You Are Not Broken

Today I am lucky enough to interview Sarah Chadwick, author of “The Sweetness of Venus”. She is passionate about sex equality, gender studies, humor and learning. Her book is dedicated to: “This book is for all those who have a clitoris, or the opportunity to engage with one.” Why she wrote this book! You talk about how the clitoris is lost and found and lost and found throughout documented history. “17th-century under-the-table narrative about sex has a strong emphasis on mutual pleasure that is noticeably lacking in many of today’s sex-ed books and in too many sex-ed classes.” Why don’t we tell girls and boys about this aspect of a woman’s anatomy? We discuss the female condition of being frigid – now we have a medical disorder if we don’t orgasm with PIV sex. In 1994 U.S. Surgeon General Dr. Jocelyn Elders suggested sex should be mentioned as safe and healthy in school curricula. In answer to a question at the UN Conference on AIDS as to whether she thought teaching about masturbation in schools might reduce unsafe sex, she replied: “I think that is something that is part of human sexuality and it’s part of something that should perhaps be taught. But we’ve not even taught our children the very basics.” She was forced to resign by Bill Clinton as a consequence.” 1966 – The sexually adequate female “Frank S. Caprio, M.D., recommends “psychiatric assistance” for any woman who prefers clitoral stimulation to other forms of sexual activity. ” How did views about female morality come to be bound up with women’s sexuality? How is sharing this on social media going? Are we allowed to say clitoris? Can you talk about the American versus UK approach to menopause care? Our emphasis on “natural” and the pressure to be “natural” https://www.instagram.com/its.personalgirls/ The Sweetness of Venus: A History of the Clitoris Sarah Chadwick https://amzn.to/3ppAzd5 --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kj-casperson/message

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This is my November live podcast recording - lots and lots of Q&A in here!

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This is the third in a row episode with my good friend Dr. Hart - - - Penis Size

Why is this such a big deal for men (pun intended?)

It is not associated with height, sperm count or any thing else.

Warning – we are going to tell you what is average in length for this body part.

Most people are normal.

What women make their partner's penile function mean and how to talk about it.

Dr. Hart is a sexual medicine physician in Canada at

https://www.sexualfunctionclinic.com

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The myth and the facts of Hymen

What it is and what it isn't

The case for knowing your body. 

Dr. Hart is a sexual medicine physician in Canada at

https://www.sexualfunctionclinic.com

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Physicians get trained to be biased against overweight individuals - that doesn't help us feel great about ourselves which then can translate into the bedroom.

I LOVE talking with Dr. Hart who a sexual medicine physician in Canada at

https://www.sexualfunctionclinic.com

Body positivity, mindset, myths about body size and sex

The medical system and fat phobia – we are very judgy.

You will “never be good enough to…” if you don’t change your mind.

We discuss chasing “I thought I would be happy when” thoughts.

“if you are having a sex life problem get help, don’t just assume it is your weight”

We discuss black and white thinking when it comes to weight and hear Dr. Hart’s journey.

“A sex therapist is always the answer” – but it isn’t always covered in Canada or the US – here are some tips if you can’t access a therapist.
We discuss mindfulness, our ANTs (automatic negative thoughts) and the flaws in logic about our thinking about our body.

“Body positivity is a journey, not a goal”

“Muscles are associated with longevity and health – and they weigh a lot.” 

“We can and should be healthy – we shouldn’t focus on the scale”

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We define what low sex and sexless marriages are

We talk about two books that have the word "desire" in them.

We talk about two papers discussing hormones and desire. 

www.kellycaspersonmd.com to get on the email list to see when I go live!

Reclaiming Desire Dr. Andrew Goldstein
https://amzn.to/31VnArp

Rekindling Desire Barry McCarthy
https://amzn.to/3F80USX

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Dr. Sonia Wright joins me today to talk about your sex life.

We talk about consent and safety.

Adult play is supposed to be fun!

What are your thoughts around kink?

Different things turn different people on.

We go over some definitions – sub and dom – and maybe be surprised who has the power in these roles.

We talk about consent in a long term relationship – what is your reason for having sex

“for you” sex described and how to start with pleasure

If you don’t know what kind of sex you want, start with identifying what you don’t want.

Tips for communication with your partner. What we can learn from the sub/dom/kink culture.

And remember what the whole point is of all of this is – FUN! Connection! Growth!

https://soniawrightmd.com/

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-midlife-sex-coach-for-women-podcast/id1532337565

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This is an IG live I did with Dr. Keira Barr, holistic dermatologist and expert in midlife transitions and hormones. We know good sex doesn't exist when we are stressed, anxious and full of cortisol and our sympathetic flight or fright nervous system, but what can we do about it? We talk about sleep, breathing, hormones, exercise and alcohol. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kj-casperson/message

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Sex and hormones, sex and hormones, and life coaching.

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Meet the Menopause Whisperer – Dr. Jim Simon

My listeners want the truth!  And they are so hungry for it! Why did "we" scare everyone off of hormones, why are doctors so hesitant to be proactive on hormones.  What the "actual" risks of taking hormones are.

Set me straight on "progestins" including progesterone and all the others

Breast cancer and the Women’s Health Initiative – we get the facts about hormones and breast cancer risk.

Hormones protect your heart and bones, especially between ages 50-60.

The myth of “you need to stop hormones at a certain age”

Risks of hormone therapy compared to other medications.

How to get smart about hormones?

In menopausal women, the risk of alcohol is higher than the risk of hormones.

What men should know about menopause and menopause hormones.

“Menopause is mid-life” Dr. Simon

The role of testosterone in mid-age. How the “rules of the game” are stacked against women in regards to getting a FDA approved testosterone medicine for women.

https://intimmedicine.com/

Article on prescribing testosterone for women:

https://www.jsm.jsexmed.org/action/showPdf?pii=S1743-6095%2820%2930982-6

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Welcome along with me and Dr. Laurie Mintz and a cohort of female physicians as we do a book club on her amazing book, “Becoming Cliterate”

Why she wrote the book.

Why the knowledge of female anatomy and pleasure keeps getting lost.

Her new inspiration to educate young men.  And her informal poll on what the guys want.

Learn who started researching the orgasm gap in the first place.

How many different types of orgasms are possible and do they all come from the clitoris or from many different places – and why do we even care?

The idea of “consent” when you have sex that you don’t really want to or do it as a “duty or obligation”

Her wish for physicians to help their patients.

Becoming Cliterate https://amzn.to/3n7nNyK

A Tired Woman’s Guide to Passionate Sex https://amzn.to/3n7nNyK

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Dr. Laurie Mintz is a feminist author, therapist, professor, and speaker whose life’s work has been committed to helping people live more authentic, meaningful, joyful—and sexually satisfying—lives through the art and science of psychology.

Background story - how she got into sexuality education and therapy?

Everyone cares about a woman’s libido – but I want to ask – are women just having boring sex?

Tell us the stats about orgasmic inequality and how this ties in to affecting a woman’s libido

The orgasm gap is even worse for the hook up culture – can you tell us the data and why it is concerning.

What is her opinion on scheduling sex?

She talks about stress and overwork as top reasons for lowered sex life – my women say “oh yeah” but what should they actually do about it.

She says that “empowerment in the bedroom leads to confidence in the boardroom” – please tell us more.

In her “tired guide” book you say there is no pill for desire – that book was 2009 – now there is a pill and an injection – what are her thoughts about these?

If someone asked me to re-do sex ed for our youth – I would include pleasure, vulvar anatomy, the lie that PIV causes orgasms for women – what would you add?

I want to ask her about three women and hear her advice

A 20 yo single, just starting out

A 38 yo, married, kids, full time job – lost her libido, doesn’t enjoy sex

A 58 yo, post menopause, kids out of the house, husband feels like a roomate

What her opinion of us educators not being able to use or being afraid of saying certain words on

Becoming Cliterate https://amzn.to/373dMe6

The Tired Woman’s Guide to Passionate Sex:  https://amzn.to/373dMe6

https://www.instagram.com/drlauriemintz

https://www.drlauriemintz.com/

Magnificent Sex by Peggy Kleinplatz https://amzn.to/3C9UelT

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Jessa Zimmerman is a licensed couples’ counselor and nationally certified sex therapist. She works in private practice in Seattle, WA. Over the course of her therapy career, she has focused almost exclusively on helping couples with their emotional and sexual intimacy.

In her years of clinical experience, Zimmerman has treated hundreds of couples who have struggled to feel sexual desire and fulfillment. Her clients describe having a good relationship in other ways, but their sex life has become difficult to the point that they start to avoid sex. These are people who love each other but are struggling to have a sex life they both enjoy.

She specializes in helping these couples who find that sex has become stressful, negative, disappointing, or pressured. She educates, coaches, and supports people as they go through her 4 pillar experiential process that allows them real world practice in changing their relationship and their sex life, guiding them to become easily intimate.

How do you become “easily intimate”?

How Hollywood messes us up.

You have a video “no libido, no problem” tell us more

Talk about how “low libido” is just desire discrepancy

How can women be more engaged in sex?

Top three mistakes of the lower desire person – believing you are broken, wanting partner to stop initiating, thinking that it is all or nothing

How to create a sex life that has zero stress.

“it’s neuroscience people, it’s okay” – Dr. C

“Obligation is not sustainable” – Jessa Zimmerman

Sex is a playground, not a football field

Link to “Sex Without Stress: A couples guide to overcoming disappointment, avoidance and pressure”

https://amzn.to/3vNPZda

Instagram: www.instagram.com/intimacywithease

Better Sex Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/better-sex/id1329973865

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Muscles and Menopause Advocate Amanda Thebe

Fitness and women’s health expert Amanda Thebe went from barely surviving menopause to thriving, by making specific changes to her diet, exercise, and approach to mental health.

I was following you on IG @amanda.thebe and you made a post about women and muscles, which I absolutely love! And here we are! And she was kind enough to send me her book, which I loved, and read and now I get to interview her!

1) Talk to me about your story – personal trainer to menopause advocate

2) Let’s talk about muscles

3) What’s with “balancing hormone” and “re-setting” hormones

4) She calls protein the “queen of food”

5) She says “being strong has transferred over to my everyday life” – discuss

6) You didn’t really scare me until “a woman’s risk of breaking a hip is as much as getting breast, uterine and ovarian cancer combined” – risk of death after a hip fracture is 21 % within a year after the fracture

7) Let’s talk about sleep tips in menopause – and how sex helps sleep

amandathebe.com

Get her book “Menopocalypse” https://amzn.to/2SA4hPJ

“Estrogen Matters”  Avrum Bluming, MD and Carol Tavris PhD. https://amzn.to/38YjsHs

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No organization recommends pellets.  
You know who recommends pellets?  People making money off of using pellets.

Rant over!

Enjoy me getting my spice on in this live Podcast recording in Sept.  

Testosterone guidelines for treating women:

https://www.prnewswire.com/news-releases/international-experts-provide-consensus-on-how-to-administer-testosterone-to-postmenopausal-women-301261018.html

Pellet Safety:

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/33973545/

https://www.mdedge.com/obgyn/article/241740/menopause/hormone-pellet-safety-data-not-very-reassuring-all-women

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Dr. Vonda Wright and I talk about sleep!

Learn the benefits of sleep – better daytime function, memory, sleep and a longer life!

We discuss things that limit our sleep in our modern lives, including untreated menopause symptoms.

Join her with the free “back to sleep challenge” This week!

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find a NAMS certified practitioner at https://www.menopause.org/

We also talk about GSM (genitourinary syndrome of menopause) and preventative care as we age. 

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Today we welcome Erika Davian – we are both certified at the Life coach school and someone connected us! 

I had been saying that someone ought to coach the men! And then she showed up in my life!

Today we are learning about surrogate partner therapy with her.

We need to pay attention to the men too! And we are in this episode! She tells us how she got into this niche.

She helps millennial men cultivate the confidence to create the life they want in and out of the bedroom. She helps them show up as themselves.

A myth is that “straight men have it so easy” when in fact they have a lot of pressure to “be” a certain way as much if not more than other people.

She  quickly saw that some clients-- particularly younger clients-- thought their sexual dysfunction was purely physiological, when really, the psychological component was playing as big or an even bigger role.

What is a common limiting belief or scenarios that men have about sexuality?

“Anxiety and erections are not good bedfellows”

“there is one way to please a woman” is very pervasive.

“things are problems because we think they are problems”

She says - I’ve seen men encounter sexual dysfunction and shame, simply because their mind was sabotaging their body’s ability to perform.

Tips for men to start talking to their partner about sex.

Tips for premature ejaculation.

You help men manage their mind – what are some common themes that you see?

You can find her at www.sessionswitherika.com

and

erikadavian.com

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Join me on a lecture I gave to some surgeons (some of my favorite people BTW).

I discuss - sexual normative roles and how that affects our personal sex lives.

We were taught “sex negative” education – don’t get pregnancy or infections, save it for marriage

What happens when the novelty of sex wears off

Is desire a circumstance, a feeling, a result? Where do we put it in a coaching model.

Desire and sex for women.

What do I mean by crappy sex?

Sex, surgery and mindfulness

Normalizing responsive desire

Sleep and a happy sex life/drive

What is responsive desire?

How alcohol works with the brain to hurt/help our sex drive

Why older people have great sex

Why our thoughts about our spouse helps or hurts our sex life – and our thoughts are completely under our control.

Do you desire what you already have?

Why textbooks dedicate way more space to male sexual organs than female.

Anatomy lesson

Why PIV sex doesn’t work for female orgasms

Are you “should-ing” all over your sex life?

We finish this episode with some coaching on our sex life – we use the “model” from The Life Coach School.

If you want a good sex life you can’t be passive about it.

What does a sexually satisfied woman do well?

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Join me to answer listeners questions, hear their success stories, learn about hormones, vaginal estrogen, preventing UTI, preventative medicine versus treating disease, libido, pain with sex, birth control versus hormones in perimenopause, and how to find a menopause doctor, oh, also....vaginal estrogen shortage in Canada!  What!!

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Thank you to the whole world!  100 Episodes and 150,000 listens!  Here is to ONE MILLION in the future!

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I went live in the Galveston Diet private FB group and here is the audio - get to know me better

My why – the patient that changed the course of my life

How our society conditioned us to have crappy sex lives

Good sex takes communication skills – with yourself and your partner

My thoughts about “low desire”

Our Narrow viewpoint about sex

Transitioning to a body that can calm and open enough to have sex

Anatomy lessons

Books I recommend – She comes first, Becoming Clitorate, Come As You Are, Woman’s Anatomy of Arousal

Estrogen cream and Genitourinary Syndrome of Menopause and tips for finding cheap prescriptions in your town.

Desire mismatch is normal

The two top reasons women stop having sex in menopause!

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Today I am so excited to interview Dr. Deborah Butzbach, a doctor who treats cancer with radiation (radiation oncologist) in New Jersey and coach who has her own podcast, “Best life After Cancer”.

She is an expert in mindfulness and the power of our thoughts creating our circumstances.

“In life we get to decide how we think about things”

Today we are going to get her thoughts on sex after a cancer diagnosis.

She believes the mental aspect of cancer treatment is everything

How do you see people getting through cancer treatment with intimacy?

Thoughts on body image

What are people’s limiting beliefs when it comes to sex after cancer

How does a cancer diagnosis and surgery etc change body image and hinder sex?

https://www.bestlifeaftercancer.com/

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Why aren’t we invested in the mom?

Dr. Sonal Patel is a pediatrician, mom of 4 and an entrepreneur! She started the company NayaCare which was created to support moms and families entering life's new chapter.

Tell me why you started NayaCare? Her postpartum journey

What was your biggest surprise after giving birth?

Your mom is a OB – tell me about your sex ed and upbringing and culture

Why do we call it the 4th trimester?

Talk about the role of a doula

Sex and the 4th trimester

We talk about how the morbidity of pregnancy with tears and C-section really complicates sexual desire and intimacy after you have a baby.

Tips for how our partners can support us

Tell me about your journey with IC – interstitial cystitis

How about breastfeeding and intimacy – damn prolactin!

https://www.instagram.com/nayacare

https://www.facebook.com/nayacarecolorado

https://nayacare.org/

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I did a successful lecture to the Physician Mom's Group conference and I wanted to pull the audio for you all!  
Are you busy, are you a woman, are you a mom?  Are you two out of three?  Even if you are just one of those you may be experiencing shame and "should's" about your sex life.

Learn why we "should", why a content sex life is part of a healthy body and relationship, and tips and tricks for what you can do instead!

Enjoy!  And remember, you are not broken!

Thanks for the Apple and Spotify reviews!  They are such an amazing "thank you" to my work and dedication to keep this podcast going!  We are being heard around the world!!

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Corinne Crabtree – Sex and Self Love and Weight Loss

She is the host of “losing 100 pounds with Corinne” – 32 million listens – currently number 8 in Apple for “health and Fitness”   

• facebook.com/Losing100Podcast

• IG @Corinne_Crabtree

Losing100Podcast.com

Founder and CEO of The No BS Weightloss Program 

Corinne Crabtree is a top ranked health podcaster, Master Weight loss and Life Coach, motivational speaker, and all around badass. She's an expert in the field of weight loss where she teaches her unique No BS Weight loss Program that helps women lose weight the way they want to live their lives. She is known for telling it like it is, showing up looking sassy or showing up with morning hair getting sassy. She lets nothing stop her from helping her women figure out their shit so they can live the healthy life of their dreams.

She has a passion to change women’s lives – she wants to teach every woman to lose weight for good and feel as amazing as she deserves. 

What I love about Corinne is she gets women to “stand up” – taking ownership for their lives – which is what I want them to do in the bedroom.

We should talk about desire – so many people think it is a product to have  - kinda like weight loss – instead of realizing the power is in their brain. How do you think about sex, desire, wanting and our choice in the matter. 

Let’s talk about what self love looks like. 

“motivation is earned” 

Let’s talk about motivation – for weight loss, for a healthy sex life.

She says “weight loss will only happen on the outside when you learn the skill to change what happens on the inside.” 

I will enjoy life/sex when I am thin – talk about how toxic these thoughts are.

Let’s talk about “stop talking shit to yourself”

Body shaming versus telling people they can be the healthiest that they want to be – we discuss a sensitive and complex topic.

“People spend too much time allowing self-doubt to be the main conversation”.  

Top 4 things for weight loss! 

Okay, practical tip time – late night snacking. Help.

“Don’t make out your thinking to be the problem.....it is also the solution."

“love yourself enough to try”

Advanced Weight loss Certification

www.TheWeightlossUniversity.com

• Applications accepted August 11-13  The first class is September 12

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Hormones, menopause, definition of bioidentical, PMS and more!   I answer the Instagram Q&A's all here!

Whew, all caught up on the Q&A for my IG page!  See you next month!

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This audio is pulled from a conference I was fortunate to lecture at.  The conference was for physicians who are trained as life coaches.

Here I talk about sex, female sex "facts", and how to clean up your own mind about your thoughts about sex.

I hope you enjoy if you are a physician, a life coach, both, or none at all.

-Kelly

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Shout out to Canada and my sex ed doc www.instagram.com/drrachelrubin

A study shows that vaginal estrogen prevents recurrent UTIs without any further treatment 68% of the time.
Amazing!

But does vaginal estrogen cause cancer?  Do I need a progestin? What else can I do to decrease my risk of breast cancer?

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/33620909/

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For the Men!!
Oh come on, it is for the women too!

Body part warning:  I call a male body part a name in this podcast - truly I mean no harm and no shame and no hate.  It is only to point out that we can question what we are doing and break down the idea that PIV sex is the default and gold standard.  All my love to ALL BODIES and ALL BODY PARTS. 

Suffering from a dry spell with your partner? Do you feel like your sex life has tanked? In this podcast, I collaborate with Dr. Rena Malik, a fellow urologist, to share with you 7 tips to help increase your female partner's pleasure!

Dr. Kelly Casperson's Backstory 

Tip #1 Schedule time for Sex  - Desire isn't even necessary - don't take this the wrong way - I NEVER mean do it when you don't want to do it - rather that for a lot of women, desire arises while doing.  And some people don't believe in scheduling as it makes it a "chore" - think of it more as prioritizing your intimate life with yourself and your partner.  Like you will forget to go on a date unless it is scheduled because life gets too busy - kind of thing. 

Tip #2 Know your Female Anatomy -  What exactly is the G-Spot? Focus on the Outside Structures 

Tip #3 Prioritize her, it's not all about you 

Tip #4 Go Slow 

Tip #5 Use Lubricants 

Tip #6 Meet in the middle based on your desires 

Tip #7 Communication is key

Dr. Malik hosts a popular YouTube Channel https://www.youtube.com/c/RenaMalikMD/videos

Find her her also at www.instagram.com/renamalikmd

and https://renamalikmd.com/

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The brain is either having sex or In survival mode.

Dr. Vanessa Calderón, MD, MPP is a Life Coach and Scientist and emergency medicine physician. She uses the perfect combination of evidence-based tools and thought work to help working women solve everyday problems.

She’s the Wellness and Resilience Director for a national physician organization

She has spent over half a decade reconnecting healthcare providers to their original purpose in medicine through education and professional coaching.

We were in the same life coach school and we certified in April 2020! So fun to coach with her!

She has training in resiliency and stress management and was hoping we could talk about burnout/stress, it's effect on sex drive/relationships

Let’s talk about how to not get stuck in the "stress and no-sex" cycle.

Learn how stress turns off the reproductive cycle

Stress affects the physical and psychological system – and both affect your sex life

Taking initiative to improve one’s sex life means often getting started with something you have never done before – we talk about goals and how it is the journey that matters.

Women’s wandering minds and sex - why mindfulness is key.

How to break the stress cycle.

We treat sex like it is a scarcity. It is actually plentiful, abundant.

One thing we learn about in life coach school is how our thoughts create our feelings. I think Desire is a fun topic because it can be a C, a T, a F and probably an action or a Result – crazy!

How do you think about Desire?

https://www.vanessacalderonmd.com

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A great interview discussing female sexual health, myths and dysfunctions with www.instagram.com/ohhelloperry

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So much value in this one!!!!

Ugh, were to start - -  anatomy, heterosexual paradigms, lube, menopause, erectile tissue, Desire, desire mismatch, Resources I love to share, Tips to get in the mood!  And so much more!!

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Vanessa Osage is on a mission to leave this world better than she found it. Her mission is to Positively Transform Love, Sexuality & Human Connections. In 2017, she won the "Kickass Single Mom" Award for her work in sexuality education and youth rites of passage. A two-time nonprofit founder, Vanessa Osage is a Certified Sexuality Educator, Consultant & Professional Coach at Love & Truth Rising.   https://loveandtruthrising.org Her first book, Can’t stop the Sunrise, is available now. https://amzn.to/3xNtmpJ Tell us the story about how you got started in sex ed. You Are a certified sex educator – how did your journey get to educating teenagers and parents to help young people? What does the data say on teaching kids accurate sex ed? How early should we start? How can we empower teenage females and males to advocate for themselves and their partners? Tell us about “puberty rights of passage” Intimacy is created in the vulnerability of our conversations with our intimate partner. Your recent interest has led you to writing a book and becoming passionate about institutional reform through The Justice CORPS Initiative. And you call this “Defending sexual health on an institutional level" Vanessa is truly an amazing human being! I hope you enjoyed her and our talk as much as I did. https://www.bostonglobe.com/metro/2016/05/06/private-schools-painful-secrets/OaRI9PFpRnCTJxCzko5hkN/story.html https://www.instagram.com/vanessaosage --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kj-casperson/message

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This audio is from a FB and IG live that got uploaded to Youtube!  I finally got around to pulling the audio for the podcast!   Everything you knew and didn't know about vaginal estrogen! Who is it for, when to start it, do you need progesterone, application types, how it helps......you know, the basics!  Enjoy! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kj-casperson/message

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Listen to this with your partner! So much talk about partner communication I am so excited to talk to Dr. Alexandra Stockwell. We officially met on a panel for sexperts in October 2020! Which are really the only panels I should sit on these days as they are so fun! She is on a mission to change the cultural narrative around long-term relationships from one of stagnation and companionship to the delectable joy a couple can feel when they build passion and excitement to nourish them both. How do you define a “juicy” relationship? Why people compromise in their relationships. Great sex in a long-term relationship is no accident – talk about the myth of why people think it should be easy or not take work. Tips for becoming a better lover. Why did you write “uncompromising intimacy”? There is a couple – late 60’s – early 70s….he watches porn, turns down her advances – she keeps asking for sex…she states she is torn between divorce and suicide……where would you start? So many women fake orgasm – give me your thoughts on that. You have said that “Humans learn by observation or modeling” – I totally fell in love with that statement. How does that apply to your work? We were talking in January about a stat that 49% of women in their 50s stop having sex – then we had to nerd out and look that up. What do we tell women in their 40s/50s about the next decade of life with their spouse? People are afraid to talk about sex – but it is the vulnerability and communication that actually builds intimacy – people feel entitled to intimacy without doing the hard work. Underneath every complaint is a desire. How to have sex like a woman! Okay, tell us about your programs, how to find/follow you and get your book! Uncompromising Intimacy: Turn your unfulfilling marriage into a deeply satisfying, passionate partnership. https://amzn.to/2UCQZmA The Marriage Podcast with Dr. Alexandra Stockwell: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-marriage-podcast/id1548060690 --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kj-casperson/message

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Gerianne DiPiano is the Founder and CEO of FemmePharma and serves as the Chairman of the Board. A pharmaceutical industry executive and women’s healthcare expert, Gerianne founded FemmePharma in 1999 in response to the industry’s narrow focus on women’s health needs – such as contraception and hormone replacement therapy – but lack of attention to other important women’s diseases and disorders. Guided by her vision to provide more effective treatment options for women, FemmePharma is focused on improving women’s health by developing prescription pharmaceuticals and over the counter products that are specifically designed for women across a broad range of therapeutic categories.

Learn what she set out to accomplish with FemmePharma

She talks about the disparities between how women and men are treated by the pharmaceutical industry?

Learn how she was developing a product for overactive bladder and “by accident” created a product for vaginal dryness

• Satisfaite is an FDA-cleared personal lubricant and moisturizer for vaginal dryness and pain.

• Satisfem Gel and Satisfem Bud are moisturizers created for vulvar pain and itching.

https://femmepharma.com/

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Blending science with soul, Dr. Keira Barr turns conventional methodologies on their heads so midlife women can feel comfortable in their bodies and love the skin they’re in.

Dr. Barr is a prominent leader in women’s medicine – creating a bridge between hormones, skin and mind-body medicine to optimize women’s mid-life experience.

She is a dermatologist and got into integrative and functional medicine – by healing her own health problems.

Her focus is perimenopause and menopause.

The role of alcohol and our skin, sleep and menopause symptoms

I have been thinking about women and power and I think both of us work to give women their power back. We discuss how some women may be uncomfortable with this and why.

We discuss hair changes in women as they age

She helps us figure out how to deal with stress

How our hormones affect how we feel.

How joy shows up on people’s face

What is the stress, skin and hormone connection?

Her Book: The Skin Whisperer

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https://www.instagram.com/drkeirabarr

https://www.facebook.com/drkeirabarr

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I go live for the June podcast recording, special guest Dr. Jessica Krant shows up to discuss the 6 pillars of integrative medicine. We discuss the personal growth opportunity with pulling alcohol out of your life.  Then I do some Q&A about hormones, menopause, empowerment and how we talk about our bodies, periods and pregnancy matters. 

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The most important things to know about erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation!

Enjoy!

www.instagram.com/kellycaspersonmd

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Dr. Vonda Wright interviews me on her podcast: Hot For Your Health

https://www.instagram.com/drvondawright

We discuss being female in male dominated surgical specialties

Kelly’s top tips for great sex.

Female sexuality facts

Sex rules and why we should break them

Fear based education and why that can be a problem

Tips for talking to your partner about sex

We talk about systemic hormones and why so many doctors don’t bring it up.

We riff on movement, muscles and aging well.

I hope you enjoy!

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Meet my mom! She was so cool and gracious to come on my podcast!

Sex in the 1960’s

When did oral birth control come on the scene for her generation.

Resources she had/didn’t have in teaching her kids about sex

Her wishes for women today.

The problem with a narrow, limited view of what sex is.

What she was taught about menopause and what happens after menopause.

Her final thoughts on what is useful for women to know and use for their sex life.

How my mom would teach sex education.

Podcast sponsor today is https://femmepharma.com

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Use YANB15 for 15% off of your order.

Book I mentioned about anatomy:

Women's Anatomy of Arousal: Secret Maps to Buried Pleasure Sheri Winston

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What is the role for systemic testosterone in women post menopausal?  

Global Consensus Position Statement on the Use of Testosterone Therapy for Women

https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/13697137.2019.1637079

International Society for the Study of Women's Sexual Health Clinical Practice Guideline for the Use of Systemic Testosterone for Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder in Women

https://www.liebertpub.com/doi/10.1089/jwh.2021.29037

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This was a live lecture I gave on sex and menopause.  
See me and my slides in action at: https://www.crowdcast.io/e/sex-after-menopause?utm_source=profile&utm_medium=profile_web&utm_campaign=profile

thanks to winkwinkboutique.com  for hosting me!

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This is May’s live podcast recording with Dr. Jill Krapf and Dr. Becky Lynn

@evorawomenshealth and @beckylynnmd

@jillkrapfmd and @the.cvvd

1) Best way to treat period cramps

2) What is premenstrual dysphoric syndrome – OR premenstrual distress syndrome

3) When can perimenopause start

4) Cannabinoids, CBD and pelvic health and treating pain – and how tough it is to do research on this!

5) Itchy on labia but no skin changes – what could it be?

6) I had a full hysterectomy 3 years ago and have had no estrogen since (I’m assuming). Do I need this? Is this why I’ve gained weight and my libido is lower?

7) Endometriosis

8) What is PCOS?

9) How often should a woman get a pelvic exam and a Pap test

AND MANY MORE!

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Join me as I lecture virtually for the Best Of Life Summit - and my hostest extraordinaire is Dr. Vonda Wright.
Desire discrepancy, how our thoughts affect our intimacy, how we need to be in control of our experiences, not our partners.  you know, the usual! Enjoy!

You can still sign up for the videos from 25 doctors and industry leaders passionate about women's lives and health. 

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Today I report on a paper that interviewed individuals with great sex lives.  Yes, surprise, they tended to be older!  Older and wiser!  

Dr. Kleinplatz is the lead author on this 2009 paper and I run through their six-ish top traits that people with optimized sex lives share. Hint - good sex is not just the absence of dysfunction. AND - NONE of it was "I have a spontaneous sex drive"!  This is good news for all of us!

http://juliacolwell.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/05/The-components-of-optimal-sexuality-Kleinplatz-et-al.-2009.pdf

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I have too much content so I need to start releasing more than once a week!  Eeek!  What a good problem to have!  This week I did a live webinar to the Multiple Sclerosis society about Sexuality - specifically female but I do talk about viagra (okay I just mention it once).  It is a whirlwind talk and I do some great Menopause and Hormone myth busting at the end during the Q&A.  This talk applies to everyone!  Not just those living or caring for people with MS.  Enjoy! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kj-casperson/message

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