of sex acts that prioritizes consent and communication among sexual partners. It’s one of my hands-down favorite tools to explore new ideas and spice up sex lives. But how do you actually use the list and turn your choices into realities? On today’s show, I reveal my NEW and IMPROVED "Yes, No, Maybe" List, and show you how to use it individually or with a partner. I share new ideas we added to the list, like orgasm denial, bondage, and electrostimulation, as well as success stories from folks who have filled it out. Plus, we’ll talk about what to do if your answers differ from your partner's, and how a real couple worked through that sticky situation together. 

Show Notes:

• The Basics of Safe Sex 
• Want Better Sex? Ask Your Partner These Questions
• Sign up for Sexts With Emily SMS & get my brand new Ultimate SEXTING Guide!
• PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• SMART SEX PRIZE PACK (submit your pre-order proof of purchase at the bottom of the page, be entered to win the prize pack and everyone that enters receives a copy of my new and improved Yes! No! Maybe? Guide)
• I Gave My Friend a Magic Wand Mini. Here’s Why.
• Promescent.com/Emily (use this link to automatically save 15% at checkout)
• Pleasure Planner, Tips for Communication & Other Guides

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When you think about anal sex, what comes to mind? Does it make you feel turned on? Nervous? Like something you want to try or do more of, but you’re not sure about the best way to approach it? On today’s show, I help you get more comfortable with anal play by answering your top questions. How can you use foreplay and communication to relax into the experience? If you’ve tried anal play before but didn’t love it, what are some toys and techniques you can use to feel more pleasure? What’s the safest way to train with an anal toy, and can you hurt yourself by having too much anal? Bottoms up, because your anal education starts now.

Show Notes:

• I Gave My Friend a Magic Wand Mini. Here’s Why.
• Get to Know The Clitoris and How to Pleasure It
• PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• LELO LOKI Wave

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How do you give incredible, life-affirming oral sex to a vulva owner? While every body is different, I’m here to tell you that these are the techniques you absolutely need. First, we’ll talk the art of the tease. I explain how to use your tongue to intensify sensations and encourage arousal. I also get into everyone’s favorite: the Kivin Method. Next, I show you how to help facilitate a G-spot orgasm by answering your top questions. For example, when you’re 100% down to give oral but your partner doesn’t like receiving, what do you do? When you’re the vulva owner and want to squirt, how do you get there? Finally, I talk overcoming insecurities when you’re the receiver, and how to make giving oral more physically comfortable.

Show Notes:

• I Gave My Friend a Magic Wand Mini. Here’s Why.
• Get to Know the Clitoris (& How to Pleasure It)
• PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Promescent.com/Emily (use this link to automatically save 15% at checkout)
• Article: Mind-Blowing Oral Sex in Under 5 Minutes: The Kivin Method
• Article: Ask Emily: How Do I Go Down on a Vulva?
• Playground Lube (code SEXWITHEMILY for 15% off 1st order)
• Morgasm CBD Arousal Lubricant (code EMILY for 15% OFF sitewide)
• Podcast: Squirting Secrets w/ Deborah Sundahl
• Article: Ask Emily: How Do I *Actually* Start Squirting?

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What does it mean to be sexually confident? In my opinion, it comes from a sense of security in who you are, what you bring to the table, and knowing that it’s OK to ask questions. It’s not having all the answers, because let’s be honest: sex would be boring if we knew everything already. But when your self-image takes a hit, how do you recover your sexual confidence and combat performance anxiety? I’m talking to callers with precisely that question. What do you do when your partner keeps talking about how hot strangers are, even when you told them it makes you uncomfortable? What happens when you’re not maintaining your erections, and it’s causing anxiety? How about when your partner is more sexual than ever – but not towards you? All this and more in today’s sexual confidence episode.

Show Notes:

• 3 Sexual Stereotypes to Stop Believing About Vulva Owners
• 3 Sexual Stereotypes to Stop Believing About Penis Owners
• PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• I Gave My Friend a Magic Wand Mini. Here’s Why.

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In my opinion, masturbation is one of the healthiest self-care practices out there. But so many of you tell me how ashamed you feel about masturbating! Especially since the only pop culture examples you saw growing up were cringey. That changes today, as I take your calls on masturbation, taking time to explore your body, and unlocking different kinds of orgasms during solo sex. I also discuss masturbation frequency, and if there’s such a thing as too much. Speaking of frequency: is it possible for vulva owners to have multiple orgasms during solo sex? Let’s find out. I’ll answer your questions on group masturbation parties, jealousy toward your partner’s vibrator, and what to do when your partner can only orgasm through masturbation.

Show Notes:

• 3 Sexual Stereotypes to Stop Believing About Vulva Owners
• 3 Sexual Stereotypes to Stop Believing About Penis Owners
• PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Emily x Christina Aguilera: HelloPlayground.com/Xtina
• CERĒ Spellbound Stimulator & Reverie (code EMILY15 for 15% off sitewide)
• OdelaHealth.com/SexWithEmily (use this link to save $50)
• LELO TOR 3 (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off all products)
• I Gave My Friend a Magic Wand Mini. Here’s Why.

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Sex is inherently vulnerable, which is partly why it’s so hot. But how do you take the extremely vulnerable – even awkward – step of telling a partner something sensitive? Maybe their breath is bad. Maybe you’re bored with the sex itself. Or maybe you're afraid to tell a partner you’ve fallen in love with them. On today’s episode, I’m helping listeners find the right words for these sensitive moments. What happens when you don’t feel anything during penetration? Or your partner’s afraid to tell you they have a small penis? How about when you’re into something kinky, tried it out virtually, and got caught? And finally, when you disagree on what makes good sex, is that a deal breaker? All this and more on today’s sexual feedback show. 

Show Notes:

• The 7 Secrets of Making Out
• How to Have the Sexiest Spring Ever
• PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• SmartMouth

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Have you ever been to a sex party? Are you curious about what goes down in one, and if it’s something you’d like to explore? Are they held in dungeons? Upscale clubs? Someone’s house? There’s a lot more interest in sex parties lately, so on today’s episode, I’m talking sex parties 101. I’ll go over the various types of parties out there, how to find them and specific sex events you might be interested in, sex party etiquette, what you can expect when you walk in the door, how to interact with fellow attendees, and of course…what to wear.

Show Notes:

• The 7 Secrets of Making Out
• How to Have the Sexiest Spring Ever
• PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• FetLife
• Feeld
• #Open
• Kinky Rabbit Club
• Morgasm CBD Arousal Lubricant (code EMILY for 15% OFF sitewide)

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The vagina is a beautiful place. But from orgasms to vaginismus, do you know your way around a vagina and how to properly care for it? Whether you want to maximize a vulva owner’s pleasure or improve your own vaginal health, this episode is for you. We’ll start with the internal clitoral network: I’ll talk about how recent our scientific knowledge of the clitoris is. Later I'll discuss clitoral orgasms versus G-spot orgasms -- which one’s stronger, and what do they feel like? My listeners also bring me questions about vaginas and sex: is a clitoral piercing painful? Will it affect your sexual sensations? And when sex is painful, how can you reclaim your sexuality? All this and more on today’s vagina episode.

Show Notes:

• Cuffing Szn Is Officially Over, Here’s Your Singles’ Survival Kit
• 6 Ways to Improve Sleep for Better Sex
• PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Article: Where is the Clitoris?
• Je Joue’s New Bullet Vibrators & Endometriosis Collection (code SEXWITHEMILY for 20% OFF everything)
• Morgasm CBD Arousal Lubricant (code EMILY for 15% OFF sitewide)
• OdelaHealth.com/SexWithEmily (use this link to save $50)

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Want to give 10/10 pleasure to a penis? Whether you’re giving or receiving oral sex to a penis, this episode is for you. From where to start as an absolute beginner, to upgrading your oral sex game, this is a comprehensive episode on the art of the blowjob. First, we’ll map the penis anatomy so you know what pleasure points you’re dealing with. Next, I’ll teach you techniques to build anticipation, tease, and make your oral sex that much more memorable: eye contact, how to use your hands, and the best lube for the job. We’ll also get into sensation play, testicle and perineum stimulation, and if swallowing or deep-throating is in the cards for you. (It’s totally OK if not.) Plus, I’ve got tips for dealing with anxiety when you’re the receiver. Don’t blow this episode off: your oral sex mastery starts now.  

Show Notes:

• 6 Ways to Improve Sleep for Better Sex
• PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• When it’s Time to Unplug, Plug in a Magic Wand
• Podcast: Everybody Loves Oral
• Article: 6 Oral Sex Tips for Going Down on a Vulva
• Article: Mind-Blowing Oral Sex in Under 5 Minutes: The Kivin Method
• Article: How to Give a Better Blowjob
• Promescent.com/Emily (use this link to automatically save 15% at checkout)
• Article: Ask Emily: How Do I Better Enjoy Oral Sex?

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Have you ever been into something so strongly, you couldn’t stop fantasizing about it? Maybe it’s getting spanked or tied up, to name a couple common turn-ons. Whatever your turn-on is, does it arouse you so much that you just have to make it a reality? Or are you apprehensive to take your fantasy IRL? On today’s episode, I’m taking your calls on kinks, fetishes, and everything in between. I’ll teach you how to introduce your fantasy to a partner, especially if you’re turned on by something very specific. From spandex to group sex, squirting to infantilization, I’ll help you understand the difference between a kink and a fetish, how to safely explore your options, and how to communicate your desires to a partner. All this and more on today’s turn-on show!

Show Notes:

• Cuffing Szn Is Officially Over, Here’s Your Sexy Survival Kit
• PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Okay, What’s Really the Difference Between Kinks and Fetishes?
• Yes No Maybe List, Tips for Better Communication & Other Guides
• FirmTech Rings (code EMILY20 for 20% off sitewide)
• FetLife
• Kasidie
• LELO SORAYA Wave (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off all products)

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Let’s talk about porn, people. In my opinion, porn isn’t inherently good or bad – it’s your relationship to it that matters. Sexy media can be used for inspiration, education, even healthy arousal, but you can also become dependent on it for sexual stimulation and have a negative impact on you or your relationship in the process. So on today’s show, I’m taking your porn calls to help you find a healthy balance. She’s worried her boyfriend depends on porn for arousal and isn’t attracted to her anymore: what now? He’s married and wants to watch porn with his wife, how should he broach the subject? Finally, her father was a porn addict and she’s worried her boyfriend might be too – I give her communication tips to ease the anxiety. All this and more on today’s porn show!

Show Notes:

• How Do I Prep For Sex?
• PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• When it’s Time to Unplug, Plug in a Magic Wand
• Article: So, Where’s the Porn for Women?
• Scarleteen
• XConfessions.com

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I’m getting more questions than ever about non-monogamous relationships, but is it right for you? Today I’m taking your calls about what it takes to navigate different kinds of relationships, and how our listeners' failures and success stories can help those considering opening up. When you’re long-distance, is an open arrangement actually ideal? Or is the relationship itself a distraction from the people right in front of you? When you’re married monogamously, but one of you starts flirting with someone else, is an open marriage the right move, or not so much? And when you’re in a heterosexual relationship, but want to explore your bisexuality, is bringing in a same-sex third a healthy fix? All this and more on today’s episode.

Show Notes:

• How Do I Prep For Sex?
• PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• How Do I Explore Bisexuality While in a Relationship?
• What Exactly is an “Open” Relationship? 
• OdelaHealth.com/SexWithEmily to save $50
• Yes No Maybe List & Other Guides
• Promescent.com/Emily (use this link to automatically save 15% at checkout)

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While I believe orgasms are not the end goal of sex, who can blame themselves for wanting one? Whether you’re having partnered or solo sex, orgasms have incredible health benefits: boosted levels of estrogen and collagen, a huge dose of endorphins and oxytocin, better sleep and immunity. But namely? You want an orgasm because it feels good. That’s why on today’s show, I’m helping you reach climax. How can you still have numerous, deep orgasms? When you love anal play, but haven’t had an anal orgasm quite yet, how can you make it happen? And can all vulva-owners really have multiple orgasms? Find out all this and more on today’s orgasm show. 

Show Notes:

• Penis Issues & Innovations with Dr. Karpman
• PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• Promescent.com/Emily (use this link to automatically save 15% at checkout)

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What’s holding you back from your best sex? Are you worried you’ll be judged? Is emotional trauma rearing its ugly head? Or maybe you just want to have anal without hurting yourself! The truth is, we’ve all got a pleasure block or two, so on today’s show I’m taking your calls to move past them. When you’re recovering from an epic ghosting, how do you move on with your confidence intact? I offer tips for releasing the pain, and setting intentions for a future partner. When you’re nervous about neighbors hearing you have sex, how can you relax into your body? And finally, when your partner’s looks haven’t changed, but you’re suddenly wondering whether you’re attracted to them, is it really about their appearance? I’ll be unpacking these and many more roadblocks to the pleasure you deserve.

Show Notes:

• PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• SmartMouth

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Exploration is sexy. You don’t have to know everything about sex to be hot in bed, but if you’re curious? That’ll blow their mind. So let’s look at some less talked-about pleasure acts and how you can incorporate them into your sex life. From nipples to the labia, what unexplored erogenous zones and tools can enhance your orgasms? When your partner’s got a large penis, how do you explore anal without hurting yourself? Plus, how do you find friends and community when you’ve just entered the BDSM lifestyle? And how do you maximize your partner’s pleasure? All this and more on today’s pleasure points show.

Show Notes:

• How to Have Great Sex During Perimenopause, Menopause and Beyond
• PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• #open
• FetLife
• OdelaHealth.com/SexWithEmily to save $50
• When it’s Time to Unplug, Plug in a Magic Wand
• Je Joue (code SEXWITHEMILY for 20% off)
• Playground Lube (code SEXWITHEMILY for 15% off 1st order)
• Kivin Method: 5 Sexy Positions to Try This Valentine’s Day

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Here’s the truth about getting turned on. It’s a thousand times easier to feel sexual with others, if you’re already in the habit of getting sexual with yourself. But what does that look like? On today’s show, I’m talking sexy self-care practices that I recommend to everyone of every age, every gender, every relationship status. We’ll go over sensory engagement, breath work and solo sex techniques and toys, so you can keep your pilot light lit and feel erotic all the time. Plus, I take your questions: the difference between internal and external orgasms, arousal ideas for vulva-owners, how to approach sex with a new partner when you’ve been out of the game for a while, and much more.

Show Notes:

• Sexy Positions to Try This Valentine’s Day
• 5 Last-Minute, Ultra-Sexy Valentine’s Ideas
• PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• HigherDOSE Sauna Blanket
• Breathing App: Apple | Google Play
• Je Joue: Vita | Amour | Duet (code SEXWITHEMILY for 20% OFF)
• When it’s Time to Unplug, Plug in a Magic Wand
• Promescent.com/Emily (use this link to automatically save 15% at checkout)
• Bellesa
• TryQuinn
• XConfessions.com
• &Jane

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It’s almost Valentine’s Day, but listen. Whether you’re a romantic or a cynic, there’s one thing we can all benefit from on this holiday. No, not more candy message hearts. I’m talking actual knowledge, on how to build sexual tension on Valentine’s Day and truly, any day. So on today’s episode, I’m talking sexts, scents, and sex toys to create an erotic vibe with your partner all day long. Next, I’ll be answering all your questions to create amazing Valentine’s Sex, including body-positive sex positions, how to have sex when one or both of you is tired, and how to lean into your sub side when you’ve been domming for decades.

Show Notes:

• 3 Things You Need To Know About Your Scent & Sexual Attractiveness
• PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• HiNote App
• Eye Of Love (code EMILY for 15% off sitewide)
• SmartMouth
• LELO SORAYA Wave (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off all products)
• Article: Ask Emily: How Do I Make Scheduling Sex Sexy?

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Do you dress for the occasion? And by “occasion,” I mean sex. Because wearing things that make you feel hot can make a huge difference. That’s what we’re talking about today: listening to your feelings, and dressing or undressing your way toward your sexual desires. In this Best Of episode, I’m talking leather, lingerie, and how to wear your sexual fantasies on your sleeve. Or your thigh highs. Next, we talk DDLG, or Daddy Dom Little Girl, a kink that might be exactly what you’re looking for…but only with the right boundaries. Finally, I get into green flags and red flags with your partner, and how to spot toxic traits before you’re in too deep.

Show Notes:

• 3 Things You Need To Know About Your Scent and Sexual Attractiveness
• Promescent.com/Emily (use this link to automatically save 15% at checkout)
• PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
• When it’s Time to Unplug, Plug in a Magic Wand
• Article: How to Start a DDLG Dynamic
• Article: The Truth About DDLG As Told by a Little
• Fleur Du Mal x Sex With Emily Bundle (code FLEURWITHEMILY for 10% off 1st order)

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A stale sex life can cost us much more than our orgasms. When we stop physically connecting with our partners, we grow resentful, distrustful and uninvested in our relationship’s future. And while it’s common for sex with the same person to become monotonous over time, relationships need intimacy to survive. That’s why today’s show is all about spicing up your sex life. From a partner who doesn’t want to open up about their sexual preferences, to growing tired of the same old routine - I offer ideas from gamifying your sexual communication to taking penetration off the table. We’ll also hear plenty of real-life success stories of couples reviving their intimacy, which I know will inspire you to do the same. If it’s better sex that you and your partner want, there’s hope on the horizon. 

Show Notes:

• Sex Drive Boosting Workouts
• Gifts For Every Turn On: Valentine’s Day Guide 2023
• OdelaHealth.com/SexWithEmily to save $50
• Yes No Maybe List, Mutual Masturbation Guide, & More
• LELO SONA 2 Cruise
• Lube Shooter 4-Piece Set

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Why are there so many hang ups around oral sex? For starters, many of us don’t know how to give it, or receive it. So how do we bring amazing, orgasm-inducing oral into our sex lives? Today’s episode is a great place to start. I answer your questions on oral upgrades, so you can blow more than just their mind – and get the pleasure you deserve. When you’re new to sex, how do you coach a partner to give you great oral? Or how about when you go down on your partner, but they refuse to kiss you afterwards – should you say something? And what if your penis-owning partner can’t finish…no matter how good your oral game is? I’ll also discuss how porn can distort what we think is good oral sex, so you can take what you need from the screen and leave the rest to your IRL abilities.

Show Notes:

• Gifts For Every Turn On: Valentine’s Day Guide 2023
• LELO TOR 2 (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off all products)
• Podcast: Sex Toys for Penis Owners
• Article: Where is the Clitoris?
• Article: Mind-Blowing Oral Sex in Under 5 Minutes: The Kivin Method

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Ever stumbled across a surprise fantasy? Something you didn’t realize turned you on…but here you are. It’s super hot, and now, you can’t stop thinking about it. Our sexual fantasies are here to help us understand ourselves better, so on today’s show I take your calls on sexual fantasies, what they mean, and how to turn them into a reality. First, she masturbates in the bathroom when she knows her neighbors are home, within earshot. He loves nipple play on his body and watching his wife do it to herself. They’re dabbling in prostate play, so I provide step-by-step instructions for finger stimulation. She’s afraid of rejection, but also fantasizes about it: how can she indulge this fantasy in a healthy way? All this and more on this revealing episode. 

Show Notes:

• Gifts For Every Turn On: Valentine’s Day Guide 2023
• VUSH Destination: Play (SEXWITHEMILY for 40% off Destination: Play)
• Yes No Maybe List & Other Guides
• EMDRIA

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We all have personal demons. Whether it’s anxiety in your relationship, dissatisfaction in your sex life, or something hurtful from the past that’s infecting your present. But how do we heal so that our sex drive can thrive? That’s what today’s episode is all about. I talk to callers about their sexual mental blocks, and how to move past them for a more empowered future. When outside circumstances create stress for your family, how can you still prioritize intimacy? When one partner is inhibited in bed, how can they learn to relax, and find their authentic sexual voice? And when you’ve been through the death of a loved one, how can you make room for a new relationship while honoring their memory? All this and more on today’s show. 

Show Notes:

• Gifts For Every Turn On: Valentine’s Day Guide 2023
• OdelaHealth.com/SexWithEmily to save $50
• Promescent.com/Emily (use this link to automatically save 15% at checkout)
• Article: Ask Emily: How Do I Make Scheduling Sex Sexy?
• Yes No Maybe List & Other Guides
• Podcast: Therapy: The Relationship Game-Changer
• EMDRIA
• More Dr. Amen: Instagram | TikTok | Twitter | Website
• Your Brain Is Always Listening by Dr. Amen

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Real talk: penis problems are more common than you think. But don’t let shame stop you from healing - both inside and out. Today, we’re normalizing the experience of penis challenges, and providing tools to help mend your member. She wants to end a relationship because he can’t keep it up - are there other issues at play beyond sexual incompatibility? Can erection issues from a sex-related injury be reversed? I offer some science-backed treatments to check out. Another penis-owner can only orgasm through solo sex, are trust issues to blame? We talk through some exercises to help get to orgasming with a partner. I’ll cover all this and more in this episode.

Show Notes:

• When It’s Time to Unplug, Plug In a Magic Wand
• LELO Tor 2 (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off all products)
• Promescent.com/Emily (use this link to automatically save 15% at checkout)
• Boston Scientific treatment options for ED
• PRP Injections (John Hopkins Medical)
• Podcast: Best Of: Power to the Penis w/ Dr. Edward Karpman
• SKYN Condoms
• One Condoms “Find My Fit”
• Pjur Woman Aqua Lubricant

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Consuming your own ejaculate: a kink on the rise. Whether it comes from porn or curiosity, a ton of you have asked me about it in the last few years. But that’s not the only trending sex topic: from porn to mental health, these are some of the most frequently asked questions we get at Sex With Emily. First, is porn healthy or harmful? It’s all about your relationship to it. Next, anxiety and low self-worth can make it more difficult to get turned on with a partner. I offer strategies to one listener for restoring their self-love practice. Finally, eating your own semen: yay or nay? I explain why this is not only a totally normal question – but a totally acceptable practice.

Show Notes:

• When It’s Time to Unplug, Plug In a Magic Wand
• Je Joue Ami 3 Step Kegel Training Set
• Article: The Ins And Outs of Ethical Porn
• Podcast: Find Your Sexual Voice w/ Lake Bell
• XConfessions.com
• TryQuinn

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Just how many pathways are there to your best orgasm? It’s more than you realize. Today’s episode is all about creative ways to climax, so you can unlock even more pleasure the next time you have sex. First: are breastgasms a thing? I explain to one caller how they work, and give her ideas for stimulating them and her other erogenous zones. Next, a couple calls in with a common problem: he finishes during penetrative sex, she doesn’t. I give them some orgasm gap hacks to solve it. Finally, why is it often easier to have a G-Spot orgasm with a toy, but not during sex? I give you tips for getting there with a partner and more tips to maximize your pleasure.

Show Notes:

• When It’s Time to Unplug, Plug In a Magic Wand
• Uberlube “Good to Go” Travel Sets from Good Vibrations 
• Woo More Play Coconut Oil
• Pjur’s Back Door Lube
• Article: Where is the Clitoris?
• Article: 9 Ways to Elevate Your Solo Sex

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Ever feel like your relationship is on cruise control? Do you continue to have the same conflicts, stale sex routine, or toxic dynamics and want to break the cycle and be with someone who’s actually a great fit? I’ll help you break out of all that. Today’s episode is designed to help you build better sex, dating and relationship habits. From incorporating kink and exploration into a relationship with someone who’s more reserved, to tips to work through jealousy in a relationship - we can all learn so much from this episode. I’ll also go over some exercises to build intimacy and share your top “green flags” when it comes to dating. All this and more on today’s show.

Show Notes:

• Sexual Wellness Trends to Try in 2023
• VUSH Empress 2 (code SWE50 for 50% off)
• Tips for Better Communication & Other Guides
• Article: How to Have More Sensual Sex
• Article: Ask Emily: How Do I Tell a New Partner About My Fantasies?
• Article: What to Do When Your Partner Says ‘No’ to Trying New Things

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Your sexual needs are key to your sexual satisfaction and overall wellness. And when you’ve got a need that just can’t be met, I’m here for you. On today’s show, I give one caller who's never had an orgasm surefire masturbation tips to help her get there. Next, she’s 23 and loves her boyfriend, but he wants to move in together and she’s… not so sure. Psychologist and dear friend Dr. Jen Freed and I coach her on next steps. Another caller asked her partner to be more dominant in bed, and now he thinks they’re sexually incompatible. Finally, she needs more sexual experience – should she snag a friends with benefits? All this and more as we unpack your sexual needs and give you specific, sexy steps to achieve them.

Show Notes:

• Sexual Wellness Trends to Try in 2023
• Odela Health (use this link for $50 off your 1st prescription)
• 7 New Ways to Use a Magic Wand
• Pleasure Planner, Yes No Maybe List & Other Guides

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When it comes to your sexual style, have you ever thought about your voice? Do you moan? Slow things down? Pitch up or down an octave? Actor, writer and director Lake Bell is obsessed with the human voice. On today’s show, we’ll discuss her new audiobook Inside Voice, which explores this obsession, including the “sexy baby voice” phenomenon - which happens to be her least favorite choice for bedroom talk. We also discuss your takes on dating in your 40s, and why things often get better with age when it comes to the pursuit of romance. All this and more with my amazing guest, Lake Bell.

Show Notes:

• Article: Ask Emily: How Do I Get Better at Dirty Talk?
• Lake Bell’s New Audiobook, Inside Voice: My Obsession with How We Sound: Audible | Pushkin
• More Lake Bell: Instagram | Twitter

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As the year comes to an end, what are the biggest revelations you’ve had when it comes to pleasure? What is something new you’ve learned that has redefined your sex life - now and in the new year? To answer this, I turned to you - the Sex With Emily community - for a roundup of the best of the best. From oral secrets to solo sex, your sex language and your sex fantasies, these are some of my favorite moments from the episodes you listened to the most this year. Consider this your end of year send off, from Emily with love. 

Show Notes:

• Article: How to Write Your New Year’s Sex Resolutions
• Magic Wand
• Breathe App
• Podcast: Your Top Sex Fantasies, Revealed
• Podcast: Your Sex Language w/ Dr. Jen Freed
• Podcast: How to Relationship Better w/ John Kim a & Vanessa Bennett
• Podcast: Best Blow Job Ever
• Podcast: Orgasms with a Capital O
• Podcast: Sex & Loving Your Body w/ Shaun T
• Podcast: Therapy: The Relationship Game Changer
• Podcast: Sex + Creativity w/ Liz Goldwyn

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Are you considering opening up your relationship? When and how did you decide to do so? And did moving away from monogamy change your perspective on sex and pleasure? Today, I’m taking your calls all about being in open relationships. First up: a group sex success story after a married couple learned to communicate their fantasies – always love hearing those. Next, they have a great sex life, but after a threesome gone wrong, she’s worried he’ll leave. How can she alleviate her anxiety and share her fears? Finally, we define compersion and discuss what to do when your partner wants a threesome… but you don’t. We get into all this and more on today’s hotline show.

Show Notes:

• Article: The Podcast Eps + Articles You Loved in 2022
• Promescent
• Article: These Are The 5 Arousal Styles. Which One Are You?
• SWE Pleasure Planner, Yes No Maybe List & More Guides

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Variety is the spice of life – as well as vital to your sex life. But how many times have you turned to your partner on Friday night and said: “how about dinner? Usual spot?” Planning a creative date requires thinking outside of the box. That’s why I’ve done the legwork for you of helping you create playful dates that are as unique as they are arousing. From role playing sexy strangers to planning out a sensual dinner at the farmer’s market, these date ideas will give you a break from the norm - while also building sexual tension and enhancing intimacy. 

Show Notes:

• Article: How to Train Your Penis
• VUSH (SEXWITHEMILY for 40% off Next Gen Vibes)
• Article: These Are The 5 Arousal Styles. Which One Are You?
• Podcast: What’s Your Arousal Type?
• The 36 Questions That Lead to Love
• OhMiBod blueMotion Panty Vibe
• Podcast: Sex & Loving Your Body w/ Shaun T
• Fleur Du Mal x SWE Bundle (FLEURWITHEMILY for 10% off 1st order)
• Je Joue Luxury Massage Candle

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Alex Cooper, host and creator of “Call Her Daddy” knows a thing or two about the pursuit of a more fulfilling sex life. From transcendental oral to disastrous anal, she walks us through the good, the bad, and the funny when it comes to trying new sexual experiences. Alex also shares her mindful masturbation routine and what her partner does to make oral incredible (hint: vulva worship). All this and more in today’s fan favorite best of episode. 

Show Notes:

• Emily on Call Her Daddy: How to Have an Orgasm | 104- The Roadmap to his A**hole | 96- The Orgasm Gap & Forced Sex Fantasies
• Article: 9 Ways to Elevate Your Solo Sex
• Article: Ask Emily: Oral Sex for Beginners
• More Alex Cooper: Instagram | Twitter
• Call Her Daddy: Website | Instagram | Twitter | TikTok

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Mismatched sex drives: it’s one of the most common issues longterm relationships face. Frequently one partner has an insatiable appetite for sex, while the other treats sex more like a chore. But just because your libidos aren’t synced up now doesn’t mean they’ll be that way forever. On today’s Hotline show, I answer questions all about you and your partner’s differing sex drives and how to communicate your way to better alignment. From a caller who misses the drama and excitement their sex life once had, to another whose partner’s medication has caused his desire to be depleted - I’ll break down step by step how to broach this sensitive subject. Because if left unaddressed, issues around sex can be fatal to a relationship - and working through it will only make you and your partner stronger.

Show Notes:

• Article: Best Sexy Stocking Stuffers 2022
• FirmTech Tech Ring (Emily20 for 20% off)
• Article: These Are the 5 Arousal Styles. Which One Are You?
• Podcast: Your Top Sex Fantasies, Revealed

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We’ve all heard of “body positivity” - the idea that we should celebrate the skin we’re in, rather than emphasize how we think others see us. But in practice, how really is your relationship with your body? Today’s show is all about giving our bodies the respect they deserve. I’m first joined by Bethany C Meyers, whose fitness company the be.come project aims to change our motivation behind working out. Bethany also shares why sex takes on a new, rich depth when we learn to connect with our movement on a daily basis. Afterwards, I’ll answer questions from listeners struggling to accept their own bodies. Because if we can’t learn to love our own bodies, how can we share them intimately with someone else?

Show Notes:

• Article: 4 Sex Toys So Pretty, They Double As Art
• Article: Ask Emily: How Can I Be More Confident in the Bedroom?
• Promescent
• More Bethany C. Meyers: Instagram | Twitter
• The Become Project: Website | Instagram

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As we wind down the year, what are your pleasure goals? Do you want to explore your body? Incorporate a new pleasure ritual? Try out a new toy? Today on the show, I pull back the curtain on Sex With Emily and invite my team to share their pleasure goals and the toys to get there. From vibrators to arousal gels, they give their honest reviews on what to stuff your stockings with this holiday season. I’ll also break down the science behind them that makes them so effective. If you’re looking to create your own pleasure goals for the new year, these products are a great place to start.

Show Notes:

• Sexiest Gift Guide Ever: Emily’s Picks for 2022 Holidays
• Article: 4 Sex Toys So Pretty they Double as Art
• Book: Court of Thorns
• Guide: The Pleasure Planner
• 7 New Ways to Use a Magic Wand
• Good Vibrations
• Je Joue (Emily30 for 30% off all products)
• OhMiBod bluMotion NEX1 Wearable Panty Vibrator
• Lelo Sona 2 Cruise
• B-Vibe Triplet
• Lelo Hugo Prostate Massager
• Playground Lube (SEXWITHEMILY for 15% off 1st order)
• Promescent Female Arousal Gel
• Fleur Du Mal Sex With Emily Bundle (FLEURWITHEMILY for 10% off all orders)

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It’s the question married men often ask themselves: why is my marriage just OK? How do I get the spark back? And when did our sex life become so mediocre? Life coach and fellow podcaster Larry Hagner has not only worked through these issues himself, but has devoted his life to helping other men become better husbands and fathers. His project the Dad Edge was inspired by both his struggles in parenting and a lack of having a father during his own childhood. On today’s best-of show, Larry breaks down his four pillars of a good marriage (which absolutely includes sex), as well as how to talk to sons about sex, porn and masturbation.

Show Notes:

• Sexiest Gift Guide Ever: Emily’s Picks for 2022 Holidays
• Vush Destination: Play (SEXWITHEMILY for 40% off Destination: Play)
• More Larry Hagner: The Dad Edge | Instagram

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Dating - for most of us, it's a necessary evil. We fear rejection, don’t know where to look for our people, or simply feel it's a hopeless waste of time. But as my guests on today’s show can attest, the research behind dating may tell a different story. Today, I’m joined by Anthropologist Dr. Helen Fisher and evolutionary biologist Dr. Justin Garcia of the Kinsey Institute. They pulled data from 5,000 American singles ages 18-89 as part of Match’s annual Singles in America survey, and the results are fascinating. People dating more consciously - hookup culture is dead, and singles are prioritizing things like political awareness rather than looks. We’ll unpack their findings and why today’s singles should be more optimistic than ever about finding their match.

Show Notes:

• Sexiest Gift Guide Ever: Emily’s Picks for 2022 Holidays
• Article: Cold Weather Date Ideas
• 7 New Ways to Use a Magic Wand
• Singles in America Study
• More Dr. Helen Fisher: Website
• More Dr. Justin Garcia: Kinsey Institute Bio | Instagram | Twitter

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What do you wish you knew about pleasure when you were in college? Maybe it's how to please yourself? Or the signs of sexual incompatibility? Or maybe you just need permission to break up? I answer your questions all about sex in college. From making casual hookups more stimulating, to embracing queerness in heteronormative spaces, to simply finding your people - I give the advice we all wish we could tell our younger selves. I also asked for your hottest college sex stories, and you absolutely understood the assignment. All this and more on today’s best of show.

Show Notes:

• Sexiest Gift Guide Ever: Emily’s Picks for 2022 Holidays
• Article: A Submissive’s Guide to Being Dominant
• Promescent Delay Spray & Arousal Gel
• Article: Is Casual Sex Right For You?
• Article: 7 Books to Teach Your Kids About Queer Sex & Identity

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How’s your orgasm lately? Do you wish it was more intense? More frequent? More predictable with a partner? Orgasms don’t have to be a thing of mystery. And that’s why today's call in show is devoted to all things O. First up: she fears a loss of control while climaxing, which derails her arousal altogether. Can she relax and stay present? Next, he’s fit and athletic, with a girlfriend who loves sex. The problem? It takes him a long time to finish – maybe too long. Finally - when you’re with a partner who loves giving you oral, but it’s not exactly getting you off…what gives? I answer these questions and more from our brave live callers.

Show Notes:

• Sexiest Gift Guide Ever: Emily’s Picks for 2022 Holidays
• Promescent Delay Spray & More
• Article: I’ve Never Had An Orgasm
• Article: Where is the Clitoris?
• Article: 6 Tips for Mastering the Game-Changing Technique of Mindful Masturbation
• Article: How To Respond When Your Partner Can’t Stay Hard
• The Yes No Maybe List & Other SWE Guides
• Episode: More Sex, Less Pain with Heather Jeffcoat

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Getting the sex we want: it’s easier said than done. Sharing your needs with a partner can be difficult and awkward. But what if we feel undeserving of the gift of pleasure all together?

On today’s best-of episode, I’ll answer your questions all about giving and receiving. From trouble with orgasms to insecurities around body parts - how we receive the gift of oral is often where mental blocks around sex begin - and end. Plus, we hear some giving success stories. Because improving our pleasure potential is all about communicating our needs - ask, and you shall receive.

Show Notes:

• Sexiest Gift Guide Ever: Emily’s Picks for 2022 Holidays
• LELO HUGO (code ‘EMILY’ for 25% off all products)
• Article: The Kivin Method
• Article: How Do I Go Down on a Vulva?
• Article: How Do I Better Enjoy Oral Sex?
• Article: How Can I Be More Confident in the Bedroom?

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Mental health and sexual desire - do you really have to choose between one or the other? While antidepressants like Lexapro can be lifesaving — all too often, they can deflate our sex drive. But conversely - it’s hard to get aroused if your depression goes untreated. Is there any way out of this predicament? On today’s show, I’ll discuss how to overcome this struggle that is more common than you think - as you’ll hear from some of our listeners. From alternative treatments to hacks around timing and dosage, I’ll help you keep pleasure in your life without compromising your mental health.

Show Notes:

• Sexiest Gift Guide Ever: Emily’s Picks for 2022 Holidays
• Article: These Are The 5 Arousal Styles. Which One Are You?
• Episode: What’s Your Arousal Type?
• The Experimental Generation of Interpersonal Closeness (36 Questions)
• Article: How Do I Have Good Sex During Menopause?
• Hormone Intelligence by Aviva Romm, MD 
• Article: How Do I Deal with Anxiety During Sex?
• Article: Ask Emily: How Do I Make Scheduling Sex Sexy?

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Infidelity - it’s one of the most painful emotional experiences out there. But once the pain heals, it can also create enormous opportunities for growth and self-reflection.

In this episode, I’ll unpack infidelity and all the ways it can play out. It doesn’t always mean the end of a relationship. Sometimes, monogamy just isn’t the right fit. Other times, it means a couple needs to work on deepening intimacy and trust with one other. Whether you’ve been cheated on or you’re the cheater, I’ve got advice to help you work through it to create the love life you want.

Show Notes:

• Article: Ask Emily: My Wife Cheated 
• VUSH (code ‘EMILYBFCM’ for 60% off Empress 2 OR Big O Bundle)
• More Tom Goss: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | Website

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We all strive to be lifelong learners - as the world and people around us change, we need to adapt and evolve to keep up. And nowhere else is this more true than our sex lives. Our sexual intelligence can only reach its full potential if we’re open to nurturing its growth. That’s the mission of today’s call-in show. I answer your questions all about picking up new sex skills. From a fun-loving couple who wants to incorporate others into their play but can’t find the right candidates, to a twenty-something who wants to learn how to squirt on her own - these brave callers’ questions offer something for everyone to learn from. 

Show Notes:

• Article: The Different Kinds of Unconventional Couples
• Article: The Guide to a Successful Friends with Benefits Relationship
• Article: Ask Emily: How Do We Prepare for a Threesome?
• 7 New Ways to Use a Magic Wand
• Playground
• Je Joue (use code ‘Emily30’ for 30% off)
• #Open

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Got hangups around oral sex? You’re not alone. While oral sex can provide abundant intimacy and pleasure, lots of us struggle with giving – and sometimes, receiving – it. 

Today, we’re getting out of our heads and communicating with our partners: two essential steps for mind-blowing oral sex. Love giving oral, but it’s not being reciprocated? Concerned about hygiene issues – either your own, or your partner’s? What if your partner takes a while to orgasm during oral, but your jaw gets tired along the way? From hangups to hygiene - I answer your questions so you can amp up your oral and enhance your pleasure.

Show Notes:

• VUSH Destination: Play (code ‘SEXWITHEMILY’ for 40% off)
• Article: Ask Emily: Oral Sex for Beginners
• Article: How to Give a Better Blowjob
• Article: Ask Emily: How Do I Better Enjoy Oral Sex?
• Article: Ask Emily: I Hate Giving My Partner Oral Sex

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Life is short, so why not add sex toys to your pleasure routine? Vulva owners seem to understand this, but today I’m talking toys for penises. Whether you have one or you want to please one, sex toys offer tons of benefits. Plus, toys are not just for solo play - they can enhance connection (and pleasure) with your partner. 

But it can be difficult to know what to look for, how to use them, and why you may need them at all. And that’s why on today’s episode, I’m myth-busting misconceptions and sharing my top products and tips for penile pleasure. From lasting harder and longer, to discovering those pleasure points a hand alone simply can’t reach - if there’s a penis in your life, I’ve got the toy for it.

Show Notes:

• Je Joue Mio Vibrating Cock Ring
• Magic Wand
• Playground (SEXWITHEMILY for 15% off 1st order)
• Aneros Helix Trident
• Promescent Delay Spray
• Article: How Do I Buy My Boyfriend a Sex Toy?
• Hot Octopuss Pulse III Solo / Duo
• Fleshlight
• Tenga
• LELO HUGO (EMILY for 25% off all products)
• Fun Factory NOS
• We-Vibe Verge

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