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It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! If you have a history of staying in relationships longer than you should, what are Shandy's tips on knowing it's time to break up? (Don't miss Andy's tips on the post-breakup withdrawal!) Is it a red flag if your boyfriend of 6 months didn't get you a birthday gift? And when it comes to adult friendships, where's the line between blind loyalty and pursuing the relationships that might fulfill us? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Q1: How Do I Know It’s Really Over & We Shouldn’t Get Back Together?

17:12 - Q2: My Friend Group Imploded Over Pickleball—Help!

31:37 - Q3: My Long Distance Boyfriend Didn’t Get Me A Birthday Gift—Is This A Red Flag?

42:22 - Q4: I’d Like To Befriend My Friend’s Ex-Husband’s New Girlfriend—Would This Make Me Disloyal?

49:46 - Q5: I’ve Been In An Arranged Marriage For 13 Years & Missed Out On Romance—Help!

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Shandy is back with another Love Is Blind, Season 4 recap! Today we're breaking down episodes 6-8, aka Seattle Part 1.

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Housekeeping

3:50 - Episode 6

30:14 - Episode 7

43:48 - Episode 8

1:11:33 - Predictions

1:13:33 - Who We Would Go For

1:13:56 - A Request From Shandy

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It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today we're joined by engineer Ivan Hall (Bachelorette S16 & Bachelor in Paradise S7) and his fiancée, anesthesiologist Tailour Robison. These two *just* got engaged and Tailour has never done a public interview to date, so we're thrilled to get the exclusive on this legit power couple.

Today Ivan and Tailour share how young love can be mature love as well, how they complement each other, how they fight, and they even prove Shandy wrong on the adage "you break up because it's broken"! Finally, a hilariously academic Newlyweds Game that has Andy on the edge of his seat even more than usual. Who knows who better? Watch on to find out!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Welcome To Ivan And Tailour!

3:50 - How They Met

8:49 - Did Tailour Watch Ivan On TV?

11:18 - Considering Their History, What Are Their Thoughts On “You Broke Up Because It was Broken”

13:25 - First Impressions

20:43 - How They Complement Each Other

25:10 - Did Going On The Show Bring Ivan Out Of His Shell?

27:15 - Early Hurdle

29:53 - How They Fight

36:18 - Was There A Moment When They “Knew”? Do They Believe In “The One”?

41:06 - Any Beliefs About Relationships That Have Changed

44:42 - Is The Plane Ivan Is Working On The Plane From ‘Top Gun: Maverick’?

49:50 - The Newlyweds Game

1:07:20 - Shandy Debrief

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Shandy is back with another Love Is Blind, Season 4 recap! Today we're breaking down episodes 4 and 5, aka MEXICO.

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Intro

0:46 - Episode 4

39:34 - Episode 5

1:14:53 - Predictions

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Today's Hot Topic will likely resonate with many a Shandy. If you struggle with perfectionism, your inner critic, feeling the need to prove yourself, and/or analysis paralysis, this conversation is a must. We're joined by Homaira Kabir, author of ‘Goodbye Perfect: How To Stop Pleasing, Proving and Pushing For Others… and Live For Yourself’, whose career is built on the research of how you (yes, you!) can flourish. Today we cover everything from the difference between being a perfectionist and just having high standards, how to not grow resentful when others can't live up to your "perfect" ideals, whether or not perfectionism equates to competitiveness, how not to raise perfectionist children, and how our purpose ties into all of the above. This one really tugged on Sharleen's heart strings and she thinks it will speak to you, too. Listen on for a lesson in letting go...

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Welcome To Homaira Kabir!

3:48 - What Are Optimal Confidence and Fragile Confidence?

6:42 - Can We Have Fragile Confidence In Some Parts Of Our Lives And Optimal Confidence In Others?

9:30 - Since So Much Is Programmed Into Us As Infants, How Much Free Will Do We Even Have?

13:35 - What Are We Looking For When We Put So Much Out There And Are Disappointed By The Response?

16:05 - Is To Desire Perfection To Live In The Past?

19:30 - Is Perfectionism a Result Of Nature Or Nurture?

21:42 - How To Avoid Passing On This Trait To Children

22:58 - Are Perfectionists Trapped In The Wrong Gear?

26:53 - Is To Be A Perfectionist To Either Competitive Or Envious?

28:23 - Is It Possible To Keep The Benefits Of Perfectionism While Letting Go Of The Rest Or Is It All Or Nothing?

31:07 - What’s The Difference Between Perfectionism And High Standards?

33:22 - How Can One a) Not Put Their Perfect Ideals On Their Partner, and b) Not Resent Them For It

38:43 - What’s The Driving Force Behind Perfectionism? (Including Another Discussion About Shame!)

 44:20 - Advice For Those Who Logically Know Perfectionism Isn’t Their Friend But Still Feel It’s Part Of Their Identity 

48:33 - Tips For Those Who Suffer From Analysis Paralysis

55:07 - How Does One’s “Purpose” Play Into All This?

1:00:03 - What Would She Like Your Takeaway From This Conversation To Be?

1:02:27 - Shandy Debrief

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Shandy is back with something new! By very popular demand, Shandy is testing the waters with recapping the 4th season of the hit show Love Is Blind. Today, in addition to a recap, we're also sharing our first impressions of the show. Listen on for episodes 1-3 (+ a few minutes), aka THE PODS.

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Housekeeping

1:44 - Episode 1

33:04 - Episode 2

1:00:15 - Episode 3

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It's Caller Day! Today we're joined by caller Sarah, whose ex broke things off around 6 months ago. While things ended with a lot of question marks on Sarah's end, he did tell her he'd like to remain friends. Should Sarah take his recent text as a sign to embark on a platonic friendship? Listen on for the Shandy take!

Time Stamps:

0:00 - Welcome To Caller Sarah!

11:32 - Shandy Sleuthing

37:06 - Shandy Debrief

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Shandy is back with The Bachelor, Season 27 recaps! Today we're breaking down the grand finale!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Housekeeping

2:09 - Finale Kick Off

2:59 - Live: Ariel

5:42 - Back In Thailand

7:26 - Gabi Meets Zach’s Family

11:31 - Kaity Meets Zach’s Family

13:57 - Kaity’s Last Chance Date

21:10 - Evening

24:08 - Gabi’s Last Chance Date

27:23 - Evening

29:53 - Live: It’s Sean Lowe Time

32:24 - Back In Thailand

33:06 - Proposal Day: Gabi

40:54 - Live: Gabi

44:29 - Zach Joins

49:58 - Proposal Day: Kaity

50:49 - Live: Zach & Kaity

56:29 - Reviewing Night One Predictions

57:56 - Charity’s Season Preview

59:23 - Shandy Word Watch

1:00:13 - Special Announcement

1:01:15 - Special Surprise

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It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! If you've had a missed connection with someone who no longer seems to check the dating app, is it creepy to reach out on an outside platform? Is it ever OK to ask a single friend to be their plus-one to a mutual friend's wedding? And is tickling your partner a form of endearment or a form of torture? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Q1: My Match Isn’t Checking The Dating App—What’s The Least Creepy Way to Reach Out?

5:38 - Q2: Is It OK To Ask A Single Friend To Be Their Plus-One To A Mutual Friend’s Wedding?

19:16 - Q3: His List Of Wants In The First 1.5 Months Of Dating Have Me Wondering: Is He A Risk?

26:39 - Q4: Did We Accidentally Schedule An Orgy? 

34:30 - Q5: I Love My Boyfriend But Not His Male Pattern Baldness—How Can I Get Him To Shave His Head?

45:18 - Q6: My Ex-Husband Is My Best Friend—Is This Holding Me Back From Finding A New Romantic Connection?

53:18 - Q7: Shandy Weighs In On The Ethics Of Tickling

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Shandy is back with The Bachelor, Season 27 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 9, aka Fantasy Suite Week!

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0:00 - Housekeeping

1:20 - Episode 9 Kick Off

4:36 - Ariel’s Overnight

7:37 - Evening

12:26 - The Next Day

12:42 - Gabi’s Overnight

20:37 - Evening

25:02 - The Next Day

26:53 - Zach Is Honest

36:52 - Kaity’s Overnight

52:06 - Evening

54:13 - Rose Ceremony

59:43 - Credits

1:00:37 - Andy’s A Game

1:01:46 - Shandy Word Watch

1:05:43 - Predictions

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It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today we're joined by Bachelor Franchise power couple Danielle Maltby (Bachelor S21) and Michael Allio (Bachelorette S17), whom you watched meet on Bachelor In Paradise S8! We're happy to report that not only is this a Love Fest of legend, but our producer Gabby even called it one of her ALL TIME favorites (and trust us, she's picky!)

Today Danielle and Michael join Shandy to share how and why their relationship has blossomed post-show, how they complement each other, and of course, how they fight! There are also countless tangent gems covering everything from imposter syndrome to thoughts on what *really* matters in life. Finally, a Newlyweds Game that is flagrantly disrespected by its players to the point where Shandy has no choice but to show them who's boss. Who knows who better? Watch on to find out!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Welcome To Danielle & Michael!

14:54 - Was There Anything They Think Viewers Missed Out On With Their Love Story

20:37 - Traits They’ve Learned About One Another Post-Show

25:26 - How Their First Impressions Have Changed

30:17 - How They Complement Each Other

40:03 - When Did Michael “Know”

46:15 - Early Hurdle

53:14 - How They Fight

1:06:53 - The Dear Shandy Newlyweds Game

1:22:22 - Shandy Debrief

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Shandy is back with The Bachelor, Season 27 recaps! Today we're breaking down Women Tell All!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Housekeeping

0:42 - Women Tell All Kick Off

4:19 - Christina Mandrell

7:53 - Anastasia vs Everyone

10:57 - Katherine vs Brooklyn

14:33 - Jess’ Hot Seat

18:04 - Greer’s Hot Seat

22:24 - Katherine’s Hot Seat

24:37 - Charity’s Hot Seat

27:05 - Unseen Footage

29:34 - Zach

32:09 - Bloopers

34:36 - Bachelorette Announcement

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Shandy is back with The Bachelor, Season 27 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 8, aka Hometown Week!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Housekeeping

1:05 - Episode 8 Kick Off

2:14 - Gabi’s Hometown

5:11 - Evening

9:23 - Ariel’s Hometown

20:30 - Evening

25:07 - Charity’s Hometown

30:00 - Evening

30:57 - Katie’s Hometown

35:51 - Evening

44:26 - Sean Lowe

47:17 - Rose Ceremony

50:40 - Credits

52:29 - Andy’s A-Game

53:12 - Shandy Word Watch

56:24 - Predictions

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It's Caller Day! Today we're joined by caller Nina who has found herself in the early stages of a situationship and wants to "suss out" her next move. Is there a potential future here or is she just wearing a pretty pair of rose-colored glasses? Listen on for the Shandy take!

Time Stamps:

0:00 - Welcome To Caller Nina!

15:12 - Shandy Sleuthing

38:45 - Shandy Debrief

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Shandy is back with The Bachelor, Season 27 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 7.

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2:58 - Episode 7 Kick Off

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7:35 - Evening

11:26 - Group Date

22:00 - Evening

29:57 - Greer Time

39:13 - Brooklyn’s 1-On-1

46:58 - Evening

50:36 - Rose Ceremony

1:02:26 - Credits

1:02:33 - Andy’s A-Game

1:03:10 - Shandy Word Watch

1:05:13 - Predictions

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Today's Hot Topic dives deep into the world of open relationships! We're joined by author and ghostwriter Emily Gindlesparger, who not only opened her own relationship years ago but discovered her own bisexuality throughout the process. Her new memoir, "Please Make Me Love Me", describes her journey from traditional, straight monogamist to becoming polyamorous with multiple serious girlfriends. Today she shares how she shed her jealousy once and for all, the impact an open relationship had on her primary partnership, the challenges of logistics, and her advice to couples interested in non-monogamy. Emily manages to answer a TON of questions thoughtfully and succinctly, so if you've ever been curious about exploring polyamory—or are just curious how others manage it!—this conversation is for you.

More Emily:

- The Book, "Please Make Me Love Me": https://amzn.to/3Zwrhfz

- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/emilygindle

- Website: https://www.emilygindlesparger.com

Referenced Links And Books:

More Than Two - https://www.morethantwo.com

Esther Perel’s “The State Of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity” - https://amzn.to/3SDhO43

Jessica Fern’s “Polysecure” - https://amzn.to/3ZuwKU5

Time Stamps:

0:00 - Welcome To Emily Gindlesparger!

1:47 - What Do People Most Commonly Ask When They Learn She’s Written A Memoir About Open Relationships And Discovering She’s Queer

3:27 - Was There A Moment Where She Went From Jealous To Non-Jealous

7:06 - Would She Say The More She Leaned Into What Was Making Her Jealous, The Less Jealous She Became

8:16 - Did Jealous Get Flipped On Its Head To Where She Found It Enjoyable

10:43 - What Made Her And Her Partner Decide To Disclose Everything To Each Other (Versus “I Don’t Want To Know”)

14:02 - Did They Ever Fight About This

15:06 - How Much Of Her Decision To Open The Relationship Stemmed From A Desire To Live Life To The Fullest Versus Wanting To Explore Her Sexuality

19:42 - What Does She Think Is The Most Common Misconception About Open Relationships

22:41 - Is It Worth Bringing Up That You Want An Open Relationship If You Know Your Partner Is Deeply Monogamous

24:33 - Does She Believe One-Way Open Relationships Can Work

26:59 - What Advice Would She Give To Someone Whose Partner Wants To Open The Relationship

28:27 - Would She Have Ever Opened Her Relationship Had She Been In A Different Community

30:47 - Is A “Logistical Toll” Part And Parcel With Maintaining Open Relationships

33:06 - What’s Easier: Monogamy Or Polyamory

34:54 - Let’s Say A Couple Wants To Open Things Up—Where To Start

39:43 - When Did She Realize She Wasn’t 100% Straight

43:31 - What Advice Would She Give Her Younger Self On The Topic Of Her Sexuality

45:31 - Does She Consider It A Shame To *Not* Explore One’s Bisexuality

48:32 - Would She And Her Partner Even Open Things Up Again

51:17 - Did She Tell Her Family And If So, Why

54:41 - What Self Work Does She Recommend For Those Contemplating Opening Their Relationship

58:05 - Shandy Debrief 

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Shandy is back with The Bachelor, Season 27 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 6.

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Housekeeping

2:23 - Episode 6 Kick Off

7:45 - Charity’s 1-On-1

19:10 - Evening

22:54 - Group Date Card

24:05 - The Next Day

24:17 - Group Date

27:19 - Evening

40:19 - Flashpoint

46:37 - Ariel’s 1-On-1

51:58 - Afternoon

54:56 - Rose Ceremony Cocktail Party

1:00:34 - Rose Ceremony

1:01:36 - Credits

1:02:30 - Andy’s A-Game

1:02:49 - Shandy Word Watch

1:04:29 - Predictions

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It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! If your romantic proposal was underwhelming at best, is there any way to fix it? Is what feels like a Hallmark Love Story to good to be true? And, as The Mistress, just how long is too long to wait for him? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take! 

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Q1: I Never Got My Romantic Proposal—How Can I Fix This?

9:11 - Q2: Am I The (Oblivious) Asshole?

19:36 - Q3: Am I Crazy To Consider Moving For This Hallmark Christmas Love Story?

32:40 - Q4: I’m Seeking Advice On How To End A Friendship

42:43 - Q5: I’m The Mistress—How Long Should I Wait For Him?

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Shandy is back with The Bachelor, Season 27 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 5.

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Housekeeping

2:44 - Episode 5 Kick Off

4:50 - Gabi’s 1-On-1

7:36 - Evening At The Hotel

11:38 - Evening On The Date

21:12 - Group Date

26:13 - Evening

27:11 - The Next Day

28:42 - Evening

30:03 - Virtual Cocktail Party

48:27 - Virtual Rose Ceremony

52:29 - Credits

55:05 - Andy’s A-Game

55:33 - Shandy Word Watch

57:57 - Predictions

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It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today we're joined by Bachelor icon Chris Bukowski (Bachelorette S8; Bachelor Pad S3; BIP S1, S2, S6) and Anna Redman (Bachelor S25; BIP S7), who join us from their shared home in Chicago. Shandy has known Chris for years and are delighted to catch up with him and meet lovely Anna in today's double date.

Today Chris and Anna join Shandy to share how fellow Bachelor alums set them up, how they complement one another, whether or not "villain-y" has helped them connect, what they play on game nights (and who wins), and of course, how they FIGHT! Finally, a particularly entertaining nail biter of a Newlyweds Game. Who knows who better? Watch on to find out!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Welcome To Anna And Chris!

2:14 - How They Met

4:21 - How Familiar With Each Other Were They?

9:35 - First Impressions

15:12 - How They Complement Each Other

18:36 - The Biggest Misconception About Their Relationship

21:00 - Does Being Former “Villains” Help Them Relate To Each Other?

24:20 - How They Fight

28:14 - What’s Different About This Partnership Versus Past Ones That Makes It Successful?

29:46 - Early Hurdle

34:43 - Beliefs About Relationships That Have Changed

37:46 - Rapid Fire True/False

38:47 - The Newlyweds Game

1:00:37 - Shandy Debrief

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Shandy is back with The Bachelor, Season 27 recaps! Today, for the first time ever, we're joined by guests for a recap: Claire and Emma of the Love To See It podcast help us break down episode 3.

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Welcome To Claire & Emma

1:45 - Episode 4 Kick Off

7:00 - Kat’s 1-On-1

9:00 - Evening At The Mansion

16:40 - Evening On The Date

25:52 - Group Date

34:02 - Evening

51:40 - Brooklyn’s 1-On-1

52:50 - Evening

56:03 - The Next Day

56:32 - Rose Ceremony Cocktail Party

1:06:05 - Rose Ceremony

1:08:27 - Credits

1:09:57 - Andy’s A-Game

1:11:50 - Shandy Word Watch

1:14:18 - Predictions

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It's Caller Day! Today we're joined by two lovely callers! Our first caller, Michelle, is frustrated with members of her core friend group routinely bringing their significant others to Girls Night. Is this something she can actually address without causing a rift, and if so, how? Caller Siobhan was with her ex for 6 months but is left scratching her head over what even happened. How can two people see the same relationship so differently, and what should she have done differently? Brutal Andy honesty ensues. Listen on for the Shandy take!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Welcome To Caller Michelle!

23:16 - Shandy Debrief

33:02 - Welcome To Caller Siobhan!

40:22 - Shandy Sleuthing

1:06:54 - Shandy Debrief

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Shandy is back with The Bachelor, Season 27 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 3.

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Housekeeping

1:38 - Episode 3 Kick Off

4:50 - Kaity’s 1-On-1

6:04 - Evening

12:30 - The Next Day

13:11 - Group Date

19:54 - Evening

34:36 - Aly’s 1-On-1

36:34 - Evening

39:29 - The Next Day/Pool Party

53:03 - Rose Ceremony

59:47 - Credits

1:00:54 - Andy’s A-Game

1:01:28 - Shandy Word Watch

1:04:18 - Predictions

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Today's Hot Topic delves into the fascinating world of professional matchmaking! We're joined by 4th generation matchmaker Maria Avgitidis—aka the famed "Matchmaker Maria". Maria is the founder and CEO of award-winning Agape Match, the exclusive NYC-based matchmaking service with a whopping 93% success rate. Ever wonder what a matchmaker would give you as "homework", what demographic makes the hardest client to match, what it costs to hire a matchmaker, or what tops men's and women's lists of desires? Maria pulls back the curtain on this generations-old industry and we promise you'll leave, as Shandy puts it, "enlightened"!

More Maria:

- Agape Match: https://agapematch.com

- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/matchmakermaria

- Ask A Matchmaker Podcast: https://plinkhq.com/i/1521530338?to=page

Time Stamps:

0:00 - Welcome To Maria Avgitidis Pyrgiotakis!

1:52 - Why Matchmaking?

4:42 - Are We Searching For Functionality & How To Branch Out

7:10 - Is There A Higher Likelihood Of Any Particular Religions/Cultures That Seek Matchmaking?

9:55 - Can People From Very Different Religions Or Cultures Be A Good Match?

14:28 - Does She Work With More Men Vs Women & How Do Clients Come Her Way?

16:48 - In General, Which Demographic Is The Hardest To Work With?

23:03 - Matchmaking Costs Money—How Is This Reflected In Her Clientele?

25:22 - Is She Ever Tempted To Take On Clients For Free?

35:18 - Top 3 Things Men Are Looking For

40:55 - Top 3 Things Women Are Looking For

46:28 - How Swipe Culture Has Affected Dating And Has It Affected Her Business

50:02 - Standy Debrief

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Shandy is back with The Bachelor, Season 27 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 2.

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Housekeeping

1:23 - Episode 2 Kick Off

3:34 - Group Date #1

7:32 - Evening

14:48 - The Next Day

15:40 - Christina Mandrell’s 1-On-1

30:56 - Group Date #2

40:38 - The Next Day

41:35 - Rose Ceremony Cocktail Party

1:00:50 - Rose Ceremony

1:01:14 - Credits

1:01:53 - Andy’s A-Game

1:05:03 - Shandy Word Watch

1:06:42 - Predictions

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It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! If a guy won't commit until after sex, is that a red flag? When someone cancels a date, what's the statistical likelihood that their excuse is a lie? And if your brother and best friend showed up at Christmas, hand in hand and without warning, what would you do? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take! 

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0:00 - Q1: The Guy I’m Interested In Won’t Commit Until We Sleep Together—Is This Normal?

14:16 - Q2: When A Date Cancels, What’s The Statistical Likelihood That Their Excuse Is A Lie?

26:57 - Q3: My Brother Showed Up To Family Christmas With My Best Friend On His Arm—Help!

37:44 - Q4: I’m In Love With A Man 28 Years Older—Am I Wasting My Youth? 

1:08:42 - Q5: My Ex And I Have Remained Friends But His New Relationship Is Affecting Me—Does This Mean I Still Have Feelings And Should Cut Ties?

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Shandy is back with The Bachelor, Season 27 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 1, aka the big premiere.

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Housekeeping

1:32 - Overall Thoughts On Episode 1

1:41 - Episode 1 Kick Off

6:46 - Intro Videos

11:30 - Limo Exit Wins/Fails

21:06 - Zach’s Toast

26:03 - Notable 1-On-1 Time

37:14 - Madison

38:18 - 1-On-1 Time, Cont’d

40:12 - First Impression Rose

45:51 - Madison, Cont’d

49:22 - Rose Ceremony

50:08 - Credits

50:18 - Andy’s A-Game

51:49 - Shandy Word Watch

52:47 - Predictions

57:29 - Wild Cards

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It's Caller Day! Today we're joined by lovely caller Emily, who has found herself in a platonic friendship with her ex for whom she still harbors romantic feelings. His ED also played a part in their relationship and breakup. Should she believe there's a future for them? Listen on for the Shandy take!

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Ask and you shall receive! For literal YEARS you've been asking "where are they now?" when it comes to our Shandies' quandaries, and today's the day we find out! This episode includes all updates that have not already been shared on Instagram Reels, and in typical Shandy fashion, updated commentary and analogies. Come join us in the living room where we're on the edge of our seats!

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0:00 - Introduction

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7:21 - Episode 28: Q2, From Danielle - https://youtu.be/z75XlTPG9XI

10:44 - Episode 28: Q3, From Cassandra - https://youtu.be/z75XlTPG9XI

14:11 - Episode 45: Q3, From Urszula - https://youtu.be/JeX3_ZPUQfM

22:56 - Episode 57: Caller Dayna - https://youtu.be/77fO41yQO6Q

30:15 - Episode 114: Caller Anna - https://youtu.be/EIuFdyyB2dc

35:01 - Episode 130: Caller Kelsey - https://youtu.be/eFFakWC0zgU

41:06 - Episode 133: Q2, From Anonymous - https://youtu.be/H8ul2qEWrOQ

56:18 - Episode 137: Q3, From Tina - https://youtu.be/ANzS4y7vTGI

1:00:54 - Episode 146: Q2, From P - https://youtu.be/ygmeFYPyYMk

1:09:04 - Episode 154: Q4, From An Embarrassed Shandy - https://youtu.be/qyYKy-XiJ1A

1:12:57 - Episode 158: Caller Hanna - https://youtu.be/f5zKwVHMvLw

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Due to an unexpected change in Sharleen's singing schedule, today's episode contains two Dear Shandy firsts: 1) we're recording remotely, and 2) we're breaking down our personal "greatest hits" Q&As of 2022! We recap and air our favorite Q&As of the year and explain why they stood out to us (and whether or not we'd answer differently). This will be our last episode of 2022 and we'll be taking a 2 week break, so we'll see you back here on Jan 12! THANK YOU, Shandies, for another great year of kindness, analogies, weirdness, specificity, and laughs. We adore you and hope you have the happiest of holidays! xoxo

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0:00 - Intro

2:55 - Ep 133, Q2 - Anonymous

18:57 - Ep 125, Q5 - from S

38:51 - Ep 137, Q3 - from Tina

53:04 - Ep 154, Q4 - from An Embarrassed Shandy

1:07:44 - Ep 170, Q3 - from H

1:41:26 - Ep 146, Q3 - from C

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It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! How much should you consider an ex's feelings when dating within the same circles? Is the opposite of hate truly indifference, and if so, does my partner "hating" his ex mean he isn't over her? And one Shandy requests that Shandy "snaps her out of" her 1.5 situationship—will they oblige? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take! 

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0:00 - Q1: I Have A Crush On My Tour Guide—Should I Make A Move?

7:20 - Q2: My Guy Feels Hatred For His Ex—Will He Ever Get Over Her?

21:04 - Q3: How Much Should I Consider My Ex’s Feelings When Considering Dating In His Circle?

33:22 - Q4: My Normally Gentle Boyfriend Showed A Flare Of Anger Towards Me—Is This A Red Flag?

53:31 - Q5: The Guy I’ve Been Seeing For 1.5 Years Won’t Commit—Snap Me Out Of It?

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It's Caller Day! Today we're joined by lovely caller Rosemary who has been with her partner for 2.5 years. The two always thought they might be open to non-monogamy one day, but she's suddenly faced with the reality of that idea and isn't sure what to do. Should she lay down the law and wait for circumstances to be just right, or is there never a "just right" circumstance and should she take the plunge? Listen on for the Shandy take!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Welcome To Caller Rosemary!

52:17 - Shandy Debrief

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It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! When timing doesn't feel like your friend, should you send a "If you're single in the future" message? Is it wrong to be turned off that your boyfriend lives with his mom? If your partner's dying to dance with you but you're uncomfortable on the dance floor, who's got to give? And don't pretend it hasn't happened to you: when you send the wrong text to the wrong person... 😱 Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take!

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0:00 - Q1: Is It Ever A Good Idea To Send A “If You’re Single In The Future” Message?

8:39 - Q2: This Guy Keeps Ghosting, Then Explaining—Am I Being Too Forgiving?

23:18 - Q3: I Dislike That My Boyfriend Still Lives With His Mother—Am I Being Judgy?

35:58 - Q4: I Accidentally Sent A Venting Text To The Person I Was Venting About—Help!

1:01:10 - Q5: My Boyfriend Loves To Dance But I Do NOT—Help!

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Today's Hot Topic is one that has been a loooong time coming. We're joined by bestselling author, professor, and psychologist Dr. Marisa G Franco. Having written "Platonic: How The Science Of Attachment Can Help You Make—And Keep—Friends", Marisa is particularly well equipped to help us tackle the complicated world of platonic friendships. If you struggle when it comes to friendships, or you'd like more friends but don't know how to get started, or feel like you're doing all the work in your friendships, OR perhaps you'd like to end a toxic friendship.... let's just say this conversation is for you.

More Marisa:

Book: Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make—and—Keep Friends

Instagram: DrMarisaGFranco

Website: www.DrMarisaGFranco.com (take a quiz to assess your strengths and weaknesses as a friend!)

Time Stamps:

0:00 - Welcome To Dr. Marisa G Franco!

1:25 - What Inspired Her To Write A Book On Platonic Friendship

3:15 - Biggest Thing She Learned About Herself In Writing “Platonic”

7:25 - The Most Surprising Fact About Platonic Relationships

9:48 - Attachment Styles

12:35 - How To Make New Friends

24:55 - Is She An Introvert Or Extrovert?

26:01 - How To Maintain Long Distance Friendships

27:24 - Does Our Easy Access Culture Affect Our Friendships?

31:18 - What If It Feels Like You’re Doing All The Work?

35:02 - Vice Versa

36:49 - When You’re The Connector But End Up Feeling Left Out

40:45 - Can You Be Friends With Someone You’re Attracted To?

45:22 - The Proper Way To End A Toxic Friendship

49:29 - Is It Ever OK To Power Fade A Friendship?

52:23 - How To Maintain Friendships When Your Lives Are Heading In Different Directions

55:25 - Script For How To Turn An Acquaintance Into A Friend

56:06 - How To Deal With A Friend Who Constantly Copies You

58:38 - Shandy Debrief

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Shandy is back with Bachelor In Paradise Season 8 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 16, aka the finale part 2!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Housekeeping

1:28 - Overall Thoughts On Episode 16

3:27 - Reunion

23:45 - Tyler & Brittany

29:32 - Michael & Danielle

34:57 - Johnny & Victoria

1:03:40 - Brandon & Serene

1:09:27 - Credits

1:10:02 - Andy’s A-Game

1:10:40 - Shandy Word Watch

1:11:56 - Who We Would Go For

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Shandy is back with Bachelor In Paradise Season 8 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 15, aka the finale part 1!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Housekeeping

1:32 - Overall Thoughts On Episode 15

2:22 - Episode 15 Kick Off

3:36 - Evening

6:03 - Rose Ceremony

15:40 - The Next Day

37:33 - The Final Couples

41:32 - Overnight Dates

46:19 - Credits

46:36 - Andy’s A-Game

48:24 - Shandy Word Watch

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It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today we're joined by Ben Zorn (The Bachelorette Season 11, Bachelor In Paradise Season 4) and his lovely wife Stacy Santilena. To say Shandy enjoyed getting to know these two is a massive understatement (in the words of Sharleen afterwards: "I want to be friends with them.")

Today Ben and Stacy join Shandy to share how they went from "just friends" to married with a baby, how they overcame a very relatable early hurdle, Stacy's journey from believing she didn't want kids to wholeheartedly loving their son Logan, and of course, how they FIGHT! Finally, an unprecedented Dear Shandy Newlyweds Game that will BLOW YOU AWAY. Who knows who better? Watch on to find out!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Welcome To Ben & Stacey!

0:46 - How They Met

7:32 - First Impressions

19:24 - How They Began Dating (After Friendship)

30:18 - Stacey’s Thoughts On Ben On The Show

32:00 - How They Complement Each Other

33:31 - Early Hurdle

40:04 - How They Fight

44:21 - How Parenthood Has Changed Their Relationship

54:16 - Relationship Beliefs That Have Changed

1:02:15 - The Dear Shandy Newlyweds Game

1:21:21 - Shandy Debrief

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Shandy is back with Bachelor In Paradise Season 8 recaps! Today we're breaking down episodes 13 & 14!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Housekeeping

0:46 - Overall Thoughts On Episodes 13 & 14

0:54 - Word Watch Disclaimer

1:30 - Episode 13 Kick Off

4:44 - Baltimore

9:33 - Back On The Beach

14:20 - Evening

15:07 - Mara’s Date With Justin

15:29 - Back On The Beach

28:10 - The Next Day

36:53 - Ency’s Date With Andrew

37:45 - Back On The Beach

38:58 - Credits

39:05 - Episode 14 Kick Off

43:50 - Evening

45:40 - The Mic Room

55:22 - Tyler’s Date With Brittany

57:14 - The Next Day

1:01:08 - Sadie Hawkins Dance

1:16:09 - Credits

1:16:38 - Andy’s A-Game

1:18:24 - Shandy Word Watch

1:20:29 - Who We Would Go For

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It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! Is it wrong to vent to others about your partner? Is it worth revisiting things with an old flame? And a sticky "Am I The Asshole?" question! Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take! 

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0:00 - Q1: Is It Wrong To Vent To Others About My Partner?

14:21 - Q2: I Ran Into An Old Flame And There Was Chemistry—Worth Revisiting?

24:58 - Q3: Am I The Asshole?

33:42 - Q4: I Know She’s Not The One But Logistics Are Complicated—Should I End It?

40:35 - Q5: My Partner And I Can’t Agree On TV—Who Should Give?

48:13 - Q6: I Want To Rename My 6-Year Old Cat—Yay Or Nay?

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Shandy is back with Bachelor In Paradise Season 8 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 12!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Housekeeping

1:52 - Episode 12 Kick Off/Evening

6:51 - The Next Day

13:33 - Rose Ceremony Cocktail Party

26:07 - Rose Ceremony

34:52 - The Next Day

37:19 - Michael’s Date With Danielle

44:01 - Back At The Beach

52:04 - Eliza Heads To Baltimore

53:39 - Credits

53:50 - Andy’s A-Game

54:46 - Shandy Word Watch

56:05 - Who We Would Go For

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It's Caller Day! Today we're joined by lovely caller Elizabeth who has quite the complicated high school sweetheart story that ended in her breaking the guy's heart. Fast forward to 5+ years later and he's still on her mind—but is she on his? And if so, is it worth closing the distance and potentially becoming the "other woman" to pursue, or are some things better left in the past? Listen on for the Shandy take!

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0:00 - Welcome To Caller Elizabeth!

48:00 - Shandy Debrief

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Shandy is back with Bachelor In Paradise Season 8 recaps! Today we're breaking down episodes 10 and 11!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Housekeeping

0:59 - Overall Thoughts On Episodes 10 & 11

1:56 - Episode 10 Kick Off

3:50 - Rose Ceremony Cocktail Party

8:33 - Rose Ceremony

9:39 - The Next Day

10:43 - Victoria’s Date With Johnny

12:55 - Justin

24:06 - Shandy Roleplay

33:30 - Justin’s Date With Eliza

35:32 - Credits

36:46 - Episode 11 Kick Off

36:54 - Hayden

43:20 - The Next Day

43:56 - Hayden’s Date With Kate

46:36 - Back On The Beach

54:22 - Joey And Justin

55:35 - Double Date

59:44 - Aaron & Genevieve

1:13:12 - Credits

1:14:49 - Shandy Word Watch

1:16:53 - Who We Would Go For

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Today's Hot Topic theme addresses the relationship you have with yourself—your deepest desires, your beliefs, and what might be getting in the way of your own goals and happiness. Our guest, Roxie Nafousi, wrote THE book on manifesting and has been hailed “the manifesting queen” by Forbes and “the face of manifesting” by The Times. While the idea of manifesting might seem surprising for longtime Shandies, we were truly blown away by the ideas and perspectives Roxie shared in this delightful conversation. If you've ever felt your dreams were too lofty or have struggled with fear and imposter syndrome, trust us, this episode's for you.

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Welcome To Roxie Nafousi!

1:13 - What Motivated Her To Write A Book About Manifesting

4:52 - What Is Manifesting And How Is It Scientific?

8:31 - What Are The Top Misconceptions About Manifesting?

11:22 - Is The Term “Manifesting” Overused?

12:53 - How Should One Get Started?

19:38 - Sharleen’s Q: What If You Don’t Even Know What You Want?

25:33 - Andy’s Q: What About Misdirected Talent?

30:59 - Are There Certain Areas Of Life That Are “Easier” To Manifest?

33:40 - How Does She Reconcile Manifesting And The Adage “You’ll Find It When You Stop Looking”?

37:59 - Thoughts On Realism, Entitlement, And Toxic Positivity

44:28 - What About True Skeptics?

45:56 - Tips For Recovering When What You Manifested Didn’t Come To Be?

51:31 - How Do You Know What You *Think* You Want Will Actually Make You Happy?

54:00 - If There’s One Takeaway She Wishes The Shandies Would Have From This Conversation, What Would It Be?

56:09 - Shandy Debrief

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Shandy is back with Bachelor In Paradise Season 8 recaps! Today we're breaking down episodes 8 and 9!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Housekeeping

1:12 - Overall Thoughts On Episodes 8 & 9

1:42 - Episode 8 Kick Off

8:03 - The Next Day

11:48 - Andy’s Question For The Shandies

27:38 - Kate’s Date With Logan

34:13 - Victoria’s Date With Alex

40:40 - Brittany And Tyler

45:22 - Shanae

46:32 - Credits

46:54 - Episode 9 Kick Off

50:23 - Genevieve Returns To The Beach

51:49 - Shanae And Logan

1:00:47 - Kate Versus Shanae

1:02:49 - Jill And Jacob

1:06:50 - Brittany

1:07:35 - Serene And Brandon

1:08:14 - Victoria And Johnny

1:19:13 - Evening

1:22:10 - Credits

1:22:19 - Andy’s A-Game

1:22:46 - Shandy Word Watch

1:24:24 - Who We Would Go For

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It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! What should you do if you've always dreamed of living elsewhere but your partner has no interest in moving? If your baby name is stolen by someone close to you, is it cause for confrontation? And is refusing to put down the toilet seat a simple act of laziness or a sign of something more? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take! 

0:00 - Q1: I’m Secretly Dating My Brother’s Friend After He Explicitly Told Me Not To—How Should I Proceed?

7:52 - Q2: I've Long Dreamed Of Moving But My Partner Has No Interest—Help!

21:25 - Q3: My Brother-In-Law Used Our Baby Name For His Dog—Should I Just Get Over It? 

51:59 - Q4: My Husband’s Vocal Fry Drives Me Up The Wall—Should I Mention It?

1:02:04 - Q5: My New Guy Actively Refuses To Put Down The Toilet Seat—Should I Be Concerned? 

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Shandy is back with Bachelor In Paradise Season 8 recaps! Today we're breaking down episodes 6 and 7!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Housekeeping

0:47 - Overall Thoughts On Episodes 6 & 7

1:48 - Episode 6 Kick Off

2:23 - Rose Ceremony Cocktail Party

27:23 - Danielle

29:47 - Rose Ceremony

31:46 - The Next Day

32:03 - Danielle’s Date With Michael

41:49 - Jesse Addresses The Group

52:20 - Credits

53:17 - Episode 7 Kick Off

54:29 - Evening

1:02:48 - Jesse Addresses The OG Ladies

1:05:53 - The Next Day

1:07:20 - Shanae’s Date With Tyler

1:16:22 - Sarah’s Date With Logan

1:17:42 - Evening

1:19:49 - The Next Day

1:20:37 - Rodney’s Date With Eliza

1:25:34 - Credits

1:26:05 - Andy’s A-Game

1:26:39 - Shandy Word Watch

1:28:39 - Who We Would Go For

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Shandy is back with Bachelor In Paradise Season 8 recaps! Today we're breaking down episodes 4 and 5!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Housekeeping

0:47 - Overall Thoughts On Episodes 4 & 5

1:28 - Episode 4 Kick Off/Evening

13:10 - The Next Day

24:02 - Ashley And Jared’s Date

27:05 - Back At The Beach

28:52 - Evening

29:37 - Brandon And Serene’s Date

30:39 - Back At The Beach

36:21 - Credits

36:37 - Episode 5 Kick Off

38:35 - Salley

51:40 - The Next Day

54:42 - Peter And Brittany’s Date

58:22 - Back On The Beach

1:11:00 - Jacob And Jill’s Date/Evening

1:13:18 - Back On The Beach

1:16:17 - Kira

1:25:44 - Credits

1:26:54 - Andy’s A-Game

1:27:47 - Shandy Word Watch

1:29:25 - Who We Would Go For

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It's Caller Day! Today we're joined by not one, but TWO delightful callers. Our first caller, Ray, has been texting with a guy daily for 6 whopping months. The catch? They live in different countries and have never even kissed. How can she take things to the next level? Our second caller, James, had his "number" used against him towards the end of his last relationship. When, if ever, should one share The Number, and is honesty really always best? Listen on for the Shandy take!

Time Stamps:

0:00 - Welcome To Caller Ray!

27:03 - Shandy Debrief

29:21 - Welcome To Caller James!

51:48 - Shandy Debrief

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Shandy is back with Bachelor In Paradise Season 8 recaps! Today we're breaking down episodes 2 and 3!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Overall Thoughts On Episodes 2 & 3

1:40 - Episode 2 Kick Off

17:52 - Evening

49:56 - Rose Ceremony Cocktail Party

59:12 - Credits

59:50 - Episode 3 Kick Off

1:06:56 - Rose Ceremony

1:12:05 - The Next Day

1:22:57 - Evening

1:27:08 - Andy’s A-Game

1:27:32 - Shandy Word Watch

1:29:07 - Who We Would Go For

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Today's Hot Topic conversation finally tackles a common theme among our Shandies' relationship questions over the last 2 years: What to do when one partner wants to get frisky way more than the other? Shan Boodram, our esteemed expert joining us today, could not be more qualified to take on this subject: Shan is a certified sexologist and sex and intimacy educator, among her many other qualifications, and she helps us navigate how to broach the topic of wanting more sex, how to work towards raising one's own libido, how to communicate likes/dislikes in the bedroom (without killing the mood), and how to get back into sexy time postpartum. Shan is as fun as she is knowledgeable and we guarantee you'll both laugh and learn something new throughout this conversation!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Welcome To Sexologist And Intimacy Educator Shan Boodram!

3:16 - What Is Sexology And Why Did She Get Into It?

8:36 - Tips For Couples Navigating Mismatched Libidos

13:55 - Does Bringing It Up More Scare It Away?

20:14 - For The Partner Who Wishes They Wanted Sex More

27:56 - Comfort and Familiarity

29:29 - Turn-On Triggers

31:12 - Where’s The Line Between Maintaining A Sex Life With A Low Libido Versus Agreeing To Have Sex When You Don’t Want To? 

35:44 - Does More Beget More?

37:55 - Advice For Sex And Intimacy Postpartum 

40:53 - Tips For Orgasming

43:44 - Tips On How To Get A Partner To Change What They’re Doing Without Killing The Mood?

46:12 - True Or False: Ejaculation Is Good For Men’s Health

50:32 - Thoughts On Today’s Swipe Culture And Dating Climate 

57:42 - Shandy Debrief

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