Become New with John Ortberg

Why is self-awareness so difficult?

In this teaching on Psalm 19, John Ortberg explores self-deception, blind spots, hidden faults, and the surprising difficulty of honestly seeing ourselves.

The Psalmist asks:
 “Who can discern their own errors?”

That question launches a fascinating exploration of:
- Freud and the unconscious mind
- Cognitive bias and self-deception
- Why humans protect their image
- The role of feedback and mirrors
- Spiritual growth through honesty
- Grace, confession, and healing

This episode explores how Scripture and modern psychology intersect around one central truth: human beings are remarkably good at hiding truth from themselves.

And yet real freedom begins when we become willing to see.

Scriptures:
- Psalm 19:12–14
- Romans 1
- Obadiah 1:3

Resources mentioned:
- Freud
- George Eliot
- Gregg Ten Elshof
- Awakenings

#psalm19  #JohnOrtberg #SelfAwareness #SpiritualFormation #ChristianFaith #Psychology #Prayer #BibleStudy #BlindSpots #Psalms


📚 Today's Resources:
George Eliot, Middlemarch 
Gregg A. Ten Elshof, I Told Me So: Self-Deception and the Christian Life 

🙌 New episodes every weekday.
📲 Subscribe, like, and share to help others grow spiritually. One day at a time.

Become New is here to help you grow spiritually one day at a time.
TEXT us at 51504
EMAIL US at connect@becomenew.com

GET OUR WEEKDAY EMAILS WITH EXTRA GOODIES at becomenew.com/subscribe
GET A TEXT REMINDER FOR NEW VIDEOS: text NEW to 51504
SEND US PRAYER REQUESTS: via text or email; we'll send you a written prayer from our team
DOWNLOAD FREE STUDY GUIDES: BecomeNew.com/study-guides

😊 Join Our Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1CnqywVp9s/
🤳Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/become.new/

Music Credits:
Vikersund by RØRE - MB01V0UASAACPKE
Alta by RØRE - MB01IWZVJASGKHF


00:00 Introduction & Mirror Thumbnail Idea
00:09 Psalm 19 & the Problem of Self-Awareness
00:30 “Forgive My Hidden Faults”
00:58 The Problem With Unconscious Behavior
01:19 Freud, Depth Psychology & the Iceberg Mind
02:08 What Freud Got Wrong About Trauma
02:58 Memory Wars & Self-Deception
03:17 The Hidden Layers Beneath Consciousness
03:52 George Eliot & “Confessing to Ourselves”
04:16 The Four Levels of Consciousness
05:00 Skydiving & Stress-Induced Memory Gaps
05:57 Peripheral Awareness & Hidden Faults
06:31 Self-Deception in Modern Psychology
06:58 Romans 1 & Suppressing the Truth
07:25 The Self-Serving Bias Explained
08:16 The Fundamental Attribution Error
09:03 Everyday Self-Deception & Rationalization
09:53 Praying “Help Me See the Truth”
10:19 Reviewing the Day With Honesty
11:02 Why We Manage Other People’s Opinions
11:35 Freud, Sin & the Depth of Self-Deception
12:01 Inviting Other People to Help Us Grow
12:39 “Would You Tell Me More?”
13:23 Closing Prayer From Psalm 19:14

What does bowling have to do with spiritual life?

In this teaching on Psalm 19, John Ortberg explores anxiety, surrender, creation, grace, and the deep human longing for soul rest.

Using a surprisingly powerful bowling illustration, John reflects on how most people continue trying to control outcomes long after the “ball” has already left their hands. Psalm 19 offers another way: let go, trust God, delight in creation, and allow your soul to rest.

This episode explores:
- Why modern people struggle with rest
- The connection between anxiety and control
- Creation as medicine for the soul
- Why the law of God is actually a gift
- Soul fragmentation and divided living
- How love restores wholeness

Featuring reflections on:
- Dallas Willard
- Theodore Roosevelt
- Martin Luther
- Psalm 19

Scriptures:
-Psalm 19
-Matthew 22:37–39
-James 2:8

#Psalm19 #JohnOrtberg #Prayer #DallasWillard #SoulRest #Anxiety #SpiritualFormation #ChristianFaith #BibleStudy #Psalms


📚 Today's Resources:
Dallas Willard, Renovation of the Heart: Putting on the Character of Christ 
The Little, Brown Book of Anecdotes, edited by Clifton Fadiman

🙌 New episodes every weekday.
📲 Subscribe, like, and share to help others grow spiritually. One day at a time.

Become New is here to help you grow spiritually one day at a time.
TEXT us at 51504
EMAIL US at connect@becomenew.com

GET OUR WEEKDAY EMAILS WITH EXTRA GOODIES at becomenew.com/subscribe
GET A TEXT REMINDER FOR NEW VIDEOS: text NEW to 51504
SEND US PRAYER REQUESTS: via text or email; we'll send you a written prayer from our team
DOWNLOAD FREE STUDY GUIDES: BecomeNew.com/study-guides

😊 Join Our Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1CnqywVp9s/
🤳Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/become.new/

Music Credits:
Vikersund by RØRE - MB01V0UASAACPKE
Alta by RØRE - MB01IWZVJASGKHF


00:00 Introduction & Bowling Thumbnail Idea
00:14 Psalm 19, Soul Rest & the Gift of Law
01:02 “The Heavens Declare the Glory of God”
01:23 Creation, Perspective & the Human Soul
02:16 Running Life Like a Champion
02:37 Dallas Willard on Soul Rest
03:44 What Bowling Teaches Us About Anxiety
04:31 “Let the Ball Go”
04:55 Teddy Roosevelt & Becoming Small Enough
05:50 Creation as an Expression of God’s Mind
06:09 Why Nature Is Good for the Soul
06:40 Psalm 19’s Surprising Pivot to Law
07:14 “The Law of the Lord Is Perfect”
07:22 Why Modern People Resist the Law
07:56 Law, Grace & Human Flourishing
08:38 What Makes a Good Person?
09:14 Why Humanity Has Revered Wise Laws
09:40 Sweeter Than Honey, More Precious Than Gold
10:09 The Royal Law of Love
10:39 How Sin Fractures the Soul
10:57 The Law Revives the Soul
11:25 Delighting in God’s Big Book & Little Book

What actually creates a peaceful life?

In this teaching on Psalm 15, John Ortberg explores the ancient biblical vision of an “unshakable” life — a life rooted in goodness, grace, truth, and the presence of God.

Psalm 15 asks:
“Who may dwell on your holy mountain?”

The answer turns out to be both beautiful and deeply challenging.

Along the way, John reflects on:

Why peace is more than a feeling
The connection between character and stability
Gossip, envy, greed, ego, and emotional formation
Positive psychology and virtue
What kind of people we become through daily choices
Why “the good life is with God”

This episode is practical, thoughtful, convicting, and hopeful all at once.

Scriptures:

Psalm 15
Matthew 6:33
Luke 23:39–43

#Psalm15 #JohnOrtberg #Prayer #SpiritualFormation #ChristianFaith #Peace #Character #BibleStudy #Psalms #formation 

🙌 New episodes every weekday.
📲 Subscribe, like, and share to help others grow spiritually. One day at a time.

Become New is here to help you grow spiritually one day at a time.
TEXT us at 51504
EMAIL US at connect@becomenew.com

GET OUR WEEKDAY EMAILS WITH EXTRA GOODIES at becomenew.com/subscribe
GET A TEXT REMINDER FOR NEW VIDEOS: text NEW to 51504
SEND US PRAYER REQUESTS: via text or email; we'll send you a written prayer from our team
DOWNLOAD FREE STUDY GUIDES: BecomeNew.com/study-guides

😊 Join Our Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1CnqywVp9s/
🤳Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/become.new/

Music Credits:
Vikersund by RØRE - MB01V0UASAACPKE
Alta by RØRE - MB01IWZVJASGKHF

00:00 Introduction & The Mountain of Peace
00:42 Why Most People Misunderstand Peace
01:21 “Who May Dwell on Your Holy Mountain?”
01:50 Do We Actually Want Life With God?
02:11 The “Sin Room” Illustration
03:01 The Other Gods We Run After
03:41 The Question Psalm 15 Answers
03:48 “The One Whose Walk Is Blameless…”
04:38 Positive Psychology & Human Flourishing
05:21 Speaking the Truth From the Heart
06:09 Slander, Gossip & the Spiritual Life
06:28 Who Is My Neighbor?
07:32 Who Do You Admire?
08:34 Commitments, Oaths & Faithfulness
09:15 Generosity & Stewardship
09:46 “Whoever Does These Things Will Never Be Shaken”
10:17 Peace, Praise & Character Formation
11:05 What If TSA Tested Character?
11:21 Grace, Failure & the Thief on the Cross
11:52 The Invitation to the Holy Mountain

What’s the one thing that would make today a good day?
Psalm 16 says it’s simpler—and deeper—than you think.

In this teaching, John Ortberg walks through Psalm 16 and introduces a powerful idea: your life-scape—the inner world where your thoughts, desires, and attention live.

Most of us drift through our days reacting to whatever comes. But Psalm 16 invites us to something different: “I have set the Lord always before me.”

In this episode, you’ll learn:
- What shapes your inner life (your “life-scape”)
- Why chasing “other gods” leads to restlessness
- How to center your day around one transforming focus
- What it means to live with a steady, unshaken heart

This is a practical invitation to live today with clarity, presence, and purpose.


📚 Today's Resources:

Sam Storms, One Thing: Developing a Passion for the Beauty of God 
Jenn Johnson, “Goodness of God”  @ www.youtube.com/watch?v=n0FBb6hnwTo
Søren Kierkegaard, Purity of Heart Is to Will One Thing 

🙌 New episodes every weekday.
📲 Subscribe, like, and share to help others grow spiritually. One day at a time.

Become New is here to help you grow spiritually one day at a time.
TEXT us at 51504
EMAIL US at connect@becomenew.com

GET OUR WEEKDAY EMAILS WITH EXTRA GOODIES at becomenew.com/subscribe
GET A TEXT REMINDER FOR NEW VIDEOS: text NEW to 51504
SEND US PRAYER REQUESTS: via text or email; we'll send you a written prayer from our team
DOWNLOAD FREE STUDY GUIDES: BecomeNew.com/study-guides

😊 Join Our Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1CnqywVp9s/
🤳Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/become.new/

Music Credits:
Vikersund by RØRE - MB01V0UASAACPKE
Alta by RØRE - MB01IWZVJASGKHF


00:00 – Opening Prayer
00:20 – What Is Your “Life-Scape”?
00:46 – Psalm 16: The One Thing
01:07 – The “City Slickers” Illustration
01:34 – What Shapes Your Inner World
02:16 – The Illusion of Life Without Purpose
03:06 – The Search for “One Thing”
03:33 – What Scripture Says the One Thing Is
03:55 – “You Are My Lord” (Psalm 16)
04:19 – The Danger of Other “Gods”
04:44 – Modern Idols (Reputation, Ego, Control)
05:05 – “You Are My Portion”
05:30 – Living Where You Actually Are
06:02 – God Speaks Through Your Heart
06:51 – How God Guides Your Thoughts
07:38 – Recognizing God’s Voice
08:04 – “I Set the Lord Always Before Me”
08:18 – Jesus: “Seek First the Kingdom”
08:49 – The Freedom to Choose Your Focus
09:09 – Practicing God’s Presence
09:27 – A Story of Unexpected Grace
10:04 – Becoming a Blessing to Others
10:19 – What It Means to Be Unshaken
10:55 – God Will Not Abandon You
11:08 – The Path of Life
11:27 – Joy in God’s Presence
11:47 – Final Prayer: Walk With God Today

Ever feel stuck in your thoughts… and don’t know how to pray?

Here’s a simple, practical method that actually works.

In this teaching, John Ortberg walks through a powerful and practical way to pray your emotions using Psalm 57.

Adapted from psychological insights and grounded in Scripture, this ABCD prayer method helps you move from anxiety and rumination to clarity, trust, and peace.

You’ll learn how to:
- Identify what’s actually triggering you
- Name the beliefs driving your emotions
- Understand why your feelings feel so strong
- Reframe your thoughts with truth
- Move into a place of steadiness and action

If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed, stuck, or unsure how to talk to God honestly—this gives you a clear path forward.


📚 Today's Resources:
Martin Seligman - referenced for the ABC model/framework John adapted into prayer and the Psalms
Mark Twain - quote: “I have lived through terrible sufferings, horrible events, some of which actually happened.”

🙌 New episodes every weekday.
📲 Subscribe, like, and share to help others grow spiritually. One day at a time.

Become New is here to help you grow spiritually one day at a time.
TEXT us at 51504
EMAIL US at connect@becomenew.com

GET OUR WEEKDAY EMAILS WITH EXTRA GOODIES at becomenew.com/subscribe
GET A TEXT REMINDER FOR NEW VIDEOS: text NEW to 51504
SEND US PRAYER REQUESTS: via text or email; we'll send you a written prayer from our team
DOWNLOAD FREE STUDY GUIDES: BecomeNew.com/study-guides

😊 Join Our Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1CnqywVp9s/
🤳Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/become.new/

Music Credits:
Vikersund by RØRE - MB01V0UASAACPKE
Alta by RØRE - MB01IWZVJASGKHF


00:00 – Opening Prayer
00:20 – Why We Struggle to Pray Honestly
00:46 – A Practical Method for Prayer
01:13 – Psalm 57: David in the Cave
01:35 – What Is Your “Cave”?
02:07 – Step A: Antecedent (What Triggered You?)
03:01 – Why Negative Moments Drive Prayer
03:27 – Real-Life Examples (Wallet, Mistakes, Fear)
04:10 – Step B: Beliefs (What Are You Thinking?)
05:02 – Why Writing Matters
05:20 – Naming Fear-Based Beliefs
06:17 – Step C: Consequences (Your Emotions)
06:42 – How Beliefs Drive Feelings
07:08 – Recognizing Emotional Impact
07:47 – Step D: Dispute (Challenge Your Beliefs)
08:08 – Reframing With Truth
08:32 – “Most of My Fears Never Happened”
08:56 – Living One Day at a Time
09:21 – Step E: Energize (New Direction)
09:47 – “My Heart Is Steadfast”
10:11 – From Anxiety → Stability
10:17 – Anticipating God’s Presence
10:43 – Building Life on God’s Faithfulness
11:03 – Putting It All Together
11:28 – God Works in the Cave
11:49 – Final Encouragement

What do you do with anger you can’t let go of?
What if the Bible actually teaches you how to pray it?

In Part 3 of this conversation, John Ortberg and Rankin Wilbourne tackle one of the most difficult emotions we face: anger.

Psalm 109 is one of the most shocking passages in Scripture—full of raw, unfiltered anger. So why is it in the Bible?

In this episode, you’ll learn:
- Why denying anger isn’t spiritual maturity
- How the Psalms give you permission to be honest with God
- What it looks like to pray your anger instead of acting on it
- How anger can actually be transformed into something healing
- This is Part 3 of a 3-part convo on learning to pray your emotions.


📚 Today's Resources:
Life Together / writings on the Psalms — Dietrich Bonhoeffer

🙌 New episodes every weekday.
📲 Subscribe, like, and share to help others grow spiritually. One day at a time.

Become New is here to help you grow spiritually one day at a time.
TEXT us at 51504
EMAIL US at connect@becomenew.com

GET OUR WEEKDAY EMAILS WITH EXTRA GOODIES at becomenew.com/subscribe
GET A TEXT REMINDER FOR NEW VIDEOS: text NEW to 51504
SEND US PRAYER REQUESTS: via text or email; we'll send you a written prayer from our team
DOWNLOAD FREE STUDY GUIDES: BecomeNew.com/study-guides

😊 Join Our Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1CnqywVp9s/
🤳Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/become.new/

Music Credits:
Vikersund by RØRE - MB01V0UASAACPKE
Alta by RØRE - MB01IWZVJASGKHF


00:00 – Introduction (Part 3: Anger)
00:24 – Recap: Running Toward the Storm
00:46 – “What Do You Do With Anger?”
01:08 – The Reality of Anger in the Psalms
01:34 – Psalm 109 (The Angriest Psalm)
02:21 – Why This Is So Shocking
02:51 – Owning Your Anger (OWN Framework)
03:27 – The “Alchemy” of Prayer
03:55 – Why These Prayers Are in the Bible
04:17 – Are We “Holier” Than the Psalmists?
05:08 – “Vengeance Is Mine” (Letting Go)
05:37 – Be Angry and Do Not Sin
06:02 – Can You Be This Angry and Still Follow God?
06:28 – A Real-Life Example: Unforgiveness
07:04 – Bringing People Into God’s Presence
07:37 – Expanding Perspective (God, Self, Others)
08:11 – Why This Feels Complicated
08:38 – Everyone Has an Anger Problem
09:18 – Should You Pray Psalm 109?
09:30 – Practical: Naming Someone Before God
10:00 – The Turning Point (You Have a Choice)
10:34 – Admitting “I Am Angry”
11:17 – Psalms as Medicine for the Soul
12:34 – When You’re Not Ready to Forgive
13:00 – Starting With Honest Prayer
13:46 – The Breakthrough: You Have a Choice
14:21 – Final Invitation: Bring Your Anger to God

What if the pain you’re avoiding is actually the path to healing?
And what if God already gave you the words for it?

In Part 2 of this conversation, John Ortberg and Rankin Wilbourne explore one of the most overlooked practices in the Christian life: lament.

If the Psalms are the prayer book of God’s people, why are so many of them… sad? And why do we avoid praying that way?

You’ll discover:
- Why lament is essential (not optional) in spiritual life
- How lament becomes a bridge between pain and trust
- Why avoiding pain actually deepens it
- A practical way to pray honestly without getting stuck in despair

This is Part 2 of a 3-part conversation on learning to pray your emotions.

📚 Today's Resources:

A Grief Observed — C. S. Lewis (indirect thematic reference)
Naming the Silences — Stanley Hauerwas

🙌 New episodes every weekday.
📲 Subscribe, like, and share to help others grow spiritually. One day at a time.

Become New is here to help you grow spiritually one day at a time.
TEXT us at 51504
EMAIL US at connect@becomenew.com

GET OUR WEEKDAY EMAILS WITH EXTRA GOODIES at becomenew.com/subscribe
GET A TEXT REMINDER FOR NEW VIDEOS: text NEW to 51504
SEND US PRAYER REQUESTS: via text or email; we'll send you a written prayer from our team
DOWNLOAD FREE STUDY GUIDES: BecomeNew.com/study-guides

😊 Join Our Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1CnqywVp9s/
🤳Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/become.new/

Music Credits:
Vikersund by RØRE - MB01V0UASAACPKE
Alta by RØRE - MB01IWZVJASGKHF


00:00 – Picking Up the Conversation (Part 2)
00:21 – Why the Psalms Are Full of Sad Songs
01:17 – 30–70% of Psalms Are Laments
01:44 – “How Long, O Lord?” (Psalm 13)
02:14 – What Lament Reveals About Life
02:40 – Why We Resist Lament
03:06 – What Lament Actually Is
03:36 – Permission to Bring Everything to God
04:08 – Do You Pray Like This?
04:31 – Image 1: Running Toward the Storm (Buffalo)
05:31 – Why Avoiding Pain Makes It Worse
06:04 – The Paradox of Grief
06:34 – Image 2: Lament as a Bridge
06:59 – From Pain → Trust (Psalm 13 Turn)
07:38 – How Psalms Train Us to Trust
08:04 – When Prayer Turns Into Rumination
08:52 – Using Psalms as Scaffolding
09:43 – Why Lament Doesn’t Leave You Stuck
10:11 – Learning the “Turn” to Trust
10:46 – Rehearsing Trust Like a Song
11:13 – Naming the Silences
11:48 – Training Your Heart Through Prayer
12:13 – Guided Prayer (Psalm 5)
12:58 – Key Takeaways + Preview Part 3

Most people don’t know how to pray their emotions… even after years of faith.
What if the Psalms were meant to teach you how?

In this conversation, John Ortberg sits down with author and pastor Rankin Wilbourne to explore a life-changing idea: learning to pray your emotions.

Many of us either suppress our feelings or let them control us—but the Psalms offer a better way. They give us language, permission, and structure to bring our real selves before God.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

- Why most people struggle to pray honestly
- The difference between suppressing, expressing, and praying emotions
- A simple framework to process emotions with God (OWN: Observe, Welcome, Name)
- What “pre-reflective prayer” means—and why it matters

This is Part 1 of a 3-part conversation.

🙌 New episodes every weekday.
📲 Subscribe, like, and share to help others grow spiritually. One day at a time.

Become New is here to help you grow spiritually one day at a time.
TEXT us at 51504
EMAIL US at connect@becomenew.com

GET OUR WEEKDAY EMAILS WITH EXTRA GOODIES at becomenew.com/subscribe
GET A TEXT REMINDER FOR NEW VIDEOS: text NEW to 51504
SEND US PRAYER REQUESTS: via text or email; we'll send you a written prayer from our team
DOWNLOAD FREE STUDY GUIDES: BecomeNew.com/study-guides

😊 Join Our Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1CnqywVp9s/
🤳Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/become.new/

Music Credits:
Vikersund by RØRE - MB01V0UASAACPKE
Alta by RØRE - MB01IWZVJASGKHF



00:00 – Opening + Introducing Rankin Wilbourne
00:55 – What the Psalms Are Really For
01:35 – “Pray Your Emotions” (Why This Is Hard)
02:02 – Tim Keller’s Insight on Prayer
02:46 – Two Common Mistakes With Emotions
03:14 – Why Christians Struggle With Feelings
03:46 – A Better Way: Don’t Deny, Don’t Enshrine
04:17 – The OWN Framework (Observe, Welcome, Name)
05:18 – Why Naming Emotions Heals
05:40 – What Mister Rogers Got Right
06:09 – “What’s Mentionable Is Manageable”
07:12 – Pouring Out Your Heart to God
07:36 – Why We Try to Fix Instead of Feel
08:09 – Permission to Be Human Before God
08:38 – How to Actually Practice This
09:04 – Learning Prayer by Praying
09:34 – “Trust and Pour Out Your Heart”
10:00 – Why We Avoid Our Own Hearts
10:25 – The Problem of “Willed Loneliness”
11:01 – Vulnerability Before God
11:34 – Does God Really Want This From Me?
11:59 – What Is Pre-Reflective Prayer?
12:26 – When Theology Gets in the Way
13:05 – Practice: Name What You’re Feeling
13:53 – Why This Matters (Preview of Part 2)

How long can you carry something before it breaks you?
And what do you do when God feels… silent?

In this teaching on Psalm 13, John Ortberg walks us through one of the most honest prayers in Scripture: “How long, O Lord?”

When pain lingers, when answers don’t come, and when God feels distant, we face a choice. We can grumble—turning inward in bitterness and withdrawal—or we can groan—bringing our pain honestly before God.

This Psalm shows us how to lament in a way that leads somewhere. Not by denying pain, but by bringing it fully into God’s presence.

If you’re carrying something heavy right now—a relationship, anxiety, loss, or a long unanswered prayer—this teaching will help you turn that pain into prayer.


📚 Today's Resources:

Bessel van der Kolk, M.D., The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma 

🙌 New episodes every weekday.
📲 Subscribe, like, and share to help others grow spiritually. One day at a time.

Become New is here to help you grow spiritually one day at a time.
TEXT us at 51504
EMAIL US at connect@becomenew.com

GET OUR WEEKDAY EMAILS WITH EXTRA GOODIES at becomenew.com/subscribe
GET A TEXT REMINDER FOR NEW VIDEOS: text NEW to 51504
SEND US PRAYER REQUESTS: via text or email; we'll send you a written prayer from our team
DOWNLOAD FREE STUDY GUIDES: BecomeNew.com/study-guides

😊 Join Our Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1CnqywVp9s/
🤳Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/become.new/

Music Credits:
Vikersund by RØRE - MB01V0UASAACPKE
Alta by RØRE - MB01IWZVJASGKHF


00:00 – Opening Prayer
00:18 – Psalm 13: Bring Your “How Long”
00:53 – “Will You Forget Me Forever?”
01:30 – What “How Long” Really Means
01:59 – When You Don’t Know the Finish Line
02:15 – When God Feels Hidden
02:36 – The Panic of Not Finding What Matters
03:20 – How the Body Holds Pain
03:46 – Why Pain Lingers in Us
04:15 – What Is Your “How Long”?
04:34 – Naming Real-Life Pain
05:05 – Two Ways to Respond to Pain
05:18 – Grumbling vs Groaning
05:58 – What Grumbling Does to the Soul
06:19 – What Groaning Looks Like
06:51 – Groaning = Honest Faith
07:18 – How This Plays Out in Real Life
07:37 – Warning Against Grumbling
08:02 – Groaning for the World’s Pain
08:23 – Creation Is Groaning
08:56 – When You Don’t Have Words
09:28 – God Groans With You
09:53 – The Turning Point: “But I Trust…”
10:25 – What Actually Changes?
10:56 – Lament Opens the Door to Praise
11:23 – Bring Your “How Long” to God
11:46 – When Hope Begins to Rise
12:04 – From Lament to Praise

Everyone’s talking about mindfulness… but what if we’ve missed the most important part?
What if the key isn’t your mind being focused—but God’s mind being focused on you?

In this teaching on Psalm 8, John Ortberg explores a deeper kind of mindfulness—one that begins not with your attention, but with God’s.

While we often struggle with distraction, anxiety, and rumination, Psalm 8 reveals something surprising: God is fully, constantly mindful of you. His attention never drifts. His care never wavers.
Through reflection, Scripture, and guided prayer, this teaching invites you to step into praise, re-center your mind, and experience what it means to live in the awareness of God’s presence.

You’ll also learn how to pray the Psalm—turning your attention from distraction to delight, and from anxiety to awe.

Music Credits:
Vikersund by RØRE - MB01V0UASAACPKE
Alta by RØRE - MB01IWZVJASGKHF

📚 Today's Resources:

Thomas Merton, Praying the Psalms (1956)
Mark Ralls, “Mindful: Psalm 8,” The Christian Century, 15 May 2007.
Eugene Peterson, Answering God: The Psalms as Tools for Prayer (1991)
C.S. Lewis, Reflections on the Psalms (1958)
Dietrich Bonhoeffer, Psalms: The Prayer Book of the Bible (1940)
Timothy Keller and Kathy Keller, The Songs of Jesus: A Year of Daily Devotions In the Psalms (2015)
James W. Sire, Praying the Psalms of Jesus (2007)
Walter Bruggeman, Praying the Psalms: Engaging Scripture and the Life of the Spirit (1995)

🙌 New episodes every weekday.
📲 Subscribe, like, and share to help others grow spiritually. One day at a time.

Become New is here to help you grow spiritually one day at a time.
TEXT us at 51504
EMAIL US at connect@becomenew.com

GET OUR WEEKDAY EMAILS WITH EXTRA GOODIES at becomenew.com/subscribe
GET A TEXT REMINDER FOR NEW VIDEOS: text NEW to 51504
SEND US PRAYER REQUESTS: via text or email; we'll send you a written prayer from our team
DOWNLOAD FREE STUDY GUIDES: BecomeNew.com/study-guides

😊 Join Our Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1CnqywVp9s/
🤳Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/become.new/


00:00 – Opening Prayer
 00:18 – Learning to Pray the Psalms
 00:42 – From Wisdom → Lament → Praise
 01:02 – Do You Struggle With Your Mind?
 01:27 – Resources on Praying the Psalms
 02:17 – “Lord, Our Lord…” (Starting With God)
 02:50 – What “God’s Name” Really Means
 03:22 – God’s Glory in All the Earth
 03:49 – The Power of Childlike Praise
 04:25 – “What Is Mankind?” (The Big Question)
 04:55 – Why Praise Feels So Empty Today
 05:46 – Why We Struggle to Praise God
 06:08 – Do You Actually Want God?
 06:54 – No Blueprint for Ecstasy
 07:23 – Practicing Attention and Reflection
 07:54 – What Is Mindfulness (Really)?
 08:20 – The Universe Exists in God’s Mind
 08:42 – God Is Mindful of You
 09:11 – The Acorn Illustration (Are You Paying Attention?)
 09:54 – God Is Never Distracted
 10:14 – Because God Is Mindful… We Can Be Too
 10:25 – Practicing Presence (Breath + Spirit)
 10:57 – “Present to the Presence in the Present”
 11:15 – Why Psalm 8 Ends Where It Begins
 11:32 – You Are Held in God’s Attention
 11:52 – Seeing Others as Image Bearers
 12:02 – Living With Joy, Gratitude, and Praise

We live in a world obsessed with predicting the future… and terrified of it.
So how do you actually live when everything feels uncertain?

In this teaching on Psalm 3, John Ortberg explores one of the most universal human struggles: uncertainty. We don’t know what’s coming next—and instead of trusting God, we often try to control, predict, or even “gamble” on the future.
But Psalm 3 offers a different way. It begins in fear and pressure—real enemies, real anxiety—and moves toward trust, surrender, and confidence in God’s presence.
This teaching will help you name the “foes” in your life (both internal and external), bring your honest thoughts to God, and discover what it means to live with courage—even when the future is unclear.
You’ll also be guided to pray the Psalm yourself, learning how to turn anxiety into conversation with God.

📚 Today's Resources:
McKay Coppins, “Sucker: My Year as a Degenerate Gambler,” The Atlantic, 12 March 2026

Music Credits:
Vikersund by RØRE - MB01V0UASAACPKE
Alta by RØRE - MB01IWZVJASGKHF

🙌 New episodes every weekday.
📲 Subscribe, like, and share to help others grow spiritually. One day at a time.

Become New is here to help you grow spiritually one day at a time.
TEXT us at 51504
EMAIL US at connect@becomenew.com

GET OUR WEEKDAY EMAILS WITH EXTRA GOODIES at becomenew.com/subscribe
GET A TEXT REMINDER FOR NEW VIDEOS: text NEW to 51504
SEND US PRAYER REQUESTS: via text or email; we'll send you a written prayer from our team
DOWNLOAD FREE STUDY GUIDES: BecomeNew.com/study-guides

😊 Join Our Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1CnqywVp9s/
🤳Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/become.new/

⏱️ Chapters (retention-focused)
00:00 – Opening Prayer
 00:15 – The Big Question: How Do You Handle Uncertainty?
 00:30 – We Understand Life Backwards, Live It Forwards
 00:49 – How We Try to Control the Future
 01:12 – The Explosion of Gambling Culture
 02:39 – Even Betting on the Second Coming?!
 03:04 – A Better Way: Turn to God
 03:32 – Psalm 3: Where Prayer Begins
 03:58 – Start With One Word: “Lord”
 04:23 – Practicing God’s Presence (Candle + Chair)
 05:07 – “How Many Are My Foes?”
 05:44 – Naming Your Real Enemies (Anxiety, Hurry, Envy…)
 06:40 – Personal and Relational Pain
 07:01 – When You Can’t Fix What’s Broken
 07:26 – God as Shield, Glory, and Lifter of Your Head
 08:20 – You Don’t Have to Prove Yourself
 08:43 – From Shame to Confidence
 09:27 – The Real Test of Your Life
 09:48 – Can You Sleep in Peace?
 10:14 – Waking Up: Life Is a Gift
 10:34 – “Arise, Lord” (Resurrection Power)
 10:56 – What Does “Break Their Teeth” Mean?
 11:18 – Pray What You Actually Feel
 11:46 – Where Deliverance Comes From
 11:57 – Make This Psalm Your Prayer Today

What if your life is already headed in a direction… and you didn’t choose it?
Psalm 1 says there are only two ways to live and only one leads to flourishing.

In this opening teaching of a new series on the Psalms, John Ortberg invites us into one of the most important questions we can ask: What is my way of life leading to?
Psalm 1 describes a person who is “blessed”—not just happy, but deeply rooted, steady, and flourishing. And it contrasts that life with another path we can slowly drift into without even noticing. Through reflection, story, and guided prayer, this teaching helps you examine your own direction and begin to re-center your life around God.
You’ll also be invited to actually pray the Psalm—to let it shape your thoughts, your desires, and your daily decisions.

📚 Today's Resources:
Thomas Merton, Praying the Psalms 
Markham Heid, “The Number of Words You Say in a Day is Shrinking,” Time, 28 April 2026.
McKay Coppins, “Sucker: My Year as a Degenerate Gambler,” The Atlantic, 12 March 2026

Music Credits:

Vikersund by RØRE - MB01V0UASAACPKE

Alta by RØRE - MB01IWZVJASGKHF

🙌 New episodes every weekday.
📲 Subscribe, like, and share to help others grow spiritually. One day at a time.

Become New is here to help you grow spiritually one day at a time.
TEXT us at 51504
EMAIL US at connect@becomenew.com

GET OUR WEEKDAY EMAILS WITH EXTRA GOODIES at becomenew.com/subscribe
GET A TEXT REMINDER FOR NEW VIDEOS: text NEW to 51504
SEND US PRAYER REQUESTS: via text or email; we'll send you a written prayer from our team
DOWNLOAD FREE STUDY GUIDES: BecomeNew.com/study-guides

😊 Join Our Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1CnqywVp9s/
🤳Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/become.new/


00:00 – Opening Prayer: “May the words…”
 00:22 – Why Prayer Matters to God
 01:25 – The Psalms: Every Emotion with God
 02:41 – Why the Psalms Transform Us
 03:02 – Do You Need Wisdom Right Now?
 03:32 – What Does “Blessed” Really Mean?
 04:18 – Everyone Has a Way of Life
 04:44 – Flourishing vs. Drifting
 05:09 – The Danger of Slow Drift
 05:40 – Walking → Standing → Sitting (The Progression)
 06:29 – Modern Life Is Forming You (More Than You Think)
 07:13 – Even “Religious” Lives Can Miss This
 07:40 – The Tree Planted by Water
 08:10 – What It Means to Meditate on God
 08:52 – Training Your Mind to Delight
 09:21 – What You Fill Your Mind With Shapes You
 09:43 – Two Ways to See People: Exploit or Love
 10:35 – The “Wicked” vs “Righteous” (In All of Us)
 10:58 – Guided Prayer: Ask God for Flourishing
 11:37 – Where Do You Need Wisdom Today?

Did you enjoy this teaching on Forgiveness? Download the free print and go study guide to experience the journey in its fullness: becomenew.com/study-guides

Is reconciliation really possible… after betrayal?

In one of the most powerful stories in the Bible, we see the answer: yes—but it’s complicated.

In today’s teaching, we walk through the story of Joseph and his brothers—a story filled with jealousy, betrayal, suffering, and ultimately… forgiveness and reconciliation. This is not a neat or easy process. It’s messy, emotional, and deeply human.

But it reveals something extraordinary:
 God can bring healing even to the most broken relationships.

Because forgiveness is powerful…
 but reconciliation? That’s a miracle.

📚 Today's Resources:
Workbook resource by Everett Worthington (forgiveness process): 
https://bit.ly/REACHWorksheet

🙌 New episodes every weekday.
📲 Subscribe, like, and share to help others grow spiritually. One day at a time.

Become New is here to help you grow spiritually one day at a time.
TEXT us at 51504
EMAIL US at connect@becomenew.com

GET OUR WEEKDAY EMAILS WITH EXTRA GOODIES at becomenew.com/subscribe
GET A TEXT REMINDER FOR NEW VIDEOS: text NEW to 51504
SEND US PRAYER REQUESTS: via text or email; we'll send you a written prayer from our team

😊 Join Our Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1CnqywVp9s/
🤳Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/become.new/

Music Credits:
Beyond by Waes Hael MB01C7DBTWRVYUQ

What is forgiveness… really? And what if most of us have been getting it wrong?

In today’s teaching, we define forgiveness in a clear and powerful way: replacing ill will with goodwill. But that raises big questions—Does forgiveness excuse wrongdoing? Does it ignore justice? Should we forgive everything?

Drawing from Scripture, real-world examples, and the work of Everett Worthington, this message untangles the confusion and reveals a deeper, stronger, more honest vision of forgiveness.
Because forgiveness isn’t pretending something didn’t matter it’s choosing a different kind of response.

📚 Today's Resources:
Workbook resource by Everett Worthington (forgiveness process): 
https://bit.ly/REACHWorksheet

🙌 New episodes every weekday.
📲 Subscribe, like, and share to help others grow spiritually. One day at a time.

Become New is here to help you grow spiritually one day at a time.
TEXT us at 51504
EMAIL US at connect@becomenew.com

GET OUR WEEKDAY EMAILS WITH EXTRA GOODIES at becomenew.com/subscribe
GET A TEXT REMINDER FOR NEW VIDEOS: text NEW to 51504
SEND US PRAYER REQUESTS: via text or email; we'll send you a written prayer from our team

😊 Join Our Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1CnqywVp9s/
🤳Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/become.new/

Music Credits:
Beyond by Waes Hael MB01C7DBTWRVYUQ

Most of us think unforgiveness is something we choose.

But what if it’s actually something that slowly grows inside of us… without us even realizing it?
In today’s teaching, we explore the road to NOT forgiving—how small hurts turn into resentment, how rumination fuels bitterness, and how unforgiveness quietly takes hold of your heart.

Drawing from Scripture, personal reflection, and the research of Everett Worthington, this message exposes the hidden patterns that keep us stuck—and offers hope that change is possible.

Because unforgiveness doesn’t just affect others…it shapes you. 


📚 Today's Resources:
Workbook resource by Everett Worthington (forgiveness process): 
https://bit.ly/REACHWorksheet

🙌 New episodes every weekday.
📲 Subscribe, like, and share to help others grow spiritually. One day at a time.

Become New is here to help you grow spiritually one day at a time.
TEXT us at 51504
EMAIL US at connect@becomenew.com

GET OUR WEEKDAY EMAILS WITH EXTRA GOODIES at becomenew.com/subscribe
GET A TEXT REMINDER FOR NEW VIDEOS: text NEW to 51504
SEND US PRAYER REQUESTS: via text or email; we'll send you a written prayer from our team

😊 Join Our Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1CnqywVp9s/
🤳Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/become.new/

Music Credits:
Beyond by Waes Hael MB01C7DBTWRVYUQ

What does it take to forgive the unforgivable?

In this powerful conversation, Everett Worthington shares his personal story of facing unimaginable loss—and the journey toward forgiveness that followed.

Blending deep emotional honesty with practical wisdom, this teaching explores the darkness of the human heart, the reality of anger and rage, and the surprising path that leads to healing. You’ll discover why forgiveness is not about excusing harm, but about transforming your own heart—and how even small steps can begin that process.

Because forgiveness doesn’t start with others…
 it starts within you.

Welcome home. Change starts today.

📚 Today's Resources:
Workbook resource by Everett Worthington (forgiveness process): 
https://bit.ly/REACHWorksheet

🙌 New episodes every weekday.
📲 Subscribe, like, and share to help others grow spiritually. One day at a time.

Become New is here to help you grow spiritually one day at a time.
TEXT us at 51504
EMAIL US at connect@becomenew.com

GET OUR WEEKDAY EMAILS WITH EXTRA GOODIES at becomenew.com/subscribe
GET A TEXT REMINDER FOR NEW VIDEOS: text NEW to 51504
SEND US PRAYER REQUESTS: via text or email; we'll send you a written prayer from our team

😊 Join Our Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1CnqywVp9s/
🤳Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/become.new/

Music Credits:
Beyond by Waes Hael MB01C7DBTWRVYUQ

Forgiveness sounds simple… until you actually have to do it.

In today’s teaching, we begin a powerful journey into forgiveness—not as a vague idea, but as a real, practical process that leads to healing and freedom. Because the truth is: we all carry wounds… and we all need to forgive.

Drawing from Scripture, the teachings of Everett Worthington, and real-life experience, this message introduces a proven pathway to forgiveness—one that is honest, challenging, and deeply transformative.

Because forgiveness isn’t natural…
 it’s supernatural.

But it is possible.

Welcome home. Change starts today.

📚 Today's Resources:
Work and research of Everett Worthington (REACH model)
Hannah Arendt (on forgiveness in human affairs)
Workbook resource by Everett Worthington (forgiveness process): https://bit.ly/REACHWorksheet

🙌 New episodes every weekday.
📲 Subscribe, like, and share to help others grow spiritually. One day at a time.

Become New is here to help you grow spiritually one day at a time.
TEXT us at 51504
EMAIL US at connect@becomenew.com

GET OUR WEEKDAY EMAILS WITH EXTRA GOODIES at becomenew.com/subscribe
GET A TEXT REMINDER FOR NEW VIDEOS: text NEW to 51504
SEND US PRAYER REQUESTS: via text or email; we'll send you a written prayer from our team

😊 Join Our Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1CnqywVp9s/
🤳Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/become.new/

Music Credits:
Beyond by Waes Hael MB01C7DBTWRVYUQ

Did you enjoy this teaching? We have a free study guide on this entire series if you'd like to walk through it with a friend or small group! Just download, print and go! Get it here... Becomenew.com/study-guides

Submission.

Just hearing that word can feel… uncomfortable.
In a culture that prizes independence, autonomy, and “doing life your way,” the idea of submitting to someone else can sound outdated—or even dangerous. But what if submission, rightly understood, is actually a pathway to freedom?

In today’s teaching, we explore the spiritual discipline of submission—not as control or coercion, but as a humble, intentional decision to learn from those who are further along in wisdom and character. Drawing from Scripture, the wisdom of Dallas Willard, and real-life examples, this message reframes submission as a powerful tool for growth, accountability, and transformation.

Because sometimes the fastest way forward…
 is learning to follow.

Welcome home. Change starts today.

📚 Today's Resources:
The Spirit of the Disciplines — Dallas Willard
Story reference connected to The Sound of Music (Maria von Trapp)
Concept parallels with Alcoholics Anonymous (sponsor model)

🙌 New episodes every weekday.
📲 Subscribe, like, and share to help others grow spiritually. One day at a time.

Become New is here to help you grow spiritually one day at a time.
TEXT us at 51504
EMAIL US at connect@becomenew.com

GET OUR WEEKDAY EMAILS WITH EXTRA GOODIES at becomenew.com/subscribe
GET A TEXT REMINDER FOR NEW VIDEOS: text NEW to 51504
SEND US PRAYER REQUESTS: via text or email; we'll send you a written prayer from our team

😊 Join Our Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1CnqywVp9s/
🤳Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/become.new/

Music Credits:
Beyond by Waes Hael MB01C7DBTWRVYUQ

What if the thing you most want to hide… is the very thing keeping you stuck?

In today’s teaching, we explore the powerful (and often avoided) spiritual practice of confession—the act of telling the truth about your life to God and to a trusted person. It may feel uncomfortable, even painful, but it might also be the key to real freedom.

Drawing from Scripture, the wisdom of Dallas Willard, and insights from recovery communities like AA, this message shows how confession breaks the cycle of shame, removes hidden burdens, and restores connection with God and others.

Because healing begins the moment you stop pretending.

Welcome home. Change starts today.

📚 Today's Resources:
The Spirit of the Disciplines — Dallas Willard
Alcoholics Anonymous (The Big Book) — Alcoholics Anonymous

🙌 New episodes every weekday.
📲 Subscribe, like, and share to help others grow spiritually. One day at a time.

Become New is here to help you grow spiritually one day at a time.
TEXT us at 51504
EMAIL US at connect@becomenew.com

GET OUR WEEKDAY EMAILS WITH EXTRA GOODIES at becomenew.com/subscribe
GET A TEXT REMINDER FOR NEW VIDEOS: text NEW to 51504
SEND US PRAYER REQUESTS: via text or email; we'll send you a written prayer from our team

😊 Join Our Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1CnqywVp9s/
🤳Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/become.new/

Music Credits:
Beyond by Waes Hael MB01C7DBTWRVYUQ

What if worship isn’t just something you do at church… but something that could transform your entire life?

In today’s teaching, we explore the true meaning of worship—not as music or a moment, but as a way of seeing and responding to the goodness, beauty, and greatness of God in everyday life.

Drawing from Scripture, the wisdom of Dallas Willard, and even the simple joy of things like coffee and nature, this message shows how worship awakens awe, restores your heart, and reconnects your life to what really matters.

📚 Today's Resources:
Dallas Willard, The Spirit of the Disciplines

🙌 New episodes every weekday.
📲 Subscribe, like, and share to help others grow spiritually. One day at a time.

Become New is here to help you grow spiritually one day at a time.
TEXT us at 51504
EMAIL US at connect@becomenew.com

GET OUR WEEKDAY EMAILS WITH EXTRA GOODIES at becomenew.com/subscribe
GET A TEXT REMINDER FOR NEW VIDEOS: text NEW to 51504
SEND US PRAYER REQUESTS: via text or email; we'll send you a written prayer from our team

😊 Join Our Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1CnqywVp9s/
🤳Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/become.new/

Music Credits:
Beyond by Waes Hael MB01C7DBTWRVYUQ

What if the reason you feel anxious, exhausted, or constantly “on”… is because you’re living for other people’s approval?

In today’s teaching, we explore the powerful and often overlooked spiritual discipline of secrecy—doing good without anyone knowing. It sounds simple… but it might be one of the hardest things you’ll ever try.

Drawing from the teachings of Dallas Willard and the words of Jesus in the Sermon on the Mount, this message reveals how secrecy frees you from approval addiction, comparison, and the exhausting need to manage your image.

Because the goal isn’t to be seen as good…it’s to become good—quietly, deeply, and freely.

📚 Today's Resources:
Dallas Willard, The Spirit of the Disciplines

🙌 New episodes every weekday.
📲 Subscribe, like, and share to help others grow spiritually. One day at a time.

Become New is here to help you grow spiritually one day at a time.
TEXT us at 51504
EMAIL US at connect@becomenew.com

GET OUR WEEKDAY EMAILS WITH EXTRA GOODIES at becomenew.com/subscribe
GET A TEXT REMINDER FOR NEW VIDEOS: text NEW to 51504
SEND US PRAYER REQUESTS: via text or email; we'll send you a written prayer from our team

😊 Join Our Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1CnqywVp9s/
🤳Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/become.new/

Music Credits:
Beyond by Waes Hael MB01C7DBTWRVYUQ

Silence might be the most uncomfortable… and most transformative… practice in your life.

In a world filled with constant noise, distraction, and the pressure to always say something, the discipline of silence feels almost impossible. But what if silence is actually the doorway to peace, trust, and deeper connection with God?

In this teaching, we explore why silence matters, how it reshapes your inner life, and why learning not to speak can bring surprising freedom. Drawing from the wisdom of Dallas Willard and the example of Jesus, you’ll discover how silence helps you let go of control, release the need for approval, and experience a deeper sense of being “at home” with God.

If your life feels noisy, anxious, or driven by the need to prove yourself… this might be exactly what you need.

ORIGINAL AIR DATE: 4.12.23
ORIGINAL SERIES: Home

📚 Today's Resources:
The Spirit of the Disciplines — Dallas Willard

🙌 New episodes every weekday.
📲 Subscribe, like, and share to help others grow spiritually. One day at a time.

Become New is here to help you grow spiritually one day at a time.
TEXT us at 51504
EMAIL US at connect@becomenew.com

GET OUR WEEKDAY EMAILS WITH EXTRA GOODIES at becomenew.com/subscribe
GET A TEXT REMINDER FOR NEW VIDEOS: text NEW to 51504
SEND US PRAYER REQUESTS: via text or email; we'll send you a written prayer from our team

😊 Join Our Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1CnqywVp9s/
🤳Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/become.new/

Music Credits:
Beyond by Waes Hael MB01C7DBTWRVYUQ

Enjoying these teachings on CHARACTER? Get the Free Study Guide: BecomeNew.com/study-guides - Download, print, and go!

Is life actually fair? It’s a question we all wrestle with—at home, at work, in culture, and deep in our own stories. But what if fairness isn’t just something we demand… what if it’s something we’re called to become?

In today’s teaching, we explore the biblical vision of fairness and justice, tracing a powerful theme throughout Scripture: God does not show favoritism. From Cain and Abel to David to Jesus Himself, we see a God who consistently elevates the overlooked and challenges human systems of privilege and power.

This message will challenge you to examine your own biases, confront favoritism in your life, and ask one simple but profound question:
  Who am I overlooking?

Because the way you treat people matters more than you think.

🙌 New episodes every weekday.
📲 Subscribe, like, and share to help others grow spiritually. One day at a time.

Become New is here to help you grow spiritually one day at a time.
TEXT us at 51504
EMAIL US at connect@becomenew.com

GET OUR WEEKDAY EMAILS WITH EXTRA GOODIES at becomenew.com/subscribe
GET A TEXT REMINDER FOR NEW VIDEOS: text NEW to 51504
SEND US PRAYER REQUESTS: via text or email; we'll send you a written prayer from our team

😊 Join Our Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1CnqywVp9s/
🤳Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/become.new/

Music Credits:
Beyond by Waes Hael MB01C7DBTWRVYUQ

Why is self-control so hard? You’re not alone. Research shows that among all character strengths, self-control ranks dead last in how people rate themselves. But what if the problem isn’t just your willpower… what if it’s how you’re using it?

In this teaching, we explore the deeper truth behind self-control—why willpower gets depleted, how habits shape your life, and why “white-knuckling it” isn’t the solution. Drawing from Scripture, psychology, and spiritual wisdom, you’ll discover a surprising secret:
The key to self-control isn’t trying harder… it’s learning to surrender your will to something greater.

If you feel stuck in cycles of frustration, temptation, or burnout, this message offers a better way forward.

📚 Today's Resources:
Willpower by Roy Baumeister
Insights from Allan Willes 
Commentary from Ezra Sullivan

🙌 New episodes every weekday.
📲 Subscribe, like, and share to help others grow spiritually. One day at a time.

Become New is here to help you grow spiritually one day at a time.
TEXT us at 51504
EMAIL US at connect@becomenew.com

GET OUR WEEKDAY EMAILS WITH EXTRA GOODIES at becomenew.com/subscribe
GET A TEXT REMINDER FOR NEW VIDEOS: text NEW to 51504
SEND US PRAYER REQUESTS: via text or email; we'll send you a written prayer from our team

😊 Join Our Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1CnqywVp9s/
🤳Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/become.new/

Music Credits:
Beyond by Waes Hael MB01C7DBTWRVYUQ

Most of us think we’re pretty good at reading people. Research says… we’re not.
In today’s teaching, we explore the powerful and often overlooked skill of social intelligence, the ability to understand your own emotions and accurately read what’s happening in others. 

From facial expressions to tone of voice to body language, this skill shapes every relationship you have. Through biblical insight (including the story of Joseph), practical exercises, and a powerful reflection practice, you’ll learn how to grow in awareness, ask better questions, and become someone who truly sees people.

Because when you learn to read faces…you learn to love people better.

📚 Today's Resources:
The Opposite of Depression by David M. Carreon MD
Spiritual practice of the Examen Prayer, from Ignatius of Loyola
Research from Martin Seligman

ORIGINAL AIR DATE: 8.15.23

🙌 New episodes every weekday.
📲 Subscribe, like, and share to help others grow spiritually. One day at a time.

Become New is here to help you grow spiritually one day at a time.
TEXT us at 51504
EMAIL US at connect@becomenew.com

GET OUR WEEKDAY EMAILS WITH EXTRA GOODIES at becomenew.com/subscribe
GET A TEXT REMINDER FOR NEW VIDEOS: text NEW to 51504
SEND US PRAYER REQUESTS: via text or email; we'll send you a written prayer from our team

😊 Join Our Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1CnqywVp9s/
🤳Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/become.new/

Music Credits:
Beyond by Waes Hael MB01C7DBTWRVYUQ

Life doesn’t always give you the path you would choose...

There’s a race set before you, shaped by your circumstances, your story, and the challenges you didn’t ask for. The question isn’t whether you chose it… the question is: will you run it with perseverance?

In this powerful teaching, we explore what it really means to persevere—not just through willpower, but through purpose. Drawing from Scripture, philosophy, and real-life stories of suffering and resilience, this message shows how perseverance is fueled by hope, vision, and a deep sense that your life matters.

If you’re tired, discouraged, or wondering if it’s worth it to keep going… this is for you.
Because sometimes the most spiritual thing you can do is just to take the next step.

📚 Today's Resources:
The Strengths of a Christian — Robert C. Roberts
Writings of Søren Kierkegaard (commitment, maturity)
Reflections on Bertrand Russell (contrast in perseverance and commitment)

Original Air Date: 8/10/23

🙌 New episodes every weekday.
📲 Subscribe, like, and share to help others grow spiritually. One day at a time.

Become New is here to help you grow spiritually one day at a time.
TEXT us at 51504
EMAIL US at connect@becomenew.com

GET OUR WEEKDAY EMAILS WITH EXTRA GOODIES at becomenew.com/subscribe
GET A TEXT REMINDER FOR NEW VIDEOS: text NEW to 51504
SEND US PRAYER REQUESTS: via text or email; we'll send you a written prayer from our team

😊 Join Our Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1CnqywVp9s/
🤳Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/become.new/

Music Credits:
Beyond by Waes Hael MB01C7DBTWRVYUQ

What if the key to real character growth isn’t fixing your weaknesses… but fully living into your strengths?

In today’s teaching, Dr. John Ortberg explores the idea of signature character strengths — those unique qualities God has wired into you that, when used intentionally, can transform your life and the lives of others. Drawing from research in positive psychology and the example of Barnabas, the “son of encouragement,” this message invites you to discover how you’re uniquely designed to grow and make an impact.

You’ll hear a powerful story of quiet encouragement, learn how your daily choices shape who you are becoming, and be challenged to take one simple step: start using your God-given strengths on purpose today.
Because change doesn’t happen someday. Change starts today.

ORIGINAL AIR DATE: July 24, 2023

📚 Today's Resources:
VIA Character Strengths Survey (via VIA Institute on Character)
https://www.viacharacter.org/survey
Work of Martin Seligman
Mention of C. S. Lewis (idea of becoming something glorious or monstrous)


🙌 New episodes every weekday.
📲 Subscribe, like, and share to help others grow spiritually. One day at a time.

Become New is here to help you grow spiritually one day at a time.
TEXT us at 51504
EMAIL US at connect@becomenew.com

GET OUR WEEKDAY EMAILS WITH EXTRA GOODIES at becomenew.com/subscribe
GET A TEXT REMINDER FOR NEW VIDEOS: text NEW to 51504
SEND US PRAYER REQUESTS: via text or email; we'll send you a written prayer from our team

😊 Join Our Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1CnqywVp9s/
🤳Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/become.new/

Music Credits:
Beyond by Waes Hael MB01C7DBTWRVYUQ

Tell us what you thought of NO CONDEMNATION:
https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/NYQZHPD

Here's what's coming up... 👇🏼👇🏼👇🏼

- We have a new phone number! 51504
If you subscribe to our texts you'll start hearing from us at 51504 soon
- FormationPodcast.com launches April 22nd
We will continue with the daily 10 minute teachings here - Formation Newsletter and Podcast are a new offering.
- New Study Guides coming your way...stay tuned
No Condemnation, Character, Home, Forgiveness...in the works
- New series will begin May 4th - The Psalms
John will walk through some of the Psalms as a guide for prayer

Take the No Condemnation Survey: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/NYQZHPD

What if the biggest problem was never “them”… but what happens in us?

In this final episode of the No Condemnation series, John brings us to a powerful turning point in Romans 1–2. Paul builds a case against “them” — their sin, their failure, their corruption — until the reader is fully on board.

And then he turns it: “You, therefore, have no excuse—you who pass judgment…”

In this episode, you’ll learn:
the difference between moral discernment and condemnation
why labeling people as “them” distorts the heart
how contempt quietly takes root in everyday life
why humility is the starting point for real change
how to live with curiosity instead of judgment

This isn’t about ignoring sin. It’s about refusing to let condemnation shape your soul. As the series ends, the invitation remains:

See people as individuals.
Release the need to judge.
Choose curiosity.
Practice love.

...because there is now no condemnation.

📚 Today's Resources:
Anne Lamott, Traveling Mercies: Some Thoughts on Faith 

🙌 New episodes every weekday.
📲 Subscribe, like, and share to help others grow spiritually. One day at a time.

Become New is here to help you grow spiritually one day at a time.
TEXT US at 855-888-0444
EMAIL US at connect@becomenew.com

GET OUR WEEKDAY EMAILS WITH EXTRA GOODIES at becomenew.com/subscribe
GET A TEXT REMINDER FOR NEW VIDEOS: text BECOME to 855-888-0444
SEND US PRAYER REQUESTS: via text or email; we'll send you a written prayer from our team

😊 Join Our Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1CnqywVp9s/
🤳Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/become.new/

Music Credits:
Believe Me by Glass Echoes - MB01UU8HNMQ8GT0
Frost on My Window by Coldbrew - MB01IZWASF1DYPO

What makes the cross of Jesus different from every other story of sacrifice?

In this episode, John explores the idea of scapegoating through the work of René Girard and how human societies have always dealt with conflict the same way: by finding someone to blame. 

We find ourselves at the cross. The cross of Jesus changes everything. For the first time, the scapegoat is truly innocent and instead of justifying the system, the cross exposes it.

You’ll learn:

why humans instinctively assign blame
how rivalry and imitation lead to conflict
what scapegoating looks like in everyday life
how the cross reveals the truth about human systems
why God responds to blame with grace

In a world that runs on blame, the cross offers a different way.

Not more condemnation.
Not more scapegoats.

But grace.

📚 Today's Resources:
René Girard, The Scapegoat

🙌 New episodes every weekday.
📲 Subscribe, like, and share to help others grow spiritually. One day at a time.

Become New is here to help you grow spiritually one day at a time.
TEXT US at 855-888-0444
EMAIL US at connect@becomenew.com

GET OUR WEEKDAY EMAILS WITH EXTRA GOODIES at becomenew.com/subscribe
GET A TEXT REMINDER FOR NEW VIDEOS: text BECOME to 855-888-0444
SEND US PRAYER REQUESTS: via text or email; we'll send you a written prayer from our team

😊 Join Our Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1CnqywVp9s/
🤳Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/become.new/

Music Credits:
Believe Me by Glass Echoes - MB01UU8HNMQ8GT0
Frost on My Window by Coldbrew - MB01IZWASF1DYPO

Why doesn’t shaming actually work?

In this episode, Dr. John Ortberg explores two powerful reasons why condemnation and public shaming often backfire and what they do to both the person being judged and the one doing the judging.

Drawing from The Scarlet Letter, John shows:

- why we never truly know someone else’s story
- how shame distorts both identity and relationships
- why condemnation corrodes the soul of the one who carries it
- how modern culture reinforces division and estrangement
- what Jesus offers instead

Then he introduces a different calling:
The ministry of reconciliation.

You’ll learn:
- why reconciliation is central to the life of Jesus
- how to begin moving away from resentment
- what to do when relationships feel broken
- why prayer is often the first step
- how to live without keeping score

Because the goal isn’t just to avoid condemnation.
It’s to become someone who brings people back together.

SAVE THE DATE: FORMATIONPODCAST.com launches April 22!

📚 Today's Resources:
Nathaniel Hawthorne, The Scarlet Letter 
David Litt, “Is It Time to Stop Snubbing Your Right-Wing Family?” New York Times, 13 July 2025

🙌 New episodes every weekday.
📲 Subscribe, like, and share to help others grow spiritually. One day at a time.

Become New is here to help you grow spiritually one day at a time.
TEXT US at 855-888-0444
EMAIL US at connect@becomenew.com

GET OUR WEEKDAY EMAILS WITH EXTRA GOODIES at becomenew.com/subscribe
GET A TEXT REMINDER FOR NEW VIDEOS: text BECOME to 855-888-0444
SEND US PRAYER REQUESTS: via text or email; we'll send you a written prayer from our team

😊 Join Our Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1CnqywVp9s/
🤳Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/become.new/

Music Credits:
Believe Me by Glass Echoes - MB01UU8HNMQ8GT0
Frost on My Window by Coldbrew - MB01IZWASF1DYPO

What if the biggest problem isn’t “out there”… but is actually within?
In this episode, John speaks directly to a familiar figure, “Uncle Billy," the person whose words are harsh, sarcastic, and condemning. Everyone knows an "Uncle Billy."

But then he turns the question back on each one of us.
Drawing from Ephesians 4 and the words of Jesus, John explores:

- why condemnation often disguises itself as righteousness
- how outrage and sarcasm shape our hearts
- what the Bible really means by “unwholesome talk”
- how our words can either rot or restore relationships
- why kindness is central to following Jesus

You’ll learn:

- how to recognize “unwholesome talk” in everyday life
- why it’s easier to judge others than examine ourselves
- how to begin changing the tone of your words
- what it looks like to speak in a way that builds others up

Before we send this message to someone else, we’re invited to ask:

“Is that me, Lord?”

Because there is now no condemnation...even for the parts of us still being transformed.

📚 Today's Resources:
N.T. Wright, Ephesians (For Everyone Bible Study Guides)
Samuel Johnson, example of wit without malice
James Boswell, The Life of Samuel Johnson 

SAVE THE DATE: April 22nd FORMATION LAUNCHES
FormationPodcast.com 

🙌 New episodes every weekday.
📲 Subscribe, like, and share to help others grow spiritually. One day at a time.

Become New is here to help you grow spiritually one day at a time.
TEXT US at 855-888-0444
EMAIL US at connect@becomenew.com

GET OUR WEEKDAY EMAILS WITH EXTRA GOODIES at becomenew.com/subscribe
GET A TEXT REMINDER FOR NEW VIDEOS: text BECOME to 855-888-0444
SEND US PRAYER REQUESTS: via text or email; we'll send you a written prayer from our team

😊 Join Our Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1CnqywVp9s/
🤳Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/become.new/

Music Credits:
Believe Me by Glass Echoes - MB01UU8HNMQ8GT0
Frost on My Window by Coldbrew - MB01IZWASF1DYPO

We’re living in a culture of division. 
So how do you follow Jesus…when you deeply disagree with someone?

In this conversation, John Ortberg sits down with Condoleezza Rice to explore how faith shapes the way we navigate politics, disagreement, and relationships.

Together, they unpack:
- Why it’s so hard to love your “opponents”
- How to disagree without losing respect
- The role of humility, curiosity, and friendship
- And why prayer may be the most important habit of all

Because following Jesus doesn’t remove disagreement…but it transforms how we live within it.

📚 Today's Resources:
Condoleeza Rice, Extraordinary, Ordinary People: A Memoir of Family 
Ralph David Abernathy, And the Walls Came Tumbling Down: An Autobiography
Stephen B. Oates, Let the Trumpet Sound: The Life of Martin Luther King Jr.
David J. Carrow, Bearing the Cross

SAVE THE DATE: April 22nd - Formation Podcast Launch
Becomenew.com/formation for more info

🙌 New episodes every weekday.
📲 Subscribe, like, and share to help others grow spiritually. One day at a time.

Become New is here to help you grow spiritually one day at a time.
TEXT US at 855-888-0444
EMAIL US at connect@becomenew.com

GET OUR WEEKDAY EMAILS WITH EXTRA GOODIES at becomenew.com/subscribe
GET A TEXT REMINDER FOR NEW VIDEOS: text BECOME to 855-888-0444
SEND US PRAYER REQUESTS: via text or email; we'll send you a written prayer from our team

😊 Join Our Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1CnqywVp9s/
🤳Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/become.new/

Music Credits:
Believe Me by Glass Echoes - MB01UU8HNMQ8GT0
Frost on My Window by Coldbrew - MB01IZWASF1DYPO

Why did Jesus have to die? What's the deal with sacrifice? Couldn’t God just… forgive?
In this Good Friday teaching, Dr. John Ortberg walks through the deeper meaning of the cross.

A story that reveals:
We all need help
The real problem isn’t “out there”… it’s in us
And the power of evil is not defeated by force…but by self-giving love
On the cross, Jesus didn’t just suffer.

He absorbed evil without returning it.He out-loved hatred.He defeated sin by refusing to stop loving.
And in doing so, he changed everything.
The invitation is not just to believe in the cross…
but to live it.

📚 Today's Resources:
John H. Walton, Ancient Near Eastern Thought and the Old Testament: Introducing the Conceptual World of the Hebrew Bible
William K. Gilders, Blood Ritual in the Hebrew Bible: Meaning and Power 

🙌 New episodes every weekday.
📲 Subscribe, like, and share to help others grow spiritually. One day at a time.

Become New is here to help you grow spiritually one day at a time.
TEXT US at 855-888-0444
EMAIL US at connect@becomenew.com

GET OUR WEEKDAY EMAILS WITH EXTRA GOODIES at becomenew.com/subscribe
GET A TEXT REMINDER FOR NEW VIDEOS: text BECOME to 855-888-0444
SEND US PRAYER REQUESTS: via text or email; we'll send you a written prayer from our team

😊 Join Our Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1CnqywVp9s/
🤳Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/become.new/

Music Credits:
Believe Me by Glass Echoes - MB01UU8HNMQ8GT0
Frost on My Window by Coldbrew - MB01IZWASF1DYPO

Not all condemnation is loud.
Some of it is… sneaky.

In this episode, John Ortberg walks through 10 passive-aggressive habits that quietly damage relationships—things like eye rolls, silence, sarcasm, and “I’m fine.”

The twist?
Jesus never used them.
He was direct. Honest. Clear.And still… full of love.
Because you can avoid conflict…and still be full of condemnation.

So today, pay attention:
Where are you being indirect instead of honest?Where is frustration leaking out sideways?
And ask God to help you speak the truth—without condemnation.

🙌 New episodes every weekday.
📲 Subscribe, like, and share to help others grow spiritually. One day at a time.

Become New is here to help you grow spiritually one day at a time.
TEXT US at 855-888-0444
EMAIL US at connect@becomenew.com

GET OUR WEEKDAY EMAILS WITH EXTRA GOODIES at becomenew.com/subscribe
GET A TEXT REMINDER FOR NEW VIDEOS: text BECOME to 855-888-0444
SEND US PRAYER REQUESTS: via text or email; we'll send you a written prayer from our team

😊 Join Our Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1CnqywVp9s/
🤳Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/become.new/

Music Credits:
Believe Me by Glass Echoes - MB01UU8HNMQ8GT0
Frost on My Window by Coldbrew - MB01IZWASF1DYPO

Most people don’t struggle with telling the truth…they struggle with how they say it.

In this episode, John and Nancy Ortberg unpack what it really means to:
“Speak the truth in love.”

Through two powerful real-life stories, they show how condemnation quietly grows:
- behind people’s backs
- inside groups
- and in our own hearts

And how it can be replaced with something better:
- honesty without attack
- truth without shame
- connection instead of division

Because the goal isn’t avoiding hard conversations…
It’s learning how to have them without condemnation.

📚 Today's Resources:
Caitlin Simone (mentioned as an author in the context of business consulting work)

🙌 New episodes every weekday.
📲 Subscribe, like, and share to help others grow spiritually. One day at a time.

Become New is here to help you grow spiritually one day at a time.
TEXT US at 855-888-0444
EMAIL US at connect@becomenew.com

GET OUR WEEKDAY EMAILS WITH EXTRA GOODIES at becomenew.com/subscribe
GET A TEXT REMINDER FOR NEW VIDEOS: text BECOME to 855-888-0444
SEND US PRAYER REQUESTS: via text or email; we'll send you a written prayer from our team

😊 Join Our Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1CnqywVp9s/
🤳Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/become.new/

Music Credits:
Believe Me by Glass Echoes - MB01UU8HNMQ8GT0
Frost on My Window by Coldbrew - MB01IZWASF1DYPO

Shamed people… shame people.
So what do you do with the shame you carry?

In this episode, John Ortberg shows how Jesus faced shame—and refused to let it define him.
From rejection and ridicule to the cross itself, Jesus endured it all…but scorned the shame.
And that changes everything for us.

Because shame says:“You’re not enough.”“You don’t belong.”“You are what went wrong.”
But Jesus tells a different story.

Today’s invitation is simple:
Notice when shame shows up
Refuse to let it define you
Let Jesus tell your story

Because you were never meant to live under shame.

📚 Today's Resources:
Curt Thompson, The Soul of Shame
Eleanor Stump, Wandering in Darkness

🙌 New episodes every weekday.
📲 Subscribe, like, and share to help others grow spiritually. One day at a time.

Become New is here to help you grow spiritually one day at a time.
TEXT US at 855-888-0444
EMAIL US at connect@becomenew.com

GET OUR WEEKDAY EMAILS WITH EXTRA GOODIES at becomenew.com/subscribe
GET A TEXT REMINDER FOR NEW VIDEOS: text BECOME to 855-888-0444
SEND US PRAYER REQUESTS: via text or email; we'll send you a written prayer from our team

😊 Join Our Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1CnqywVp9s/
🤳Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/become.new/

Music Credits:
Believe Me by Glass Echoes - MB01UU8HNMQ8GT0
Frost on My Window by Coldbrew - MB01IZWASF1DYPO

How does Jesus change the world? Not through force. Not through control. Not by winning arguments.

It’s through the cross.

In this episode, John looks at a quote from Jesus during one of his most painful moments: “Father, forgive them for they know not what they do.” He draws people in not by power, but by self-giving love.

Drawing from John 12, Luke 23, and the story of Jesus’ final hours, John shows how the cross reveals character under pressure:

not retaliation, but surrender
not condemnation, but forgiveness
not control, but trust

The truth is, the cross is more than a teaching. It’s a story. Even when life gets disappointing, or people let us down, or we feel hurt beyond measure, we can choose to double down on the cross. 
Remember: There is now, therefore, no condemnation. 

📚 Today's Resources:
René Girard and James G. Williams, I See Satan Fall Like Lightning 

🙌 New episodes every weekday.
📲 Subscribe, like, and share to help others grow spiritually. One day at a time.

Become New is here to help you grow spiritually one day at a time.
TEXT US at 855-888-0444
EMAIL US at connect@becomenew.com

GET OUR WEEKDAY EMAILS WITH EXTRA GOODIES at becomenew.com/subscribe
GET A TEXT REMINDER FOR NEW VIDEOS: text BECOME to 855-888-0444
SEND US PRAYER REQUESTS: via text or email; we'll send you a written prayer from our team

😊 Join Our Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1CnqywVp9s/
🤳Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/become.new/

Music Credits:
Believe Me by Glass Echoes - MB01UU8HNMQ8GT0
Frost on My Window by Coldbrew - MB01IZWASF1DYPO

Why do so many conversations leave people feeling worse instead of better?

In this episode, John walks through a powerful framework for communicating without condemnation, based on the work of Marshall Rosenberg:

observe without evaluating
name your feelings
identify your needs
make clear requests

Then he shows what it looks like in real life through one of Jesus’ most famous conversations — His encounter with the Samaritan woman in John 4.

Instead of judging or correcting her, Jesus:

crosses social and relational barriers
listens beneath the surface
speaks truth without shame
creates connection before correction

And the result?

A woman who felt fully known… and still accepted.

You’ll learn:
why most communication quietly damages relationships
how to speak truth without condemnation
what it means to listen for deeper needs
how curiosity can transform difficult conversations
why being known and accepted changes everything

Because the goal isn’t to win the conversation.

It’s to love the person.


📚 Today's Resources:
Marshall B. Rosenberg, Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life: Life-Changing Tools for Healthy Relationships

🙌 New episodes every weekday.
📲 Subscribe, like, and share to help others grow spiritually. One day at a time.

Become New is here to help you grow spiritually one day at a time.
TEXT US at 855-888-0444
EMAIL US at connect@becomenew.com

GET OUR WEEKDAY EMAILS WITH EXTRA GOODIES at becomenew.com/subscribe
GET A TEXT REMINDER FOR NEW VIDEOS: text BECOME to 855-888-0444
SEND US PRAYER REQUESTS: via text or email; we'll send you a written prayer from our team

😊 Join Our Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1CnqywVp9s/
🤳Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/become.new/

Music Credits:
Believe Me by Glass Echoes - MB01UU8HNMQ8GT0
Frost on My Window by Coldbrew - MB01IZWASF1DYPO

We live in a cancel culture.

Accountability matters — but somewhere along the way, accountability became condemnation. Not just “that was wrong,” but “you are done.”

In this episode, John explores:
the rise of cancel culture and public shaming

why shame and condemnation rarely lead to real change

the difference between calling people out and calling them in

the surprising place the word “cancel” shows up in the New Testament

and what Jesus actually does with sin and people

Drawing from voices like Jon Ronson, Adam Grant, and Loretta Ross, John points to a deeper truth:
God does not cancel people. God cancels sin.

At the cross — the ultimate place of public shame — Jesus absorbs condemnation and disarms it.

Which means:
 Your sin can be canceled…
 but you are not.
And neither is anyone else.
There is now no condemnation.


📚 Today's Resources:
John Ronson, “How One Stupid Tweet Blew Up X’s Life,” New York Times, 12 Feb 2015
Loretta J. Ross, Calling In: How to Start Making Change with Those You’d Rather Cancel 
Charles Wesley, “O, For a Thousand Tongues To Sing,” (1739)

🙌 New episodes every weekday.
📲 Subscribe, like, and share to help others grow spiritually. One day at a time.

Become New is here to help you grow spiritually one day at a time.
TEXT US at 855-888-0444
EMAIL US at connect@becomenew.com

GET OUR WEEKDAY EMAILS WITH EXTRA GOODIES at becomenew.com/subscribe
GET A TEXT REMINDER FOR NEW VIDEOS: text BECOME to 855-888-0444
SEND US PRAYER REQUESTS: via text or email; we'll send you a written prayer from our team

😊 Join Our Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1CnqywVp9s/
🤳Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/become.new/

Music Credits:
Believe Me by Glass Echoes - MB01UU8HNMQ8GT0
Frost on My Window by Coldbrew - MB01IZWASF1DYPO

What if you’ve been reading the Bible… the wrong way?

In this episode, John shares three unexpected tools for giving up condemnation:

• lighten up
• bring your shadow (your own capacity for failure)
• read everything in the shadow of the cross 

Drawing on insights from Phillip Cary and the story of Jonah, John challenges a common habit: reading ourselves as the “good” characters while judging everyone else.

Instead, we’re invited to identify with the ones who get it wrong.

You’ll learn:

• why moralistic Bible reading fuels judgment
• how humor and humility can disarm condemnation
• what it means to “bring your shadow
• how the cross reshapes the way we see others
• why identifying with failure leads to freedom 

Because the goal isn’t to prove we’re better than Jonah…

It’s to realize we’re not.

And that’s where grace begins.

And there is now no condemnation. 

📚 Today's Resources:

Phillip Cary — commentary on Jonah

Classical references (via philosophy of literature): tragedy vs. satire/tabloid framing 

🙌 New episodes every weekday.

📲 Subscribe, like, and share to help others grow spiritually. One day at a time. 

Become New is here to help you grow spiritually one day at a time.

TEXT US at 855-888-0444

EMAIL US at connect@becomenew.com 

GET OUR WEEKDAY EMAILS WITH EXTRA GOODIES at becomenew.com/subscribe

GET A TEXT REMINDER FOR NEW VIDEOS: text BECOME to 855-888-0444

SEND US PRAYER REQUESTS: via text or email; we'll send you a written prayer from our team 

😊 Join Our Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1CnqywVp9s/

🤳Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/become.new/ 

Music Credits:

Believe Me by Glass Echoes - MB01UU8HNMQ8GT0

Frost on My Window by Coldbrew - MB01IZWASF1DYPO

How does someone go from being full of condemnation… to writing, “There is now no condemnation”?

In this episode, John explores the transformation of Paul — a man driven by zeal, judgment, and certainty — who encounters the risen Jesus and sees everything differently.

Drawing on insights from What Saint Paul Really Said, John unpacks what Paul actually meant by “justification by faith” — and why it’s not about earning salvation or simply believing a doctrine.

You’ll learn:

what Paul’s zeal was really about

why “justification” means being vindicated, not just forgiven

the difference between trusting Jesus and believing about Him

how Jesus redefines who belongs

why seeing Jesus in others changes everything

As you move through your day, you’re invited into a simple but powerful practice:

“It could be the Lord.”

Because when you begin to see people that way, condemnation starts to fall away.

And there is now no condemnation.

📚 Today's Resources:
What Saint Paul Really Said — N. T. Wright
Influence from Scott McKnight
Historical scholarship from E. P. Sanders
Richard Hooker — on justification and faith
Richard Rohr — referenced practice (“It could be the Lord”)

🙌 New episodes every weekday.
📲 Subscribe, like, and share to help others grow spiritually. One day at a time.
Become New is here to help you grow spiritually one day at a time.
TEXT US at 855-888-0444
EMAIL US at connect@becomenew.com

GET OUR WEEKDAY EMAILS WITH EXTRA GOODIES at becomenew.com/subscribe
GET A TEXT REMINDER FOR NEW VIDEOS: text BECOME to 855-888-0444
SEND US PRAYER REQUESTS: via text or email; we'll send you a written prayer from our team
😊 Join Our Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1CnqywVp9s/
🤳Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/become.new/

Music Credits:
Believe Me by Glass Echoes - MB01UU8HNMQ8GT0
Frost on My Window by Coldbrew - MB01IZWASF1DYPO

What if our biggest barrier with God isn’t sin, but politeness?

In this episode, John Ortberg explores a surprising truth from Scripture: God isn’t looking for polished prayers. He’s inviting honest relationship. Through the story of Job, we discover something shocking:

Job rages. Questions God. Speaks words that feel almost dangerous. And yet—God says Job spoke what is right. Why? Because honesty draws us closer to God while polite distance keeps Him far away.

Even Jesus cried out on the cross: “My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?”

So if you’ve ever felt:
confused
disappointed
hurt
unsure what God is doing

You’re not alone, and you don’t have to hide it.
Today’s invitation is simple: Be real with God.
Because the path to deeper faith isn’t pretending—it’s honesty.


📚 Today's Resources:
Ellen F. Davis, Getting Involved with God
Eleonore Stump, Wandering in Darkness
Joseph Stein, Fiddler on the Roof

🙌 New episodes every weekday.
📲 Subscribe, like, and share to help others grow spiritually. One day at a time.

Become New is here to help you grow spiritually one day at a time.
TEXT US at 855-888-0444
EMAIL US at connect@becomenew.com

GET OUR WEEKDAY EMAILS WITH EXTRA GOODIES at becomenew.com/subscribe
GET A TEXT REMINDER FOR NEW VIDEOS: text BECOME to 855-888-0444
SEND US PRAYER REQUESTS: via text or email; we'll send you a written prayer from our team

😊 Join Our Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1CnqywVp9s/
🤳Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/become.new/

Music Credits:
Believe Me by Glass Echoes - MB01UU8HNMQ8GT0
Frost on My Window by Coldbrew - MB01IZWASF1DYPO

We don’t throw stones anymore.
Except… we do.

Online.
In conversations.
With a look, a tone, a pause.

In this episode, John Ortberg unpacks one of the most famous and unsettling teachings of Jesus:

“Let the one without sin cast the first stone.”

Through a powerful contrast between ancient scapegoating and the story of the woman in John 8, we see what Jesus is really doing:

Not denying sin.
Not ignoring truth.
But interrupting condemnation.

Because there is something in every human heart that wants:

someone to blame

someone to shame

someone to bring down

But Jesus offers a different way.

A way where:

truth is spoken

sin is taken seriously

but people are not crushed

The invitation today is simple—and hard:

Put down the stone.

Because the moment you release condemnation,
you make space for grace.

There is now… therefore… no condemnation.

📚 Today's Resources:
René Girard and James G. Williams, I See Satan Fall Like Lightning 

🙌 New episodes every weekday.
📲 Subscribe, like, and share to help others grow spiritually. One day at a time.

Become New is here to help you grow spiritually one day at a time.
TEXT US at 855-888-0444
EMAIL US at connect@becomenew.com

GET OUR WEEKDAY EMAILS WITH EXTRA GOODIES at becomenew.com/subscribe
GET A TEXT REMINDER FOR NEW VIDEOS: text BECOME to 855-888-0444
SEND US PRAYER REQUESTS: via text or email; we'll send you a written prayer from our team

😊 Join Our Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1CnqywVp9s/
🤳Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/become.new/

Music Credits:
Believe Me by Glass Echoes - MB01UU8HNMQ8GT0
Frost on My Window by Coldbrew - MB01IZWASF1DYPO

Criticism is inevitable.
Condemnation is optional.

In this episode, John Ortberg explores one of the most important distinctions for spiritual growth: how to receive criticism without absorbing condemnation.

Drawing from the life of King David, we see a man who:
Refused to take revenge when attacked
Ignored false condemnation
Yet humbly received painful truth when it mattered most

The Bible consistently teaches us:
Listen to criticism.
Learn from correction.
But do not internalize condemnation.

Because condemnation attacks your identity—
while healthy criticism can transform your life.

So what do you do when criticism comes?

Instead of getting defensive…
lean in.

“Is there anything else?”

This simple posture can turn even hard conversations into opportunities for growth.

Because when you are rooted in God’s love,
you don’t have to protect your ego—
you’re free to grow.

There is now… therefore… no condemnation.

📚 Today's Resources:
Michael B. Nichols and Martha B. Straus, The Lost Art of Listening: How Learning to Listen Can Improve Relationships 

🙌 New episodes every weekday.
📲 Subscribe, like, and share to help others grow spiritually. One day at a time.

Become New is here to help you grow spiritually one day at a time.
TEXT US at 855-888-0444
EMAIL US at connect@becomenew.com

GET OUR WEEKDAY EMAILS WITH EXTRA GOODIES at becomenew.com/subscribe
GET A TEXT REMINDER FOR NEW VIDEOS: text BECOME to 855-888-0444
SEND US PRAYER REQUESTS: via text or email; we'll send you a written prayer from our team

😊 Join Our Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1CnqywVp9s/
🤳Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/become.new/

Music Credits:
Believe Me by Glass Echoes - MB01UU8HNMQ8GT0
Frost on My Window by Coldbrew - MB01IZWASF1DYPO

Condemnation doesn’t start with what we say.
It starts with how we see people.

In this episode, John Ortberg explores the root of condemnation and a critical distinction that can change the way we live: observation vs. evaluation.
Drawing from insights in Nonviolent Communication, John shows how easily our minds move from simply noticing behavior to assigning judgment, criticism, or contempt. And once that shift happens, condemnation begins to grow.

Jesus addressed this problem directly in the Sermon on the Mount when he said:
“First take the plank out of your own eye.”

The real issue isn’t just our words — it’s our perception.
When we learn to see people the way Jesus sees them — as bearers of God’s image — our responses change. Curiosity replaces contempt. Love replaces judgment.

Today’s practice is simple but powerful:
As you move through your day, pause and ask:
What would Jesus see when he looks at this person?
Because when we change how we see,we change how we love.
And in Christ, there is now… therefore… no condemnation.

📚 Today's Resources:
 Marshall B. Rosenberg, Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life 
Iris Murdoch, The Sovereignty of Good 
Yoel Kahn, The Three Blessings: Boundaries, Censorship, and Identity in Jewish Liturgy

 
🙌 New episodes every weekday.
📲 Subscribe, like, and share to help others grow spiritually. One day at a time.

Become New is here to help you grow spiritually one day at a time.
TEXT US at 855-888-0444
EMAIL US at connect@becomenew.com

GET OUR WEEKDAY EMAILS WITH EXTRA GOODIES at becomenew.com/subscribe
GET A TEXT REMINDER FOR NEW VIDEOS: text BECOME to 855-888-0444
SEND US PRAYER REQUESTS: via text or email; we'll send you a written prayer from our team

😊 Join Our Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1CnqywVp9s/
🤳Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/become.new/

Music Credits:
Believe Me by Glass Echoes - MB01UU8HNMQ8GT0
Frost on My Window by Coldbrew - MB01IZWASF1DYPO

What do you do with the anger that keeps replaying in your mind?

The conversations.
The injustice.
The words you wish you could say back.

In this episode, John Ortberg looks at the remarkable life of Saint Patrick — a man who was kidnapped, enslaved for six years, and yet chose a path almost no one would expect.

Instead of revenge, Patrick returned to the people who enslaved him with a message of love and forgiveness.

His life raises a hard question for all of us:

What do we do with the pain that makes condemnation feel justified?

John explores two deeply practical practices that help us escape the prison of bitterness:

• Stop ruminating about the person who hurt you
• Stop gossiping about them

These small decisions can redirect the entire trajectory of your heart.

Because the voice you rehearse in your mind
will eventually shape the life you live.

And the way of Jesus — even in the face of deep injustice — is the way of blessing.

📚 Today's Resources:
Saint Patrick, Confession
https://a.co/d/03vuAWnF

Jonathan Bardon, A History of Ireland
https://a.co/d/0bVNXger

Northumbria Community, Celtic Daily Prayer
https://a.co/d/00ovpl4V

🙌 New episodes every weekday.
📲 Subscribe, like, and share to help others grow spiritually. One day at a time.

Become New is here to help you grow spiritually one day at a time.
TEXT US at 855-888-0444
EMAIL US at connect@becomenew.com

GET OUR WEEKDAY EMAILS WITH EXTRA GOODIES at becomenew.com/subscribe
GET A TEXT REMINDER FOR NEW VIDEOS: text BECOME to 855-888-0444
SEND US PRAYER REQUESTS: via text or email; we'll send you a written prayer from our team

😊 Join Our Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1CnqywVp9s/
🤳Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/become.new/

Music Credits:
Believe Me by Glass Echoes - MB01UU8HNMQ8GT0
Frost on My Window by Coldbrew - MB01IZWASF1DYPO

There’s a voice in your head that never stops talking.

But not every voice deserves to be trusted.

In this episode, John Ortberg explores the difference between self-condemnation and conviction. Drawing on insights from Ignatius of Loyola, Marshall Rosenberg, and Michael Singer, John shows how comparison and inner criticism can spiral into despair.

But the voice of God works differently.

Self-condemnation attacks your identity.Conviction speaks to your actions.

Self-condemnation leads to hiding.Conviction leads to hope and change.

Learning to recognize the difference may be one of the most important spiritual skills you ever develop.

Because the voice you listen to insideis usually the voice you use with others.

There is now… therefore… no condemnation.

How do you confront someone’s behavior without becoming condemning yourself?
In this episode, John walks through a common real-life situation — dealing with a difficult family member — and explains the three elements required for genuine change.

Drawing on insights from Henry Cloud, Dallas Willard, and research on conflict and relationships, John shows why condemnation rarely leads to transformation.

You’ll discover:
- why grace must come first
- how truth can be spoken without hostility
- why the emotional tone of a conversation matters
- the surprising role patience plays in change
- why grace + truth + time are all necessary

Real growth rarely happens overnight. But when grace, truth, and time come together, relationships can begin to change in ways condemnation never could.
Because there is now no condemnation.

📚 Today's Resources:
Henry Cloud — insights on the change process
Dallas Willard — interpretation of Galatians 6
The Way Out — Peter Coleman
Research from John Gottman and Barbara Fredrickson on emotional tone in conflict

🙌 New episodes every weekday.
📲 Subscribe, like, and share to help others grow spiritually. One day at a time.

Become New is here to help you grow spiritually one day at a time.
TEXT US at 855-888-0444
EMAIL US at connect@becomenew.com

GET OUR WEEKDAY EMAILS WITH EXTRA GOODIES at becomenew.com/subscribe
GET A TEXT REMINDER FOR NEW VIDEOS: text BECOME to 855-888-0444
SEND US PRAYER REQUESTS: via text or email; we'll send you a written prayer from our team

😊 Join Our Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1CnqywVp9s/
🤳Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/become.new/

Music Credits:
Believe Me by Glass Echoes - MB01UU8HNMQ8GT0
Frost on My Window by Coldbrew - MB01IZWASF1DYPO

Is it really surprising that God loves you?

In this episode, John challenges a common assumption many Christians carry: that God’s love for us is somehow unexpected or hard for Him. But Scripture paints a different picture. Over and over again, the Bible declares something astonishingly simple — God is love.

John explores two truths we must hold together. First, we are broken and imperfect. But second, God’s very nature is love. And our brokenness cannot change who God is.

Drawing from passages like John 3, Romans 5, 1 John 4, and Ephesians 3, John explains how understanding God’s nature reshapes our lives. When we become rooted in love, condemnation begins to lose its power, and love naturally flows outward to others.

Because the deepest truth of the universe is this:
 God is love.

📚 Today's Resources:
The Problem of Pain — C. S. Lewis

🙌 New episodes every weekday.
📲 Subscribe, like, and share to help others grow spiritually. One day at a time.

Become New is here to help you grow spiritually one day at a time.
TEXT US at 855-888-0444
EMAIL US at connect@becomenew.com

GET OUR WEEKDAY EMAILS WITH EXTRA GOODIES at becomenew.com/subscribe
GET A TEXT REMINDER FOR NEW VIDEOS: text BECOME to 855-888-0444
SEND US PRAYER REQUESTS: via text or email; we'll send you a written prayer from our team

😊 Join Our Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1CnqywVp9s/
🤳Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/become.new/

Music Credits:
Believe Me by Glass Echoes - MB01UU8HNMQ8GT0
Frost on My Window by Coldbrew - MB01IZWASF1DYPO