Being Well with Forrest Hanson and Dr. Rick Hanson

There’s a lot of loss in the world these days, both in our individual lives and in our broader communities, and with those losses comes grief. Grief is one of the most challenging emotions to be with, and it can be difficult to offer generalized advice because everyone's experience of grief is profoundly unique. 

On today’s episode of Being Well, Forrest is joined by one of the world’s leading researchers on grief, Dr. Mary-Frances O’Connor, to help us better understand grief and grieving. They explore why grief is such a unique and intense emotion, how grief works in the brain, the problems with generalized models like the “five stages of grief,” and how we can learn to live with loss.

About Our Guest: Mary-Frances is a neuroscientist, clinical psychologist, and associate professor of psychology at the University of Arizona, where she directs the Grief, Loss and Social Stress Lab, which investigates the effects of grief on the brain and the body. She’s also the author of the wonderful book The Grieving Brain: The Surprising Science of How We Learn from Love and Loss. 

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Key Topics:

0:00: Introduction and disclaimer

3:35: Mary-Frances’ personal background

6:55: Distinguishing grief from grieving

9:20: Self-criticism, and the over-focus on recovery

11:20: Grief isn't "something to get over"

13:00: Attachment, and our neurological map

16:00: Prediction error

19:30: Complicated grief

25:00: Spiritual practice, or having a worldview that incorporates death

28:05: Is there a ‘normal’ grieving process?

35:25: Pathology, and normal human experiences

46:00: Neurological overview of grief in the brain

50:40: The Dual Process Model of Grief

54:10: Sometimes distraction is okay

56:15: Therapeutic practices and learning from grief

1:01:00: Grief and its relationship to love

1:03:40: Recap

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One of the most important and challenging skills we can develop is learning to regulate our strong emotions. While it’s very natural to have fluctuations in how we feel about others and ourselves, for some people these ups and downs are particularly intense. At clinical levels, this is known as Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). 

BPD is characterized by a pattern of instability in a person’s emotions, moods, behavior, self-image, and relationships. BPD is fairly common, and it's even more common for "borderline-y tendencies" to show up in our lives. On this episode of Being Well, Dr. Rick and Forrest Hanson explore what to do when these tendencies show up, how to cultivate a healthy balance of sensitivity and tolerance to distress, regulating and nurturing ourselves, and how to navigate relationships with others when they exhibit borderline tendencies.

As a disclaimer, formal diagnosis of any condition should be done with a medical professional working directly with the person in question. This podcast episode is not a substitute for that.

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Key Topics:

0:00: Introduction

2:00: What are "borderline tendencies"?

6:50: 9 Symptoms of BPD

9:10: The what, why, and how of mental health

11:25: Childhood influences on borderline tendencies

15:05: Instability, impulsivity, and the drive for reassurance

25:00: Recognizing varying degrees of borderline patterns

27:00: Practical tips–regulation and nurturance

32:50: Boundaries, and avoiding spiraling

37:50: Acceptance, and the desire for change

40:35: Sensitivity and distress tolerance

45:00: What to do when you notice borderline tendencies in a relationship

51:00: Recognizing how much someone's nature is going to change

53:35: Treatability

54:50: Recap

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One of the most important skills we can develop is learning how to learn–how to update old beliefs about ourselves, take in new information, and build psychological resources like courage, gratitude, and confidence. We have experiences from which we could potentially learn all the time, but how often are we able to actually implement lasting change from our positive experiences?

On this episode of Being Well, Dr. Rick and Forrest Hanson dive into Rick’s recently published study on our capacity for deliberate growth. We talk a bit about the neurological components of learning, how the study worked, and what the practical takeaways are to help us make learning stick.

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Key Topics:

0:00: Introduction

1:55: The focus of Rick’s recently published study on how to learn

4:35: Our capacity for deliberate growth

7:30: How does learning work in the brain?

11:25: Activation and installation

16:00: Acknowledging the difficulty of deliberate change

16:55: The HEAL framework

22:15: How Rick’s study results were measured

30:05: The results of the study

39:10: Possibilities for future studies

42:00: Little moments of recognition

44:05: Takeaways

45:50: Assessing the whole notion of statistical significance

51:05: Control groups and clusters

54:05: Rick reads the final statement from the study.

56:05: Recap 

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When a child is particularly emotionally intelligent, and a parent is particularly emotionally vulnerable, an inversion of the typical relationship can occur where the child devotes themselves to meeting the parent’s needs rather than the other way around. This can lead the child to lose touch with their own wants and needs – with their authentic self – which then leads to underlying feelings of worthlessness, uncertainty, and self-alienation in adulthood.

Extreme versions of this pattern are known as parentification, but mild to moderate versions are surprisingly common. On today’s episode of Being Well, Dr. Rick and Forrest Hanson explore how we can heal from the effects of these difficult early experiences and rediscover who we truly are. 

This material was completely eye-opening for me, and it’s one of my favorite episodes we've ever produced.

Want to learn more? Check out Alice Miller’s classic book The Drama of the Gifted Child.

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Key Topics:

0:00: Introduction

2:55: Distinction between parentification and the gifted child

5:05: Serving a psychological function - what is the “gift” we’re talking about?

7:50: Self-definition vs. defining yourself through relationship

10:30: Examples of generational patterns

16:45: Accumulation of subtle forms of parentification over time

21:55: Patterns of interaction, and differentiation

24:00: Summary of material so far

27:00: “The manic defense against depression”

30:30: What can people do?

35:00: Love, aspiration, and power in parenting styles

40:20: Creating a coherent (and balanced) narrative

43:30: Seductive narratives, grief not shame, claiming your nature

51:25: What emotions were you permitted?

53:35: Recap

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A little while ago, we had an episode on self-awareness where Rick emphasized how the majority of what people have to become self-aware of is the good inside themselves. The point felt significant enough to expand into a full episode about how to connect with our best parts.

On this episode of Being Well, Dr. Rick and Forrest Hanson focus on how to accept, appreciate, and connect with our positive aspects, and how to deal with some of the developmental blocks that prevent us from embracing the good in ourselves. We look at how the culture we’re in affects our perspective, how to manage fears of conceit, and how to experience more intimacy and courage by releasing cynicism.

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Key Topics:

0:00: Introduction

3:20: What gets in the way of us hearing the good news about ourselves?

5:40: Stories we’re told about ourselves that form our identity
10:45: Reconnecting with childhood positive qualities

17:10: Intentions, talents, efforts

23:25: Avoiding conceit and the fear of sounding conceited

30:40: Releasing ideas that human nature is fundamentally bad

34:25: Tribalism

36:35: Seeing the cultural water we swim in

41:15: Intimacy, cynicism, courage

46:40: Cherishing ourselves and others

47:35: Recap

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Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (CPTSD) is the result of the slow accumulation of many small traumatic experiences over time. On our most popular Being Well episode to date, Dr. Rick and Forrest Hanson explored the details of CPTSD with Pete Walker, and on today’s episode, Forrest is joined by his partner Elizabeth Ferreira to discuss the topic through a more personal lens. Elizabeth shares her CPTSD origin story, what CPTSD feels like, and how to create a compassionate environment with or without a therapist so you can safely process grief, experience out repressed emotions, and learn to express your needs.

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About our Guest: Elizabeth is a recent graduate of the Somatic Psychology program at the California Institute of Integral Studies (CIIS), and is currently earning hours toward her MFT license. She creates content on YouTube and Instagram focused on CPTSD, PMDD, and becoming a more whole version of who you are.

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Key Topics:

0:00: Introduction

2:15: Elizabeth’s story

5:20: Trauma in the broader family system

8:40: A “normal” story

11:50: Loneliness, and the parts of us we leave behind

15:00: Repressed emotions

17:10: Adverse childhood experiences

20:35: Stepping out of adverse environments

25:15: Trauma work as grief work

29:10: Symptoms of Complex PTSD

34:50: How do you need to be comforted?

37:30: Creating the sense of safety

40:30: Somatic interventions

45:30: Being witnessed

47:10: Claiming your needs

50:10: Facing the dreaded experience

53:50: Accuracy vs. sensitivity

57:05: Hidden parts

1:00:00: Start by joining

1:04:20: Recap

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You might have heard the line “attachment is the root of suffering.” It comes from the Buddha, but you don’t have to be a Buddhist to recognize that becoming overly attached to a particular outcome, person, or view of yourself can lead to a lot of suffering. At the same time, there are clearly things that are sensible to be attached to – like our loved ones, a basic moral compass, and fundamentals like food and shelter. So, what’s the problem with attachment?

On this episode of Being Well, Dr. Rick and Forrest Hanson discuss the problem with attachment, what differentiates healthy and unhealthy forms of attachment, and what we can do to relax attachment over time.

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Key Topics:

0:00: Introduction

2:10: Learning from Buddhism without trying to be a Buddhist

8:45: Two kinds of suffering

12:00: Distinguishing healthy desire and unhealthy desire

19:40: Markers of problematic attachments

24:10: Self-concept, and an example from Forrest of relaxing attachment 

30:25: Balancing "Right View" and nonattachment

42:25: Pain and release

50:55: What’s useful for you?

55:45: Recap

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On one of our favorite episodes of Being Well, Dr. Rick and Forrest Hanson are joined by author and therapist Terry Real to talk about how to overcome the myth of toxic individualism, break trauma cycles, and experience real intimacy in our relationships.

 They discuss how to balance acceptance and agency, develop a healthy sense of trust and self-esteem, communicate what we want effectively, and experience our power through collaboration rather than dominance. Terry describes how we can move past the delusions of toxic individualism and patriarchy that plague our culture, moving away from ‘me vs. you’ and into Us.

About our Guest: Terrence Real is an internationally recognized family therapist, speaker, and bestselling author. He is the founder of the Relational Life Institute, which offers workshops for couples as well as professional training for clinicians in his Relational Life Therapy (RLT) methodology. His latest book is Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship which comes out June 7th.

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Key Topics:

0:00: Introduction

1:45: Terry’s personal transformation

4:55: Regulating up to our parents

7:05: The Adaptive Child vs. the Wise Adult

14:25: Us vs. the delusions of individualism and patriarchy

18:05: Balancing acceptance and agency

22:45: Enlightened self-interest and working with couples

29:25: Three phases to get more of what you want in relationships without a counselor

33:35: How to support people–particularly women–in dealing with unfairness

37:15: Gendered tendencies–moving into intimacy and out of patriarchy

43:20: Shame and healthy self-esteem

49:40: Relational reckoning and relational integrity

56:55: Repairing trust and grandiosity

1:01:00: Recap

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When was the last time you went through a day without comparing yourself to anyone? For instance, by comparing your life to someone else’s highlight reel on social media, or being critical of your own willpower and abilities? Avoiding these mental traps can be difficult in a culture that emphasizes the importance of being 'special.'

Of course, we are all special – and all ordinary. On this episode of Being Well, Dr. Rick and Forrest Hanson are joined by psychologist and author Dr. Ronald Siegel to discuss why that might not be such a bad thing. They discuss how to drop the myth of the extraordinary, how to heal from feelings of inadequacy, and what healthy self-esteem looks like.

About our Guest: Dr. Siegel is Assistant Professor of Psychology at Harvard Medical School, international speaker on the topics of mindfulness and compassion, and author of several books including his latest, The Extraordinary Gift of Being Ordinary: Finding Happiness Right Where You Are.

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Key Topics:

0:00: Introduction

1:50: What prompted Ron’s inquiry into being ordinary

7:00: Cultural and evolutionary factors

12:55: Fluctuations in self-esteem based on success and failure

16:40: Social connection as antidote

18:35: What being ordinary looks like

20:45: Three ways to drop the myth of the extraordinary

31:35: Rick’s path to healing his own feelings of inadequacy

38:55: Predispositions to having a sense of worth and value

44:40: Love vs. ‘specialness’

48:40: Reaping the benefits of self-esteem without getting caught in its traps

56:10: Recap

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Anger is one of the most complex, demanding, and difficult emotions we deal with on a regular basis, in part because it has both many costs and many uses. It burdens our bodies, relationships, and the world around us. And at the same time, there is a vital energy associated with anger that is extremely powerful and, when harnessed effectively, quite useful.

On this episode of Being Well, Dr. Rick and Forrest Hanson explore the varied ways anger surfaces, how we can relate to it, and how in recognizing what it has to tell us we can channel its energy towards good ends.

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Key Topics:

0:00: Introduction

2:10: Framing anger relative to other emotions

6:15: The three poisons

12:20: Useful aspects of anger and issues with labeling it as bad

22:45: Repression and not downregulating others’ emotions

28:30: Treating anger with respect rather than fear

30:15: What supports us in healthily claiming anger?

38:00: Characteristics that can predispose people to be angry

39:40: The Empty Boat and recognizing anger as an affliction against onesself

43:10: Recap

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Self-awareness is both one of the most important skills for a person to have, and one of the most challenging to develop. In this episode of Being Well, Dr. Rick and Forrest Hanson explore what it takes to increase self-awareness over time, the different forms of awareness that come into play, and why maintaining self-awareness can be such a struggle. Rick then emphasizes how we can develop a greater awareness of the positive aspects of ourselves. 

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Key Topics:

0:00: Introduction

1:45: Rick’s observations of people’s self-awareness when beginning therapy 

6:10: Distinguishing internal and external self-awareness

7:40: Different types of internal self-awareness

12:20: Why is it hard to become self-aware?

18:45: Positive discoveries and Forrest’s personal experience

29:05: The natural movement toward health and sanity

33:35: What causes us to lose touch with positive aspects of our nature?

42:45: How can we cultivate more self-awareness over time?

49:45: Questions to ask yourself

54:50: A creative exercise for mapping out parts of yourself

58:10: Recap

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Dr. Rick and Forrest Hanson open up the mailbag to explore a variety of listener questions. They talk about what causes our brains to become attached to unwanted habits, how to know which of your thoughts are worth listening to, and the pros and cons of saying "kind of." They then consider how to improve sibling relationships, and what to do with the positive emotions we experience during meditation.

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Key Topics:

0:00: Introduction

1:45: Why do our brains keep us stuck on unwanted patterns or ways of thinking?

10:45: Three kinds of craving and the machinery of becoming

13:50: Why do we say “kind of” all the time?

25:50: How do you know which of your thoughts are worth listening to?

31:15: How do you improve a sibling relationship?

40:35: What do you do with positive emotions during meditation?

48:40: Recap

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We all have things we want to accomplish in life, but having goals or knowing we should be doing something is often not nearly enough to get us to actually sustain our efforts in getting where we want to go.

Today on Being Well, Dr. Rick and Forrest Hanson explore how to optimize our motivation. They discuss the brain's dopamine system, and distinguish motivation from discipline and liking from wanting. They then explore how we can align the brain's underlying biological circuitry with our desires, so we can stay relaxed and engaged while achieving our goals.

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Key Topics:

0:00: Introduction

2:05: Motivation vs. Discipline

5:30: Why don't we just want the things we know are good for us?

11:00: Creating unity between our biology and cognitive processing

15:50: Dopamine: An Overview

21:30: Distinguishing liking from wanting

25:35: Natural variations in dopamine metabolism

28:55: How people with lower levels of dopamine can stay motivated

33:35: Updating the reward value of your experiences

37:20: Being, doing, and having

43:05: What has helped Rick stay diligent and let go of resistance

46:40: Practical how-tos for interacting with the dopaminergic system 

50:35: Letting fish be fish

52:30: Recap

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With so much suffering going on in the world that’s worthy of our compassion and engagement, it’s easy to become overwhelmed by it even as we have the desire to remain engaged. Secondary traumatic stress is the stress we are exposed to when we interact with other people’s stress, and it manifests at both an individual and societal level. When not managed effectively, it wears us down and diminishes our ability to contribute in a positive way.

On this episode of Being Well, Forrest talks with trauma expert Laura van Dernoot Lipsy about how we can better manage secondary traumatic stress, how to avoid burnout and overwhelm, and what it looks like to stay hopeful and live fully in the face of daunting societal challenges.

About Our Guest: Laura van Dernoot Lipsky is the founder and director of The Trauma Stewardship Institute and author of Trauma Stewardship: An Everyday Guide to Caring for Self While Caring for Others and The Age of Overwhelm. She is a widely recognized pioneer in the field of trauma exposure and has worked locally, nationally, and internationally for more than three decades.  Laura is also the host of Future Tripping, a podcast about navigating overwhelm.

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Key Topics:

0:00: Introduction

1:35: Laura’s personal experience

4:10: How secondary trauma shows up for people

6:45: Martyrdom and the responsibility of organizations to create sustainable environments

10:30: Concern with how trauma is normalized within communities

14:10: Internalized oppression and overwhelm in the broader culture

17:40: The broader systemic context and the ineffectiveness of burning yourself out

21:50: The necessity of taking breaks

26:40: How to feel okay taking time to unplug from discourse on charged topics

33:35: Differentiating between spheres of control and acknowledging grief

37:45: Finding ways to stay hopeful

40:35: What Laura is grateful for and stressed about

44:35: Recap

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It’s normal and healthy for us to try to process our experiences emotionally, but sometimes during that process we find ourselves getting stuck on the same painful memory, anxiety, or disturbing thought. This frustrating experience, known as rumination, is a common psychological challenge that is both discouraging and unhelpful.

On this episode of Being Well, Dr. Rick and Forrest Hanson spell out what rumination is, where it comes from, and how it functions in the brain. They then explore what practices and strategies we can use to identify rumination when it comes up, and move through an obsessive thought compassionately and effectively.

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Key Topics:

0:00: Introduction

2:25: How do we define rumination?

7:45: What do we get out of rumination?

13:30: Distinguishing rumination from grieving

16:30: Where rumination comes from in people

18:40: The default mode network

22:30: Ways to disengage the default mode network 

25:50: Strange attractors, Krishna, and the Gopis

30:35: Thought acceptance and noting

33:15: Recurring themes of your rumination

37:10: Novelty

38:45: Self-constructing invites rumination, self-acceptance undermines it

47:05: A quick walkthrough for dealing with a negative thought

53:00: Recap

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We’ve spent a lot of time on the podcast exploring how we can improve our skills in romantic relationships, but for many people one of the most difficult parts of a relationship is getting into one in the first place. 

On this episode, Forrest talks with Logan Ury, Director of Relationship Science at the dating app Hinge, about the psychology of dating. They explore chemistry, romance, apps, and how to reframe our self-limiting tendencies so we can find love that is fulfilling and brings out the best in us.

About our Guest: Logan Ury is a behavioral scientist turned dating coach, and the author of  How to Not Die Alone: The Surprising Science That Will Help You Find Love. She is the Director of Relationship Science at the dating app Hinge, and former head of Google’s behavioral science team the Irrational Lab.

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Key Topics:

0:00: Introduction  

1:40: Why is modern dating so hard?

4:15: Romanticism

6:20: Being in a relationship for self-actualization

8:25: Romanticizers, Maximizers, and Hesitators

11:15: Reframes for the Romanticizer

14:20: What kind of shared qualities actually matter?

19:25: Reframes for the Maximizer

26:35: The tendency to externalize problems and avoid vulnerability

32:25: Reframes for the Hesitator

36:50: Information vs. emotion - appreciation for romance

41:05: Bids, and turning towards

43:05: What other things do people tend to underestimate in relationships?

47:20: The aspect of you that is brought out by your partner

48:45: How to use apps in more effective ways

51:00: Recap

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On this episode, Dr. Rick and Forrest Hanson take a deep dive into defining stress, how it functions, how it impacts our lives and bodies, and what we can do to repair from its effects. 

We discuss how to distinguish stress from effort, the influence of the modern world on how stressed we feel, the various biological mechanisms involved in stress, and the challenges presented by chronic exposure to it. We then consider what we can do to increase resilience, including positively responding to stressors even in the midst of limitations and uncertainty.

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Key Topics:

0:00: Introduction

1:50: What is stress exactly?

3:30: Distinguishing stress from effort

7:25: Circles of concern and what we can actually influence

10:15: Zebras, and different levels of allostatic load

15:30: How the Endocrine System and Nervous System respond to stress

21:45: The amygdala response

23:20: What are the costs of stress?

35:30: The story so far

36:25: How do we positively adapt to stress?

41:35: The influence of basic lifestyle factors

43:50: Questions to ask yourself

45:30: Claiming agency while accepting limitations and uncertainty

51:05: What we can do to repair from the effects of our stress

57:40: Recap

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One of the most effective ways to change how we show up in the world is to identify and change our underlying personal narrative. On this episode, Forrest Hanson talks with Ian Cron about how we can use the Enneagram personality typing system to aid us in this process.

About our Guest: Ian Cron is a therapist, master Enneagram teacher, best-selling author of The Road Back to You and his latest The Story of You, and host of popular Enneagram podcast Typology.

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Key Topics:

0:00: Introduction

1:30: Ian’s narrative and how it has changed over time

5:45: Overview of the Enneagram and its uses

11:30: A few examples of common limiting narratives

19:10: A quick primer of how the Enneagram works and each type

26:00: How people can push back on their unconscious narratives

35:25: Cultivating awareness of how your old story is playing out in the present

37:10: Ian’s inflection point

41:30: Integration and levels of development

43:15: The link between your virtue and your fixation

49:00: Recap

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We’ve talked on this show about lots of ways we can be happier over time, but one of the hardest things to do is to STAY happy as the events of life wash over us. On today’s episode of Being Well, Dr. Rick and Forrest Hanson explore "hedonic adaptation" - our tendency to return to a stable baseline of happiness - and discuss how we can get off the "hedonic treadmill." 

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Key Topics:

0:00: Introduction

2:25: What is hedonic adaptation?

6:25: Three factors of happiness

9:45: Survey of various research on hedonic adaptation and subjective well-being

19:55: Financial circumstances and relationships

27:35: How to sustain happiness - loving, knowing, growing

38:15: The single most effective intervention to fight hedonic adaptation

41:30: Forrest’s take on how lasting change happens

45:00: Antidote experiences and improving memory

47:50: Can we actually become happier?

51:00: Recap

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One of the underlying threads that runs through many of our conversations on Being Well is our relationship with our “self”. On this episode, Dr. Rick and Forrest Hanson talk with neuroscientist, mindfulness researcher, and bestselling author Dr. Jud Brewer about where we can find the “self” in the brain, and the benefits of relaxing our attachment to it.

About our Guest: Dr. Jud Brewer is the Director of Research and Innovation at the Mindfulness Center and associate professor in Behavioral and Social Sciences at the School of Public Health and Psychiatry at the School of Medicine at Brown University. He is the executive medical director of behavioral health at Sharecare, and a research affiliate at MIT. His bestselling books include Unwinding Anxiety and The Craving Mind.

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Key Topics:

0:00: Introduction

1:45: What is a “self”?

5:10: Distinguishing consciousness, person, and self

7:25: Can there be a unified sense of self in an everchanging psychological process?

11:50: Selfing and what triggers a sense of “me”

15:20: Evolutionary speculations about the origins of selfing

18:50: Predictive processing and personal associations

21:55: How Jud responds to selfing

28:10: The unicorn metaphor of self and relief in sensory experience

36:45: The experience of addiction and anxiety

40:50: Somatic markers and distinguishing healthy vs. unhealthy desires

41:40: Letting go vs. straining to create a self

45:40: Underlying neurological components of the self

56:30: The fluidity of awareness without self

58:30: When and how does the default mode network become functional?

1:03:00: Neuro-psychedelic research and unlearning

1:07:15: Having a self vs. taking ourselves personally

1:11:00: Recap

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The tone of this episode of Being Well is a bit different. For context, we recorded it four days after the Russian invasion of Ukraine. 

It feels like we've had more than our fair share of difficult times over the last few years. Like many people, we wish there were more we could do to support those suffering around the world. Today Dr. Rick and Forrest focus on what we can do, in our mind and in our lives, to relate to the challenging emotions – fear, grief, anxiety, anger, helplessness, and so on – that naturally arise during these times. 

The advertising revenue from this episode will be donated to charities dedicated to supporting the people of Ukraine. If you'd like to join us in donating, we’ve included links below to several charities.

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Key Topics:

0:00: Introduction

5:10: Anxiety calming exercise

12:40: Pause

18:55: Feel your feelings

23:45: Resource yourself

26:45: Compassion

29:55: Humor

32:00: Get educated

40:35: Make a plan

45:55: Move into action

52:35: Recap

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A list of charities by subject for supporting the people of Ukraine.

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One of the most important skills we can develop is the ability to deal with disappointment and cope with failures big and small. On this episode of Being Well, Dr. Rick and Forrest Hanson discuss what it looks like to experience failure not as falling short, but as an opportunity for growth. They explore cultural narratives around "failure," individual variation in sensitivity, and how to manage the pain of failure, adapt expectations, and develop systems of feedback to allow for a greater sense of ease and purpose.

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Key Topics:

0:00: Introduction

2:00: What do we mean by failure?

5:55: How loss works in the brain and what makes us sensitive to losing

8:30: Managing expectations of success

10:30: Attributional styles

13:10: How some can handle failure with greater ease than others

22:30: Deconstructing old narratives and failure as an opportunity for learning

28:30: Managing the pain of failure and setting up feedback systems

34:20: An example from Forrest’s experience

38:20: Poor decisions, lack of foresight, losing your nerve

40:30: Willingness to take risks

45:00: Defining our notion of success and failure via process vs. outcome

48:20: Recap

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There’s a tension we’ve all felt at some point between the benefits of conformity and the desire to be true to ourselves and stand up for what we think is right. On today’s episode of Being Well, Dr. Rick and Forrest Hanson are joined by Dr. Todd Kashdan to explore how we can combine prosocial values with principled insubordination, so we can speak up for others (and ourselves) and maximize our chances of creating meaningful change even in the face of social pressure.

About Our Guest: Dr. Todd Kashdan is Professor of Psychology at George Mason University. He is a leading authority on well-being, curiosity, psychological flexibility, and resilience. He has published over 210 peer-reviewed articles, and is the author of several books including Curious? , The Upside of Your Dark Side, and most recently The Art of Insubordination: How to Dissent and Defy Effectively.

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Key Topics:

0:00: Introduction

1:45: Combining skillful positivity and dissent

7:55: Distinguishing principled insubordination and generic misanthropy

10:05: Four elements of principled insubordination

19:05: Yin and Yang applied to insubordination

21:35: Safe havens and a secure base

26:20: How capable are we of cultivating self-awareness?

32:05: Positive intent, courage, and sitting with discomfort

38:45: Strategies for being a moral and effective dissident

46:40: Navigating societal hierarchies

51:50: Process comments as insubordination

53:00: What Todd does when his kids are insubordinate

58:05: Recap

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We explore a lot of big ideas on this show, and alongside them a lot of specific tactics and frameworks that can support people in growing and changing for the better. This includes everything from how to get the most out of therapy, to how to deal with traumatic experiences, to how to manage a variety of psychological conditions and individual tendencies. There’s a question that underlies all of these domains: how does personal healing actually work?

On today’s episode of Being Well, Dr. Rick and Forrest Hanson discuss the fundamental strategies that allow us to become aware of and integrate all parts of ourselves–those we want to celebrate and expand, and those we’d like to heal and change.

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Key Topics:

0:00: Introduction

3:00: Overview of psychological patterns related to healing

7:25: Forrest’s personal journey as a case study

13:15: Rick assessing Forrest’s narrative from a psychologist’s perspective

15:45: Cognizing and other stories we tell to avoid parts of ourselves

20:40: Showing appreciation for our defenses, completing patterns

26:50: Catharsis and ways to reach it

39:15: Practical ways to reclaim and reconnect with parts of yourself

43:45: Playing with the nature of identity/ego

47:00: Self-forgiveness and celebrating what you’re good at

50:05: Recap

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We’re incredibly lucky to have such an engaged and interested group of people listening to the podcast, and because of that we regularly receive a lot of interesting questions via email and social media (links below). On today’s episode, Dr. Rick and Forrest Hanson dive into a few of these questions, discussing topics such as: how to manage family relationships, principles for approaching life’s changes, and what kind of therapy Rick actually practices.

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0:00: Introduction

2:00: Bringing up challenges with family when times are already hard.

11:25: What kind of therapy does Rick practice?

19:15: Taking financial risks to experience life vs. creating financial security

30:00: “Neurons that fire together wire together” explained

34:05: Developing a connection with your inner child/younger self if your childhood was filled with painful experiences

41:40: Managing challenges between your family and your partner

54:15: Recap

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Kaira Jewel Lingo, a former Buddhist nun at the Plum Village community under the guidance of Thich Naht Han, joins Dr. Rick and Forrest Hanson to explore how we can cultivate trust and equanimity in the face of uncertainty. They discuss the somatic experience of opening to the unknown, taking action as an antidote to anxiety, and how to have equanimity both when things work out...and when they don’t.

About our Guest: Kaira Jewel Lingo is a Buddhist teacher who weaves mindfulness and meditation practice with social justice. At the age of 25, she became a Buddhist nun at the Plum Village community in France under the guidance of Thich Naht Han, where she stayed for 15 years. She became a Zen teacher in 2007, and is also a teacher in the Vipassana/Insight tradition through Spirit Rock Meditation Center. Finally, she is the author of We Were Made for These Times: Ten Lessons for Moving Through Change, Loss, and Disruption.

Recording Note: This episode was recorded before the passing of Thich Naht Han.

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Key Topics:

0:00: Introduction

1:45: Kaira Jewel’s background

2:35: Trust in times of major change

9:10: Two kinds of uncertainty

14:10: Store consciousness and trusting the unknown

18:50: Somatic contraction and expansion

23:05: Responding to the truth of suffering with joyful engagement

30:50: Practicing equanimity

42:10: Defining equanimity

43:30: How to return to center in unstable moments

48:20: Body-based equanimity exercise

50:50: Recap

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So many forces in our brains, bodies, and culture move us toward the experience of scarcity – that something is missing, that we don’t have enough, and that we never will have enough. The feeling of scarcity both feels bad in itself, and is also the creator and amplifier of so many other challenges we face. 

On this episode of Being Well, Dr. Rick and Forrest Hanson talk about what a scarcity and an abundance mindset is, what some sources of scarcity are, and how we can move to an authentic experience of abundance.

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Key Topics:

0:00: Introduction

2:35: Defining scarcity and abundance 

6:45: Why are we biologically predisposed towards scarcity?

17:05: When to relax and expand

20:20: Scarcity at the cultural level

26:20: Critique of promoting an “abundance mindset” and a practical definition

30:45: Orienting to a sense of abundance 

38:05: Motivating with punishment vs reward

40:55: Abundance in objectively difficult times

47:15: Specific ways to shift from scarcity to abundance

58:45: A sense of wonder and groundedness

1:01:25: Recap

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Most people abandon their New Year's Resolutions by mid-January. This often occurs because people make resolutions based on what they feel like they should want, rather than what they actually do want. In other words, their goals and resolutions aren’t in alignment with their purpose.

On this episode of Being Well, Dr. Rick and Forrest Hanson discuss how we can identify and pursue our purpose, and why it’s so valuable to have one in the first place. They explore questions and strategies that can help us develop clarity on what we find meaningful, what our core values are, and how we’d like to spend our time.

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Key Topics:

0:00: Introduction

3:00: Why spend time discussing how to have a purpose?

11:00: Nonverbal ways to establish yourself in your purpose

12:50: Ways to be flexible that make purpose accessible

17:45: Fresh starts help us retain freedom in the present

21:20: How to listen to yourself when it's unclear what you want

26:05: Getting feedback from others and abandoning doomed pursuits

32:10: Moving past the inner critic and fear of letting others down

38:10: Five questions to ask yourself

48:15: Soul work and sacredness

50:30: Doing what helps you look at things differently

54:10: Recap

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Dr. Rick and Forrest Hanson are joined by James Baraz, a meditation teacher for over 40 years and cofounder of Spirit Rock Meditation Center, to explore how we can find still find joy during difficult times. We discuss how to balance a sense of equanimity with compassion for the suffering of the world, and how cultivating joy at an individual level can support healing at the collective level.

About our Guest: James is the coauthor of Awakening Joy: 10 Steps to True Happiness, and leads the popular online course of the same name. He is also the guiding teacher of One Earth Sangha, a website devoted to expressing a Buddhist response to climate change.

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Key Topics:

0:00: Introduction

1:45: Why joy is important in Buddhism

5:05: James’ journey to prioritizing joy

11:40: How to practice awakening joy without turning away from suffering

17:20: Putting yourself back together after cultivating awareness of suffering

24:10: The 10 Steps of Awakening Joy

28:45: How people can use emotionally positive states in contemplative practice

32:00: Positivity in relation to the climate crisis and other collective challenges

38:05: Equanimity, compassion, including both sides of the river

43:35: The great perfection

47:10: James’ realistic hope for the next 25 years 

49:30: Recap

Awakening Joy: Awakening Joy is an internationally recognized course designed to awaken joy through exciting themes and practices that incline the mind toward well-being and deeper insight. It's a 5-month course taught online by James, check it out and learn more here. 

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On today’s episode of Being Well, Dr. Rick and Forrest Hanson talk with Dr. Zindel Segal about Mindfulness-Based Cognitive Therapy (MBCT), an eight-week group therapy program designed to help those who suffer from chronic unhappiness and prevent relapse after episodes of severe clinical depression.

About our Guest: Dr. Segal is a Professor of Psychology at the University of Toronto at Scarborough, and one of the creators of MBCT. He specializes in mood disorders, particularly depression, and has had an enormous influence on the clinical adoption of mindfulness-based practices and their addition to more traditional forms of cognitive therapy.

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Key Topics:

0:00: Introduction

2:00: Origins of MBCT

4:30: Why Segal prioritized studying mindfulness as an intervention to depression

7:10: Comparing MBCT with traditional CBT

10:20: What about depression makes us more reactive to thoughts and feelings?

13:15: Mindfulness of sadness vs direct experience

18:35: MBCT practices explained

23:10: Three minute breathing space exercise

31:00: Attentional control training

33:45: Managing feelings of inadequacy

39:00: Motivation and implicit compassion

43:15: Ongoing practices after the MBCT course

45:45: Creating access to mindfulness resources

48:15: Recap

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Dr. Rick and Forrest Hanson reflect on 2021, and explore how to maximize what we get out of 2022. We discuss how to rest in our aspirations, claim identity-based change, reframe personal narratives, and form the habits that lead to a more grounded, meaningful life.

Thank you for listening over the last year, looking forward to much more!

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Key Topics:

0:00: Introduction

2:20: How was 2021 for you?

5:35: Gratitude for listener support

8:25: Rick’s yearly reflection process

12:45: Collaging practice

18:35: Language, and keeping a positive orientation toward desires and resolutions

26:55: Sentence completion exercise

31:10: Identity-based change

35:25: Rick’s approach to nature-based change

39:30: Reframing personal narratives

43:35: Making room for new parts of yourself in middle age

46:10: Process for forming resolutions outlined.

53:35: Rick and Forrest’s goals for 2022

58:05: Drawing on the support of others

59:30: Recap

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We’ve received a substantial number of questions from our listeners regarding familial estrangement: when one family member distances themselves from the others, or chooses not to interact with them at all. It’s a common and extremely challenging situation, and the pain related to it can be particularly intense during the holidays.

Today on Being Well, Dr. Rick and Forrest Hanson discuss family estrangement, particularly between parents and children, and how the questions we engage in this territory apply more broadly to how we balance our own boundaries with the responsibilities we have toward other people.

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Key Topics:

0:00: Introduction

3:05: Our framework for discussing estrangement in this episode

6:10: Joining and distancing

9:40: Duties in relationship between children and aging parents

15:35: Parents’ behavior then vs. now

19:00: Distinguishing family systems from parents as individuals

24:10: Functional forgiveness when someone doesn’t show remorse

26:45: Choosing the kind of relationship we want to have

31:45: Parents’ pain when children distance

33:40: How parents can consider the child’s perspective

39:40: Grieving an estranged relationship internally

45:30: Approaches to interacting with estranged children

52:30: How to decide whether or not to engage in a relationship

55:10: Awareness of cultural influences

57:20: Ownership and what parents can do to repair

1:03:00: The wide range of variables influencing family relationships

1:07:00: Wishing well regardless of circumstances

1:09:30: Recap

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Dr. Rick and Forrest Hanson expand their conversation focused on finding a long-term partner to include what traits to look for, and how to navigate early sticking points. They discuss life growth curves, how to manage early conflict, healthy approaches for dealing with rejection, and how to support those still navigating a difficult search.

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Key Topics:

0:00: Introduction

2:45: Green and red flags to look for in a partner

8:50: Pursuer-distancer dynamic

9:45: Shared growth curves--relationship as a process, not a person

12:50: Riding the river of practical daily life

19:25: Someone who brings out the best parts of you 

25:25: Different kinds of romantic relationships

28:55: Rejection and feeling wanted

30:45: Asymmetry and power dynamics

34:40: Agency within the pain of rejection

40:05: Recognizing self-worth

45:00: Managing early conflict

51:50: The struggle to find a prospective partner

59:40: Recap

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We’ve spent a lot of time on Being Well discussing how to improve our relationships - how to navigate conflict effectively, communicate more skillfully, and create a romantic relationship that’s truly fulfilling - but we’ve spent very little time talking about how to get into one of those relationships in the first place.

Today, Dr. Rick and Forrest Hanson talk about how to maximize your chances of finding a fulfilling long-term relationship. They explore how to develop a clear intention of what you want, the key psychological skills that invite a healthy relationship, and how to market yourself authentically while dating.

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Key Topics:

0:00: Introduction

1:55: What supports people in finding a long-term partner?

4:35: Having a clear intention

8:45: Psychological skills to maximize our chances of finding a long-term relationship

12:15: Marketing and sorting through suspects

14:40: Intention expanded

22:15: Psychological skills expanded

22:50: A healthy sense of self worth

26:10: Being aware of your selection biases

29:35: Communication skills

34:30: Seeing the best in one another

37:30: Settling anxious and avoidant tendencies

42:00: Resting in presence with someone

43:15: Not letting the perfect be the enemy of the good

44:25: Marketing explained

55:00: Authenticity

58:20: Recap

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It’s natural to have moments – even in the course of a generally happy, mostly fulfilling life – where we question our meaning, value, and purpose. This "existential dread" sometimes culminates in an "existential crisis." Today Dr. Rick and Forrest Hanson consider how we can confront these basic questions with acceptance and curiosity, and find the meaning and purpose that can help us live good lives.

If you're in crisis, are thinking about suicide, or are concerned about a loved one, please call 1-800-273-8255. The Lifeline network is available 24/7 across the United States.

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Key Topics:

0:00 Introduction

2:35 Meaning and purpose as the basis for Existentialism

5:20 Four basic issues of existence

7:00 Practical reasons for exploring Existentialism

10:50 Forrest’s childhood acceptance of death.

12:00 Four approaches to confronting existential frailty

13:45 Rick’s orientation to existential dread and its three psychological challenges

15:45 Rick’s personal experience confronting ambivalence and asking the point of living

20:25 Confronting an existential crisis as a catapult into a meaningful life

22:45 Morbid preoccupation as avoidance and self-ing

23:45 The three major whys of living: pleasure, service, and learning

26:10 What death can teach us about living a good life

31:30 Waves and water - resting in gratitude for life and it’s inevitable ending

36:15 Humor in the space of emptiness between living things

39:10 Natural fear vs. anticipatory dread

43:10 Finding your why when familiar structures break down

48:35 Recap and front porch meditation

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How can we aim high, achieve our goals, and get what we want out of life without falling prey to unhealthy striving and excessive perfectionism? Dr. Diana Hill joins Dr. Rick and Forrest Hanson to explore the costs of perfectionism, productivity anxiety, psychological flexibility, calming the threat system, and how we can go from striving to thriving. 

About Our Guest: Dr. Diana Hill specializes in evidence-based and compassion-focused approaches to living well. She has a thriving private practice in Santa Barbara, CA, is the author of the ACT Daily Journal, and is one of the hosts of the Psychologists Off the Clock Podcast. Diana is also the host of a new podcast called Your Life in Process launching in Jan 2022, where she offers practical teachings and conversations on becoming psychologically flexible from the inside out.

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Key Topics:

0:00 Introduction

2:00 Dr. Hill’s personal journey

4:40 Signs of unhealthy striving

6:50 Recognizing striving in the body

12:50 Signs of being in a healthier place around striving

16:15 What drives perfectionism and how to develop comfort with difficult experiences

22:20 Psychological flexibility and how to see your experience more clearly

26:35 Social and internalized factors in the search for approval 

34:55 Practical ways to develop psychological flexibility

38:00 Inner freedom and choice within discomfort

45:30 Exposure therapy and cognitive diffusion for releasing control and anxiety

55:00 The middle way and climbing the mountains that are important to you.

59:50 Recap

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We all want a relationship that's more than just functional, we want one that's truly fulfilling. On today's episode Forrest is joined by a wonderful therapist and author who focuses on giving people the tools they need to communicate, navigate hard times, and create deeper connections with other people: Elizabeth Earnshaw. They explore: 

• How the pandemic impacted our relationships
• The Gottman approach
• The stages of a relationship
• Balancing differing needs for intimacy
• How to request, and give, repair.

They then close the episode with a fun game focused on debunking common relationship myths.

About our Guest: Elizabeth is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, the founder of A Better Life Therapy, and the author of I Want This to Work. You might also know her as @lizlistens on Instagram, where she’s helped countless people transform their relationships.

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Key Topics:

0:00: Introduction.

1:45: Elizabeth’s background.

5:30: How did the pandemic impact relationships?

7:30: Responding to stress in relationships.

9:00: Co-regulation.

11:15: Punishing others for our unpleasant emotions. 

13:45: The four stages of relationships.

17:50: What to look for in a partner. 

20:10: The “Four Horsemen” of bad relationship communication. 

24:25: Key skills for navigating conflict together. 

27:00: How to request repair from your partner.

34:10: Deciding if you should leave.

37:45: Interdependence.

41:30: Balancing differing needs for intimacy.

46:30: The Instagram Meme Game: Common misconceptions about relationships.

47:30: “Partners should share everything with each other.”

50:30: “Your partner should be your ride or die.”

52:15: “Never go to bed angry.”

54:50: “My partner is my missing piece.”

56:35: “If you can’t handle me on my worst day, you don’t deserve me on my best day.”

1:02:05: Recap.

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Today we're continuing our exploration of the key inner strengths and psychological skills we truly feel like we couldn’t live without. In the second of two episodes dedicated to this topic, Dr. Rick and Forrest Hanson talk about joy, seeing the mind's deceits, keeping your good humor, the wild spirit, and finding meaning.

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Key Topics:

0:00: Introduction

1:30: Cognitive restructuring: fighting your negative brain.

7:10: Not taking things so seriously. 

9:40: The “stage play” of life.

12:40: Joy.

17:40: The wild spirit. 

23:20: Breaking our patterns. 

25:15: The “routinization of charisma.” 

29:00: Finding meaning. 

38:40: Recap

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Dr. Rick and Forrest Hanson explore which key inner strengths and psychological skills they truly feel like they couldn’t live without. In the first of two episodes dedicated to this topic, they talk about benevolence, patience, curiosity, self-regulation, and grit. 

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Key Topics:

0:00: Introduction

3:00: What do you take with you?

4:15: Benevolence. 

8:10: Patience. 

12:15: What helps us learn how to wait?

16:40: The value of “asking the question.”

17:30: Curiosity.

22:30: Self-regulation.

28:30: Regulation enabling exploration.

32:30: Grit.

40:50: Recap

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Dr. Rick and Forrest Hanson focus on two of our most important subjects, attachment wounds and traumatic experiences, with a longtime therapist, trainer of therapists, and world-class expert on attachment theory: Dr. Diane Poole Heller. 

About our Guest: Dr. Heller focuses on using somatic, or body-based, approaches to help people resolve the painful experiences and negative patterns that hold us back. Her work on adult attachment has created a path for adults with childhood attachment injuries to develop the secure attachment skills that lead to more connected and fulfilling adult relationships.

Key Topics:

2:30: What is attachment, and why should we care?

4:45: Secure attachment.

7:50: Avoidant attachment. 

12:30: The potential for movement toward secure attachment.

16:00: Ambivalent (or anxious) attachment.

20:45: Disorganized attachment. 

24:15: Somatic approaches to attachment wounds. 

29:50: Allowing the body to move out of threat.

34:10: Secure attachment skills.

38:55: Repatterning ourselves. 

47:20: Becoming more secure in connection. 

50:30: Three questions to help calm relational activation.

55:45: A message to your younger self.

56:45: Recap

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The most important relationship we have is with ourselves. You’re the only person you’ll be around every minute of every day for the rest of your life. And, unfortunately, that relationship is often our most difficult one. Today Dr. Rick and Forrest Hanson explore how we can become better friends to ourselves, and learn to like ourselves more.

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Key Topics:

0:00: Introduction

2:20: What does it mean to “like ourselves?”

5:20: Why don’t people like themselves?

11:50: Giving yourself the same breaks you give others.

14:10: Regulating impulses. 

19:15: Does “liking ourselves more” make someone narcissistic?

24:30: What supported Rick in liking himself more?

29:00: Seeing yourself clearly.

32:30: The IFS model and the caring committee. 

36:30: Our nurturing parts.

39:10: A practicing of being for yourself.

45:10: Recap.

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How can we create relationships that last? On this episode of Being Well, Dr. Rick and Forrest Hanson lean on Rick's 35+ years of couples counseling experience to explore how we can build relationships that are loving, healthy, enjoyable, and reliable. This includes learning the structure of most relationship problems, how to make vulnerable communications, and how to stay open to change.

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Key Topics:

0:00: Introduction

2:15: What issues brought couples into therapy most often?

4:50: The structure of most relationship problems.

12:30: Giving your partner what they need.

15:30: What differentiated couples that improved from those that didn’t?

21:15: Skills that increase the chances of building a good relationship.

21:45: Loving vs. liking. 

25:00: Deliberately activating feelings of “liking.”

27:00: Getting “on the side” of the relationship.

31:10: How to make a vulnerable communication.

39:15: Openness to change. 

43:40: Three red flags in relationships.

46:00: Practices to deepen your relationship with your partner.

54:30: Recap

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In one of our favorite conversations, Dr. Jud Brewer joins us to explore the habit of anxiety, mindfulness practices to heal addiction, and what we can learn from the brains of the world’s most advanced meditators.

About Our Guest: Dr. Jud is a psychiatrist, neuroscientist and New York Times best-selling author. He’s the director of research and innovation at Brown University’s Mindfulness Center, where he also serves as an associate professor, as well as the executive medical director of behavioral health at Sharecare Inc.

Dr. Jud is also the author of The Craving Mind and Unwinding Anxiety: New Science Shows How to Break the Cycles of Worry and Fear to Heal Your Mind. 

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Key Topics:

2:00: What got Jud from psychiatry to studying mindfulness?

5:45: Addiction and the structure of habits. 

10:15: Mindfulness as a treatment for addiction. 

14:00: Liking without wanting.

19:45: Habit formation and reward-based learning.

24:00: Awareness, and honoring your experience.

26:15: Curiosity.

28:10: The “habit” of anxiety. 

32:00: Anxiety’s habit loop.

34:45: The true purpose of worrying.

39:00: Generalized vs. acute anxiety. 

41:00: Anxiety and performance. 

46:20: Practices for unwinding from anxiety.

54:45: Learning from the brains of experienced practitioners. 

1:03:30: Recap

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In the second of two episodes, Dr. Rick and Forrest Hanson explore common self-help myths and misconceptions, including ones related to hedonic adaptation, "no pain no gain," and meditation.

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Key Topics:

0:00: Introduction

2:30: Misconception #1: People can’t really change in lasting ways/Hedonic adaptation stops people from becoming happier.

17:00: Misconception #2: No pain, no gain. What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger. 

27:50: Misconception #3: You can only meditate by sitting quietly on a cushion. 

41:15: Misconception #4: I can heal myself all on my own. Relying on a therapist means something is “wrong” with me.

50:00: Misconception #5: All therapy is talk therapy. It’s really cognitive and top-down.

57:45: Recap

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As mental health and the psychological sciences have gone increasingly mainstream, so too have some common misconceptions and misunderstandings. In the first of two episodes, Dr. Rick and Forrest Hanson explore some of the biggest misconceptions related to therapy, trauma, and what it means to be "resilient."

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Key Topics:

0:00: Introduction

2:10: Misconception #1: "Personal growth is narcissistic."

5:05: The social value of individual growth.

10:25: Misconception #2: "Well-being is all about individual effort."

18:50: Misconception #3: "Therapy is for people who are messed up."

23:00: Misconception #4: "If I go to therapy, I'll become dependent on it."

30:00: Misconception #5: "If I go to therapy, it'll destabilize me or mess me up."

34:45: Misconception #6: "People use the word 'trauma' too much. These days EVERYTHING is a 'trauma.'"

43:50: How we define what is and isn't stressful.

48:10: Recap

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Premenstrual dysphoric disorder, or PMDD, is a severe form of premenstrual syndrome that includes severe anxiety, depression, and feelings of shame. It affects 5-10% of women, and most don't even know they have it. On today's episode, Forrest is joined by his partner Elizabeth Ferreira to explore what PMDD is, how to know if you might have it, effective practices for managing PMDD, and how to create a happy, healthy, fulfilling relationship alongside it. 

About Our Guest: Elizabeth is a graduate student studying somatic psychology at the California Institute of Integral Studies. If you'd like to hear more from Elizabeth and learn about somatic psychology, she's just started a YouTube channel!

During this conversation we focused on psychological and lifestyle change-based interventions for PMDD. Not everyone has a life that allows them to make these changes, and in addition to these practices many people need significant medical intervention to feel relief. Treatment options range from oral contraceptives and SSRIs to chemical menopause or even a full hysterectomy and oophorectomy. 

Some of these interventions come with significant side effects, and this podcast episode is no replacement for consulting with a physician. To learn more about medical options, check out the links below: 

The International Association for Pre-Menstrual Disorders

IAPMD Facebook Support Group

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Key Topics:

0:00: Introduction

2:00: What’s PMDD?

4:45: Diagnostic criteria for PMDD. 

8:20: Challenges of awareness around “invisible” problems.

10:00: The experience of a PMDD episode. 

15:15: Practices that help PMDD.

27:05: Externalizing PMDD. 

29:45: Therapy and PMDD.

33:30: Accepting your needs. 

39:30: Dealing with shame and isolation.

44:45: Continuing to meet the challenge.

49:00: Partnering someone with PMDD. 

54:45: Recap

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Dr. Rick and Forrest Hanson explore what "avoidant behavior" is, common forms it takes, and what we can do to limit its unhealthy aspects.

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Key Topics:

0:00: Introduction

2:10: Approaching, Avoiding, and Abiding

4:25: Common Forms of Avoidance

7:30: The Costs of Avoidance

11:30: Situational Avoidance

13:40: Cognitive Avoidance

15:30: Emotional Avoidance

16:45: The True Function of Worrying

23:05: Somatic Avoidance

27:40: Useful Aspects of Avoidance

30:45: What Helps People With Their Avoidant Behaviors?

34:30: What We Do vs. What We Are

38:30: Bounding the Problem

40:50: Anticipate Blocks

42:00: Active Coping, and Critiques of Positive Psychology

46:50: An Exercise for Fighting Avoidance

49:40: Recap

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What goes into making "a self," and how can we bring together the many aspects of who we are? Today Dr. Rick and Forrest Hanson talk with meditation teacher, bestselling author, and podcaster (and their good friend) Michael Taft about moving from the spiritual to the secular and back again, ego dissolution, and how we can deconstruct ourselves.

About Our Guest: Michael is a meditation teacher, bestselling author and neuroscience junkie. He’s been practicing meditation for over 35 years, and is the author of several books, including The Mindful Geek.

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Key Topics:

0:00: Introduction

1:30: Michael’s journey from the spiritual to the secular to back again.

5:00: LSD, yoga, and Shinzen Young

8:30: Reconciling the spiritual and the secular.

15:45: What is “deconstructing yourself?”

20:45: Ego dissolution and panic. 

25:00: “Spiritual emergencies” and cautions around mindfulness. 

29:20: Psychedelics and seeing the ego as an object. 

31:00: Practices that help people see the empty nature of the self.

34:00: Key teachings for life’s long road. 

45:00: A message to your younger self.

47:00: Recap

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We all have limiting beliefs: patterns of think about ourselves and the world that tend to hold us back. On this episode Dr. Rick and Forrest Hanson explore how we can push back on these problematic beliefs and build more supportive ones.

Change Your Mind Workshop: Learn how to step out of old assumptions and attitudes, free yourself from limiting beliefs, and cultivate more useful, hopeful thoughts about yourself and others during this new workshop from Dr. Rick Hanson. Attend this online event live on August 28-29, or watch the recordings after. Enter code BEINGWELL25 at checkout for 25% off the purchase price.

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Key Topics:

0:00: Introduction

3:25: The PASS Process

8:35: Limiting beliefs about our nature.

14:10: Limiting beliefs about our ability to learn.

19:00: Limiting beliefs about our worthiness.

21:45: Limiting beliefs about vulnerability.

25:50: Limiting beliefs related to gender socialization.

31:10: Perfectionism: Limiting beliefs that “keep us safe.”

35:30: Social Scripts: Limiting beliefs about relationships

41:45: The beliefs that un-limit us. 

50:55: Recap

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We all have times in life where it feels like we’re stagnating. We’re unfulfilled, bored, or trapped in cycles of behavior that don’t serve us. We’re stuck in a rut. Today Dr. Rick and Forrest Hanson explore how we can break old patterns, and get un-stuck.

Change Your Mind Workshop: Learn how to step out of old assumptions and attitudes, free yourself from limiting beliefs, and cultivate more useful, hopeful thoughts about yourself and others during this new workshop from Dr. Rick Hanson. Attend this online event live on August 28-29, or watch the recordings after. Enter code BEINGWELL25 at checkout for 25% off the purchase price.

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Key Topics

0:00: Introduction

2:00: What tends to keep us stuck in a rut?

5:15: Limiting beliefs.

7:45: Appraisals and attributions.

9:30: The invisible cage.

11:15: Challenging our assumptions.

15:20: A 3-step process for challenging assumptions. 

18:30: Rick applies the process to his own material.

22:15: Core skills that support the creation of new beliefs.

25:45: Social scripts. 

31:30: Key skills for building new beliefs. 

34:00: Avoiding “must.” 

38:00: Groups don’t like to change. 

41:30: Finding those who grow alongside you.

43:20: Have the courage to change.

48:10: Recap

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