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Ask and you shall receive! By very popular demand and for the very first time, Shandy is recapping Netflix's Perfect Match! Today we're breaking down the third and final batch of season 2, aka the grand finale!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Housekeeping

3:04 - Finale

30:05 - Final Tribal

39:08 - Credits

39:34 - Overall Thoughts

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It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! If your guy says ILY in the heat of the moment but later on "forgets" this happened, is that a sign you need to end things? If your 19 year old sister starts dating a 34 year old, can you express your disapproval or should you back off? And if your family sells a possession of your grandparents that you wanted and even offered to pay for, should you hold onto that grudge and confront them? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Introduction

3:29 - Q1: Was He Sleep-Talking When He Said He Loved Me?

13:10 - Q2: Was I The A-Hole For Fact-Checking My Guy?

20:54 - Q3: I Hate That My 19 Year Old Sister Is Dating A 34 Year Old—Am I Just Being An Age Gap Hater?

33:31 - Q4: Am I The A-Hole For Not Wanting To Visit My Friends In New York?

41:29 - Q5: Have I Been Using My Hardships As An Excuse To Not Be “30 And Flirty”?

53:09 - Q6: My Aunts Sold A Belonging Of My Grandparents That I Really Wanted—Should I Let This Grudge Go?

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Ask and you shall receive! By very popular demand and for the very first time, Shandy is recapping Netflix's Perfect Match! Today we're breaking down the second batch of season 2, meaning episodes 7-9!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Introduction

2:30 - Episode 7

17:03 - Episode 8

29:30 - Episode 9

1:04:57 - Andy’s A-Game

1:06:25 - Sharleen’s Best Dressed

1:06:51 - Who We Would Go For

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Ask and you shall receive! By extremely popular demand and for the very first time, Shandy is recapping Netflix's Perfect Match! Today we're breaking down the first batch of season 2, meaning episodes 1-6!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Introduction

1:02 - Episode 1

19:49 - Episode 2

34:56 - Episode 3

46:21 - Episode 4

1:06:26 - Episode 5

1:15:33 - Episode 6

1:29:41 - Andy’s A-Game

1:32:48 - Sharleen’s Best Dressed

1:34:17 - Who We Would Go For

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Shandy is officially on the Dawg Side! As you may know, 3 months ago we adopted a small dog named Ruby! We hadn't planned on doing a fur baby episode, but it came so hotly requested (and we were so touched by the enthusiasm!), we couldn't help but oblige. Today we're answering YOUR questions all about our pup, her adoption story, and whether or not the famed Cat Person (Andy) has been converted. Warning: unfettered gushing ahead!

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0:00 - Introduction

1:35 - Ruby’s Adoption Story

10:28 - Andy’s Adjustment To Dog Person

12:23 - Ruby’s Personality

14:52 - Tips For Fellow Germaphobes

16:10 - What Took You So Long?

20:22 - But I Thought Andy Was A Cat Person?

21:05 - Does Ruby Give Cat Vibes?

21:12 - What Are Your Favorite Dog Toys?

21:58 - Has Andy Been Giving Ruby More Attention Than Sharleen?

24:38 - Who Watches Ruby When You’re Away?

24:50 - What Is Your Favorite Thing Ruby Does?

26:34 - Have There Been Any Hurdles/What Have You Learned About Yourself?

31:26 - What Kind Of Food Do You Feed Ruby?

31:31 - How Does Ruby React To Sharleen’s Singing?

32:02 - Who Is The Stricter Parent?

32:42 - Nicknames

33:34 - Where Does Ruby Sleep?

34:39 - Is Having A Dog What You Expected?

37:36 - What’s Been The Hardest Part Of Having A Dog?

39:12 - Did You Buy Pet Insurance?

39:15 - Who Is Ruby’s Favorite?

40:44 - How Has Ruby Changed Since You Got Her?

41:04 - How Has Ruby Changed Your Life?

46:44 - In Conclusion

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It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! You met your boyfriend shortly after getting laid off—with a new job lined up, is it morally wrong to never tell him about the layoff? If you're single and sharing an Airbnb with couples and even some families, should you pay the same amount for a room in the rental, even if there's only one of you? If your friend unexpectedly invites her boyfriend on your planned girls trip, are you the a-hole if you pull out? And finally, what to do if you simply *dislike* your best friend's fiancé?? Where does Shandy stand on unintentional door slamming? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Introduction

0:53 - Q1: If I Have New Job, Is It Morally Wrong Not To Tell My Boyfriend I Got Laid Off From My Previous Job?

6:22 - Q2: I’m The Single Friend In A Large Trip Of Couples And Their Kids—Am I Being Unreasonable About This Airbnb Split?

14:21 - Q3: My Friend Added Her Boyfriend To Our Girls Trip—AITA For Wanting To Pull Out?

30:53 - Q4: My Boyfriend Bailed On Driving Me To My Hometown & I Had To Pay $$$ For A Flight Instead—AITA For Wanting Him To Help Cover The Cost?

46:07 - Q5: My Best Friend’s Fiancé Is Just “OK”—How Do I Get Over The Fact That She Deserves Better?

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Attachment Styles are at the core of SO many relationship dynamics yet so few of us know much beyond "secure", "anxious", and "avoidant". Isn't it about time we learned WHY we behave the way we do so we can learn how to stop getting in our own way?

We're thrilled today to be joined by Eli Harwood, aka  @attachmentnerd , therapist, author, and attachment theory expert! Eli has amassed a massive following on Instagram with her attachment expertise and analysis. She is the author of "Securely Attached: Transform Your Attachment Patterns Into Loving, Lasting Romantic Relationships" and the upcoming "Raising Securely Attached Kids: Using Connection-Focused Parenting To Create Confidence, Empathy, and Resilience", so we could not be in better hands!

Today Eli breaks down those famed Attachment Patterns (spoiler alert: there's WAY more to this than secure, anxious, and avoidant!) and how and why we as adults behave the way we do in our relationships. (As Andy puts it at one point, Attachment is "EVERYTHING"!) We learn how much of a role gender plays, why some of us are different in platonic vs romantic relationships, and how much is nature vs nurture. There are also parenting questions for our caregiver Shandies out there! Shandy also gets personal with their own experiences that have shaped their own attachment patterns. Finally, the big question: HOW DO WE HEAL? Eli has the answers you've been waiting for and manages to deliver them in the most relatable and easy-to-understand way. As Shandy puts it, you just might see your childhood flash before your eyes! Listen on for a masterclass in YOURSELF. 🤯

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Welcome To Eli Harwood, Aka @AttachmentNerd!

3:20 - What Is Attachment Theory?

6:21 - Can I Have More Than One Attachment Style?

9:48 - Attachment Pattern Breakdown

20:38 - Are Our Attachment Styles Set In Stone?

22:43 - Where Or How Do We Heal These Wounds?

26:32 - More Attachment Pattern Breakdown

31:39 - Can I Have BOTH Polar Opposite Attachment Styles?

34:21 - Does The Caregiver’s Gender Matter?

34:31 - How Much Is Nurture Vs Nature?

36:47 - Is There A Connection Between Which Caregiver And Which Type Of Adult Relationship (Eg. Romantic Vs Platonic) ?

38:38 - Shandy Asks Questions For “Friends”

43:23 - Where Does Attachment Rank In Terms Of Difficulty To Change?

45:53 - Is Finding Your “People” A Form Of Healing?

46:28 - Does The Anxious-Avoidant Romantic Dynamic Ever Work? At What Point Is It Not “Worth It”?

57:51 - Tips For Anxious Types When They Spiral In The Wrong Direction

1:02:44 - How To Know If A Child Is Securely Attached

1:04:56 - How Self Aware Is The Parent Who Even Asks These Questions?

1:07:24 - Is Your Grief As Bad As You Think It Is?

1:07:43 - 4 Steps For Raising Securely Attached Kids

1:11:00 - Andy Plays Devil’s Advocate

1:15:36 - What If Your Child Is Behaving Inappropriately?

1:19:39 - Shandy Debrief

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It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! Is marriage necessary, or even at all what it's cracked up to be? If your partner struggles in the friendship department, how can you help? How should you respond to a question you hate being asked? And finally, an epic Am-I-The-Asshole question! Where does Shandy stand on unintentional door slamming? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take!

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0:00 - Introduction

1:40 - Q1: To Marry Or Not To Marry?

9:11 - Q2: I Feel Weird Contributing To My Friend’s “Honey Fund” As A Wedding Gift—Thoughts?

18:06 - Q3: Strangers Constantly Ask Me A Question I Hate—How Should I Respond?

31:58 - Q4: My Fiancé Has No Friends—How Can I Help Him?

48:45 - Q5: Am I The Asshole—Door Slamming Edition

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Caller sessions are BACK, baby! This is our SECOND Caller episode of 2024 (!) and we're thrilled we're joined by a lovely (and lively!) caller named Erin. Erin, whose relationship began with beautifully romantic gesture. However, 2+ months in, there are still kinks that need ironing. Erin is quick to defend her boyfriend, but when are excuses just... excuses? Listen on for the Shandy take!

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42:39 - Shandy Debrief

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This episode is a surprise all around because Shandy had absolutely zero intention of recapping their experience officiating their friends' wedding. However, on Instagram you requested this with a fiery passion that couldn't be ignored! So today is all about Shandy as WEDDING OFFICIANTS!

As you may know, on Saturday April 26th, 2024, Shandy officiated the wedding of Nick Viall and Natalie Joy, their longtime friends. This episode will contain reflections on the experience, tips (and regrets!) for those planning their own weddings/officiant speeches, unexpected moments, and overall takeaways! Listen on for this unique Dear Shandy episode!

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0:00 - Introduction

2:37 - How/When Did Nick & Natalie Ask You To Be Officiants?

5:58 - How Did You Make The Decision To Officiate As A Couple?

6:10 - Was One Of You The “Official” Officiant?

8:13 - Would You Have Accepted For Any Couple In Your Life Or Only A “Special” Couple?

9:05 - How Did You Prepare?

11:27 - What Sort Of Planning Did You Do With The Couple?

14:50 - Humor

17:20 - How Much Did You Share With The Couple Beforehand?

17:43 - Have Either Of You Ever Officiated A Wedding Before?

17:47 - Since You’ve Known Nick Longer Was It Difficult To Make It Feel Equally Personal For Natalie?

18:59 - Were You Nervous? Who Was More Nervous?

22:55 - Overall Tips/Regrets

25:31 - Did It Make You Nostalgic For Your Own Wedding?

28:58 - Do You Feel More Responsible To Stay Together Now?

29:38 - Can Shandy Officiate My Wedding?

30:40 - How Did You Enter The Ceremony?

30:58 - The Couple’s Vows

31:07 - Unexpected Moment

33:05 - Was The Baby A Part Of The Ceremony?

33:23 - Did Nick Cry?

34:08 - Did You Cry?

35:06 - How Are You Friends With Nick?

38:28 - Did You Ride The Mechanical Bull?

39:09 - Was There Anyone Who Made You Starstruck?

40:22 - Did They Tell You What To Wear?

40:47 - Sharleen’s Looks

44:04 - Did You Bring Ruby?

44:50 - People Article Misspellings

46:44 - What Was Your Favorite Things About Savannah?

48:02 - Overall Thoughts

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It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! If you have a tumultuous relationship history, is "boring" maybe a good thing? If you feel yourself becoming resentful in your relationship because your sacrifices outnumber your partner's, what to do? And not one, not two, but THREE heavy-hitting platonic friendship questions! What does Shandy consider a "friendship-reconsidering" level crime? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Q1: Does Healthy = Boring?

10:35 - Q2: My Friend Accused Me Of “Bitching & Complaining” And Our Friendship Is Suddenly Over—What Happened?!

23:50 - Q3: My Friend Moved Out Of Town And Now Zoom-Joins Our In-Person Hangs—Am I The Asshole For Disliking This?

33:46 - Q4: Should I Let My Friend’s Outrageous Wedding Request Make Me See Her Differently?

46:03 - Q5: I’ve Sacrificed More For This Relationship Than My Boyfriend Has And Am Feeling Resentful—Help!

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At the heart of so many relationship questions we've received—and relationships in general—is a common thread: EMPATHY. This "healing force", as our esteemed guest calls it, has the power to not only heal our relationships with others, but with ourselves. So why do so few of us understand its powers?

Today we're honored to be joined by THE foremost expert on empathy, Dr. Judith Orloff, dubbed “the godmother of the empath movement.” Dr. Orloff is a board-certified psychiatrist and the New York Times best-selling author of several books, including 2017's landmark "The Empath’s Survival Guide" and her latest, "The Genius of Empathy: Practical Skills to Heal Your Sensitive Self, Your Relationships, and the World". Today she helps dispel the misconceptions around empathy, demonstrates how to draw healthy boundaries, and explains the transformative, healing power of SELF-empathy. She explains why it's OK that your partner isn't the same empathy "type" as you, whether or not you can have too much empathy, and how to approach someone whose beliefs you fundamentally disagree with. Today's conversation is the warm hug you needed and will hopefully inspire healing in your more complicated relationships, especially the one you have with yourself.

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Welcome To The Legendary Dr. Judith Orloff!

3:41 - What Is Empathy & Empathy Vs Compassion

5:10 - What Are Her Thoughts On The Term “Empath” Becoming Mainstream?

6:52 - The Biggest Misconceptions About Empathy

10:32 - Drawing Boundaries

16:19 - Is Empathy Something We’re Born With? Nature Vs Nurture

17:31 - Can One Really Become *More* Empathic?

20:38 - The Empathy Types

23:13 - Mismatched Empathy In Relationships

29:19 - Tips For Self Empathy

31:24 - How Can I Make Empathy Work In A Way That Isn’t Ultimately To My Disadvantage?

34:04 - Is Self Awareness A Prerequisite to Self Empathy?

34:54 - Tips For Avoiding Empathy-Deficient Types

37:10 - When It Feels Like Someone Doesn’t Deserve Empathy

39:19 - Empathy Vs Enablement

43:29 - Is There Such A Thing As Too Much Empathy?

45:12 - Sharleen’s Takeaways

46:11 - Tips For Empathizing With Someone Whose Beliefs You Fundamentally Disagree With

49:06 - Shandy Debrief

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Just 3 weeks after our Love Fest with Gerry Turner and Theresa Nist, the couple announced in a Good Morning America interview that, after only 3 months of marriage, they're getting divorced. Many of you wanted to hear our take on this bombshell news, particularly in the wake of such a recent Love Fest. So today, in a first-of-its-kind bonus episode, we're answering your burning questions Q&A style.

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Introduction

2:41 - How Shocked Is Shandy?

6:46 - When Did You Record The Love Fest With Gerry & Theresa?

7:29 - Was Dear Shandy The Source Of The Tea That They Were Living Apart?

10:07 - Why Do You Think It Didn’t Work Out?

16:20 - When Recording The Love Fest, Did You Sense Anything Was Off?

20:28 - Do You Think They Were Honest On Your Love Fest?

20:39 - Did ABC Push Them To Come On Dear Shandy?

21:20 - Is There A Dear Shandy Love Fest Curse?

26:07 - Did Andy Bet Money On How Long They Would Last?

27:00 - Do You Think 3 Months Was Enough To Determine It Wouldn’t Work?

27:10 - If You Two Met At Gerry & Theresa’s Age And Lived Far Apart, What Would You Have Done?

29:00 - Does This Make You Love The Golden Bachelor Less?

29:44 - Do You Think Gerry Will Get Back Together With Leslie?

30:25 - Should Golden Bachelor Follow A Love Is Blind Format And Cast People From The Same City?

31:06 - Should The Franchise Scrap Golden Bachelorette?

32:27 - Why Do You Think They Did The Televised Wedding & Do You Think Production Feels Guilty?

34:37 - Bonus Question 

35:03 - Closing Thoughts

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She's baaaack! For the first time ever, and by popular request, we've brought BACK a Hot Topic guest to pick up where we left off! Our first episode with Maria Avgitidis—4th generation matchmaker and host of the Ask A Matchmaker podcast—was such a hit that you asked for more! In case you missed our Confessions Of A Matchmaker episode with Maria, aka Part 1, it's here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-shandy/id1525795747?i=1000597672805

Today Maria returns to answer follow up questions from Part 1, but also to give us her tough-love and honest take on the rules of dating. Sharpen your pencils, Shandies, because Dating School is in session! How is swipe culture affecting dating today? What's Maria's 12-Date Method, and her Pre-Date 3-2-1 Prep? Who pays on the first date, and does she believe in living together before getting engaged? Finally, what is Maria's "controversial" opinion, and will Shandy agree or disagree? As always, Maria's brutal honesty is a breath of fresh air and Shandy's delighted to welcome her back!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Welcome BACK To Matchmaker Maria!

2:41 - How Does She Define Her 93% Success Rate?

8:49 - What’s The Most Awkward Conversation She’s Had To Have With A Client?

11:38 - Decisions Paying Clients Make That Frustrate Her

16:21 - What Would She Say To People Who Think Her Matchmaking Fees Are Too High?

24:46 - How Swipe Culture Affects The World Of Matchmaking

29:01 - The 12-Date Rule

40:30 - Pre-Date 3-2-1 Prep

47:44 - Who Pays On The First Date?

52:29 - Maria’s Controversial Opinion

56:30 - What If Someone Never Gets Asked On A Second Date?

59:39 - Living Together Before Getting Engaged

1:09:01 - Moving For Love & “Importing”

1:14:53 - Shandy Debrief

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It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! How important is "niceness" in a partner, and is it enough? If you have a massive crush on someone out of town, how do you escalate from casual, sporadic dates to long-distance relationship? If you and your partner agree to boycott an establishment and he lies about having caved, is this a red flag? Finally, an epic Am-I-The-Asshole question, board game edition! Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Introduction

0:54 - Q1: Is “Nice” Enough?

7:06 - Q2: My BF Lied About Visiting An Establishment We Had Agreed To Boycott—Is This A Red Flag?

21:28 - Q3: I Have A Huge Crush On A Girl & Don’t Know How To Escalate Things—Help!

42:37 - Q4: The Transient Nature Of My Career Has Left Me Unmotivated To Date—Help!

53:08 - Q5: Am I The Asshole, Board Game Edition

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It's GOLDEN Love Fest time! 🎉 Today Shandy is joined by a couple whose love story they are very familiar with, as Charity's season was hotly recapped here at Dear Shandy! The world fell in love with Charity & Dotun's relationship, and Shandy is thrilled to have them join for what can truly be described as a double date!

Today Charity and Dotun give the juiciest, most satisfying and SPECIFIC answers about their first impressions, common misconceptions, beliefs that have changed, and of course, how they fight! Finally, a hilariously exhausting Newlyweds Game, exhausting because too much fun was being had! Who knows who better? Watch on to find out!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Welcome To Charity & Dotun!

4:20 - Is Shandy Together?

5:23 - First Impressions

20:20 - How They Complement Each Other

23:10 - How Their Partner Is Different Than They Imagined For Themselves

31:50 - Early Hurdle

35:59 - How They Fight

42:25 - Most Common Misconception

49:49 - Beliefs About Relationships That Have Changed

55:33 - The Newlyweds Game

1:14:53 - Shandy Debrief

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Shandy is back with The Bachelor, Season 28 recaps! Today we're breaking down the Finale and After The Final Rose!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Housekeeping

1:39 - Finale Kick Off

3:07 - Joey’s Family

10:31 - Daisy’s Final Date

17:52 - Kelsey’s Final Date

22:15 - Proposal Day

24:51 - Daisy & Kelsey

28:18 - The Breakup

35:27 - The Proposal

37:14 - After The Final Rose

42:07 - Bachelorette

51:10 - Andy’s A-Game

52:12 - Shandy Word Watch

53:32 - Night One Predictions

54:58 - Special Introduction

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It's GOLDEN Love Fest time! 🎉 Today Shandy is joined by none other than the Golden Bachelor himself, Gerry Turner, and his blushing bride, Theresa Nist! The world stopped to watch these two fall in love late last year, then again when they tied the knot on live television in January, and Shandy is beyond thrilled to host this exclusive post-wedding interview! (Psst: turns out Theresa is a Shandy!!!)

Today Gerry and Theresa describe how they complement each other, their love languages, what their early hurdle has been (spoiler alert: it's ongoing!), and of course, how they fight! Finally, a delightful Newlyweds Game revealing many fun tidbits about this beautiful couple! Who knows who better? Watch on to find out!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Welcome To Gerry & Theresa!

2:34 - First Impressions 

6:32 - Three Adjectives

8:13 - How They Complement Each Other

13:00 - Gerry Becoming Golden Bachelor

15:29 - Love Languages

16:46 - Early Hurdle

22:24 - How They Fight

25:27 - Common Misconceptions

28:01 - Beliefs That Have Changed

30:29 - Love Advice

32:17 - The Newlyweds Game

44:14 - Shandy Debrief

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Shandy is back with The Bachelor, Season 28 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 10, aka Women Tell All!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Housekeeping

0:30 - Women Tell All Kick Off

4:17 - The Hashing Out Of Drama

12:11 - Lexi Hot Seat

12:55 - Jenn Hot Seat

16:39 - Maria Hot Seat

24:23 - Tulum/Last Week’s “Cliffhanger”

29:59 - Rose Ceremony

31:17 - Rachel Hot Seat

35:32 - Joey Hot Seat

36:16 - Bloopers

39:32 - Previews

40:05 - Shandy Predictions

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By extremely popular demand, Shandy is back to recapping Love Is Blind, Season 6! Today we're breaking down the Reunion!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Housekeeping + Surprise For Andy

1:33 - Overall Thoughts

6:13 - Sharleen’s Best Dressed

7:56 - Amy & Johnny

9:25 - Jeramey, Sarah Ann & Laura

19:11 - Trevor

25:04 - AD & Clay

31:52 - Highlights

36:36 - Jessica & Jimmy

40:05 - Megan Fox

43:31 - Chelsea

45:39 - Brittany & Kenneth

48:26 - Matthew

50:13 - Chelsea & Kwame

50:56 - The End

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Shandy is back with The Bachelor, Season 28 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 9, aka Fantasy Suites!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Housekeeping

1:58 - Episode 9 Kick Off

2:31 - Rachel

8:38 - Kelsey

15:13 - Daisy

23:56 - Cliffhanger

30:39 - Andy’s A-Game

32:00 - Shandy Word Watch

35:20 - Shandy’s Predictions

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By extremely popular demand, Shandy is back to recapping Love Is Blind, Season 6! Today we're breaking down the finale, episode 12!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Housekeeping

0:42 - Chelsea & Jimmy

16:53 - Bachelorette Party

18:24 - AD & Clay

42:55 - Amy & Johnny

47:07 - Ending Moments & Thoughts

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Shandy is back with The Bachelor, Season 28 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 8, aka Hometowns!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Housekeeping

4:13 - Kelsey’s Hometown

14:20 - Rachel’s Hometown

28:14 - Daisy’s Hometown

36:20 - Maria’s Hometown

48:34 - Rose Ceremony

52:53 - Andy’s A-Game

53:19 - Shandy Word Watch

55:00 - Shandy’s Predictions

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By extremely popular demand, Shandy is back to recapping Love Is Blind, Season 6! Today we're breaking down the third Netflix release, episodes 10 and 11!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Housekeeping

0:59 - Amy & Johnny

6:22 - AD & Clay

17:30 - Laura & Jeramey

24:50 - Sarah Anne

33:01 - Chelsea & Jimmy

53:43 - Jessica

57:46 - Trevor

59:33 - Chelsea & Jimmy, Cont’d

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Shandy is back with The Bachelor, Season 28 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 7!

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0:00 - Housekeeping

2:39 - Episode 7 Kick Off

4:00 - Daisy’s 1-On-1

8:19 - Evening

12:02 - The Final Group Date

15:06 - Evening

24:30 - Kelsey A’s 1-On-1

26:33 - Evening

31:59 - Rose Ceremony

33:56 - Andy’s A-Game

35:46 - Shandy Word Watch

38:51 - Shandy’s Predictions

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By extremely popular demand, Shandy is back to recapping Love Is Blind, Season 6! Today we're breaking down the second Netflix release, episodes 7-9!

Time Stamps:

0:00 - Housekeeping

0:32 - Amy & Johnny

6:56 - Brittany & Kenneth

22:28 - AD & Clay

35:55 - Chelsea & Jimmy

48:59 - Jessica

51:59 - Chelsea & Jimmy, Cont’d

54:08 - Laura & Jeramey

1:05:48 - Who We Would Go For

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Shandy is back with The Bachelor, Season 28 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 6!

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0:00 - Housekeeping

1:46 - Episode 6 Kick Off

4:56 - Group Date

9:46 - Evening

24:19 - Kelsey T’s 1-On-1

27:21 - Evening

29:37 - Maria’s 1-On-1

32:55 - Evening

34:34 - Lexi

36:54 - Rose Ceremony Cocktail Party

43:50 - Rose Ceremony

47:45 - Andy’s A-Game

49:27 - Shandy Word Watch

52:22 - Shandy’s Predictions

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Ask and you shall receive! By extremely popular demand, Shandy is back to recapping Love Is Blind! Today we're breaking down the first release of season 6, meaning episodes 1-6. Because there is so much to cover, we're dividing this recap into two parts. This is part 2 of 2!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Housekeeping

0:59 - Chelsea & Jimmy

11:14 - Jessica & Jimmy

15:33 - Chelsea & Trevor

18:15 - Post-Fight & Breakups

22:49 - Chelsea & Jimmy, cont’d 

27:58 - Beach Party

33:01 - After The Party

37:14 - Who We Would Go For

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Ask and you shall receive! By extremely popular demand, Shandy is back to recapping Love Is Blind! Today we're breaking down the first release of season 6, meaning episodes 1-6. Because there is so much to cover, we're dividing this recap into two parts. This is part 1 of 2!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Housekeeping

1:00 - Matthew

4:36 - Amy & Johnny

8:30 - Brittany & Kenneth

19:33 - AD & Clay

34:02 - Sarah Ann & Jeramey

40:21 - Laura & Jeramey

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It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today Shandy is joined by Bachelor Nation's latest power couple, Brayden Bowers and Christina Mandrell! These happen to be two "villains" Shandy never believed were villains in the first place, and it was so fun to finally hang out IRT to hear behind-the-scenes tidbits and learn about their relationship dynamic!

Today Brayden and Christina share their thoughts on true "contentment", how they overcame their early hurdles, and of course, how they fight! We're also treated to an exclusive Brayden-and-Andy freestyle rap and beatbox performance! Finally, a hilariously chaotic Newlyweds Game you do NOT want to miss! Who knows who better? Watch on to find out!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Welcome To Brayden & Christina!

3:01 - Did Being “Villains” Help Bond Them?

6:27 - The Beginning

9:02 - Brayden’s Near-Death Experience & Subsequent Realizations

16:31 - Contentment & Brayden On His Season

22:12 - How They Complement Each Other

26:35 - How They Fight

37:29 - How Brayden Is So Zen

42:04 - Early Hurdle

49:46 - Common Misconceptions About Their Relationship

52:23 - Beliefs About Relationships That Have Changed Since Finding Each Other

54:51 - The Newlyweds Game

1:12:21 - Brayden Freestyles While Andy Beatboxes!!!!!!!!!!!!

1:16:18 - Shandy Debrief

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Shandy is back with The Bachelor, Season 28 recaps! Today we're breaking down this week's back-to-back episodes, episodes 4 & 5!

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0:00 - Housekeeping

1:15 - Episode 4 Kick Off

3:29 - Lexi’s 1-On-1

17:12 - Evening

8:58 - Group Date

11:27 - Evening

16:04 - The Next Day/2-On-1 Date

26:07 - Evening

29:46 - Rose Ceremony Cocktail Party

36:15 - Episode 5 Kick Off

37:03 - Rose Ceremony

39:58 - Kelsey A’s 1-On-1

41:36 - Evening

43:56 - Group Date

49:10 - Evening

51:16 - Rachel’s 1-On-1

52:10 - Evening

53:36 - The Next Day

53:45 - Rose Ceremony Cocktail Party

1:02:23 - Rose Ceremony

1:02:56 - Andy’s A-Game

1:03:51 - Shandy Word Watch

1:06:20 - Shandy’s Predictions

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For our first Hot Topic episode of 2024, we wanted to shake things up a bit! We often bring on therapists to discuss matters of the mind, but since so many of us struggle with overthinking and analysis paralysis, Sharleen felt it was time for a different conversation. What if we weren't haunted by the choices not chosen, the pros and cons lists, the indecision that keeps us from feeling truly confident in our decisions? What if, instead of attempting to "logic" our way through life, we listened to—gasp!—our *intuition*?

Our guest today is Natalie Miles, acclaimed channel, psychic medium, writer and author of the best selling book “You Are Intuitive. Trust Your Truth. Take Back Your Power.” But whether or not you believe in psychic abilities, this conversation is still for you. Natalie is not here to change your beliefs, but rather to help you tap into your OWN intuitive gifts, the "higher power energy" inside you that is there to guide you towards your truest self and most fulfilled life.

Today, with Natalie's help, we discuss intuition vs instinct, intuition vs hopes/goals, and how to distinguish between intuition and anxious thoughts. She gives us tips on getting out of our head and into our body, explains why Google isn't your friend, and inspires you to notice the part of yourself so many of us have lost touch with. That's right, Shandies, today we're going a bit woo-woo (or as Andy puts it, wee-woo), and we hope you're as inspired by this conversation as we were!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Welcome To Natalie Miles!

4:21 - What Is ∞, this “Higher Power” intuitive energy?

6:30 - Is Everyone Intuitive?

7:33 - Intuition Vs Instinct & Andy On The Woo-Woo Scale

15:29 - How Did Natalie Find Conviction And Come To Trust In Her Own Intuitive Gifts?

20:57 - Are There People With Bad Intuition?

21:53 - How To Distinguish Between Intuition And Anxious Thoughts

29:13 - Where’s The Line Between Trusting Our Intuition And Being “Realistic”?

33:00 - Where’s The Line Between Our Intuition And Our Hopes And Goals?

36:34 - Getting Out Of The Head And Into The Body

39:18 - Googling

43:17 - Dreams

46:00 - Bravery

49:03 - Noticing And Believing

52:14 - Death And Endings

54:20 - Mourning The “Death” Of Paths Not Chosen

56:33 - What Natalie Wants You To Take Away From This Conversation

58:01 - Shandy Debrief

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Shandy is back with The Bachelor, Season 28 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 3.

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0:00 - Housekeeping

3:43 - Episode 3 Kick Off

5:18 - Group Date #1

10:10 - Evening

20:05 - The Next Day

22:17 - Jenn’s 1-On-1

23:42 - Evening

26:58 - Group Date #2

28:23 - Evening

31:20 - Sharleen’s Best Dressed

37:47 - The Next Day/The Pool Party

52:12 - Preview

52:18 - Credits

53:03 - Andy’s A-Game

54:22 - Shandy Word Watch

57:08 - Shandy’s Predictions

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It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! What are Shandy's thoughts on giving it another go with an ex who used to give you The Ick—Is it "Once Ick, Always Ick"? If your generosity with friends feels under appreciated, is it worth bringing up? And if your bestie plans an elaborate Bachelorette party getaway, as a bridesmaid, does not wanting to go make you the A-hole? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Q1: I’m Interested In Trying Again With My Newly Single Ex-Turned-Friend Who Used To Give Me The Ick—Shandy’s Advice?

11:08 - Q2: How Should I Handle My Toxic Ex-Coworker And Her Gossip Mill?

23:36 - Q3: I Was Generous With My Friends But Was Shown Little Appreciation—Who’s The A-Hole Here?

38:04 - Q4: AITA For Not Wanting To Attend An Entire 8-Day Bachelorette Getaway?

46:04 - Q5: I’m Furious My Mother-In-Law Is Backing Out Of A Very Costly Agreement—Help!

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Shandy is back with The Bachelor, Season 28 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 2.

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0:00 - Housekeeping

2:02 - Episode 2 Kick Off

3:56 - Group Date #1

13:09 - Evening

19:49 - Daisy’s 1-On-1

22:08 - Evening

24:20 - Group Date #2

27:17 - Evening

32:15 - The Next Day

34:02 - Rose Ceremony Cocktail Party

45:14 - Rose Ceremony

45:51 - Andy’s A-Game

46:50 - Shandy Word Watch

49:03 - Shandy’s Predictions

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It's Caller Day! Today we're joined by lovely caller Lauren. She's found herself in a longterm, on-and-off yet surprisingly comfortable FWB situation with a "friend". It's time for this to end.... or is it? Is there actually any harm in enjoying the comforts of familiarity? Listen on for the Shandy take!

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Time Stamps:

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20:14 - The Question

22:10 - Shandy Sleuthing

41:13 - Shandy Debrief

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Shandy is back with The Bachelor, Season 28 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 1, aka the big premiere!

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0:00 - Housekeeping

1:09 - Joey

4:06 - Premiere Kick Off

5:57 - Night One

7:40 - Limo Exit Wins/Fails

13:19 - Joey’s Toast

15:38 - Notable 1-On-1 Time

32:42 - Lea & Her “Special Card”

37:27 - Notable 1-On-1 Time, Cont’d

40:17 - First Impression Rose

41:22 - Rose Ceremony

42:29 - Andy’s A-Game

43:38 - Shandy Word Watch

45:05 - Shandy’s Predictions

49:19 - Shandy’s Wild Cards

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It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! In Episode 10, Shandy told a caller not to put "doesn't drink" in her dating profile—3 years and a sober social movement later, have they changed their tune? If your mother-in-law calls just to chat on the phone too often for comfort, how to ease phone-talking anxiety or to lessen the pressure without hurting anyone's feelings? And what if your husband wants to give your baby daughter a middle name you hate? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Introduction

1:27 - Q1: You Once Told A Shandy Not To Put “Doesn’t Drink” In Their Dating Profile—3 Years Later, Do You Still Feel This Way?

8:51 - Q2: My Mother-In-Law Calls Too Often And It Gives Me Anxiety—Help!

27:14 - Q3: My Friend Is Now Married To My Narcissist Ex And I Feel Guilty She’s Ended Up With Him—Help!

38:04 - Q4: My Husband Wants To Honor His Grandmother Using Our Daughter’s Middle Name But I Don’t Like The Name—Help!

49:19 - Q5: My Husband Won’t Watch Rom-Coms With Me!

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Happy 2024, Shandies!!! We're back from our vacation and so excited to be reunited with you! In keeping with tradition, we're kicking off this new year with something special. That's right... today is our 3rd installment of UPDATES! When listening to our caller episodes and Q&As, if you find yourself wondering "where are they now?", today is all about filling in those blanks!

We called out for updates from our question-asking Shandies and many were kind enough to provide their subsequent chapters, the good and the bad! Come join us in the living room where we're on the edge of our seats!

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0:00 - Introduction

1:07 - Episode 42: Caller Maya - https://youtu.be/gwJyzdS8NgM?si=pS0LVXjKgqE091IT

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12:00 - Episode 170: Q5, from Scared of Falling: https://youtu.be/7kVFN__wbAU?si=-uthJ85Sod6YgX64

14:41 - Episode 183: Caller Rosemary - https://youtu.be/pJdsPIfB3es?si=miKOsexlois7Oet4

20:28 - Episode 193: Caller 2, Siobhan - https://youtu.be/4DPlS4HCDLc?si=Qfgi7lzIZCdDeq-7

25:23 - Episode 197: Q3, from Pickle - https://youtu.be/dtHws_MFWho?si=rwsAq2x_UwIWh6zX

35:47 - Episode 218: Q7 from C - https://youtu.be/W0GWXzZwU0c?si=uZ0NTC7aXui3vNmU

39:55 - Episode 239: Q2 from K - https://youtu.be/YvOMD4zBo7A?si=gr2yXkFZ_GKgfuqb

43:47 - Episode 239: Q4 from A - https://youtu.be/YvOMD4zBo7A?si=gr2yXkFZ_GKgfuqb

46:57 - Episode 239: Q5 from A - https://youtu.be/YvOMD4zBo7A?si=gr2yXkFZ_GKgfuqb

51:56 - Episode 263: Q3 from N - https://youtu.be/Ofw1rNoMDiw?si=EjX_gcIlbYVpLaWo

55:15 - Episode 270: Q4 from Anonymous - https://youtu.be/ga4wgRlzIjE?si=WatAdVjOraPqTWaO

1:02:20 - Not An Update But A Shandy Letter

The referenced article written by the Shandy from the final letter:

https://www.today.com/life/essay-life/sign-universe-right-guy-rcna43973https://www.today.com/life/essay-life/sign-universe-right-guy-rcna43973

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It's our last episode of 2023 and today's all about reflecting on past year! We're blending 2 ideas today: keeping with tradition in highlighting our Best Q&As of the year, as well as answering YOUR questions about our personal favorites/bests of 2023. After this, we'll be taking a 2 week break, so we'll see you back here on Jan 11! THANK YOU, Shandies, for another fantastic year of kinship and laughs. We wish you the happiest holiday season and will see you soon! XOXO

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0:00 - Introduction

1:31 - Favorite Book of 2023

3:56 - Favorite Escape Room of 2023

4:52 - Favorite Animal Interaction of 2023

7:07 - BEST OF 2023: Ep 270, Q5: My Boyfriend Sucks At Driving And Wants To Borrow My New Car

18:20 - Favorite Socks of 2023

18:51 - Favorite Beauty Finds of 2023

20:54 - Favorite City Visited in 2023

21:18 - BEST OF 2023: Ep 214, Q2: My Friend Group Imploded Over Pickleball—Help!

37:03 - Favorite Restaurant of 2023

39:33 - Favorite Way We Grew As People in 2023

42:31 - Favorite Outfit of 2023

43:04 - BEST OF 2023: Ep 206, Q7: The Ethics Of Tickling

52:41 - Favorite Green Thumb Tip of 2023

54:10 - Favorite Video Game of 2023

54:23 - Favorite Ad Jingle of 2023

56:32 - BEST OF 2023: Ep 245, Q2: My Boyfriend Wants A Private, Locked Room In Our Shared Home—Thoughts?

1:10:20 - Favorite Movie of 2023

1:12:23 - Favorite Deep Conversation of 2023

1:14:55 - BEST OF 2023: Ep 214, Q5: I’ve Been In An Arranged Marriage For 13 Years & Missed Out On Romance—Help!

1:28:04 - Favorite Moment of Self-Insight of 2023

1:33:21 - Favorite Song We Performed in 2023

1:34:21 - Thank You Shandies!

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It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! Is it acceptable for your best friend to give her boyfriend a key to your shared apartment? For guys wanting to approach women outside the apps, but don't know where to start, Andy gives his 101 tips. Are we all addicted to our phones, and what's an otherwise happily married couple to do when screen time routinely becomes fight time? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Housekeeping

3:34 - Q1: My Roommate Gave Her Boyfriend A Key To Our Shared Apartment—Am I The Asshole For Being Upset?

11:05 - Q2: My Partner Goes Out Partying Late Every Weekend—Am I Being Disrespected?

24:25 - Q3: Shandy’s Advice To Men On How To Approach Women IRL

42:39 - Q4: Our Marriage Is Good But Our Phone Addiction Isn’t—Any Advice?

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Shandy is back with Bachelor in Paradise, Season 9 recaps. Today we're breaking down the grand finale!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Housekeeping

1:45 - Finale Kick Off

5:17 - Kat & John Henry’s Date

11:40 - Back On The Beach

12:57 - Eliza & Aaron B’s Date

14:45 - Back On The Bach

26:24 - The Next Day

28:35 - Kenny & Mari

29:24 - Wedding

32:28 - Rave Wedding Reception

41:16 - The Next Day

41:29 - “Take Time & Think”

43:19 - The Couples Make Or Break

50:21 - Overnights

55:04 - Proposal Day

59:35 - Where Are They Now Montage

1:03:02 - Credits

1:05:00 - Andy’s A-Game

1:06:02 - Who We Would Go For

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Shandy is back with Golden Bachelor recaps! Today we're breaking down the grand FINALE!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Housekeeping

1:05 - Finale Kick Off

1:32 - Theresa Meets Gerry’s Family

2:34 - Evening

3:35 - Leslie Meets Gerry’s Family

10:35 - Evening

25:40 - Live: Leslie

33:05 - Back In Costa Rica 

36:06 - Proposal

37:34 - Shandy’s Bet

40:16 - After The Final Rose

42:05 - Joey

44:32 - Special Announcement

47:50 - Overall Thoughts

50:23 - Shandy Word Watch

52:08 - Reviewing Night One Predictions

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Shandy is back with Bachelor in Paradise, Season 9 recaps. Today we're breaking down episode 9!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Housekeeping

1:37 - Episode 9 Kick Off/Rose Ceremony Cocktail Party

34:55 - Rose Ceremony

40:59 - Credits

42:22 - Andy’s A-Game

45:00 - Who We Would Go For

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It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! Are we ALL pre-date sleuthing one another online, and should you mention what you found to your date? If you're dating someone "perfect", what does it mean when you keep thinking about your ex? And if someone who routinely got in car accidents asked to borrow your new car, what would you say? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Q1: My Pre-Date Googling Revealed Something About My Date—Should I Bring It Up With Him?

12:33 - Q2: My Grandmother Has Passed But Wanted Me To Have Her Wedding Ring—How Do I Bring This Up With Family?

24:23 - Q3: My Boyfriend Is Perfect But I Keep Thinking About My Ex—Help!

39:50 - Q4: We’ve Gone From Friends To Dating To Friends Again—Shandy’s Take?

56:30 - Q5: My Boyfriend Sucks At Driving And Wants To Borrow My New Car

1:06:55 - Announcements

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It's Caller Day! Today we're joined by two lovely callers. It may be very early in their relationship but "C" and her boyfriend are madly in love—would moving in this early on ruin a good thing? Our next caller, Hannah, is childfree by choice, yet her boyfriends never seem to believe her when she says this. Are they all jerks who don't believe a woman when she tells them who she is, or is she the common denominator in the types she's attracting? Listen on for the Shandy take!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Welcome To Caller C!

20:53 - Shandy Debrief

22:59 - Welcome To Caller Hannah!

48:42 - Shandy Debrief

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Shandy is back with Golden Bachelor recaps! Today we're breaking down Fantasy Suite Week!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Housekeeping

1:00 - Episode 8 Kick Off

4:11 - Leslie’s Overnight

5:31 - Evening

15:31 - The Next Morning

18:02 - Theresa’s Overnight

20:02 - Evening

23:48 - The Next Morning

25:22 - Credits

30:07 - Andy’s A-Game

35:15 - Shandy Word Watch

37:49 - Shandy’s Predictions

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Shandy is back with Bachelor in Paradise, Season 9 recaps. Today we're breaking down episode 8!

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0:00 - Housekeeping

2:08 - Episode 8 Kick Off

4:03 - Michael’s Date

4:45 - Back On The Beach

8:38 - Back On The Date

10:24 - Jordan & Tayler

14:13 - Jordan’s Date

16:57 - Evening

36:18 - The Next Day

36:53 - Double Date

38:58 - Katie Thurston

44:49 - Paradise Roast

51:17 - The Next Day

51:22 - Rose Ceremony Cocktail Party

52:54 - Andy’s A-Game

53:18 - Who We Would Go For

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It's a BIG day, Shandies! We've been wanting to pick the lovely Katie Thurston's brain since we first recapped her Bachelorette season 2.5 years ago, and at long last, that day is here. Plus, it's been awhile since we've had a Confessions episode and we're thrilled this former Bachelorette and current star of F-Boy Island could make the time to join us!

Katie's had a very busy and very public last 3 years, so today we talk the ins and outs of watching yourself back on TV, whether contestants behave differently IRL versus on TV, what she's learned about human nature after being on the receiving end of MILLIONS of opinions. What has been the key difference between dating "civilians" versus celebrities, has her notoriety helped or hurt her love life, and has her time on TV changed her personal relationships? And for our longtime Shandies, don't worry, Andy also brings up THOMAS! Multiple times. (See time stamps!)

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Welcome To Katie Thurston!

2:47 - How Has She Navigated Honoring Her Needs While Accommodating Production?

4:49 - The Most Common Misconception About Being The Lead Of A Dating Show

7:06 - Backlash That Has Surprised Her

7:45 - Thomas

8:31 - Have People She Met On TV Been Totally Different IRL?

9:52 - Has She Ever Felt Her Choices Were Misrepresented?

12:51 - What Have The Last 3 Years Taught Her About Herself?

15:00 - What Has She Learned About Human Nature?

17:34 - Resilience

19::49 - Parasocial Relationships

21:45 - Is IRL Dating Easier Or Harder Now?

23:54 - Dating “Civilians” Vs Celebrities

27:03 - Is Dating On TV A Microcosm For Dating IRL?

28:20 - Thomas

29:21 - Would She Always Pick Someone On TV That She Would Have Picked IRL?

30:34 - How Has What She’s Looking For In A Partner Changed?

33:21 - How Notoriety Affects Personal Relationships 

38:30 - Does She Consider Herself A Private Person?

39:18 - In What Ways Is Her Personality Suited To This And In What Ways Is It Not?

43:35 - Would She Have Had The Courage To Pursue Comedy Without All This?

48:53 - One Regret & One Choice She’s Proud Of

51:30 - Blake Moynes

53:22 - Her Social Media Habits

54:26 - True Or False

55:17 - Thomas

56:20 - True Or False, Cont’d

59:02 - Shandy Debrief

1:04:02 - Thomas

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Shandy is back with Golden Bachelor recaps! Today we're breaking down Women Tell All.

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Housekeeping

0:47 - Overall Thoughts

3:56 - Women Tell All Kick Off

7:30 - Unseen Footage

11:32 - Joan’s Hot Seat

18:19 - Ellen’s Hot Seat

23:20 - Gerry

30:25 - Rose Ceremony

34:46 - Faith Hot Seat

39:04 - Bloopers

41:55 - Previews

42:23 - Andy’s A-Game

43:01 - Shandy Word Watch

44:37 - Shandy’s Predictions

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